Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

Amo Husserl

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Ayo, it's 2025, serious question: we seriously datin' bisexual women who got they furniture in the U-haul or we choppin' someplace else?
 

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you got it big dog :hubie:

strap up
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Man, I fumbled so bad I might as well switch gyms :mjlol:

Chick I’ve been looking at for a while, basically approached me, gave me her number… we hangout, I make my move, she lets me know there’s a situation she’s healing from..

I tell her to reconsider, and I don’t speak to her the rest of the day. At this point, I know it’s not going to workout.. I basically let it go.

Then she calls me in the evening, so I’m like, it’s on. Then like a fukking pathetic breh I tend to be sometimes, I proceed to text her a sentimental paragraph before I sleep. I got left on delivered brehs :dead:

She sees me at the gym today, says hi, I reply back, and ignore her the whole session, and leave without saying goodbye or anything. She then calls me when I get home, we talk a bit, then she proceeds to text me to “check in”, completely ignoring the sappy shyt I sent earlier. I’m confused :francis:


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Maaaaan. I'm never shytting where I eat again :mjlol: .I've been very careful about that principle, and now that i've flouted it and its gone south, I have no idea how to even navigate or engage going forward.

Only pursued cos she gave me pretty clear signals.

So after this post, I spoke with her in person, and she brought it up herself.. mentioned she really didn't know how to reply to what I had sent her.
I said its cool. shyt was kinda smooth after that, she was regularly reaching out.. actually calling me, calling for the second time if i didn't pick up the first time.

Me, thinking shyt was sweet, asked her to come over to my spot, to "chill".. she declined, saying she wasn't ready to do that yet. During the conversation she also mentioned she wasn't ready to be vulnerable with anyone and open up to get to know anyone yet.. told her i wasn't open to be just friends, as i'm attracted to her. We were supposed to go for lunch that day, texted her afterwards to let me know if she was still down, in the hopes we could speak in person... haven't gotten a reply since :wow: . Someone who was blowing up my phone constantly, now not a word in 3 days. Its humbling brehs, shyt is eating at my pride. :wow:

shyt has me looking back and try to see where i fukked up, like a sports analyst, running game tapes in my head. Idek how to react when I see her later today. shyt is new to me
 

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UPDATE

Maaaaan. I'm never shytting where I eat again :mjlol: .I've been very careful about that principle, and now that i've flouted it and its gone south, I have no idea how to even navigate or engage going forward.

Only pursued cos she gave me pretty clear signals.

So after this post, I spoke with her in person, and she brought it up herself.. mentioned she really didn't know how to reply to what I had sent her.
I said its cool. shyt was kinda smooth after that, she was regularly reaching out.. actually calling me, calling for the second time if i didn't pick up the first time.

Me, thinking shyt was sweet, asked her to come over to my spot, to "chill".. she declined, saying she wasn't ready to do that yet. During the conversation she also mentioned she wasn't ready to be vulnerable with anyone and open up to get to know anyone yet.. told her i wasn't open to be just friends, as i'm attracted to her. We were supposed to go for lunch that day, texted her afterwards to let me know if she was still down, in the hopes we could speak in person... haven't gotten a reply since :wow: . Someone who was blowing up my phone constantly, now not a word in 3 days. Its humbling brehs, shyt is eating at my pride. :wow:

shyt has me looking back and try to see where i fukked up, like a sports analyst, running game tapes in my head. Idek how to react when I see her later today. shyt is new to me
You didn’t do anything wrong. You played it well IMO. You stated your point intention and she wasn’t with the program. It happens…….

People are flaky and I don’t mean specific to a generation, just like in general.
 

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You didn’t do anything wrong. You played it well IMO. You stated your point intention and she wasn’t with the program. It happens…….

People are flaky and I don’t mean specific to a generation, just like in general.

idk man, part of me feels i pushed too hard too soon. I think i should've just played it cool and not had that discussion again.. just left the ball in her court after i made my point clear the very first time, and see where it goes. Mind you, ts is only bothering me because its someone i'll have to see damn near everyday :stopitslime:
 

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idk man, part of me feels i pushed too hard too soon. I think i should've just played it cool and not had that discussion again.. just left the ball in her court after i made my point clear the very first time, and see where it goes. Mind you, ts is only bothering me because its someone i'll have to see damn near everyday :stopitslime:
I don’t say this light but fukk her. If you respectfully state your intention and she’s not down then it’s on her. She could had set terms in regards to pace and what she was comfortable with and she didn’t.

All that I gotta see her stuff. fukk that too.
 
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UPDATE

Maaaaan. I'm never shytting where I eat again :mjlol: .I've been very careful about that principle, and now that i've flouted it and its gone south, I have no idea how to even navigate or engage going forward.

Only pursued cos she gave me pretty clear signals.

So after this post, I spoke with her in person, and she brought it up herself.. mentioned she really didn't know how to reply to what I had sent her.
I said its cool. shyt was kinda smooth after that, she was regularly reaching out.. actually calling me, calling for the second time if i didn't pick up the first time.

Me, thinking shyt was sweet, asked her to come over to my spot, to "chill".. she declined, saying she wasn't ready to do that yet. During the conversation she also mentioned she wasn't ready to be vulnerable with anyone and open up to get to know anyone yet.. told her i wasn't open to be just friends, as i'm attracted to her. We were supposed to go for lunch that day, texted her afterwards to let me know if she was still down, in the hopes we could speak in person... haven't gotten a reply since :wow: . Someone who was blowing up my phone constantly, now not a word in 3 days. Its humbling brehs, shyt is eating at my pride. :wow:

shyt has me looking back and try to see where i fukked up, like a sports analyst, running game tapes in my head. Idek how to react when I see her later today. shyt is new to me
So reading everything. Was the time you guys hungout, the first time ever hanging out outside of the gym setting? and if so was this when you chose to make your move?
 
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Yeah. That’s when i made it known I’d want to know her beyond being just friends.
Well damn playa.....:heh:.......... that's where you dropped the ball...... that's waaaayyy too aggressive and she definitely got spooked...tone it down a few notches.. :whoa: ...you should work off of a minimum 3 dates before you make attempts to try and be initmate in any way (kissing, etc). Hugs and MAYBE depending on her vibe you could've gotten away with the latino cheek kiss. But you threw the book at her right off the rip......

No woman wants to feel like an easy lay or whore, even if they may be one. The whole dating process is what is done to let her kmow you want to be more than friends.
You might be able to salvage things by being transparent and approaching her IN PERSON, NOT TEXT and say "Hey I apologize for being overly aggressive with you. I just find you very attractive. If we were to take things slower would you like to go out on another date? ... A makeup date? " .... Be playful and jokey about it.... and actually don't be so over eager to smash..... let it cook and develop and come to you....
 

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Well damn playa.....:heh:.......... that's where you dropped the ball...... that's waaaayyy too aggressive and she definitely got spooked...tone it down a few notches.. :whoa: ...you should work off of a minimum 3 dates before you make attempts to try and be initmate in any way (kissing, etc). Hugs and MAYBE depending on her vibe you could've gotten away with the latino cheek kiss. But you threw the book at her right off the rip......

No woman wants to feel like an easy lay or whore, even if they may be one. The whole dating process is what is done to let her kmow you want to be more than friends.
You might be able to salvage things by being transparent and approaching her IN PERSON, NOT TEXT and say "Hey I apologize for being overly aggressive with you. I just find you very attractive. If we were to take things slower would you like to go out on another date? ... A makeup date? " .... Be playful and jokey about it.... and actually don't be so over eager to smash..... let it cook and develop and come to you....
You know what…..

I overlooked the part where he invited her to the crib of top. Yeah that’s coming in to hot for the situation.
 

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Well damn playa.....:heh:.......... that's where you dropped the ball...... that's waaaayyy too aggressive and she definitely got spooked...tone it down a few notches.. :whoa: ...you should work off of a minimum 3 dates before you make attempts to try and be initmate in any way (kissing, etc). Hugs and MAYBE depending on her vibe you could've gotten away with the latino cheek kiss. But you threw the book at her right off the rip......

No woman wants to feel like an easy lay or whore, even if they may be one. The whole dating process is what is done to let her kmow you want to be more than friends.
You might be able to salvage things by being transparent and approaching her IN PERSON, NOT TEXT and say "Hey I apologize for being overly aggressive with you. I just find you very attractive. If we were to take things slower would you like to go out on another date? ... A makeup date? " .... Be playful and jokey about it.... and actually don't be so over eager to smash..... let it cook and develop and come to you....

You know what…..

I overlooked the part where he invited her to the crib of top. Yeah that’s coming in to hot for the situation.

Much respect brehs. I also realize I was too aggressive. Wanted to wait for her to reach out, but she basically did that the first time.. shyt was in my control afterwards, cos her interest was very high.. then I got too aggressive again

Spoke to her today on some cordial shyt. Interaction was definitely awkward. I’ll give it a few days and approach her with what Allegri said. Then I see what’s up
 
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