Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[phcitywarrior]

Fellas, I know everything is done by texting but you separate yourself from the pack when you actually call/FT with a girl your interested in.

How many of y’all genuinely cold approach regularly

First, lets define cold approaching (because there seems to be some misalignment).

I define it as approaching a girl I don’t know, in a “cold setting” (e.g. supermarket, theater etc not a party where you we both know people) chatting for a bit and getting her number/linking up later.

I don’t approach on a regular since I usually work through my social network but when the opportunity has struck I’ve cold approached as well.

Cold approached 2 ladies earlier this year. One wasn’t interested, the other was married (didn’t see her ring).

EDIT: This year and the last are probably not the best to assess cold approaching (everyone’s got a mask indoors). But prior to covid I cold approached every now and then.

i need some brehs wit veteran expirence on this topic. what are LEGIT choosing signals cuz i just dont fukkin get it. expecially at the workplace. im offically #uglygang so that obviously complicates thangs, i aint tryna get tricked/metoo'd

If it’s work, just don’t do it. Not good to shyt where you eat.

But in general

• When a chick is always in your vicinity/line of vision
• Always tries to touch you, especially in a playful manner.
  
• Her body orientation is leaning towards you when you guys are talking.
• She plays with her hair around you.
• Smiles a lot when talking to you. Always tries to start up a convo around you.
• Is generally agreeable with you.
• Laughs at anything you say.

Of course every girl is different but these are general observations.

 

[Abraxus]

Girl on Hinge told me I responded to her too late then asked me what I was looking for. And said it doesn’t look like we’re on the same page. I said you’re right. Good luck to you! She was a strong 5 or 6.

Kiss my ass after you kiss the ring!

 

[Apollo Creed]

Girl on Hinge told me I responded to her too late then asked me what I was looking for. And said it doesn’t look like we’re on the same page. I said you’re right. Good luck to you! She was a strong 5 or 6.

Kiss my ass after you kiss the ring!

What did you say you were looking for

 

[Killigraphy]

How many dates would you guys wait before you attempted to touch or kiss a woman?

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Chick I know, who I've mentioned in this thread before. She's 36 and every one of her relationships has lasted less than a year, she's seen this new guy 5 times. All outside dates, very public, usually to parks. She said she's gently rebuffed any attempt he makes to try to touch or kiss her. He took her on an evening beach date to a quiet spot and thought he could make moves. She shut him down again.



Even other chicks at the drinks were telling her to 'stop playing with the man' she says she's 'traditional' I told her making a man artificially wait for a small crumb of physical interaction is guaranteed to get him either bushing or hitting and running out of malice. I told her I would have stopped contacting her already for the obvious games.

I think she's just keeping him in play, as whilst he fits three of her specific dating preferences his white, german and into meditation. His probably not that good looking enough for her to parade around, she refuses to show any pictures of him which tells it's own tale.

I could already see how she moves funny when she told me that her last BF who dumped her back in Jan 2020, would never find a woman as good as her. This was man who was in a 7yr mostly asexual relationship before he met her.

I could only



As what does that say about her? A man spent years with a chick who wasn't even giving him sex for the last 4 yrs of their relationship and he still dumped your ass.

If we've been sexting, then first date. If we just met, touching, bytches love their hair played with, or being picked up, either way, I still attempt a kiss depending on the level of touching, but nothing dry ever.

 

[RealAssanova]

Girl on Hinge told me I responded to her too late then asked me what I was looking for. And said it doesn’t look like we’re on the same page. I said you’re right. Good luck to you! She was a strong 5 or 6.

Kiss my ass after you kiss the ring!

I don’t like that “what are you looking for” question for some reason. I feel like you’ll see 2 types of women in your response:

1. The one that will agree with anything you say and try to justify why she agrees to make it seem like ya’ll think alike (which signals a high level of attraction/interest towards you)

2. The one that tries to qualify you which imo signals little to no interest. You’ll get the 21 questions type interview rather than the fun and open-end type of conversations. Afterwards, she’ll say “it seems we don’t want the same things cuz i’m looking for this....” Basically trying to get you to believe she’s serious and that this is what she wants and want you to invest attention towards that. Fellas, don’t believe any of that shyt cuz the minute she sees you fell for the bait, she’ll ghost/ignore you. The only people that fall for that are suckers/simps and men with no options AND she knows that because the reality is, she’ll compromise what she said she’s looking for with a nikka that she’s attracted to and knows “doesn’t want the same things as her”.

So in other words, women will outline stipulations to men they have little to no attraction/interest towards but disregard those same stipulations for men they want and are attracted to.

 

[Rozay Oro]

I quit tinder and bumble. My job is full of brehettes and I have gotten snapchats. Honestly my brehs tinder made me rely so much on looks and very high interested women. Not that my game was ever tight to begin with. Damn it’s showin that it has worsen. I need help brehs. Damn bein a decent looking breh who is a shy introvert who can be awkward is . Please help me nikkas. I will rep. I’m not a good flirt.

 

[Neuromancer]

Women really don't like being told no and it's annoying.

Especially in a not going to meet up capacity.

Story?

 

[ColdSlither]

Women really don't like being told no and it's annoying.

Especially in a not going to meet up capacity.

There's a chick from high school who moved down the street from me when I was around 23 or 24. I curved her hard. I've always been a manwhore, but there's some women where I'm just like no. That's always been me with anybody. Even as a child. I've always been particular with who I a

How many of y’all genuinely cold approach regularly?

Im talking about you see a woman you like and you immediately go holla no holds barred

I’ve rarely ever met dudes that do this on the reg

It's rare for me. If I see someone I'm interested in, and she seems like she may be open, I'll say hi or something. In general though, when I'm out, I have tunnel vision and anti social as fukk. Even when people stop and ask for directions, my inner voice is saying, "What the fukk do you want? I'm in the middle of thinking of something. You want directions? Use your GPS!"

 

[VertigoKnight]

Friend of mine had a frustrating date last week. This guy is the one whose last ex told him she didn't love him and then she got back with her black ex and is now pregnant.

Anyway his not on any of the apps as he said they don't work for him, but his approach game is near non existent. Despite my pointers.

So he goes to this cafe every Saturday morning and would see this chick sitting outside, usually with her friend, sometimes on her own. Seems they both would check each other out, but he'd never make a move. After a few weeks he finally gets the courage to talk to her and slide her his number. Which for him was a big step.

She texts him and they agree to a date later that evening. They go out for pizza and then afterwards she suggests they go for a few drinks. Bar closes at 11pm and it seems they're both going different ways but she says she'll walk with him to his car as she knows the area better as she lives close, they get to his car make out, talk and then heavily make out again.

They agree to meet again and he goes home for the night. I told him this is where he probably messed up. He should have suggested going to her place or back to his for more drinks or to talk, seems the energy was there. And she seemed like she was looking for a guy to close the deal with her and fukk.

Anyway he waits 2 days then messages her to set something up for the coming week. A couple of hours later she messages him back and tells him she's thought about things and has realised she's in a strange space in life and doesn't think she should be getting into a relationship.



He was like, I'm not looking for anything serious this quickly either, why don't we just enjoy each others company and see where things go? But she wasn't having it.

He tends to believe these chicks when they be bullshytting. He told her maybe they could go for drinks as friends, she gives him the I'm busy this week but sure let's do it soon.



I asked him is it going to be awkward seeing this chick at the cafe if she curves him?

 

[Apollo Creed]

Friend of mine had a frustrating date last week. This guy is the one whose last ex told him she didn't love him and then she got back with her black ex and is now pregnant.

Anyway his not on any of the apps as he said they don't work for him, but his approach game is near non existent. Despite my pointers.

So he goes to this cafe every Saturday morning and would see this chick sitting outside, usually with her friend, sometimes on her own. Seems they both would check each other out, but he'd never make a move. After a few weeks he finally gets the courage to talk to her and slide her his number. Which for him was a big step.

She texts him and they agree to a date later that evening. They go out for pizza and then afterwards she suggests they go for a few drinks. Bar closes at 11pm and it seems they're both going different ways but she says she'll walk with him to his car as she knows the area better as she lives close, they get to his car make out, talk and then heavily make out again.

They agree to meet again and he goes home for the night. I told him this is where he probably messed up. He should have suggested going to her place or back to his for more drinks or to talk, seems the energy was there. And she seemed like she was looking for a guy to close the deal with her and fukk.

Anyway he waits 2 days then messages her to set something up for the coming week. A couple of hours later she messages him back and tells him she's thought about things and has realised she's in a strange space in life and doesn't think she should be getting into a relationship.



He was like, I'm not looking for anything serious this quickly either, why don't we just enjoy each others company and see where things go? But she wasn't having it.

He tends to believe these chicks when they be bullshytting. He told her maybe they could go for drinks as friends, she gives him the I'm busy this week but sure let's do it soon.



I asked him is it going to be awkward seeing this chick at the cafe if she curves him?

he better ubereats now

 

[Uno Venova]

That’s why I asked if that shyt even work anymore. I’m 21 but I remember 2013-ish I used to hit the mall and the hs nikkas-college nikkas would be getting at girls the whole time, I go a few times recently to do so and I’m like the only nikka shooting his shot. I assumed cuz it’s talked about so often on here that it was still prevalent but I don’t think so, not even when my community college was in person were guys actually getting at girlsmust be a thing of the past

Well I was just at Lenox mall and let me tell you, nikkas is definitely still shooting

 

[Rozay Oro]

Well I was just at Lenox mall and let me tell you, nikkas is definitely still shooting

I be shootin at work. Can’t help it bytches be havin fat asses and shyt lmaooo

 

[Krisrunner2049]

Well I was just at Lenox mall and let me tell you, nikkas is definitely still shooting

That’s ATL nikkas, they built different, a cousin of the NYC nikka in terms of getting at anything that moves so to speak. But yeah I’ll refrain from generalizing based off my experience, I just remembered the pre social media life when nikkas were deep in almost every mall I went to in LA as a kid shooting their shot, wasn't even old enough to participate . Now that I’m 21 I’d hit topanga mall, I’ll holla at a few baddies before I feel like a sex fiend and stopi wish I was in ATL

haven't been in the field since though

 

[Neuromancer]

May all of you have success in your endeavors.

 

[Neuromancer]

Friend of mine had a frustrating date last week. This guy is the one whose last ex told him she didn't love him and then she got back with her black ex and is now pregnant.

Anyway his not on any of the apps as he said they don't work for him, but his approach game is near non existent. Despite my pointers.

So he goes to this cafe every Saturday morning and would see this chick sitting outside, usually with her friend, sometimes on her own. Seems they both would check each other out, but he'd never make a move. After a few weeks he finally gets the courage to talk to her and slide her his number. Which for him was a big step.

She texts him and they agree to a date later that evening. They go out for pizza and then afterwards she suggests they go for a few drinks. Bar closes at 11pm and it seems they're both going different ways but she says she'll walk with him to his car as she knows the area better as she lives close, they get to his car make out, talk and then heavily make out again.

They agree to meet again and he goes home for the night. I told him this is where he probably messed up. He should have suggested going to her place or back to his for more drinks or to talk, seems the energy was there. And she seemed like she was looking for a guy to close the deal with her and fukk.

Anyway he waits 2 days then messages her to set something up for the coming week. A couple of hours later she messages him back and tells him she's thought about things and has realised she's in a strange space in life and doesn't think she should be getting into a relationship.



He was like, I'm not looking for anything serious this quickly either, why don't we just enjoy each others company and see where things go? But she wasn't having it.

He tends to believe these chicks when they be bullshytting. He told her maybe they could go for drinks as friends, she gives him the I'm busy this week but sure let's do it soon.



I asked him is it going to be awkward seeing this chick at the cafe if she curves him?

Dudes gotta be quicker on the draw. It sucks cause men are expected to be Professor X with it.