Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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HDKG_
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Damn.. random the scratch on her head.. her previous nikka beat her up or something?I stopped coming on here because I basically went the zero tolerance route
The game y'all gave me
If I text and no text back bushes
I member someone dropped a jewel if a chick feeling she make everything easy
Chase a check never chase a bytch etc etc
But this one chick got me
Aight so here is the story
I'm at the mall a couple a weeks ago I see this tall brown ting
I'm a cold approacher never been scared ( when I fukking a chick I always think back what if I never opened my mouthgot so much p*ssy off a cold approaching)
I run up on her start talking to her she had like this cut on her face I started cracking jokes on it like damn wtf happen just chopping it up
She just move to my city ...etc etc
So ask can I take her out and show her around she say nah she good (kinda looked at her friend approval I think her friend hated)
Aight bet my fault nice to meet you keep it moving
A couple weeks later I meet up with girl I matched with on tinder at this arcade bar
Shorty bad she hugs me when we meet ....
A notice a lil scratch on her head
Hold up ain't you the girl from the mall?
Her :yes
Meyou know you was meeting me this whole time ?
Her:
She basically says she tells everyone the story how we meet because I was like damn wtf happened to her head she said it felt like a movie
She said she didn't give me her number because she just moved here and was tired etc etc
So we ended up have a good time at the arcade bar didn't really ask if she wanted to come over I was low key tired so we end up kissing goodnight
So the next night I ask her do she want to come over and eat pizza and watch hbo go
She said has to work in the morning didn't really want to be out late :curve:
So I'm that's cool let's meet up for ice cream
We meet up for ice cream we walking around it's late I'm like might as well come over
She like cool
We at my spot (I cleaned up real quick could have been cleaner I was slipping)
We watching Insecure just chilling we start kissing I'm going real slow kissing everwhere sucking on her titties just taking my time
I stuck sucking on her navel trying to get to that p*ssyshe stop me
So we stop she low key falls asleep while I'm giveing her a massage I'm telling she can stay the night if she wants making her feel comfortable...
We start kissing her again I have against the wall kissing I pick her up to my room every time I try to take her pants of she stop me
Usually I'm super super super
And I end up fukking if it's a hood rat but I kinda put her on pedestal so I was aggressive but not
So she ends up leaving I tell her she can stay but she said she doesn't want to be late to work tads yards she knows if she stays she not going to want to get up in the morning I'll tell her text me when she gets home she does
So I text her goodnight with a kissy face
So the next day I didn't hear from her so I text her the day after
Hey how is your day
No response
I didn't try and text again that's what the coli taught me
It's been a week I want to bend the rules and see why she curved and hit her up trying to see her again
My female friends advice was maybe she was embarrassed because we was moving too fast
Which is kinda bullshyt most girls I fukk the first night we end having long relationships
Another girl blamed on me saying she thinks I just want to fukk and shouldn't have been kissing on her
I think ....I was being a lil to clingy lovey dovey
It's been a week and she been on my mind I'm going to hit her up I think I'm 28 she 26 we shouldn't have to play these games
Coli what you think
@HDKG_ @NerdNash
But damn this sucks. But yeah text her again fukk it no point in waiting
Only thing I can think was maybe y'all did more than she wanted to initially and she embarrassed herself 
but then again I don't think she wouldnt be responding if that was the case. I just don't understand some women 
HDKG_
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Kona GrillBet
Brehs its been a long journey since I started posting in here crying about my ex but I think I've finally hit the point of straight up indifference to any interaction with women. After this last chick who seemed like a reasonable logical person for six months turned out to be a complete and utter bird it dawned on me like wtf am I worrying about these women for. the ratio of women worth actually building with and those that are...ultimately worthless is incredibly skewed to the point where I'm like fukk it. I'm always looking because I'm a man, I like beautiful women. But I have no expectations on any of them. I get approached at work often enough to know I'm actually fly as shyt so I have no worries about attracting what I want aesthetically but damn, its rough out here trying to find a decent woman who is not going to be on bullshyt. Like personally I think men are simple. this is all we want out of a woman usually.
1.Be attractive to me
2.Don't add stress to my life
3.Make love to me regularly
4.Have some purpose outside of this relationship
The last one is iffy some nikkas want their woman consumed by them and thats their pergogative but for the most part the first three are enough to keep alot of dudes including myself fine. So why the hell is it so hard to find someone who can fulfill those three altogether lol. I'm far from bitter or jaded surpisingly, but I'm just being a realist right now. Women in 2017 are mostly damaged beyond repair. I tried to fix women in the past. its a worthless endeavor. Now personally its not all their fault but its impossible to ignore. And its come to the point I have immediate red flags that i can't move off of going forward because I already know how the story ends. Feminism really has warped the game in a terrible way. Women want to behave like men while also gaining the benefits of being a woman and its making the interpersonal dynamics between us really fukked up. A black feminist is actually the most headache inducing woman to date and I will literally never be in a relationship with another one. And sadly thats what most of the sisters my age are on right now
Women are fascinating and I won't say I have them figured out...but I can say I have enough figured out to see the game is all fukked up and won't get any better going forward unless nikkas nut up and stand up for themselves.
that got a lot longer than I intended it to but I just needed to vent a bit.
1.Be attractive to me
2.Don't add stress to my life
3.Make love to me regularly
4.Have some purpose outside of this relationship
The last one is iffy some nikkas want their woman consumed by them and thats their pergogative but for the most part the first three are enough to keep alot of dudes including myself fine. So why the hell is it so hard to find someone who can fulfill those three altogether lol. I'm far from bitter or jaded surpisingly, but I'm just being a realist right now. Women in 2017 are mostly damaged beyond repair. I tried to fix women in the past. its a worthless endeavor. Now personally its not all their fault but its impossible to ignore. And its come to the point I have immediate red flags that i can't move off of going forward because I already know how the story ends. Feminism really has warped the game in a terrible way. Women want to behave like men while also gaining the benefits of being a woman and its making the interpersonal dynamics between us really fukked up. A black feminist is actually the most headache inducing woman to date and I will literally never be in a relationship with another one. And sadly thats what most of the sisters my age are on right now
Women are fascinating and I won't say I have them figured out...but I can say I have enough figured out to see the game is all fukked up and won't get any better going forward unless nikkas nut up and stand up for themselves. that got a lot longer than I intended it to but I just needed to vent a bit.
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Bless't
Living the dream
Damn... she really caught herself and felt embarrassed.I went on a second date with this one girl I met before my dad died. She was supportive and very present in me talking about my father.
Later on that night she hit me with the lip bite brehs...
You know I made out with her after.
Damn... she really caught herself and felt embarrassed.
You know a girl wants it then.
This girl I'm talking to though...different than what I've dealt with but for good reason.
Professional girl. She splits the tab with me all the time when we are out. Old fashioned in a sense. She's trying to get to know me before getting too involved. Plus given the fact that my father recently died she is being tactful with how she approaches me. I have to initiate text with her more which is annoying...to my admission I do like when a girl is up my ass a bit and too complimentary but it's a control thing. She still says meaningful stuff to me. She's called me sweet, a good man, even told me that she was proud of me for speaking at my father's funeral.
Given that I'm in a hyper liberal area I'm surprised I found a girl with no tattoos at all.
Anyway what is annoying me is the slowish pace. She's busy and I'm busy so we are only seeing each other once a week right now and really our texts are just light hearted or setting up plans for something next. I just like more feedback and stuff but it's too early I guess to see.
Bless't
Living the dream
You know a girl wants it then.
This girl I'm talking to though...different than what I've dealt with but for good reason.
Professional girl. She splits the tab with me all the time when we are out. Old fashioned in a sense. She's trying to get to know me before getting too involved. Plus given the fact that my father recently died she is being tactful with how she approaches me. I have to initiate text with her more which is annoying...to my admission I do like when a girl is up my ass a bit and too complimentary but it's a control thing. She still says meaningful stuff to me. She's called me sweet, a good man, even told me that she was proud of me for speaking at my father's funeral.
Given that I'm in a hyper liberal area I'm surprised I found a girl with no tattoos at all.
Anyway what is annoying me is the slowish pace. She's busy and I'm busy so we are only seeing each other once a week right now and really our texts are just light hearted or setting up plans for something next. I just like more feedback and stuff but it's too early I guess to see.
Stay at that pace. Sounds like she's super respectful, polite, professional, etc.
Sorry if I missed the backstory... how long have you been talking?
You know a girl wants it then.
This girl I'm talking to though...different than what I've dealt with but for good reason.
Professional girl. She splits the tab with me all the time when we are out. Old fashioned in a sense. She's trying to get to know me before getting too involved. Plus given the fact that my father recently died she is being tactful with how she approaches me. I have to initiate text with her more which is annoying...to my admission I do like when a girl is up my ass a bit and too complimentary but it's a control thing. She still says meaningful stuff to me. She's called me sweet, a good man, even told me that she was proud of me for speaking at my father's funeral.
Given that I'm in a hyper liberal area I'm surprised I found a girl with no tattoos at all.
Anyway what is annoying me is the slowish pace. She's busy and I'm busy so we are only seeing each other once a week right now and really our texts are just light hearted or setting up plans for something next. I just like more feedback and stuff but it's too early I guess to see.
there's a slight chance i could be wrong, but u are making a very comfortable place for yourself in that forbidden space they call "FriendZone".
you never want to hear "sweet, good man" from a chick u havent fuccked yet.
and i hope the heavens help you through the emotional turmoil you're going through with what happened in ur life. however, if u have female friends, or ur guy friends who u think care about u, share ur problems with them. Not the girl ur trying to court.
again i could be wrong. but i strongly recommend u stop telling stories to women that could illicit pity.
I've already made out with her more than once. Intense kisses from her. Plus she wanted it (lip bite, playing with her hair, etc)
Honestly if a girl I'm seeing can't understand that I'm dealing with probably one of the hardest things in my life, then what good is she? I can bang randoms instead. It's not like I lost a dog. I lost my father.
I haven't really vented to her about the death, but I mentioned it to her as a reality and as a result she has backed off and told me to take some time and not rush. The "good man" comment was after I spent a couple of hours with her that night having dinner and doing stuff with her.
You're good. It's been about a month. She's very traditional Latina. Like I said every time we go out she's always pulling out her card, letting me lead, funny to talk to, etc. Sounds like she wants to date me and get to know me which I'm all for right now.
Hey guys, I've lurked coli since I was in high school haha. I finally decided to make an account after all these years. A lot of what ya'll spitting in here is superfacts. It's a matter of us as men and women working together to make things work. We need them and vice versa. What this thread has also teached me is that you have to preserve your castle.
If I'm seeing someone, and for whatever reason she decides to leave, all I could do is just say thanks and show her the door. I'm still going to have my castle, my fur coats, my jewelry, my excellent credit score, my artpieces I've collected around the world over the years, my cars, and most importantly my sanity.
I'm a late bloomer to this adulthood shyt but progress is what matters.
You all have helped a negro out more than you'd know.
If I'm seeing someone, and for whatever reason she decides to leave, all I could do is just say thanks and show her the door. I'm still going to have my castle, my fur coats, my jewelry, my excellent credit score, my artpieces I've collected around the world over the years, my cars, and most importantly my sanity.
I'm a late bloomer to this adulthood shyt but progress is what matters.
You all have helped a negro out more than you'd know.
Shes sounds cool but you want to steer clear of making romantic interests your sometimes therapist. If you simply want to take it slow and thats your decision you gucci but if you feel ahes the one directing the relationship that way it could be a problwm. Regardless my condolensces for your pops. Me and mine are not really on talking terms but Is be crushes he passed so cant imagine what you going through and if she helping you cope maybe what your doing is for the best
Yeah if anything I'm going to take things slow for my own sanity and not go super emotional. I can't exploit it like that. Just fun and light..
It's called negative rapport. How you introduce yourself sets the tone for the relationship going forward. Open up with something depressing and your relationship will boil down to exchanging complaints. Start off with fun and they'll know instinctively to keep it positive around you. Dark times are dark times, but be careful not to build too many relationships based on negativity.
Makes sense. I'm not giving off any neediness or anything at the moment. I talked about the legacy of my father's I wanted to build on top of. I was turning something negative in positive. Plus I think my father would want me to foster a healthy relationship with someone new and live life.
Tonight I went to train MMA a bit and she was excited about that. Showing her what I can do and stuff
I understand what you all mean though.