Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MikelArteta]

we were dating for like a year and a half before proposal and she wanted to get married. She was the one talking about she couldn't wait to have kids, for us to wake up every morning together and all that other hogwash chicks spill.

And I wouldn't be surprised if some worthless brehette is in her ear, ah well.

I'm just more pissed at the embarrassment and wasting my time.

sorry to hear man. but before u proposed, was she the one hinting she wanted to marry? were u guys dating for at least a year before you proposed?

in this modern day in age, if ur going to get marriage, it shouldnt (should not) be ur original idea. the girl should be the one who is head over heels in love with u. bringing up the kids yall gon have, throwing all types of hints. its like going on national television to propose to your girl. u should never put urself out like that to begin with, but if u did do it, u better know the answer. how do u know the answer? because she has been hinting she wants to marry u.

also, its probably a family member of hers (or a friend) that's talking in her ear. she probably told one of them about the money she lent to you to pay off ur debts and they went wild on her. like he's trying to use u.

 

[Shadow King]

All women do this because they require attention and stability. Reasons why bum nikkas can knock up girls all year long because they don't have shyt to do with their lives.

You either gonna have to get use to it and keep checking her every so often because she won't stop, they never do.

Or you gonna have to drop her and stop seriously dating till you get to where you want to be in life. Start back when you have the time to dedicate to dating women.

9/10 women ain't good for building with, they don't understand the void you feel as a man when you ain't where you want to be yet.

This right here

 

[Scoop]

Is he really though?
-"I'm not interested in friendship/venting phone calls"
-"Smashing is a priority as far as women I meet"
-"If we're out and you're drunk, I'm not your bodyguard" (so her incentive to act stupid should go down)
I feel like this is what nikkas are generally afraid to say but he said it

"So I told her "wtf do you mean we? Go to Tampa by yourself.""

:ehhhhhh:

 

[Lord Bison]

we were dating for like a year and a half before proposal and she wanted to get married. She was the one talking about she couldn't wait to have kids, for us to wake up every morning together and all that other hogwash chicks spill.

And I wouldn't be surprised if some worthless brehette is in her ear, ah well.

I'm just more pissed at the embarrassment and wasting my time.

Look at the bright side. You might not be able to get that time back, but you can get the money back from that engagement ring.


If I were you, I'd immediately go use that money and book a plane ticket and go see something new. On the other side of the embarassment and time, you now have the freedom again to do what you want and when you want.

Plus football season is right around the corner so you'll be able to enjoy your sports in peace.


I've read your progress in this thread from page 1. So I know it's safe to say you will maintain your #HOH indefinite stance of no contact. Please update us when she comes crawling back.

 

[Shadow King]

"So I told her "wtf do you mean we? Go to Tampa by yourself.""

:ehhhhhh:

Aight well yeah that part he bugged out on

 

[TRUEST]

@Supreme Leader Reinscarf
if you had to think deep, what is it you think got her having doubts? what event do u think caused this? im asking because I find it hella disturbing that she can just turn around and want out. especially after her lending u money to pay off ur loans, u and her praying together, going to church together.... i mean. its really troubling.

 

[Uitomy]

I've realized no matter how much advice you get, you really gotta talk to a woman on your own terms with your own mind, someone definitely said that before at some point in this thread but I've really just now learned that how ever you act towards a woman as long as she's ok with it and it's not creepy or. Crazy to keep doing that. If she likes you she will not matter what strategy or lack of theroff

 

[Crayola Coyote]

brehs, I need some quick advice. I just started dating this girl. She's dope and really attractive but she gives me such a hard time about my career. She doesn't understand that a man needs purpose and that I'm doing all of this for our (potential) future. she's not OD with it but all she wants to do is be cuddled up with me. I enjoy my time with her but when I tell her I won't be available because I got important business shyt to take care of she always gets offended.

it got so bad the other day I almost bushed her. she was crying and saying I didn't care about her because I'm making a big career move. I'm trying to reassure her but it's only so much emotions I can deal with. I gotta plan a ton of shyt and she aint helping. but deep down her heart is in the right place​

Charge her to the game

 

[Lord Bison]

@Supreme Leader Reinscarf
if you had to think deep, what is it you think got her having doubts? what event do u think caused this? im asking because I find it hella disturbing that she can just turn around and want out. especially after her lending u money to pay off ur loans, u and her praying together, going to church together.... i mean. its really troubling.

That's a good question. Usually before women drop a bomb like that, they start giving off non-verbal cues about their dissatisfaction or some sort of inconsistency in their behavior. For women, breaking up is usually an long and arduous process with her getting her ducks in a row before she drops them thangs.

If this really did come out of nowhere, it's easy to conclude that someone on her side was monday morning QB'ing the shyt out of their relationship which exposes her inability to think on her own and a major character flaw that she could have been hiding. This could be God's way of saving him from some serious grief down the line.

 

[TRUEST]

That's a good question. Usually before women drop a bomb like that, they start giving off non-verbal cues about their dissatisfaction or some sort of inconsistency in their behavior. For women, breaking up is usually an long and arduous process with her getting her ducks in a row before she drops them thangs.

If this really did come out of nowhere, it's easy to conclude that someone on her side was monday morning QB'ing the shyt out of their relationship which exposes her inability to think on her own and a major character flaw that she could have been hiding. This could be God's way of saving him from some serious grief down the line.

i personally think he may have moved too quick with the engagement. when he announced it last year, everyone was kinda taken aback because he didnt really talk about her. and it seemed like it was rushed. but nevertheless, sh1t is strange.

 

[Lord Bison]

i personally think he may have moved too quick with the engagement. when he announced it last year, everyone was kinda taken aback because he didnt really talk about her. and it seemed like it was rushed. but nevertheless, sh1t is strange.

Makes sense. Women live for the day they get married. Trust and believe that a woman will have her colors, venue, music and everything planned out before she even meets her future husband. So it is odd that she would opt out of what would be her life definining moment like that.

In my experience, females will put that non stop pressure on a man to get that rock on her finger. From what it seems they werent dating even a year before he proposed, so yeah I think you're right. He proposed too quickly.

Normally I would say this chick needs to be bushed something serious. But knowing that she went out of pocket to pay off his debts means she's made a serious investment in Reinscarf. I think its a salvageable situation because women dont ever just cut their losses like that without a secured exit strategy.

Either way, if he does take her back I'd recommend delaying that wedding as long as possible until he has an idea of what type of woman he's dealing with. If they're going to spend the rest of their life together, no need to rush for that ceremony. Plenty of time for all that.

 

[Crayola Coyote]

"So I told her "wtf do you mean we? Go to Tampa by yourself.""

:ehhhhhh:

She could have someone in Tampa n use me for a ride to go up there. Hope for the worst brehs

 

[360dagod]

Makes sense. Women live for the day they get married. Trust and believe that a woman will have her colors, venue, music and everything planned out before she even meets her future husband. So it is odd that she would opt out of what would be her life definining moment like that.

In my experience, females will put that non stop pressure on a man to get that rock on her finger. From what it seems they werent dating even a year before he proposed, so yeah I think you're right. He proposed too quickly.

Normally I would say this chick needs to be bushed something serious. But knowing that she went out of pocket to pay off his debts means she's made a serious investment in Reinscarf. I think its a salvageable situation because women dont ever just cut their losses like that without a secured exit strategy.

Either way, if he does take her back I'd recommend delaying that wedding as long as possible until he has an idea of what type of woman he's dealing with. If they're going to spend the rest of their life together, no need to rush for that ceremony. Plenty of time for all that.

As a man, that form of rejection is the ultimate rejection...You dont get that kind of rejection and go for it again with that same person...

I mean he's basically at the rock bottom part of his relationship right now....The dynamic is completely different

Personally, im gone....

 

[MikelArteta]

We were dating a year and a half before the engagement .

Im a veteran I don't rush into anything.

Makes sense. Women live for the day they get married. Trust and believe that a woman will have her colors, venue, music and everything planned out before she even meets her future husband. So it is odd that she would opt out of what would be her life definining moment like that.

In my experience, females will put that non stop pressure on a man to get that rock on her finger. From what it seems they werent dating even a year before he proposed, so yeah I think you're right. He proposed too quickly.

Normally I would say this chick needs to be bushed something serious. But knowing that she went out of pocket to pay off his debts means she's made a serious investment in Reinscarf. I think its a salvageable situation because women dont ever just cut their losses like that without a secured exit strategy.

Either way, if he does take her back I'd recommend delaying that wedding as long as possible until he has an idea of what type of woman he's dealing with. If they're going to spend the rest of their life together, no need to rush for that ceremony. Plenty of time for all that.

 

[MikelArteta]

I took this disc session at work and it was interesting it's kind of like a Myers Briggs type ish, than she took it as well and we were polar opposites. But we've always been she's extroverted and a go getter and impatient, I'm introverted, quiet, calm and patient.

Literally we saw each other every day, not once we're we bored, went to church, prayed together were even waiting till marriage, I just met her sister and brother in law like 3 weeks ago in Texas. Just two months ago she lent me almost ten k to pay off my loans

She even said she was going to take back the ring and go with it day by day but once I texted a girl and talked about us that was the final straw

Does it hurt yeah, do I still love her yeah, but to her I committed a cardinal sin talking about her to a female friend and laughing when she said she wished she could smack some sense into her

I've apologized but nothing more I can do cept leave it in God's hands

@Supreme Leader Reinscarf
if you had to think deep, what is it you think got her having doubts? what event do u think caused this? im asking because I find it hella disturbing that she can just turn around and want out. especially after her lending u money to pay off ur loans, u and her praying together, going to church together.... i mean. its really troubling.