Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[John Reena]

I see "ghosting" topics on Twitter.

Man, if a chick ghost on you....don't chase that dirty bytch. shyt happens for a reason. She prolly a bird, CRAZY, p*ssy stink, std, be married. It's a blessing.

 

[Bless't]

Well I'm no longer engaged brehs, fiance said she has alot of doubts and returned the ring to me.

Came out of nowhere .

Then days later she wanted to talk I went to the washroom and she went through my phone and found a convo with one of my friends who is a girl telling her that she returned the ring to me and I feel so embarrassed. And my friend said she feels like slapping her for wasting my time and I said lol She blew up at me for "discussing our issues with others" yet she's been messaging her sister about us all the time.

Won't lie it stings, I love her but such is life.

Doubts? About what? Does she not want to be with you anymore or just doesnt feel its time to get married?

*edit; saw your other posts.

Work through it. She'll be upset over the text, sure. But what you guys have is too deep to merely walk away from. It's disheartening that she would want to no longer be engaged but until you truly know why... work through it and communicate. IMO

 

[TRUEST]

I took this disc session at work and it was interesting it's kind of like a Myers Briggs type ish, than she took it as well and we were polar opposites. But we've always been she's extroverted and a go getter and impatient, I'm introverted, quiet, calm and patient.

Literally we saw each other every day, not once we're we bored, went to church, prayed together were even waiting till marriage, I just met her sister and brother in law like 3 weeks ago in Texas. Just two months ago she lent me almost ten k to pay off my loans

She even said she was going to take back the ring and go with it day by day but once I texted a girl and talked about us that was the final straw

Does it hurt yeah, do I still love her yeah, but to her I committed a cardinal sin talking about her to a female friend and laughing when she said she wished she could smack some sense into her

I've apologized but nothing more I can do cept leave it in God's hands

nah my G.

you in a very vulnerable position right now. like a previous poster @360dagod just said, there aint no coming back from this. even if u do get married, this girl has the potential to play u something serious. and also, while it was nice of her to help you pay off ur loan, u kinda put urself in a submissive position. someone has to lead in every relationship and something about what ive read so far tells me she holds a little too much power. and she's probably the one leading.

im a religious guy myself. but a statement like "leave it in god's hands" is not a good look my dude. not just from the aesthetics, but, the mental perspective. "leaving it in god's hands" means ur out there with ur heart beating fast, cant concentrate at work, u stressing, u waiting on her to change her mind. that is never, ever a good position to be in. what is ur crime here really? did u cheat on her? no. did u beat her? no?? your real crime is letting her lead too much!

also, if a class can have her acting this finicky, and if one text can have her flying off the handle and calling off the wedding, that right there tells me with 100% certainty that this girl is not as strongwilled as a woman (not a girl) needs to be. imagine u two getting married, anyone in her family or her circle of friends can turn her against u very easily. is that really the life u wanna live??

if u want to get any semblance of control back in this relationship, i recommend u hit her with the unexpected. put her on the defensive. when she texts u, dont text her right back. wait a couple of hours. and then say "listen, i care for u deeply. but your actions over the last few days have troubled me tremendously. i need some time to think". now, she's in a lesser position than u. now, shes waiting on YOU to change ur mind. i can go on with what u have to do here, but u should get the gist of how u need to begin to act.

 

[MikelArteta]

True all true
I'm actually just thinking of putting back what I owe her on my credit line just to wash my hands off it

And your right I didn't cheat, didn't hit her all I did is tell a female friend that she handed me back the ring I feel embarrassed and laughed when she said she wishes she could slap some sense into her.

We're not even texting or calling. And I know how it goes every day I feel a little better. I ain't waiting hands and knees

I already pawned the ring, luckily it was apprised for much higher than i bought it for so I made it out just a few hundred less.

nah my G.

you in a very vulnerable position right now. like a previous poster @360dagod just said, there aint no coming back from this. even if u do get married, this girl has the potential to play u something serious. and also, while it was nice of her to help you pay off ur loan, u kinda put urself in a submissive position. someone has to lead in every relationship and something about what ive read so far tells me she holds a little too much power. and she's probably the one leading.

im a religious guy myself. but a statement like "leave it in god's hands" is not a good look my dude. not just from the aesthetics, but, the mental perspective. "leaving it in god's hands" means ur out there with ur heart beating fast, cant concentrate at work, u stressing, u waiting on her to change her mind. that is never, ever a good position to be in. what is ur crime here really? did u cheat on her? no. did u beat her? no?? your real crime is letting her lead too much!

also, if a class can have her acting this finicky, and if one text can have her flying off the handle and calling off the wedding, that right there tells me with 100% certainty that this girl is not as strongwilled as a woman (not a girl) needs to be. imagine u two getting married, anyone in her family or her circle of friends can turn her against u very easily. is that really the life u wanna live??

if u want to get any semblance of control back in this relationship, i recommend u hit her with the unexpected. put her on the defensive. when she texts u, dont text her right back. wait a couple of hours. and then say "listen, i care for u deeply. but your actions over the last few days have troubled me tremendously. i need some time to think". now, she's in a lesser position than u. now, shes waiting on YOU to change ur mind. i can go on with what u have to do here, but u should get the gist of how u need to begin to act.

 

[MikelArteta]

Marriage


I'm just taking the time now to work on myself, as I said I love her and she is the best woman I've ever had a relationship with.

That's why I'm up here not trying to bash her or anything. We did speak before aboit not discussing what happens in our relationship with others, but I needed to talk to someone so I did. So in that regard ive already apologized for my actions.

If she can't forgive up to her

Doubts? About what? Does she not want to be with you anymore or just doesnt feel its time to get married?

*edit; saw your other posts.

Work through it. She'll be upset over the text, sure. But what you guys have is too deep to merely walk away from. It's disheartening that she would want to no longer be engaged but until you truly know why... work through it and communicate. IMO

 

[MikelArteta]

Funny thing we were about to start pre marriage counselling soon

nah my G.

you in a very vulnerable position right now. like a previous poster @360dagod just said, there aint no coming back from this. even if u do get married, this girl has the potential to play u something serious. and also, while it was nice of her to help you pay off ur loan, u kinda put urself in a submissive position. someone has to lead in every relationship and something about what ive read so far tells me she holds a little too much power. and she's probably the one leading.

im a religious guy myself. but a statement like "leave it in god's hands" is not a good look my dude. not just from the aesthetics, but, the mental perspective. "leaving it in god's hands" means ur out there with ur heart beating fast, cant concentrate at work, u stressing, u waiting on her to change her mind. that is never, ever a good position to be in. what is ur crime here really? did u cheat on her? no. did u beat her? no?? your real crime is letting her lead too much!

also, if a class can have her acting this finicky, and if one text can have her flying off the handle and calling off the wedding, that right there tells me with 100% certainty that this girl is not as strongwilled as a woman (not a girl) needs to be. imagine u two getting married, anyone in her family or her circle of friends can turn her against u very easily. is that really the life u wanna live??

if u want to get any semblance of control back in this relationship, i recommend u hit her with the unexpected. put her on the defensive. when she texts u, dont text her right back. wait a couple of hours. and then say "listen, i care for u deeply. but your actions over the last few days have troubled me tremendously. i need some time to think". now, she's in a lesser position than u. now, shes waiting on YOU to change ur mind. i can go on with what u have to do here, but u should get the gist of how u need to begin to act.

 

[TRUEST]

Funny thing we were about to start pre marriage counselling soon

if/when u do get back with this girl, dude, u have to lead. every opportunity u see to lead, take it. where are you going to eat? u decide. if she doesnt like it or is against, she;ll let u know. where ur going to sit when u go out to eat, u decide. this girl needs to feel u as her man will handle business. these little things matter. put urself in a position to teach ur girl stuff. take control.

also, why were u guys spending everyday together before marriage? was she living with u already?

u cant be about ur business if, like u said, u guys were together every day. i mean, ur life revolved around her. im telling u, this girl felt like the masculine figure in ur relationship. u must change that asap.

i deliberately chose to stay away from relationships because they are a huge huge time gulper. between texting, talking on the phone, going where she wants, going where u want, u literally have no time to think outside the box and do your own thing.

 

[MikelArteta]

Your right breh
Even thinking of it now, I was always asking instead of my way

Thanks for the advice breh I needed it.

if/when u do get back with this girl, dude, u have to lead. every opportunity u see to lead, take it. where are you going to eat? u decide. if she doesnt like it or is against, she;ll let u know. where ur going to sit when u go out to eat, u decide. this girl needs to feel u as her man will handle business. these little things matter. put urself in a position to teach ur girl stuff. take control.

u cant be about ur business if, like u said, u guys were together every day. i mean, ur life revolved around her. im telling u, this girl felt like the masculine figure in ur relationship. u must change that asap.

 

[Crayola Coyote]

So today the girl I was talking about asked me why I didn't reply to the snapchat she sent me. I told her I didn't feel like responding to it. She told me I have to respond to her in a orderly fashion I told her I'm good. She called me a ass and stormed off.

 

[Dreamzeedream]

So today the girl I was talking about asked me why I didn't reply to the snapchat she sent me. I told her I didn't feel like responding to it. She told me I have to respond to her in a orderly fashion I told her I'm good. She called me a ass and stormed off.

What did she snap u

 

[Crayola Coyote]

What did she snap u

Some hoe filter dog ears the with tongue sticking out that females do these days.

 

[True Blue Moon]

Props to everyone humbly giving and taking advice in this thread. We need more safe environments for men to sharpen each other up and get better, free of ego and feminine influence.

 

[Mister_DoItNice]

I decided to get rid of all my social media for the month of June, as a test/challenge to myself. I feel like I wasted way too much time with that stuff. Gonna use that time for more self improvement. Also, I don't like how women investigate your social media and try to use it to figure out the type of man you are or what makes you tick. My ex did that shyt and it annoyed me to no end.

 

[Mr210]

Props to everyone humbly giving and taking advice in this thread. We need more safe environments for men to sharpen each other up and get better, free of ego and feminine influence.

Cosign this...we need to unit and work as a unit.....this thread should be so much longer than it is

 

[OaklandCertified]

It's amazing how well basketball analogies work when judging women..

Ex.

I had a discussion with a few friends the other day. The topic was "can a hoe stop being a hoe".

My argument was that a hoe can never stop hoeish behavior, she can only delay it for periods of time. It might take 5 weeks, 5 months, or 5 years but the hoeness will eventually rear it's ugly head. Hoeness is like an animal instinct that these hoes try to fight. But they lose every time.

Think about an Nba basketball star and their obsession with the game of basketball. Their love of the game never leaves. If you ask most of the retired players, about 95% wish they could still play today. But why can't they play? They still have the desire to play right? The answer is no team wants them because their bodies are old, worn down and beaten up. An nba franchise would be fools to put this washed up past their prime player out there with today's best young talent. That's why washed up players try to go overseas, and various other league's to play.

It's just like women. They never WANT to retire from this hoeish lifestyle, their bodies do it for them. A man with options and means would be a fool to marry a used up woman like this. That washed up player trying out overseas and the D-league's, is equivalent to a woman past her prime in the club's, and at every event still trying to catch a man..

Even though the man is legend.. would you want Jordan over Lebron right now?