Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Ohene]

it aint got shyt to do with either. women are just generally nonsensical. no rhyme or reason to how they act. nikkas gotta stop blaming one another. you can do everything right and a chick can still fukk you over

a perfect example of this: i remember over a year ago that I hollaed at this pretttttty ass girl. just my type really. i got the number in a veery smooth manner and waited til the next day around lunch to hit her up.

I sent her a standard message but she didnt respond unfortunately. I showed my brother what happened and he said fam you gotta hit these girls up the same day. And I hear him, usually I do hit em up the day i get the number as a matter of fact. What's fukked up though is i told my cousin the same story another day and he was like fam, you gotta wait more than a day.

Both told me that I fukked up, and they told me that I did for diff reasons. One saiid i was too eager, one said i wasnt eager enough. The fact of the matter is that I did absolutely nothing wrong though. It is most likely that although the encounter seemed good shorty probably just wasnt that interested or had another dude hitting her up that has her attn. It isnt always the guy's fault. Sometimes shyt just doesnt pan out the way it should. A girl once told me maybe two years ago, "women have a habit of getting in their own way" . Its the perfect way to put it

 

[MikelArteta]

but at the same time, if a white girl can marry a regular black guy (whos not rich), despite the very strong and possibly violent opposition of her racist parents, i dont see how reincarn's girl cant overcome any opposition (if there are any) against her marrying a black non-nigerian.

I will mention like last year she told her step mom that she was dating a jamaican and her step mom told her to dump me because jamaican men are worthless who keep alot of women (she had it on speakerphone), and if her dad found out it would break his heart cuz his oldest daughter already married out. I don't know if this had any impact meh, I've dated white women whose eastern european families took me on trips to their cottages and slept in a room next door while I was plowing their daughter at night and it was all good.


I'm just working on me now anyways exercising, keeping my mouth shut, almost fell into sin hitting up a old white thot i havent spoken to in a few years but didn''t

 

[Ohene]

Dude Im African. And particularly Nigerian. and Im not psychoanalyzing his situation for sh1ts and giggles. theres lessons to be learned here. i speak the way i speak mainly from experience.

and when u experience a breakup that u didnt want to happen, u must figure out what u did wrong. yeah, u can do everything perfectly and have a girl still leave u. but did u really do everything perfectly? if u did, u wouldnt give a ratass whether or not she leaves because soon as she leaves there will be a girl in her place within the SAME day, literally.

i once had a girl tell me "i think im falling in love with but i get the feeling u can take it or leave it". guess who dominated the relationship? thats right. me. this same girl, whenever i did something to piss her off, guess how quickly she forgave me when i gave even the leanest half-ass apology? yup, u guessed it again. fast!

i agree with on the bolded but there is more to it. At the end of the day men have emotions and there is nothing wrong with that. Some ppl keep them in check better than others. Just because you have everything together and know how to deal with women it doesnt mean you cant want or have very strong feelings for one particularly. Just because you know in your heart and mind you did the right thing and dont deserve whats being done to you it doesnt mean you cant still wish there was someway to move past whatevers going on and still have your girl. It's only human fam. Many men of the same volition you discuss have been brought to their knees by a woman for that reason. I agree though. The best way to go about things is to stay on your toes and be willing to move on from one chick to the next at a moments notice...whether its because your girl dissed you or she's acting up. Beyond all that though, a man gotta be comfortable alone which is essentially what you're preaching.

 

[Ohene]

It was probably a little bit of both. For her to drop the nuke on him like that was definitely pre-meditated and someone on the outside convinced her it was the right move. I'm not African but I am aware that family will usually make the decisions for her, whether it makes sense or not.

From what I understand they worked together and lived together. So they never had enough time apart to miss each other. I still think it's a salvageable situation but it's going to take some real deal no contact for her to even consider coming around and viewing Reinscarf in an attractive light again.

great post

 

[MikelArteta]

i highly doubt that.
but it is what is.
u dont want a girl anyway that can be easily persuaded to leave u without u not having done anything abysmal.

nah breh its true, especially in big multicultural cities, in toronto its so easy. I've prob dated like 30 white women in my life and some were very serious, I never had a problem with their family AT ALL. In so much even after we broke up I'd still receive cards on my birthday. Most white people don't give a damn, but minorities do, you have to be a certain tribe, certain social class, certain skin tone.

 

[Lord Bison]

dont live together but she lives a few streets down, and yeah we do work together and also go to the same church so no contact in that realm is hard.

I can only speak for myself, because I've had to do this before. Last time I took a hard L from a chick I really cared about I went out of my way to get the fukk outta there. We worked together and I immediately changed jobs, broke the lease and had to live with my moms for a few months. I'm the type of person that will do any and everything to break myself out of the emotional turmoil that women have caused me. I was about to put a ring on it and it took everything in my power to break away emotionally.

Your situation is probably a little different than mine was, but if I was you, I would go out of my way to....

Change churches, change jobs, fukk it....move to a different location. Your soul is begging for a change and a new environment.


Seeing the chick you was engaged to everyday AND on Sunday when you trying to get your spirit right? Nah f that, them some problems you don't need in ya life.

 

[Ohene]

it really depends. although the girl who chooses is always better. but there are some chicks who dont give any kinda readable clue u can use to tell if they feeling u or not until u speak to them.

u just goto pick the right place and time to approach

simple as that. a girl can give you signs but you still have to be able to read them and have the gall to approac. it is your role as a man in society when it comes to date you. at the same time, if a girl doesnt give you a sign that doesnt mean you should assume she is not interested. I hollaed at two girls today, got numbers and have been texting them as we speak. Did they give me signs? No. I came i saw and conquered. I know its cliche but you lose nothing by approaching a girl Open your mouth and say sumn

 

[International Playa]

he wasn't igbo.

your ex is igbo??? You just dodged a bullet & dont even know it breh

I got Nigerian friends,apparently igbo, its all about money money money.

 

[TRUEST]

simple as that. a girl can give you signs but you still have to be able to read them and have the gall to approac. it is your role as a man in society when it comes to date you. at the same time, if a girl doesnt give you a sign that doesnt mean you should assume she is not interested. I hollaed at two girls today, got numbers and have been texting them as we speak. Did they give me signs? No. I came i saw and conquered. I know its cliche but you lose nothing by approaching a girl Open your mouth and say sumn

 

[International Playa]

dont live together but she lives a few streets down, and yeah we do work together and also go to the same church so no contact in that realm is hard.

I thought you met her online??? your stories aint matching up breh

 

[Ohene]

my spelling/grammar are terrible today lol

 

[TRUEST]

Do you approach on the streets bruh? and where do you meet your women?

i wouldnt approach on the streets unless she makes it tremendously obvious shes choosing. instant attraction cant be hidden in most cases unless she saw u way before u saw her. but a girl who sees u at the same time u see her, her facial expressions move in certain ways that lets u know this girl is mine.

i typically approach at the spur of the moment. like, dont let a girl see u approaching. lol. its gotta be on some u turn a corner and bam! shes there. and i just go like, my oh my, u look quite well put together.

im naturally smug so it helps lol

 

[MikelArteta]

your ex is igbo??? You just dodged a bullet & dont even know it breh

I got Nigerian friends,apparently igbo, its all about money money money.

yup she is

breh i make decent money, the naira is nothing. My ex worked at a big firm in Lagos when she was there and she'd make like 240k naira a month which is considered great there and its like 1000 cdn

 

[MikelArteta]

I thought you met her online??? your stories aint matching up breh

i did
i met her off okcupid
she lived in waterloo

she moved to my area to get a job

breh were both super religious, no way we would be living together before marriage.

We didn't even have sex

 

[TRUEST]

a perfect example of this: i remember over a year ago that I hollaed at this pretttttty ass girl. just my type really. i got the number in a veery smooth manner and waited til the next day around lunch to hit her up.

I sent her a standard message but she didnt respond unfortunately. I showed my brother what happened and he said fam you gotta hit these girls up the same day. And I hear him, usually I do hit em up the day i get the number as a matter of fact. What's fukked up though is i told my cousin the same story another day and he was like fam, you gotta wait more than a day.

Both told me that I fukked up, and they told me that I did for diff reasons. One saiid i was too eager, one said i wasnt eager enough. The fact of the matter is that I did absolutely nothing wrong though. It is most likely that although the encounter seemed good shorty probably just wasnt that interested or had another dude hitting her up that has her attn. It isnt always the guy's fault. Sometimes shyt just doesnt pan out the way it should. A girl once told me maybe two years ago, "women have a habit of getting in their own way" . Its the perfect way to put it

sad to say its happened to me lol. but i chalk it up to them not wanting to shut u down and embarrass u in public, which i actually appreciated.

ive been hollered at by females in public and i didnt have the heart to straight up diss them. id rather give them the number and if they call, i'll either ignore or text them and say me and my ex got back together and we're gonna work through our issues lol.