Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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Yeah I see ya point. I about done with the whole thing I just thought after 3 weeks she women up and bring this whole thing to real close. Her friends don't like me at all so no doubt they bigging her head up. Shows me that not matter how much female say she loves you , if she don't respect you then just let it die. It pisses me off that she wasted 2 years of my time for nothing.

your best option is to stop checking her social media. remove her if u have to. women are gonna act out. u as the man must be the mountain. the mountain remains the same regardless of whatever mother nature throws at it (snow, rain, storms, tornado, hail).

there's a thread i posted a few months ago where a girl i was dating ended thing in as bad of a way as u can think off. calling me all types of way. i even posted the text messages for u all to see. while she was throwing these insults at me, i did nothing but either troll her by talking down to her, or just ignore her altogether. guess who came around a few weeks ago like a boomerang wanting to make amends?

in ur case, the best thing u can do is ignore her. but based on ur post, i can tell u dont have it in u to to do that. that lil voice in ur head will keep forcing u to "give it one more chance". it takes a savage type dude who's been through sh1t to just go silent and thats what u must do if u wish to regain the upper hand here.
 

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About to job relocate soon and my girl wants to come with. She's close to her two young nephews that her mom's in charge of. She used to see them every weekend until I moved in. She's slowly pulling back from seeing them to spend time with me and for our relationship. She and her siblings used to be in the guardianship form and now she's off. The thing if we move cross country she would want to see them monthly if not more. No biggie but I know how cost will pile up and the kids seem ungrateful. I wouldn't mind on just holidays. Would I be wrong in telling her the homesick back and forth would annoy me? I don't like her playing the guilt mom role more than just auntie?

i made a cross country move and my girl at the time wanted to come with. i didn't see a future with her so i didn't allow her to. dont have this girl relocate her life for u unless u know u are really into her. and tell her she may have to cut the homesick visits to once or twice every 2 months. or they can come visit yall, if ur ok with that kinda stuff.
 

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My ex texted me last night. Mostly bullshyt about that Lemonade and my thoughts on it. Weird thing was that a few weeks ago she acted like she never wanted to speak with me again and how she doesn't care how well i'm doing etc. and now shes asking if I'm alright, how is my fitness going, how I'm doing type shyt. I told her I'm straight and lets go for a walk sometime. She told me that wouldn't be good idea, at least not yet. I just agreed with her and said yeah I've had a lot of positive changes since we broke up, glad youre doing well too. No reason to stop the progression for either of us and ended the convo. I'm kind of like wtf because 3 weeks ago it was utter contempt, now she wants to dwell in a grey area :what: Probably realizing that fukk, a lot of nikkas really are fukking trash what have I done. whatever. I almost wish she didn't contact me cuz now I'm going to be thinking about it.
I got a couple dates this weekend already, one that is probably gonna lead to sex since I've chilled with her like 4 times already and have gotten hot n heavy but no ass :ld: . Its probably not the best idea to have her on my mind with other chicks. Would be selfish as fukk.

go for a walk? that's not an opportunity for sex to happen.
a bar, a lounge? a coffee date???? why a walk? wtf?
and u better go on those dates with the other girls. it'll be very easy. extremely easy actually to forget ur ex if the girls ur dating her better looking.
 

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go for a walk? that's not an opportunity for sex to happen.
a bar, a lounge? a coffee date???? why a walk? wtf?
and u better go on those dates with the other girls. it'll be very easy. extremely easy actually to forget ur ex if the girls ur dating her better looking.
We live like 4 minutes from each other breh. If shyt went well I could easily just go to my/her place and do that. It would honestly be less logistics involved going for a walk around our neighborhood and starting re attraction than having to go out and do something because she doesn't drive and I would have to pick her up and shyt. I see where you are coming from tho.

What would you suggest. I'm already juggling other bytches so like its not the biggest priority but if shes open to communicate I don't see whats the harm in seeing what she can be on in the future. Its pretty obvious shes cooled down considerably and is feeling some type of way but isn't ready to fully open back up to me


that book is a godsend btw. Makes dealing with these new women fukking effortless:ohhh:

only read twice tho:francis:
 

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your best option is to stop checking her social media. remove her if u have to. women are gonna act out. u as the man must be the mountain. the mountain remains the same regardless of whatever mother nature throws at it (snow, rain, storms, tornado, hail).

there's a thread i posted a few months ago where a girl i was dating ended thing in as bad of a way as u can think off. calling me all types of way. i even posted the text messages for u all to see. while she was throwing these insults at me, i did nothing but either troll her by talking down to her, or just ignore her altogether. guess who came around a few weeks ago like a boomerang wanting to make amends?

in ur case, the best thing u can do is ignore her. but based on ur post, i can tell u dont have it in u to to do that. that lil voice in ur head will keep forcing u to "give it one more chance". it takes a savage type dude who's been through sh1t to just go silent and thats what u must do if u wish to regain the upper hand here.


What I'm saying I was wild before I meet her she change made me try that faithful shyt. So it going back to normal me. Nothing big
 
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:jbhmm:Now if she has a boyfriend and says "I just see you as a friend" do that mean if she were single she'd still see you as friends or she see you as a friend cuz, well, she's taken
Personally I never mess with taken women. Why bother. He has history with her already and its fairly unlikely your going to fit in unless he fukks up which he could but again why wait. You never had her so there is nothing there for you to even miss. Flirt and be friendly but I wouldnt personally put too much effort into het at all.
 

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Yea but I feel it would be helpful/conducive for future pursuits if I knew

Nah, you gotta be centered in who you are, whether she exists or not. You can't wait for her to give you permission to be the shyt, you just gotta keep being the shyt. Take pride in the fact that you were man enough to shoot your shot and keep it moving :manny:
 

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Aight one last question, I told her we can't be friends and she's asking why not. Should I continue to be friends with her or just straight up tell her it's not possible :jbhmm:

She got a dude, right? Nothing good can come of being friends. Women use men to feel good about themselves the way men use women for sex. If she's feeling bad she'll be able to call you up to get an ego boost since you like her, while saving the womanly treatment for her man.

Abundance breh. There's too many women out there wanting to find a good dude and willing to give him all of herself to be worrying about a chick who puts you on the backburner for the dude she really likes.

And aside from what she wants, YOU don't wanna be friends. You wanna kiss, hold hands, fukk, go on dates, share thoughts on life, get head, buy each other presents etc. So don't be dishonest with a "friendship" when you're just secretly waiting for her to change her mind :manny:
 
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