Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[DarkHorse23]

Well after the situation at work(if you don't know, read past pages, not going revisit it) and reflecting on all my experiences with women I've decided I'm not going chase after women anymore. May sound defeatist but these women are going be with who they want and check for who they want, and if you're not what they find attractive or their idea of masculinity then no matter what you say or good qualities you have, you're not going get an opportunity. I'm a cross roads in my life, the path I have been going with women hasn't worked. Gotta do something different and have faith that if I see it through that what I want will be at the end of the tunnel. But who knows maybe when I'm finally granted it, might not even want it anymore, who knows. I'm still young(26) so it's not too late too turn it around, but I gotta stop wasting time and think long term. So instead of thinking about where I'm at 26, I'll start asking myself " where do you wanna be at 36? 46?" Going forward just going focus on my body, and my career goals, and get my sexual needs meet through an escort, until I start being chosen by women . Like I said my approach may sound like I'm giving up or defeated but hey

 

[International Playa]

Well after the situation at work(if you don't know, read past pages, not going revisit it) and reflecting on all my experiences with women I've decided I'm not going chase after women anymore. May sound defeatist but these women are going be with who they want and check for who they want, and if you're not what they find attractive or their idea of masculinity then no matter what you say or good qualities you have, you're not going get an opportunity. I'm a cross roads in my life, the path I have been going with women hasn't worked. Gotta do something different and have faith that if I see it through that what I want will be at the end of the tunnel. But who knows maybe when I'm finally granted it, might not even want it anymore, who knows. I'm still young(26) so it's not too late too turn it around, but I gotta stop wasting time and think long term. So instead of thinking about where I'm at 26, I'll start asking myself " where do you wanna be at 36? 46?" Going forward just going focus on my body, and my career goals, and get my sexual needs meet through an escort, until I start being chosen by women . Like I said my approach may sound like I'm giving up or defeated but hey

Go for women who choose (give u eye contact) you bro. Also turn down your standards, start off dating women you wouldnt go for, you will build confidence and learn things with each woman you date and the quality of your females will improve as you go along.

I fukked fat nasty chicks, but at least I was fukking, I was gaining sex skills and learning how to talk to women in the process. My women have got hotter each time. I havnt fukked a fat/nasty chick since 2012.

You said women love masculinity, you can build that in yourself. You can hit the gym hard and dress better that increase your masculinity. Dress game is always overlooked, women are in to fashion, so it only makes sense they would take notice of a well dressed man.

Number 1 rule:

GO FOR WOMEN THAT CHOOSE YOU!!!!

 

[DarkHorse23]

Go for women who choose (give u eye contact) you bro. Also turn down your standards, start off dating women you wouldnt go for, you will build confidence and learn things with each woman you date and the quality of your females will improve as you go along.

I fukked fat nasty chicks, but at least I was fukking, I was gaining sex skills and learning how to talk to women in the process. My women have got hotter each time. I havnt fukked a fat/nasty chick since 2012.

You said women love masculinity, you can build that in yourself. You can hit the gym hard and dress better that increase your masculinity. Dress game is always overlooked, women are in to fashion, so it only makes sense they would take notice of a well dressed man.

Number 1 rule:

GO FOR WOMEN THAT CHOOSE YOU!!!!

Yeah i hear you going for 'the women who choose me', it's been something i've have been told by older men but because of my stubbornness and wanting who i wanted i'd wouldn't listen. I realized last year, and once again this year that the reality of the situation is the women i want, don't want me. That's hard to accept and it hurts my feelings/ego, but it's reality. So at this point, i have no choice but to change or stay alone. Can't change my height (5'5) so having my body and dressing on point is even more important(especially my body). My focus will be on my body, body, and body.

In terms of being "chosen", as i told another poster, i don't ever feel like i'm ever chosen, which really depresses and makes me bitter. It's frustrating because i'm not an ugly guy (facially) but unfortunately body> face and that's my weakness that's going need to be improved before women start checking for me.

I will continue to look for signs of interest and act on those if i'm attracted to the woman as well. I won't lower my standards though, because ironically i did that (in my work situation) and i deeply regret it, because of her bad personality. I promised myself after that experience, i'd never lower my standards again or just accept anything because i didn't wanna be alone.

 

[TRUEST]

Yeah i hear you going for 'the women who choose me', it's been something i've have been told by older men but because of my stubbornness and wanting who i wanted i'd wouldn't listen. I realized last year, and once again this year that the reality of the situation is the women i want, don't want me. That's hard to accept and it hurts my feelings/ego, but it's reality. So at this point, i have no choice but to change or stay alone. Can't change my height (5'5) so having my body and dressing on point is even more important(especially my body). My focus will be on my body, body, and body.

In terms of being "chosen", as i told another poster, i don't ever feel like i'm ever chosen, which really depresses and makes me bitter. It's frustrating because i'm not an ugly guy (facially) but unfortunately body> face and that's my weakness that's going need to be improved before women start checking for me.

I will continue to look for signs of interest and act on those if i'm attracted to the woman as well. I won't lower my standards though, because ironically i did that (in my work situation) and i deeply regret it, because of her bad personality. I promised myself after that experience, i'd never lower my standards again or just accept anything because i didn't wanna be alone.

given your height, i strongly recommend you grow your hair out. facially too. let the beard grow. the goatee. the whole nine. why? you see, us men are attracted to the most feminine woman we see. meaning, women that have long hair, curves, big ass, and/or boobs. these are attributes that describe a woman.

so what about men?

for men, women attribute height to masculinity. so if you're not tall, how do you give a masculine presence? how do u appear masculinity. u do so by looking nothing like a boy. meaning, ur beard, goatee, and in how you speak. u might want to get ur weight up too. you may be reading this and thinking "aaah, that's not gonna work man". but with ur height, at this point, u have absolutely nothing to lose.

i've always cut my hair short cause growing up my mom put it in my head that it is unkempt for men not to cut their hair on a regular basis. so i did that up until i noticed i wasn't getting attention from women anymore, or as much as i use to. so, i grew it out. shaped it up a lil bit, but kept it looking fresh. and i have to say the difference is night and day. in the past when i'd go on online dates it usually was a hit or miss. some girls kinda liked me, and others just didn't. this was a shot to my ego. and also, when id go to public places, i was getting the occasional eye contact with women but not enough for me to feel content.

but when i decided to grow my hair out, i believe i went on 6 straight dates where eeach women i met was so deeply into me i was stunned. i remember one was so nervous i could see her lips quivering as she talked. and when i'd be out in public and a woman just happens to catch my eye by accident and they look away, they tend to look back. and i noticed their gaze stayed a bit longer as oppose to quickly looking away and not looking back.

and in case, that's not enough to convince u. i remember an ex from long ago i use to date. whenever her and i met, i always made sure i had a fresh cut. no beard, no goatee. but. the day i went to see her after about 2 weeks of not seeing each other, and i didn't have the time to cut my hair or shave, when she saw me. she really couldn't contain herself. "oh my goodness babe. u look so good right now. can you please not cut ur beard off again?" she grabs it and starts rubbing her face on it. lol. it was cute. well, u can imagine what happened that night.

 

[DarkHorse23]

given your height, i strongly recommend you grow your hair out. facially too. let the beard grow. the goatee. the whole nine. why? you see, us men are attracted to the most feminine woman we see. meaning, women that have long hair, curves, big ass, and/or boobs. these are attributes that describe a woman.

so what about men?

for men, women attribute height to masculinity. so if you're not tall, how do you give a masculine presence? how do u appear masculinity. u do so by looking nothing like a boy. meaning, ur beard, goatee, and in how you speak. u might want to get ur weight up too. you may be reading this and thinking "aaah, that's not gonna work man". but with ur height, at this point, u have absolutely nothing to lose.

i've always cut my hair short cause growing up my mom put it in my head that it is unkempt for men not to cut their hair on a regular basis. so i did that up until i noticed i wasn't getting attention from women anymore, or as much as i use to. so, i grew it out. shaped it up a lil bit, but kept it looking fresh. and i have to say the difference is night and day. in the past when i'd go on online dates it usually was a hit or miss. some girls kinda liked me, and others just didn't. this was a shot to my ego. and also, when id go to public places, i was getting the occasional eye contact with women but not enough for me to feel content.

but when i decided to grow my hair out, i believe i went on 6 straight dates where eeach women i met was so deeply into me i was stunned. i remember one was so nervous i could see her lips quivering as she talked. and when i'd be out in public and a woman just happens to catch my eye by accident and they look away, they tend to look back. and i noticed their gaze stayed a bit longer as oppose to quickly looking away and not looking back.

and in case, that's not enough to convince u. i remember an ex from long ago i use to date. whenever her and i met, i always made sure i had a fresh cut. no beard, no goatee. but. the day i went to see her after about 2 weeks of not seeing each other, and i didn't have the time to cut my hair or shave, when she saw me. she really couldn't contain herself. "oh my goodness babe. u look so good right now. can you please not cut ur beard off again?" she grabs it and starts rubbing her face on it. lol. it was cute. well, u can imagine what happened that night.

I agree with 99.9% of what you said. I was thinking over my grooming as well, as I contemplate what will make me most attractive. I can grow any type of facial hair which is great. I'll also was considering growing my hair out again but unsure because of the maintenance and because shorter hair is most masculine. My face shape is a diamond(what i've been told) so ironically with that shape longer hair best fits my shape(Flat top, uptown fade) but i know the last time i grew my hair out(cornrows & twists) and cut it(in high school) i got more favorable responses, so that's what i've been doing. I'm growing out my beard again(3 weeks in)as well because i feel i got more attention/compliments last year with a short beard(5 weeks) than anything else(clean shaven, goatee, chinstrap) i've ever done. I always keep facial hair, but on the fence about growing my hair out again, but hey maybe you're right. I got nothing to lose

 

[TRUEST]

I agree with 99.9% of what you said. I was thinking over my grooming as well, as I contemplate what will make me most attractive. I can grow any type of facial hair which is great. I'll also was considering growing my hair out again but unsure because of the maintenance and because shorter hair is most masculine. My face shape is a diamond(what i've been told) so ironically with that shape longer hair best fits my shape(Flat top, uptown fade) but i know the last time i grew my hair out(cornrows & twists) and cut it(in high school) i got more favorable responses, so that's what i've been doing. I'm growing out my beard again(3 weeks in)as well because i feel i got more attention/compliments last year with a short beard(5 weeks) than anything else(clean shaven, goatee, chinstrap) i've ever done. I always keep facial hair, but on the fence about growing my hair out again, but hey maybe you're right. I got nothing to lose

The more the better. The 6 consecutive dates I went on had me confused . I was in at the mirror like wtf, women really like this? To me, I looked wild but hey women like what they like

 

[DarkHorse23]

The more the better. The 6 consecutive dates I went on had me confused . I was in at the mirror like wtf, women really like this? To me, I looked wild but hey women like what they like

How tall are u?

 

[TRUEST]

How tall are u?

5'9

 

[DaHNIC82]

I need a second opinion on this bc ive had issues with it for the past 6 years, even though ive gotten betterIm an introvert, selectively social, not very talkative or w/e words you wanna use

Ive been this way since HS and to be real im wondering if i should try to change...I usually start dealing with a woman and then they start asking "Why are you so quiet?" "Dont you know more people?" And im just likei run with a small circle and enjoy time to myself. I feel like it's fcking me up bc im not always in the club/go out all the time or have a large circle on speed dial. Shii is weird because if a girl is lowkey/reserved we value that bc we assume shes not out fukking everyone. But if a guy is the same its like yowhy isnt this nikka out more/more sociable/more fun?

Am i trippen or should i work on this more? Im conversational but other than that im not a real extrovert

You possibly feel that way because you got sucked into the Illusion that a lot of these glory pictures these IG nikkas and thots be painting on their posts on Facebook and IG. They take pics of their trips with bad bytches in Costa Rica, doing it up at the club, a big booty bytch sleeping out after a night encounter and make you believe that you're missing out on a whole world of fun. But the shyt is really nothing at all. You go to these clubs and they hype it up as if its the place to be but when you go its instead of like these images portray. We see the visual but we don't see the amount of tricking these nikkas be doing. They be literally buying bytches affection out there.

 

[MikelArteta]

Yes go for women that choose you, it doesn't how much money you have, what you look like a woman likes you or not. Everything becokes easy when you go for women that are feeling you and you have to do nothinfb

 

[IceDragon]

Ya'll ever think back to that one relationship that one woman in your life where you both brought out the worst in each other?

 

[DarkHorse23]

5'9

What type of haircut are you wearing? Can you post a picture? And how does longer hair make shorter men look more masculine?

 

[TRUEST]

What type of haircut are you wearing? Can you post a picture? And how does longer hair make shorter men look more masculine?

Longer hair on your scalp does not make u more masculine but it hides the shape of ur head if u have a weirdly shaped head.

the growing ur hair out is more for the beard / goatee. these are masculine features.

i have a friend who has a rastafarian hair style (just long thin braids). whenever we go out to bars, women cant resist asking him about his hair. although, i feel i was better looking than this dude, it was mystifying to me, nevertheless, how these women would act over his hair. i'm not one for that rastafarian look. so i decided u know what, i'll grow mine out. and sure enough. girls use to look at me discreetly. now, they look long enough for me to catch them. its kinda funny lol

do what works for u. but if ur a short dude, u need to grow ur hair out, and add some bass to your voice when u speak to women. speak calmly. speaking fast insinuates you're trying to impress.

 

[DarkHorse23]

Longer hair on your scalp does not make u more masculine but it hides the shape of ur head if u have a weirdly shaped head.

the growing ur hair out is more for the beard / goatee. these are masculine features.

i have a friend who has a rastafarian hair style (just long thin braids). whenever we go out to bars, women cant resist asking him about his hair. although, i feel i was better looking than this dude, it was mystifying to me, nevertheless, how these women would act over his hair. i'm not one for that rastafarian look. so i decided u know what, i'll grow mine out. and sure enough. girls use to look at me discreetly. now, they look long enough for me to catch them. its kinda funny lol

do what works for u. but if ur a short dude, u need to grow ur hair out, and add some bass to your voice when u speak to women. speak calmly. speaking fast insinuates you're trying to impress.

Yeah I'm very soft spoken at times, I need to add more bass to my voice. My more louder voice only comes out when I'm really comfortable with a person or if I'm angry lol. I work in a retail store and my voice be too soft when I'm approaching the women and asking if they need help.

 

[Youseenmywork]

I never gave to shyts if I met a girl heights requirement...and Im only 5'9. This is something I don't even think about when approach women...I'm to old for it at 31. What women thinks of me is nun of my business.