Yeah. She's on that spirituality/Conscious wave where she thought the Universe brought us together for reason. She's 22, fresh outta college and claims to wanna settle down with a good man. Her ass told me that she knows im a great guy and the risk involved of losing someone special like me. She simply cant get over me being average or the sex being lackluster. She feels theres no hope, nothing will Change.
Everytime we kissed, touched the Chemistry was there but regardless of the fact im gonna take the time I need to heal and improve myself.
Not everybody is sexually compatible. It's a hard lesson to learn but best to learn it while you're young. Women expect all sex to be an amazing experience and if it isn't then there's something wrong with the man. But maybe there's no sexual chemistry there. You could leave her house and give the next woman the best sex of her life. Also, women think their p*ssy is THE BEST. No, not at all. Not always. Lot of wack p*ssy out there.
Oh I don't think there's anything wrong at all. It's just the way it was said, I guess. Having my new chick tell me, after we had sex for the first time, that she's used to getting her back blown out by other guys would have me kinda I don't know, maybe I'm overthinking it, but the way the poster described the interaction just seemed
Of course everyone has a past, but I don't want the visual of some guy she met before me fukking my girls brains out.
What's wrong with getting your back blown out? I believe that's the best sex. It could be because I like to be dominanted. Those slow strokes makes my anxiety go up. I like sex hard and fast.
I thought the sex was good..I enjoyed it and got my nut. At first it started off slow but I ended up getting more into it towards the end when she climbed on top as I became aggressive.
The sex just wasnt good to her because she expected much more.
I even went down on her and made her nut 3 times before we even began fukking
What's wrong with getting your back blown out? I believe that's the best sex. It could be because I like to be dominanted. Those slow strokes makes my anxiety go up. I like sex hard and fast.
In Hindsight I feel like I could had been more dominate but I knew if I kept on fukking her hard n deep like I was, I was gonna bust quickly and that would had been another major issue. Thats Why I was on autopilot half the time and it was my first time having sex with a woman since last September. It just fukked me up when she couldnt feel anything. I never ever had a chick to tell me this. My previous ex felt everything and enjoyed it. I dont get it
But I do realize now that I have Psychological issues when it comes to sex. I treat sex as a mission, a job instead of a pleasant enjoyful experience. Im man enough to admit this and Share it. Its just crazy because as a black man I feel the pressure to live up to these expectations to be the Ultimate womanizer, Mandingo, and Tupac in a Business suit all in one.
Bro, bless you for being real with yourself. I say that because what you described is a problem I've had to work on overcoming and that 90% of dudes deal with in some form or fashion.
We're problem solvers and women are all about the experience. So we get caught up in how far to the left the last stroke was, how many to administer before changing positions and completing the mission until she orgasms. That's counterproductive to the way women's sexuality works, because while we're in our head, they're in their body and in the moment.
They want to feel like you're devouring them like a juicy ass piece of fruit with juice dripping everywhere and like you just can't get enough, while we get caught up in making sure that we're slicing the fruit up neatly and in even pieces.
If you couple that with pressure to live up to expectations, it's going to be work and not fun. The thing we have to overcome is to get to the point that it's an open ended experience of enjoying feelings and sensations and not a performance you're putting on for her.
When women say they don't feel it, it's not always or only some dikk size stuff. If you go into autopilot, their pussies will literally get numb. There has to be a good mixture of teasing and not hitting the spot she likes, pounding it relentlessly, taking it away to build up anticipation, etc.
But it's all in the mind.
If you're interested
Find a PDF of "Sex God Method" by Daniel Rose. Great book but he's charging like $100 or something stupid for it on Amazon. Most people just find a download. I can send you a copy if you need it.
Also check out "Way of the Superior Man" by David Deida. You can buy it, find a PDF and/or find the teaching sessions/audiobook on YouTube.
There's a lot to discuss and take in with those books, so if you end up checking them out, definitely put some stuff out on the discussion table in this thread. Because while you feel fukked up about it now, TRUST ME, nearly every dude is going through their version of this in this day and age. We've all kind of been left to fend for ourselves when it comes to sexuality so either we learn or get stuck in destructive loops.
What's wrong with getting your back blown out? I believe that's the best sex. It could be because I like to be dominanted. Those slow strokes makes my anxiety go up. I like sex hard and fast.
Can you break down how you like getting dominated and why and what feels so good about the sex that you like? I find that most dudes either pound it too hard no matter what to make themselves feel like a man, or are too gentle because we're socialized to believe that women only like to "make love" and not fukk.
My life changed forever when I learned just how raw and powerful female sexuality can be.
I've been reading similar books for a the past couple months. I already had the way of the superior man on my iPad. Gonna download the other joint now.
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I don't know, maybe I'm overthinking it, but the way the poster described the interaction just seemed
