Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[twan83]

Thank you.

My male friend thinks me ignoring the messages showed I'm still hurt and i should've replied really briefly as if I'm unbothered. But i didn't think that was a good idea.

I hope this doesn't make me bitter. I should've left him dumped last year. I feel played.

Nothing wrong being hurt
Ur male friend no offense don't know crappie
Silence is golden works on anybody for most part Cuz they wondering you ain't reply or responding
If u did only gonna end up getting back in ur feelings and probably fukking him again to be honest
Let the hurt heal as time goes by or else ur just gonna be another female that's like but I love him his d game is too good to stop while he smashing u and other broads

 

[Deafheaven]

I am not over the relationship. It hurt me tbh because i let myself down. I'm working on it still.
What i won't do though is contact him ever or reply. It's been almost 4 months and I've stuck to it despite his reach outs.
I'd rather work out my issues online than make the mistake of ever turning to him for answers.

He sounds like a bytch tbh. Leaving messages on a viber? Thats way too much effort to just say you are sorry.

 

[Hazer]

Nothing wrong being hurt
Ur male friend no offense don't know crappie
Silence is golden works on anybody for most part Cuz they wondering you ain't reply or responding
If u did only gonna end up getting back in ur feelings and probably fukking him again to be honest
Let the hurt heal as time goes by or else ur just gonna be another female that's like but I love him his d game is too good to stop while he smashing u and other broads

I hate women like that. It's my nightmare to be that girl. It wasnt even the sex, i got my mind wrapped up which is worst. Everyone thought i shouldn't be with him from jump including him. He caught me at a low point.

He sounds like a bytch tbh. Leaving messages on a viber? Thats way too much effort to just say you are sorry.

He's blocked on my texts and phone etc. Viber is no effort imo. Or maybe i watched too many romantic movies where dude shows up with flowers and whatnot. Now its like, here's a viber apology that took me 1 minute to type. Lazy as hell. But I'm glad, it matched the rest of the behavior in the relationship.

 

[Deafheaven]

I hate women like that. It's my nightmare to be that girl. It wasnt even the sex, i got my mind wrapped up which is worst. Everyone thought i shouldn't be with him from jump including him. He caught me at a low point.



He's blocked on my texts and phone etc. Viber is no effort imo. Or maybe i watched too many romantic movies where dude shows up with flowers and whatnot. Now its like, here's a viber apology that took me 1 minute to type. Lazy as hell. But I'm glad, it matched the rest of the behavior in the relationship.

No if hes already blocked the fact he felt the need to even reply at all shows effort. If you had intense feelings for anyone time heals most things. Its just human nature. so you going a few months without hearing from him proably has caused quite a bit of his negative properties to be minimized but the good ones seen through rose tinted glasses. This is most likely why youre on here asking what to do because your emotions are betraying your logic. But yeah youre kind of right. Him dangling out that text is pretty much just a way to see if there is anything left there. If there is you'll call or text him and see what hes on, if not you won't. its pretty cut and dry.

This is usually how long relationships go. If after a few months the other person can think of mostly good things about the relationship all it takes is a olive branch to get it popping again. But if you think it was mostly bad things then you'll continue ignoring him.

 

[twan83]

I hate women like that. It's my nightmare to be that girl. It wasnt even the sex, i got my mind wrapped up which is worst. Everyone thought i shouldn't be with him from jump including him. He caught me at a low point.



He's blocked on my texts and phone etc. Viber is no effort imo. Or maybe i watched too many romantic movies where dude shows up with flowers and whatnot. Now its like, here's a viber apology that took me 1 minute to type. Lazy as hell. But I'm glad, it matched the rest of the behavior in the relationship.

Alot of women hate women like that but yet become that Cuz they don't take the advice they given serious at all
When ur at a low point or in a hurt state to be honest u should be wary of even male friends Cuz ur prime rib to be taken advantage of also and at same time ur gonna want that comfort which leads to another thing and u just added more problems too urslef
So be sure u know ur male friends very well

 

[Hazer]

No if hes already blocked the fact he felt the need to even reply at all shows effort. If you had intense feelings for anyone time heals most things. Its just human nature. so you going a few months without hearing from him proably has caused quite a bit of his negative properties to be minimized but the good ones seen through rose tinted glasses. This is most likely why youre on here asking what to do because your emotions are betraying your logic. But yeah youre kind of right. Him dangling out that text is pretty much just a way to see if there is anything left there. If there is you'll call or text him and see what hes on, if not you won't. its pretty cut and dry.

This is usually how long relationships go. If after a few months the other person can think of mostly good things about the relationship all it takes is a olive branch to get it popping again. But if you think it was mostly bad things then you'll continue ignoring him.

You're right. I think besides what you mentioned, what got to me was my pride at the wording of the message. It felt patronizing.

And as for the rest, anytime i even think of the relationship beyond the nostalgia, logic is clear that it was negative. I can't even justify any possibility of revisiting it. He added nothing to my life by the end of it all. He took. I wish I'd dumped him in February, i was about to because he was increasingly callous and excused it as him "standing up for himself." But his dad died that same night and i felt bad so i put myself aside and was there for him. Big mistake. Many lessons learned for the future. I just hope i dont turn cold hearted going forward. I already know I'll never let anyone hold such importance in my life again. It's too risky.

Alot of women hate women like that but yet become that Cuz they don't take the advice they given serious at all
When ur at a low point or in a hurt state to be honest u should be wary of even male friends Cuz ur prime rib to be taken advantage of also and at same time ur gonna want that comfort which leads to another thing and u just added more problems too urslef
So be sure u know ur male friends very well

Very good point about male friends lol. I trust my two friends but I'd relied more on my gut and my sisters advice than theirs.

 

[Hazer]

Oh, forgot to add, after he sent the message he changed his viber profile. Mind you it had been the same for 2 years. He put up a pic of himself looking like someone ran over his puppy. He liked depressed, eyes almost watery. Prolly rubbed then hard for that selfie.
More manipulation because he knows I'm a softy. He's 27. Wtf So extra.

 

[Deafheaven]

Oh, forgot to add, after he sent the message he changed his viber profile. Mind you it had been the same for 2 years. He put up a pic of himself looking like someone ran over his puppy. He liked depressed, eyes almost watery. Prolly rubbed then hard for that selfie.
More manipulation because he knows I'm a softy. He's 27. Wtf So extra.

All I can say is if he didn't add anything then proceed as such. But all too often I see women blow off the dude and then years later after dealing with TRUE TRASH men they turn jaded and eventually go "well he really wasn't that bad/I made a mistake" This dude seems far to insecure and unstable to fit that bill but the path youre going down I can see you dismissing a geniunely good dude over "not letting someone that close" again. Its operation out of fear, so take that as you may. Or you can resort to lesbianism if all men are beyond reproach at this point

 

[twan83]

All I can say is if he didn't add anything then proceed as such. But all too often I see women blow off the dude and then years later after dealing with TRUE TRASH men they turn jaded and eventually go "well he really wasn't that bad/I made a mistake" This dude seems far to insecure and unstable to fit that bill but the path youre going down I can see you dismissing a geniunely good dude over "not letting someone that close" again. Its operation out of fear, so take that as you may. Or you can resort to lesbianism if all men are beyond reproach at this point

It's like that usher song his mistakes shyt hits home for real on Alot of guys and has very good in depth insight
Happened too me more than once and they call me outta the blue months or years later with regret


"His Mistakes"

Do I remind you of the pain
That he put you through, girl
Is that the reason I'm to blame
Before I do it:
Is it because he, treated you so badly
I always stand accused
Protecting yourself, from somebody else
I'm not who's hurting you, girl

[Chorus:]
And it's killing me girl knowing you compare me to him
Always guilty before the sin
I can't win, I can't win
I'll do anything to prove I love you
Baby girl would I refuse to
Pay for something I didn't do
I love you, girl
But I refuse to stay
Paying for his mistakes

He left a scar across your heart
I understand, girl
Don't let his wrongs tear us apart
Cause girl I'm your man

Just because he did
You swear I'm cheating
You think I just don't care
Why must I do time
For another man's crime
Girl you know that ain't fair

[Chorus]

I know he did you wrong
But tell me what does that have to do with me
Trying to show you something real
Figure out what is going on
Before you look up and I'll be gone..
I'll do anything to prove I love you
Baby girl but I refuse
To pay for something I didn't do, girl
I love you, and I love you I love you

I'll do anything to prove I love you
Baby girl but I refuse
To pay for something I didn't do, girl
I love you, girl
But I refuse to stay
Paying for his mistakes

 

[Deafheaven]

It's like that usher song his mistakes shyt hits home for real on Alot of guys and has very good in depth insight
Happened too me more than once and they call me outta the blue months or years later with regret


"His Mistakes"

Do I remind you of the pain
That he put you through, girl
Is that the reason I'm to blame
Before I do it:
Is it because he, treated you so badly
I always stand accused
Protecting yourself, from somebody else
I'm not who's hurting you, girl

[Chorus:]
And it's killing me girl knowing you compare me to him
Always guilty before the sin
I can't win, I can't win
I'll do anything to prove I love you
Baby girl would I refuse to
Pay for something I didn't do
I love you, girl
But I refuse to stay
Paying for his mistakes

He left a scar across your heart
I understand, girl
Don't let his wrongs tear us apart
Cause girl I'm your man

Just because he did
You swear I'm cheating
You think I just don't care
Why must I do time
For another man's crime
Girl you know that ain't fair

[Chorus]

I know he did you wrong
But tell me what does that have to do with me
Trying to show you something real
Figure out what is going on
Before you look up and I'll be gone..
I'll do anything to prove I love you
Baby girl but I refuse
To pay for something I didn't do, girl
I love you, and I love you I love you

I'll do anything to prove I love you
Baby girl but I refuse
To pay for something I didn't do, girl
I love you, girl
But I refuse to stay
Paying for his mistakes

Word. Nowadays stand up brothers stuck trying to fix the messed up mind frame of some of these girls. Like I want to end up iwth a black woman but a lot of them are so fukking jaded over some past shyt or they god forbid feminist. Its like playing the game on a handicap cuz they already think you scum just for have a y chromosome.

 

[Hazer]

All I can say is if he didn't add anything then proceed as such. But all too often I see women blow off the dude and then years later after dealing with TRUE TRASH men they turn jaded and eventually go "well he really wasn't that bad/I made a mistake" This dude seems far to insecure and unstable to fit that bill but the path youre going down I can see you dismissing a geniunely good dude over "not letting someone that close" again. Its operation out of fear, so take that as you may. Or you can resort to lesbianism if all men are beyond reproach at this point

Lmao I'll pass on the lesbo route.
I did wonder if I'd regret him earlier in after the breakup and i did think maybe "he's not that bad" but the logical pros and cons didn't make sense. I compromised on a lot of the things women these days use as must haves, but he couldn't give me the basics of thoughtfulness and respect consistently.

I hear you about being bitter. I don't want to be that person but this was hell on wheels emotionally for me. I'm going to take time before i date seriously again. I do think i got too emotionally invested too quickly. Maybe not bitter, but a more cautious and realistic going forward. Believing antics l actions not words. And having my own deal beakers beforehand and being true to them.

 

[Hazer]

It's like that usher song his mistakes shyt hits home for real on Alot of guys and has very good in depth insight
Happened too me more than once and they call me outta the blue months or years later with regret


"His Mistakes"

Do I remind you of the pain
That he put you through, girl
Is that the reason I'm to blame
Before I do it:
Is it because he, treated you so badly
I always stand accused
Protecting yourself, from somebody else
I'm not who's hurting you, girl

[Chorus:]
And it's killing me girl knowing you compare me to him
Always guilty before the sin
I can't win, I can't win
I'll do anything to prove I love you
Baby girl would I refuse to
Pay for something I didn't do
I love you, girl
But I refuse to stay
Paying for his mistakes

He left a scar across your heart
I understand, girl
Don't let his wrongs tear us apart
Cause girl I'm your man

Just because he did
You swear I'm cheating
You think I just don't care
Why must I do time
For another man's crime
Girl you know that ain't fair

[Chorus]

I know he did you wrong
But tell me what does that have to do with me
Trying to show you something real
Figure out what is going on
Before you look up and I'll be gone..
I'll do anything to prove I love you
Baby girl but I refuse
To pay for something I didn't do, girl
I love you, and I love you I love you

I'll do anything to prove I love you
Baby girl but I refuse
To pay for something I didn't do, girl
I love you, girl
But I refuse to stay
Paying for his mistakes

This was depressing.
I'd hate to do that to a good guy.
And I'd also hate to go through this again too though.

 

[twan83]

Word. Nowadays stand up brothers stuck trying to fix the messed up mind frame of some of these girls. Like I want to end up iwth a black woman but a lot of them are so fukking jaded over some past shyt or they god forbid feminist. Its like playing the game on a handicap cuz they already think you scum just for have a y chromosome.

Yea I don't have a preference but I never ended up with a black female not Cuz of lack of trying but lack of Cuz of places I've lived at and what they had weren't any good black females or they were married
Being overseas Alot or in West Texas with majority Hispanic it is what it is
I get asked that Alot y didn't I stay within my race I'm like I don't care what race just want a good woman and not like I didn't try I told them but oh well it is what it is

 

[twan83]

This was depressing.
I'd hate to do that to a good guy.
And I'd also hate to go through this again too though.

It was tough for a breh a few of them were geniunely good females but that past relationship fukked it up for the rest so me being who I am they shall go

 

[Deafheaven]

Lmao I'll pass on the lesbo route.
I did wonder if I'd regret him earlier in after the breakup and i did think maybe "he's not that bad" but the logical pros and cons didn't make sense. I compromised on a lot of the things women these days use as must haves, but he couldn't give me the basics of thoughtfulness and respect consistently.

I hear you about being bitter. I don't want to be that person but this was hell on wheels emotionally for me. I'm going to take time before i date seriously again. I do think i got too emotionally invested too quickly. Maybe not bitter, but a more cautious and realistic going forward. Believing antics l actions not words. And having my own deal beakers beforehand and being true to them.

Fair enough. Main reason I can recover from breakups and go out and date again quickly is because for one I don't hold grudges and I know who I am. I am a main of morality and I earnestly try to be a good mate. So it may seem narcissistic but I rarely feel that I was really the huge problem in a breakup. I'm far from perfect but if you believe you could have done little more to make the relationship better than it becomes very easy to put it behind you and go out and look again because you have the internal solace that why you are moving on and can find something better, they will search for years before they find someone of your character. A lil arrogance isn't the end of the world. Especially if its deserved.