Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[re'up]

Got curved by a chick on ig last night. Met her in the gym, got her gram a few a days ago.

Sent a playful/risky dm last night around 12 and she waited til 8am to “see” it and didnt respond

Always irritates me when that happens, can remember the first time, the read receipts and all that, not sure if you give a fukk, but

1) unless you are willing to do the whole chat for days or weeks and maybe meet up, or end up in the same place, get a phone number, not an IG, even if they offer IG first

2) we all know and understand these phrases, curve, ghost, but some of these are 10 years old now, and in this new era, especially with someone who has lets just say 3,000 followers, even the ones with 1,000, everyone is just overwhelmed, and flooded with messages, DM's, likes, group chats, on and on, how do you stand out?

if you are just trying to send out a quick nothing DM or text, likely won't even get a response. but, you can't take it personally. She gets like at least a dozen of those a day. Probably closer to 25/ but since you do know each other in person, that's where the real connection is.

Also, have to follow up THAT night, if not that hour, to create that kind of stickiness. People forget, they move on, just watch people on their phones, it's so chaotic.

 

[ABlackMan]

I think especially for brehs who grew up in the hip hop generation where "rebel without a cause" is baked into the very DNA, it can put them in a mental bind as they grow older. That whole keeping it real as you age and SHOULD be evolving and grow will have brehs stuck some type of peter pan failure to launch type mindset. I have had this convo over the years with many family members, and some have grown out of it to varying degrees. I atleast tell brehs have ATLEAST ONE good fitting suit to start in case something comes up. Im like breh you cant be in 30s goin to funerals in dikkie sets, we was doing that in our teens, its over, looooong time ago.

I think even just starting small and them seeing the response they get from EVERYBODY will atleast light that spark. It has worked for some but for others who perpetually stuck in 2nd childhood mindset, what can you do?

At least slacks a button down and an overcoat/pea coat

 

[The ADD]

Got curved by a chick on ig last night. Met her in the gym, got her gram a few a days ago.

Sent a playful/risky dm last night around 12 and she waited til 8am to “see” it and didnt respond

What did the DM say?

So you met her in person and basically asked for her social media as a follow-up?

Why y’all do this?

 

[WIA20XX]

What did the DM say?

So you met her in person and basically asked for her social media as a follow-up?

Why y’all do this?

The default is trying to physically smang or "mind sex" (c) Erykah Badu THE VERY FIRST NIGHT. Y'all need to stop giving these chicks breathing room and time to think. She need to be a "natural woman" and "go with the flow"..... *sold and not told... Let's start with that mindset. That first night is a whirlwind pyramid (c) D.O.C. The more she gets wrapped up in it, the better for the two of you.

For her, it's true love.

For you

I don't know the specifics of the situation, or OP's game - but sometimes you can't close that night, so you have to get IG or a phone #.

Having said that, there's no way in hell, i'm sending a risky DM.

Have this broad put me up on a summer jam screen? IS YOU CRAZY? Where they do that at? That's "super cuts game", not even Black Barbershop Game.

You send a D pic, or even an abs pic, or something suggestive - it's going straight to group chat, and one of her hating ass friends is gonna reverse image search, pull up FB and LinkedIn - send it to your Mama and Employer. (and for some of y'all, your wife).

So 2 scenarios pop into my mind

Scen 1 - She with her crew, you with yours, they going to the Southside, and I'm going to the East side.

If it doesn't look like I can snatch her off her group, or I can't peace out to my group AND me and shorty had some rhythm - the plan is to get everybody situated by 1:30-2:30 - and hit her with the "Hey Big Head, blah blah, - This is Archie" type steez. See where she is at, and connections can be made that night. If connects can't be made that night, kiss that # good bye. If she's in the prime bracket -18-25, she's getting smanged by the next dude that could crack the code, and will barely remember you. If she's in the B market, 26-32, it's a better. If she's subprime, why you sweating it?

Scen 2 - Networking/Innocent type event - we connect for "on going" business purposes. Same M.O.. " I enjoyed our discussion about tax policy in Botswana...."

If you don't want it read in a court of law (or worse the court of public opinion), don't put it in writing.

WIA

 

[The ADD]

The default is trying to physically smang or "mind sex" (c) Erykah Badu THE VERY FIRST NIGHT. Y'all need to stop giving these chicks breathing room and time to think. She need to be a "natural woman" and "go with the flow"..... *sold and not told... Let's start with that mindset. That first night is a whirlwind pyramid (c) D.O.C. The more she gets wrapped up in it, the better for the two of you.

For her, it's true love.

For you

I don't know the specifics of the situation, or OP's game - but sometimes you can't close that night, so you have to get IG or a phone #.

Having said that, there's no way in hell, i'm sending a risky DM.

Have this broad put me up on a summer jam screen? IS YOU CRAZY? Where they do that at? That's "super cuts game", not even Black Barbershop Game.

You send a D pic, or even an abs pic, or something suggestive - it's going straight to group chat, and one of her hating ass friends is gonna reverse image search, pull up FB and LinkedIn - send it to your Mama and Employer. (and for some of y'all, your wife).

So 2 scenarios pop into my mind

Scen 1 - She with her crew, you with yours, they going to the Southside, and I'm going to the East side.

If it doesn't look like I can snatch her off her group, or I can't peace out to my group AND me and shorty had some rhythm - the plan is to get everybody situated by 1:30-2:30 - and hit her with the "Hey Big Head, blah blah, - This is Archie" type steez. See where she is at, and connections can be made that night. If connects can't be made that night, kiss that # good bye. If she's in the prime bracket -18-25, she's getting smanged by the next dude that could crack the code, and will barely remember you. If she's in the B market, 26-32, it's a better. If she's subprime, why you sweating it?

Scen 2 - Networking/Innocent type event - we connect for "on going" business purposes. Same M.O.. " I enjoyed our discussion about tax policy in Botswana...."

If you don't want it read in a court of law (or worse the court of public opinion), don't put it in writing.

WIA

IG for why? I don’t get that logic

 

[WIA20XX]

IG for why? I don’t get that logic

If a man has an IG impressive to females (a lot of which can be manufactured, but a lot can be real), that's much better than a phone #. IG is multi-media and instantly shareable.

A man's IG is 24/7 advertising. She just needs to get in on the drip feed.

In 2023, these girls live online, young people (35 and under) live online. Things are more "real" online than offline.
There's been a shift between what's more powerful - a DM vs Text. (like any of these people use the phone as a phone...I digress)

All girls? No
A lot of girls? Yes.

The more folks a man can add, legitimately, the more powerful his lock on a chick's mind can be.

These chicks are so wide open to being manipulated engaged by online content that's it's not even funny.

Now most dudes aren't even thinking on this level.

If we want to keep it a buck, guys

• Don't go the gym
• Don't eat right
• Don't rock cologne
• Think that dressing well means Balmain and Balenciaga, so they don't even try to wear fitted Target polos
• If they have some coin, they want a chain or nice vehicle to do the work
• Have zero conversation that can interest a lot of these young broads..

I could go down the line. And these boys i'm talking about, are out there trying to get at broads. Much less the dudes on the sideline or spend too much time between Andrew Tate and JBO.

In 2023, to get the most and the best, you have to have a dual strategy - offline and online.

 

[The ADD]

If a man has an IG impressive to females (a lot of which can be manufactured, but a lot can be real), that's much better than a phone #. IG is multi-media and instantly shareable.

A man's IG is 24/7 advertising. She just needs to get in on the drip feed.

In 2023, these girls live online, young people (35 and under) live online. Things are more "real" online than offline.
There's been a shift between what's more powerful - a DM vs Text. (like any of these people use the phone as a phone...I digress)

All girls? No
A lot of girls? Yes.

The more folks a man can add, legitimately, the more powerful his lock on a chick's mind can be.

These chicks are so wide open to being manipulated engaged by online content that's it's not even funny.

Now most dudes aren't even thinking on this level.

If we want to keep it a buck, guys

• Don't go the gym
• Don't eat right
• Don't rock cologne
• Think that dressing well means Balmain and Balenciaga, so they don't even try to wear fitted Target polos
• If they have some coin, they want a chain or nice vehicle to do the work
• Have zero conversation that can interest a lot of these young broads..

I could go down the line. And these boys i'm talking about, are out there trying to get at broads. Much less the dudes on the sideline or spend too much time between Andrew Tate and JBO.

In 2023, to get the most and the best, you have to have a dual strategy - offline and online.

But he met her in person and instead getting a number to facilitate something offline he asks for an IG, establishes no connection and proceeds to send a risky DM. No wonder he got no response.

If the goal is spend in person time with the chick then I don’t get the logic.

I’m old though so if it’s working for y’all…..

 

[360dagod]

IG for why? I don’t get that logic

In football terms, a Brett Farve hail mary into quadruple coverage was pulled...

When men VOLUNTEER to put themselves into radiuses where there are higher levels of competition, it's essentially being 10th in a regular line at the club to being 30th in the vip line

 

[BlueHeffner]

nah yall brehs overthinking it

Ive seen/known this chick in the gym for over 2+ years now. I had a lady so I wasnt interested like that or anything.

Ffwd to about 2 months ago, we started a dialogue because she was impressed by my deadlift. From there we exchanged names. From there, I saw tell-tale signs of her flirting so that put her on my radar (like it would any man). Eventually we started talking about topics outside the gym (hobbies, vacations, where we live, careers etc).

I got her ig because I had questions about her, and im not going to have a long ass convo in the gym while she trying to workout. She looked young as hell. At one point, i was telling my mans (gym partner) “yo she prolly like 19” so I was curious as hell to know her age and how she move. Me personally, ive never fukked w a chick more than 3 years younger than me so I didnt want to even bother trying to bag this chick if she was as young as I thought.

The DM i sent wasnt even no crazy shyt. I was lit in a club w the homies and I saw she viewed my story so i sent her a message from my story “hey wat you still doing up?” Corny, but this isnt a chick i havent had several conversations with already and i was “comfortable”.

She didnt “see” the message until the morning which I have my doubts because you can still see someone sent u a message on ig but if u dont click it the sender wont know u read it.

It is what it is at this point for me though. Im not gonna stress it. She still watched my stories all weekend and liked my pics and im most likely gna see her in the gym wen i get back in town tmrw. Ill chat w her and tell her my bad for the late text, i was wildin and keep it at that.

I do agree wit yall that now, if i still try and pursue this chick, ill do it in person now

 

[The ADD]

nah yall brehs overthinking it

Ive seen/known this chick in the gym for over 2+ years now. I had a lady so I wasnt interested like that or anything.

Ffwd to about 2 months ago, we started a dialogue because she was impressed by my deadlift. From there we exchanged names. From there, I saw tell-tale signs of her flirting so that put her on my radar (like it would any man). Eventually we started talking about topics outside the gym (hobbies, vacations, where we live, careers etc).

I got her ig because I had questions about her, and im not going to have a long ass convo in the gym while she trying to workout. She looked young as hell. At one point, i was telling my mans (gym partner) “yo she prolly like 19” so I was curious as hell to know her age and how she move. Me personally, ive never fukked w a chick more than 3 years younger than me so I didnt want to even bother trying to bag this chick if she was as young as I thought.

The DM i sent wasnt even no crazy shyt. I was lit in a club w the homies and I saw she viewed my story so i sent her a message from my story “hey wat you still doing up?” Corny, but this isnt a chick i havent had several conversations with already and i was “comfortable”.

She didnt “see” the message until the morning which I have my doubts because you can still see someone sent u a message on ig but if u dont click it the sender wont know u read it.

It is what it is at this point for me though. Im not gonna stress it. She still watched my stories all weekend and liked my pics and im most likely gna see her in the gym wen i get back in town tmrw. Ill chat w her and tell her my bad for the late text, i was wildin and keep it at that.

I do agree wit yall that now, if i still try and pursue this chick, ill do it in person now

So you didn’t get curved…….

You just didn’t get an immediate response to a random DM…….

 

[BlueHeffner]

So you didn’t get curved…….

You just didn’t get an immediate response to a random DM…….

Lol i felt it was a curve my breh but I guess u right

Im an over-thinker so all these thoughts ran through my head:

In order of likelihood..

1. She dating somebody. Her page is completely clean of any signs of having a nikka but u know that doesnt mean shyt these days

2. She no like black guys

3. Im like 13 years older than her so she may not like that

4. I read our interactions completely wrong from the beginning and she was more “friendly” than interested

 

[The ADD]

Lol i felt it was a curve my breh but I guess u right

Im an over-thinker so all these thoughts ran through my head:

In order of likelihood..

1. She dating somebody. Her page is completely clean of any signs of having a nikka but u know that doesnt mean shyt these days

2. She no like black guys

3. Im like 13 years older than her so she may not like that

4. I read our interactions completely wrong from the beginning and she was more “friendly” than interested

Bruh

You stressing over a chick you got 10 plus years on?

You know what what would clear up the overthinking? Get her number and meeting outside the gym………

 

[360dagod]

Lol i felt it was a curve my breh but I guess u right

Im an over-thinker so all these thoughts ran through my head:

In order of likelihood..

1. She dating somebody. Her page is completely clean of any signs of having a nikka but u know that doesnt mean shyt these days

2. She no like black guys

3. Im like 13 years older than her so she may not like that

4. I read our interactions completely wrong from the beginning and she was more “friendly” than interested

These younger bytches got penny stock energy lol

The stock market chart can't be followed

 

[BlueHeffner]

Bruh

You stressing over a chick you got 10 plus years on?

You know what what would clear up the overthinking? Get her number and meeting outside the gym………

 

[Ohene]

These younger bytches got penny stock energy lol

The stock market chart can't be followed

yea theyre very volatile