Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

BlueHeffner

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I don’t have ig, but how you gonna make one poppin if it ain’t already poppin? How you even compete with all the other nikkas tryna floss on ig, Buy some followers and rent foreign whips?
You dont even need foreigns or high-end gear to make your ig poppin

Chicks seeing u out and about, making moves will get you more attention from chicks than the material stuff
 

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The thing with IG, is that if you aren't living that life, to one degree or another, you are done. You have to deliver a version of the life depicted. And you have to be on it all the time. it's a good way to soft connect with someone. it's a slow sell. You start off liking pics and posting yours, and whatever, and then eventually decide to meet up. Getting the number and inviting someone out directly is what I do, but it's almost considered like a faux pax by current norms.

for some people it's like a fantasy life, that's why it's so easy for people to have even a good ion person interaction, and then ignore a text message. Once you get in person, all that instagram is over, and there' no distance to present yourself.
 

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I don’t have ig, but how you gonna make one poppin if it ain’t already poppin? How you even compete with all the other nikkas tryna floss on ig, Buy some followers and rent foreign whips?

1. Learn to take Quality Photos of yourself - as a hard skill. Since the advent of camera phones, this has become a low key important skill to have.
2. You need a niche and to stay in your niche. Most people have unfocused pages, it's them and their lives. Most people's lives are visually boring. A player needs something that is visually interesting.

That's 2 components - Ideally the niche is 1) photo friendly and 2) female friendly.

Reading Books, Book Clubs, etc - are female friendly, but not really photo friendly.
Guns, Cars, "stuff", ends to be photo friendly, but not female friendly.

The obvious ones are travel (urban, outdoors, exotic, etc) , food, style, etc.
But there are not so obvious ones out there, that cats just need to uncover.

Practically every good and service is marketed these days as a "lifestyle". So a lot of the modern man's work is picking something that he can showcase to the world. The examples of photos are already out there.

3. Be Consistent - Anyone can cobble together 5-6 photos, but the real key to the IG life (and using it as a draw for women, but for people and business) is really using the medium like a professional.

This is relatively new territory. None of this was necessary 15 years ago, but the prime market of women grew up in the past 15 years. They grew up looking at these images, forming their social media identity as the basis of their identity, even if they can't match that in real life.

For most guys, 99%, this already sounds like too much work.

And they won't do it.

Which is why guys that do take it serious reap the benefits.

This guy's page - a professional photographer - keep that in mind - and even though I think the page speaks more to men than to women) - Login • Instagram - is a good IG page.

Take out the exotic cars, "exotic locales", and celebs and it still looks good.

More importantly, most of the shots are something a man could learn to take. A lot of these shots could be accomplished with standard tripods and camera phones, no need to break out $3,000 DSLR. The real key is knowing what to shoot, and then editing. And that requires effort.

Social Media creation and management is getting to be up there with meditation and body building. Something that's worth the rewards, but too few people will actually do the work, because it's not fast enough.
 

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The thing with IG, is that if you aren't living that life, to one degree or another, you are done.

Real talk, if you're not living the life you want - you're kinda already done though.

It's a bitter pill to take, but I'm still digesting it myself.

It's necessary though.

Not everyone, as a population of people, can live the lives they want.

But individuals sure can.
 

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@WIA20XX

hahha, well yeah.

But, there's room for most people to FIND a relationship, but getting at bottle service girls, probably not. A homie of mine told me how she had some dude in her house, kinda cute, doing like a chore, lifting a dresser, or whatever, from an APP, and she was like I could tell he was going to ask me out, and saw he was wearing Skechers. And she was like nah. She kept thinking, but where would we go? He can't take me anywhere I want to go. She's a stripper, on the low, but he didn't know that.

A relatively low cost one is new restaurants, new spots, like that. New boutique hotels, doesn't cost much to just go and grab drinks, take the glam pics.

I do live that life, relatively speaking, think hit like a dozen new places this year, but only share the pics or invites with people that know me.
 

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nah yall brehs overthinking it

Ive seen/known this chick in the gym for over 2+ years now. I had a lady so I wasnt interested like that or anything.

Ffwd to about 2 months ago, we started a dialogue because she was impressed by my deadlift. From there we exchanged names. From there, I saw tell-tale signs of her flirting so that put her on my radar (like it would any man). Eventually we started talking about topics outside the gym (hobbies, vacations, where we live, careers etc).

I got her ig because I had questions about her, and im not going to have a long ass convo in the gym while she trying to workout. She looked young as hell. At one point, i was telling my mans (gym partner) “yo she prolly like 19” so I was curious as hell to know her age and how she move. Me personally, ive never fukked w a chick more than 3 years younger than me so I didnt want to even bother trying to bag this chick if she was as young as I thought.

The DM i sent wasnt even no crazy shyt. I was lit in a club w the homies and I saw she viewed my story so i sent her a message from my story “hey wat you still doing up?” Corny, but this isnt a chick i havent had several conversations with already and i was “comfortable”.

She didnt “see” the message until the morning which I have my doubts because you can still see someone sent u a message on ig but if u dont click it the sender wont know u read it.

It is what it is at this point for me though. Im not gonna stress it. She still watched my stories all weekend and liked my pics and im most likely gna see her in the gym wen i get back in town tmrw. Ill chat w her and tell her my bad for the late text, i was wildin and keep it at that.

I do agree wit yall that now, if i still try and pursue this chick, ill do it in person now

Yea you fukked up. Not terribly bad, you can still get out the hole but you did it wrong.

You have to let her message you first or send her a DM commenting on something from one of her stories then go from there.

If you met her at the gym you could have made a curated story to fish. "I'm lit right now I hope I make it to the gym tomorrow. Somebody make sure I go to the gym tomorrow."
 

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Just hopped back on Hinge and Bumble, these women and their dogs :mjtf:

I don’t mind dogs (or cats for that matter) but if I see one more “dogs are better than people” “we’ll get along great if my dog likes you” “way to my heart is through my dog” :mjlol:

It’s definitely an epidemic. A lot of women either have these big ass pit bulls (husbands) or tiny chow chow dogs. (children)

The numbers spiked during covid
 

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Went out on a date with this girl so many red flags:

No job, tattoo of an abortion, tattoo of the date her and her ex got together, breath issues & has small problems with taking direction (30)

:snoop:

(met at a lounge, everything seemed normal)
 

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Went out on a date with this girl so many red flags:

No job, tattoo of an abortion, tattoo of the date her and her ex got together, breath issues & has small problems with taking direction (30)

:snoop:

(met at a lounge, everything seemed normal)
:dahell:

Was it a picture? How did she explain that? Why would she tell a first date she has a tattoo of the date her and her ex got together? You better lie about that shyt
 

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Was it a picture? How did she explain that? Why would she tell a first date she has a tattoo of the date her and her ex got together? You better lie about that shyt

Nah it was like 2 hearts next to one another (one heart for her and the other for the “kid”. It was on her arm & the relationship tat other was on her lower leg. She has to cover up, but she doesn’t have a job / funds.
 

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The DM i sent wasnt even no crazy shyt. I was lit in a club w the homies and I saw she viewed my story so i sent her a message from my story “hey wat you still doing up?” Corny, but this isnt a chick i havent had several conversations with already and i was “comfortable”.

She didnt “see” the message until the morning which I have my doubts because you can still see someone sent u a message on ig but if u dont click it the sender wont know u read it.

It is what it is at this point for me though. Im not gonna stress it. She still watched my stories all weekend and liked my pics and im most likely gna see her in the gym wen i get back in town tmrw. Ill chat w her and tell her my bad for the late text, i was wildin and keep it at that.

I do agree wit yall that now, if i still try and pursue this chick, ill do it in person now
the fukk are you apologizing for? Because you sent a late night text?! :mjtf: what exactly were you wildin’ at?
 

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Nah it was like 2 hearts next to one another (one heart for her and the other for the “kid”. It was on her arm & the relationship tat other was on her lower leg. She has to cover up, but she doesn’t have a job / funds.
Lmfaoooo bum bytches tend to be “easy” pulls but its because they depend on being kn relationships to survive.

You netflix and chilling and uber eats is how she eats for the day
 
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