Clark Griswold
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If you have already met before what’s the issue with just “sliding in her DM”?
Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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VertigoKnight
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My date last night was dope. Met at a local bar. We had already video chatted so it wasn't awkward.
Very solid chick, beautiful, slim, laid back and the titties breh.
I rarely meet black women this well traveled. She's lived in 10 different cities due to her job. And traveled Europe extensively.
Chatted for an hour then the bar got way too noisy so she suggested we go elsewhere. I just say to her we should just get a bottle and go back to yours and she agrees. That feeling when a chick invites you to her place and you're both going up in the lift knowing that it's probably going to happen but pretending otherwise.
Anyway, we were having such a good chat about travel, black politics and James Baldwin that I almost didn't smash. She did that "wow its getting late" reminder so I made my move.
She said her last relationship was 9 months ago and that she had taken time out before dating again as work took over. Either way the sex was fire.
We'll see where we go, but at most she's a very solid chick to hang out with. Going to an east African restaurant with her next week.
Very solid chick, beautiful, slim, laid back and the titties breh.
I rarely meet black women this well traveled. She's lived in 10 different cities due to her job. And traveled Europe extensively. Chatted for an hour then the bar got way too noisy so she suggested we go elsewhere. I just say to her we should just get a bottle and go back to yours and she agrees. That feeling when a chick invites you to her place and you're both going up in the lift knowing that it's probably going to happen but pretending otherwise.
Anyway, we were having such a good chat about travel, black politics and James Baldwin that I almost didn't smash. She did that "wow its getting late" reminder so I made my move.
She said her last relationship was 9 months ago and that she had taken time out before dating again as work took over. Either way the sex was fire.
We'll see where we go, but at most she's a very solid chick to hang out with. Going to an east African restaurant with her next week.
The last 3 pages have been a breath of fresh air in a Locker Room full of thirsty apprectiation threads. To add to what guys have been saying, it's important to recognize the situations that can break even a strong man's composure. For me and a lot of other men, it's 1. meeting a pure dime 2. having a woman cry for you to just do what she asks.
Breaking down number 1:
meeting a dime makes you lose composure because your mind and body start begging you to lock this woman down quick. You will instinctually feel like blowing up her phone with romantic messages and calls as soon as she shows some interest, but as we all know, that's a losing move. The worst part about dealing with dimes is their flakiness. These broads have hundreds, if not thousands of brehs blowing up their phones at any given time. If she gave you a chance and showed high interest today, another dude might step up to the plate and blow her mind in the next few days, then you end up getting a very different response the next time you hit her up. It takes great emotional maturity to not start blowing up her phone at that point and just give her a chance to come back on her own.
Breaking down number 2:
women crying unleashes our instinct to protect. This makes you easily susceptible to bend to her will at this point, and she can grab control of the relationship now. A lot of women cry when asking for a commitment, and the men bow to her demands thinking they are being a bad person for making her cry. Just know that a woman will lose respect for you for bending to her will, even if you did it when she was crying.
Breaking down number 1:
meeting a dime makes you lose composure because your mind and body start begging you to lock this woman down quick. You will instinctually feel like blowing up her phone with romantic messages and calls as soon as she shows some interest, but as we all know, that's a losing move. The worst part about dealing with dimes is their flakiness. These broads have hundreds, if not thousands of brehs blowing up their phones at any given time. If she gave you a chance and showed high interest today, another dude might step up to the plate and blow her mind in the next few days, then you end up getting a very different response the next time you hit her up. It takes great emotional maturity to not start blowing up her phone at that point and just give her a chance to come back on her own.
Breaking down number 2:
women crying unleashes our instinct to protect. This makes you easily susceptible to bend to her will at this point, and she can grab control of the relationship now. A lot of women cry when asking for a commitment, and the men bow to her demands thinking they are being a bad person for making her cry. Just know that a woman will lose respect for you for bending to her will, even if you did it when she was crying.
VertigoKnight
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For a while I would over message chicks I was into. Sometimes it worked mostly it didn't.
Now I have so many chicks I interact with. Plus I'm actually busy in my own life focusing on my own goals. That I have no time or want to chase women that are not on it.
I can take it or leave it now happily. And as is the way they come a flowing. When you least need them.
Now I have so many chicks I interact with. Plus I'm actually busy in my own life focusing on my own goals. That I have no time or want to chase women that are not on it.
I can take it or leave it now happily. And as is the way they come a flowing. When you least need them.
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RNS bruh.
On some real shyt I have had women say they would kill themselves if I stopped talking to them, beg me and cry not to leave because they had no one.
I still wouldn't give a relationship and guess what?
Those hoes crying had nikkas in the background.
How you crying on your knees and you got nikkas in the background and u begging me to cuff?
Hoes talking about they wasn't ready to leave until they were ready to leave.
Them hoes still alive to this day unfortunately.
I gave none of them bytches relationships because it's not what I wanted.
But them actually trying to guilt trip me into one while fukkin other nikkas????
So basically if I did have a relationship with them, then that means I'm cuffin a hoe who already had nikkas on the side.
You see how fukked up that is????
fukk these bytches, they will lie to you and even cry so they can get what they want.
And can really fukk behind your back then fukk you like nothing causing harm to your health because these bytches are dirty.
It's the truth out here, u can never trust these hoes at all.
On some real shyt I have had women say they would kill themselves if I stopped talking to them, beg me and cry not to leave because they had no one.
I still wouldn't give a relationship and guess what?
Those hoes crying had nikkas in the background.
How you crying on your knees and you got nikkas in the background and u begging me to cuff?
Hoes talking about they wasn't ready to leave until they were ready to leave.
Them hoes still alive to this day unfortunately.
I gave none of them bytches relationships because it's not what I wanted.
But them actually trying to guilt trip me into one while fukkin other nikkas????
So basically if I did have a relationship with them, then that means I'm cuffin a hoe who already had nikkas on the side.
You see how fukked up that is????
fukk these bytches, they will lie to you and even cry so they can get what they want.
And can really fukk behind your back then fukk you like nothing causing harm to your health because these bytches are dirty.
It's the truth out here, u can never trust these hoes at all.
Seem like everything working out for you on these apps.
Was the black girl from tinder?
And I see you sill get to their place for the first date.
I was holding out on going on them apps, but I guess I can just go to their place instead?
Was the black girl from tinder?
And I see you sill get to their place for the first date.
I was holding out on going on them apps, but I guess I can just go to their place instead?
VertigoKnight
Veteran
Yeah she was from Tinder. Shes been in Van for about 4 weeks now. Vancouver and surrounding areas have a very high turnover of chicks every week. Then you add on women here on holiday or a short break looking to get piped.
Getting a chick to let you up to her place or come back to yours. Is for me is all about going with the flow. I never have expectations of smashing and that comes across in my vibe. I'm not going to be over thirsty on a date, but I also make clear I have romantic interest.
Well, looks like I may have another baddie coming up on the roster...
met her through one of my home girls. Very attractive dark skin chocolate drop and she is established and accomplished herself - which is a change of pace for me (and refreshing). My friend, her and I went out for dinner one time and just shooting the shyt. she mentioned that she was pierced on her monkey and she casually says to me, "Yashin, I might just let you take a look at it..."
Me: oh is that right
But deep down, I was like
My friend however, was not cock blocking but was hating at the same time too....
So fast forward a few weeks, and out of the blue she hits me up asking how i was doing and such. I keep the text pretty quick, maybe two or three texts and that was it. But it was something out of the blue that she would hit me up. She's interested. Our circle of friends call her "big sexy" - she's not big per say, they just call her that. My friend had warned me saying that I ain't ready for 'big sexy' and i don't want them problems lol
She ain't knowing i stay on the bullshyt
So last night, after a few weeks of no contact, her come big sexy checking in on me. again, i told i was doing good and i was out of town for business. I said, we'll talk more when you get some free time (she was at the gym) and she responds with "ok, sounds good and i definitely will"...
and then a few hours later, she hits me again with "have a safe flight and see you soon".
now this chick is bad, and i mean BAD. body on point, educated and a professional like myself.
but i'm not going to let me stop me doing from what i'm doing and continue to focus on my self. I for sure will not fall into that simp mode either.
My friend, her and I went and did hookah one time and she brought this beta nikka with her. this dude was being anti social sitting on the couch with his hood on his head. I tried talking to breh about football but he just like
Ok cool, you got it breh
So, my friend tell me shew as kicking it with dude for hella years, like 10 years, he was married but creeping wth her. She wanted to be with him, but keep stringing her along saying he was gonna leave his wife for her which never happened. So the dude is like paying all her bills, paid her college and all that and she don't even want this nikka around. I asked big sexy why she still mess with dude (this is when we all was having dinner *i noted this at the beginning of this post*) and she was like 'he can leave whenever he wants too'.
Inside i was like
so when i saw breh at the hookah lounge i was like
when he was sitting there all anti social and shyt.
but we'll see where it goes, hopefully i can drop this dikk off in her draws when i get back on saturday, i'll report.
met her through one of my home girls. Very attractive dark skin chocolate drop and she is established and accomplished herself - which is a change of pace for me (and refreshing). My friend, her and I went out for dinner one time and just shooting the shyt. she mentioned that she was pierced on her monkey and she casually says to me, "Yashin, I might just let you take a look at it..."
Me: oh is that right
But deep down, I was like
My friend however, was not cock blocking but was hating at the same time too....
So fast forward a few weeks, and out of the blue she hits me up asking how i was doing and such. I keep the text pretty quick, maybe two or three texts and that was it. But it was something out of the blue that she would hit me up. She's interested. Our circle of friends call her "big sexy" - she's not big per say, they just call her that. My friend had warned me saying that I ain't ready for 'big sexy' and i don't want them problems lol
She ain't knowing i stay on the bullshyt
So last night, after a few weeks of no contact, her come big sexy checking in on me. again, i told i was doing good and i was out of town for business. I said, we'll talk more when you get some free time (she was at the gym) and she responds with "ok, sounds good and i definitely will"...
and then a few hours later, she hits me again with "have a safe flight and see you soon".
now this chick is bad, and i mean BAD. body on point, educated and a professional like myself.
but i'm not going to let me stop me doing from what i'm doing and continue to focus on my self. I for sure will not fall into that simp mode either.
My friend, her and I went and did hookah one time and she brought this beta nikka with her. this dude was being anti social sitting on the couch with his hood on his head. I tried talking to breh about football but he just like
Ok cool, you got it breh
So, my friend tell me shew as kicking it with dude for hella years, like 10 years, he was married but creeping wth her. She wanted to be with him, but keep stringing her along saying he was gonna leave his wife for her which never happened. So the dude is like paying all her bills, paid her college and all that and she don't even want this nikka around. I asked big sexy why she still mess with dude (this is when we all was having dinner *i noted this at the beginning of this post*) and she was like 'he can leave whenever he wants too'.
Inside i was like
so when i saw breh at the hookah lounge i was like
when he was sitting there all anti social and shyt.but we'll see where it goes, hopefully i can drop this dikk off in her draws when i get back on saturday, i'll report.
PewPew
I came from nothing
met a new chick off hinge. matched with her a while ago but just got around to meeting with her.
Shes going through a transition (kinda broke) so i surprised her and sent her $10 on cash app so she can have lunch the other day. Then we met at starbucks and i got her a coffee. We met and hit it off. She very into me and like the nerdy shyt i talk about like stocks, art, wealth transfer, asset protection, and more.
Im currently sitting at work late because she is on the way with chipotle for me. She LOVES my office so i said id give her a tour. I took a risk with spending money on her early, but i figure that was a test. If she kept being needy and asking for me to spend more cash, then i would Bush her.
Might try and hit it in the office..
Shes going through a transition (kinda broke) so i surprised her and sent her $10 on cash app so she can have lunch the other day. Then we met at starbucks and i got her a coffee. We met and hit it off. She very into me and like the nerdy shyt i talk about like stocks, art, wealth transfer, asset protection, and more.
Im currently sitting at work late because she is on the way with chipotle for me. She LOVES my office so i said id give her a tour. I took a risk with spending money on her early, but i figure that was a test. If she kept being needy and asking for me to spend more cash, then i would Bush her.
Might try and hit it in the office..
PewPew
I came from nothing
You not worried about this bytch popping up at your workplace
Nah, we got hella security in this building. She would need an access card just to get in the parking lot.
I don't know breh, i would not have done that.
when you sending her money and buying her shyt the first time you meeting her, it signals that you are desperate and you using whatever means you can to maintain or get her attraction to you.
her financial situation is not yours to fix or to accommodate. Test or not; you more than likely did just like all the other guys did for her who told her woes and hardships too....
PewPew
I came from nothing
I don't know breh, i would not have done that.
when you sending her money and buying her shyt the first time you meeting her, it signals that you are desperate and you using whatever means you can to maintain or get her attraction to you.
her financial situation is not yours to fix or to accommodate. Test or not; you more than likely did just like all the other guys did for her who told her woes and hardships too....
Damn i think youre right, still trying to shed my nice guy ways. thanks for the advice
Can bytches stop with the fake emo/idc about life bio n pics
bytch ur 26
bytch ur 26
you gotta be strong breh, i know its tough when there's pretty ass girl in front of you and she spilling her guts on how life is. we men, naturally, want to fix things. And we should, but only for our main chicks, women that we know have been riding with us, but not for no girl that we just met, or even dated for a few months.
let a woman fall for you, let her want you because of you. don't use money or other things to enhance your features and qualities. trust me man, you are good just the way you are. and if she don't see that, then she ain't for you. save yourself some time, headache and heart ache and find someone else who does value you for you.