This will be a very long post, so bear with me. Honestly man, I feeling quite lovely. I'm sitting back without an ounce of anger towards them because forgiveness is a beautiful thing and I have other enjoyable things in life to focus on. God has blessed me greatly, and I'm thankful. Life is way too short to ever allow someone else to control my happiness. I simply don't make my well-being contingent on women. Any man that does is in for a very turbulent ride.
I did sit back and wonder what in the world were some of these women thinking because I always did my best to treat them decently... when she was down, I was there to listen to her problems, didn't cheat... turned down a fine woman while I was with her. It's just mind-boggling like you said. You do your best and treat them well, and while she's in your face, she's miss angel in love... but you find out she's doing her thing when she's away. I experienced it and I see others experiencing it over and over. I'm not mad at it at all. I simply understand like that song says, "Girls just want to have funnn." Character doesn't mean anything. Decency doesn't mean anything. Entertainment is everything to these modern women. The vast majority of western women got me feeling like Mike Singletary about them, "Can't win with them. No, can't do it."
The thing is women stay complaining about them wanting decent men, but they respond the negroes that treat them like whores and conspire to do devious deeds with them. On a serious level she might meet some side negro and he'll tell her to rob her boyfriend who hasn't done her an ounce of wrong and she'll do that because she just digs this new negro who she doesn't know so much. Women put a HUGE premium on that 'new car smell' as opposed to 'old reliable.' That's how serious it can get if you're not careful.
I'm just thankful to God I was brought out of those situations before it got worse, as in before I was legally committed. Thing is I see this same thing over and over and over, and these young cats out here need to be aware of this information before they get roasted. I've experienced it, I've had the ability to knock off other men's women but declined, so I pretty much have been on both sides of the coin. I'm not going to work with some sneaky broad and reward her with time and pleasure while she dumps on her man who isn't aware of all of these so-called 'problems' they've been having. Women love talking trash about the negro they are dealing with to the man they WANT to deal with as if that will impress him. Nah, doesn't work like that. Makes you look like a sneaky little ho. Never was married and never had kids, so I'm more than blessed to not have to deal with the past in any fashsion.
Real talk man, cats out here getting cheated on by their wives despite them doing everything, she takes half, he has to pay alimony and child support, and if he loses his job and can't afford it, she'll send him to jail. If you're not mentally prepared, this game will blow your mind man. Literally, their lives are screwed over and they did 'everything right.' She could be the one who broke up the relationship, but she'll get the kid, get child support, spend a minute portion on the child and the majority on herself, but still blame daddy for 'financial issues.' It's wicked out here man.
What really woke me up is when you sit back and just observe the mentality of a lot
of these women. They will say things like, "My money, my money, your money, my money." What kind of thing is that to say in a productive relationship? Go read the comment sections on celebrity divorces and if it's a woman getting paid out, it'll be 'goneee girl, get that money!' On the other hand, a man gets an alimony payment, and it's 'Ugghhh that little boy needs to get his own money!" You just start coming to the conclusion that these women have no concern for fairness or justice, but are always looking for the best deal possible. Couple that with all these different small interactions I've had with some of these women, and I've learned a lot of them don't appreciate generosity in any capacity, but will instead attempt to use them if you let them.
I'll never give 100% of my heart to a woman or build my life around her. Humans are humans and by nature humans are imperfect... I'm well aware of what human nature is capable of. I know that even though she's loyal today, tomorrow she can be iced out tomorrow and do me extra dirty tomorrow. Basically my attitude is like babygirl I enjoy your company and presence, but if you screw up, I can easily do without you. I don't build my life around women. If one enters my life, she is a part of my life, and I will demand she brings something to the table and acts right. If she comes with some sneaky behavior, she gets the boot and I'll keep it pushing, being happy all the time.
I remember going to the gym a couple of days ago and they have this huge outdoor track, with a slight breeze blowing, slightly cloudy, but man it was beautiful. I had so much peace and really sat back and started thinking, why in the world should I be stressing? There is so much else in life to enjoy that if one element fails, there is another to appreciate.
You pretty much have to set things up to where your happiness is not contingent on women and you have to protect yourself mentally, spiritually and financially so that you aren't ruined if she chooses to leave. Really man, I don't trip if a woman leaves me. There's a ton more where she came from and I feel no need to reward a traitor with much of an emotional reaction.
Dealing with women, everything is about positioning. As men, we DO have that innate desire to be a protector. You want that decent woman that you can call all yours, make sure she is taken care of and has nothing to worry about, make sure your kids are well taken care of, etc. That makes you feel great inside. Before I would have been cool with being the guy that held things down, but when you see so many guys out here getting married, paying all the bills and just doing all of this work and she goes to meet some guy at a bar and starts trashing her boyfriend to him and does all kind of nasty things, I make a note that I'm not going to be that guy. Me, I am a real sore loser. I don't like losing, being taken advantage of or looking like a sucker. I've simply had to curtail that natural 'protector' and 'provider' desire as a man because these women have a leach mentality and will look at you as some kind of sucker or simp. Kindness, they definitely take as weakness, and I don't have any tolerance for people taking advantage of my graciousness.
Part 2 coming up