Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Leao2005]

Actually had a date today and it went well. We walked around the city looking at my watch like 19km , went down to the fake beach and chilled as well, had a great talk and i was taking photos of the city. Anyways we made it back to where we started and she invited me over to her apartment I said sure. We ended up playing scrabble on her balcony then I had to bounce as I had other obligations.


Spent like three dollars and had a good time

Need you to take photos of me if I ever go up to Toronto

 

[etrofllenrod504]

Questions brehs, is it always a bad sign when a chick turns her phone face down when y'all together.

Yup.

 

[360dagod]

So this PAWG I was supposed to meet up with a few months ago saw me DJing a couple of places on the weekend.

She hasn't contacted me since she said she would get back to me about when she was free.
First message "My friend is having a rooftop party on Friday, are you able to DJ there?"

The pure audacity of some of these hoes. Told her I'm busy.

if the money was on the table and it was an networking opportunity, you don't think you went about this wrong

 

[DapMeUp!]

if the money was on the table and it was an networking opportunity, you don't think you went about this wrong

I already said earlier this was not a money offer. It was a hey you wanna come through and DJ at my friends party vibe.

 

[Throwbacksample]

Yup.

No it isnt..could be a sign shes interested and doesnt want to be bothered.

 

[Apollo Creed]

No it isnt..could be a sign shes interested and doesnt want to be bothered.

put your phone in your purse then

 

[360dagod]

Questions brehs, is it always a bad sign when a chick turns her phone face down when y'all together.

There is no right or wrong answer to this

 

[Vilify]

Hurt her feelings, she won't believe you're so cruel.....and still blow you the following hang out. If you simply aren't as heartless as I, then just lie; it all works if shes just some booty call; "I work tomorrow"/"I have an early day" work. Remember, you don't owe her any explanation to begin with, she's not paying your bills or your mama, kick her out, either aggressively or with lies.further

I flat out told her it throws off my routine, but I guess she thought I was joking because it hasn't stopped her from spending the night EVERYTIME she comes over.

You just tell her. Would she care about your feelings?

I'm going to say yes she would. She's looking for a husband so she's doing everything to be the perfect woman. Always offering to cook, clean or bring me food from wherever. Problem is getting her to leave.

Go to her crib

That's what I was doing at first but now we're three months in and I don't always feel like going over there. But that's pretty much my solution to control how much time we spend.

 

[Vilify]

Questions brehs, is it always a bad sign when a chick turns her phone face down when y'all together.

I think it is. Every time I turn my phone face down it's because I don't want her to see my notifications from social media, dating apps or text messages. I imagine it's the same for women.

 

[Apollo Creed]

I think it is. Every time I turn my phone face down it's because I don't want her to see my notifications from social media, dating apps or text messages. I imagine it's the same for women.

like i mentioned earlier phones should be in your pocket/purse unless you are charging it

 

[Serious]

like i mentioned earlier phones should be in your pocket/purse unless you are charging it

A true professional has notifications disabled

 

[Apollo Creed]

A true professional has notifications disabled

Yeah, I already laid out how to do it in this thread. My point is unless you have a family relative you taking care of just put the phone up, its about respect. If a woman is checking her phone she's already canceled in my head.

 

[Ohene]

Your last paragraph is poignant. I spent the last how many weeks trying to get her to communicate what's on her mind, what's bothering her, etc. I straight up told her like...I'm trying hard to make things work and iron out the issues in the relationship, and it's almost like that pushed her away more. But then it's all "you don't listen to anything I say; you don't care about my feelings anymore" bullshyt like that. I'm damned if I do damned if I don't.

About the image she had of me...I was basically the best guy friend she could ask for. She trusted me with anything. Even back when we just "drinking buddies" she would stay at my crib the whole weekend, sleep in my bed with me, knowing she was safe. That type of trust level. Eventually she made the move and I couldn't turn it down. I guess she had an idealized version of me in her mind that I just couldn't live up to. I knew all her faults, flaws, relationship history, etc. going in and I accepted her despite all that. I couldn't get the same consideration back but that's how it go.

For the record she's 21 so I know she has a lot of growing to do. But my optimistic ass thought maybe things could be different with her because she really has held me down through some tough times in my life recently. She's not the person I thought I knew and that's a hard pill to swallow. She'd probably same the thing about me though so idk. I'm going thru it right now brehs.

how old are you if she 21?

go cold turkey and block her on everything. if she wants you shell find a way to contact you ...by then you will have moved on though.

 

[Serious]

Women and accountability

 

[Killigraphy]

I flat out told her it throws off my routine, but I guess she thought I was joking because it hasn't stopped her from spending the night EVERYTIME she comes over.

You're allowing her to remain there. You need to stop being soft, and tell her to leave. If she's a booty call, you have to treat her like one.