Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Amor fati]

If you want to get into it we can do that...... you're the one posting here to vent about the situation which means that you are frustrated about it. Why?...yeah let's call out the why...... you mad cause she told you without telling you, that you're not top spot in the roster and your ego couldn't take it........... so miss me with the "projections" talk...... you the one mad about how the convo went....and irked cause I called it out for what it is.

LMAO there you go projecting again with your nonsense. Ok kiddo whatever makes you sleep. You must be one of those fake nice guy's stuck in the friend zone that entertains conversations about men she's currently seeing and her ex's... like a girl.

 

[cyndaquil]

I never knew "planning phone calls" was even a thing. Like we are setting up a meeting in the office. I have always treated it as in the moment, I call.... you answer and available, then we talk. But mostly phone calls are for date planning.

Personally yes. Cuz I hate when people call without notice. I'll text and be like ay imma call you if they dont respond in like 5 minutes I just text them instead. I try to do that with women so they know how to communicate with me. They'll text first then call too.

The real planned shyt is annoying when a chick be like "what time you sleep?" Imma call you before you sleep. Nah wtf send a text. Let me read my book in peace

 

[trap101-ETHout-Allegri-In]

Personally yes. Cuz I hate when people call without notice. I'll text and be like ay imma call you if they dont respond in like 5 minutes I just text them instead. I try to do that with women so they know how to communicate with me. They'll text first then call too.

The real planned shyt is annoying when a chick be like "what time you sleep?" Imma call you before you sleep. Nah wtf send a text. Let me read my book in peace

Oh that makes sense..... I was more so talking about the "let's schedule a time to talk on the phone later in the week" type of scenario like ol'boy above....

 

[trap101-ETHout-Allegri-In]

LMAO there you go projecting again with your nonsense. Ok kiddo whatever makes you sleep. You must be one of those fake nice guy's stuck in the friend zone that entertains conversations about men she's currently seeing and her ex's... like a girl.

Says the man scheduling phone calls to converse later in the week like he is in a long term, long distance relationship...........



This my last musing on your lil emotional tizzy you are in....

 

[Ohene]

why are we breaking all this shyt down to such atomic levels? can we relax lol

there are merits to doing all of the above. sometimes I might call a chick randomly, sometimes I might ask if she's free later and mention I'm gonna call her, sometimes I may only text etc etc.

we need to get away from this one size fits all mindset. everyone has different ways of interacting and context/situations are important to consider

 

[re'up]

I'm more tripping off the fact that

1) She's 39 and doesn't understand discretion
2) You're hollering at a 39 year old (That's my territory!, Y'all stick with them young girls man! lol)

But I'd get the "ick" from some broad mentioning how she's basically getting that thang smashed and she'll call you later.

She don't to hear about you splacking some 28 year old, why does she think you want to hear about her dealing with another guy?

She's old enough to understand how other people are affected by what she says. She either has no filter, lacks emotional intelligence, or is trying to make herself look good/feel good by saying she's got options.

Classless

Discretion is the word. Honesty is one thing, but being indiscreet is another. I don't think you have to be totally transparent, or a total liar, but something like "don't ask, don't tell/don't be too obvious.

 

[re'up]

I never knew "planning phone calls" was even a thing. Like we are setting up a meeting in the office. I have always treated it as in the moment, I call.... you answer and available, then we talk. But mostly phone calls are for date planning.

Yeah, this is not way it is anymore. I have said this exact same thing on here. I feel like a p*ssy asking someone "if they are free to talk", but that is now a social norm. Feels like some weird corporate shyt. Like that's how you would talk to a lead or a coworker, or a sales call or something. Everything has to go through text first. I still randomly call, but my ego is like I never call/text anyone, so if I fukking call, pick up, but I can't lead with that mindset lol

 

[WIA20XX]

why are we breaking all this shyt down to such atomic levels? can we relax lol

Not casting aspersions, but if cats have enough VOLUME of QUALITY women in their lives, any given chicks poor behavior/poor socialization/"game playing" gets lost in the noise.

You're supposed to see her doing her dumb stuff, like you are an adult watching a little kid play grown up.

Her poor behavior is not threatening or enraging, but cute.

If you want to put a Red Pill coat of paint on it - she acting like she's better than you because she thinks she can do better.
If you want Facebook logic - she's treating you like an option, and not a priority.
You want a get old school with it - the next bus will be here in 15 minutes, you don't need to run after this one.

It all comes back to how dude is moving.

That said, being in shape and having your money right, isn't enough for VOLUME. That's baseline, period. And you should be in shape and make good coin FOR YOUR DAMNSELF. The hottest of the chicks you want can easily get smashed by some gym rat on tinder, or get tricked on by some rich dude on Seeking Arrangement. (even the scalawags have more options than a decent brother)

Can these hoes SEE YOU? And I emphasize HOES as in plural.

Obviously, you gotta pick good weekend spots and - bars, clubs, concerts, hotel bars, restaurant bars, etc.
Obviously you gotta look good for the gram and for the dating apps.
Obviously doing some traveling and seeing what the world has to offer is a bonus, and provides good photos that hoes like...

But What are you doing social wise on a "school night"?

The dude running the poetry slam or setting up the "inter-faith singles group" or speaking at the local Real Estate Investment Club - or basically in a leadership position where hoes be at - he doesn't have to read the tea leaves and then roll the dice hoping for a natural 20 on his next move with some random chick he met at Trader Joe's...

A man's game is weak when it's one-on-one. She has all the power, because she has all the P. You can try and flip it around. And that can be done. You can talk hoes out of their panties BUT, the effort to reward ratio decreases as time goes on.

Now if you're speaking at "leadership conferences" or attending the alumni mixers and starting up group convos - you get on radars.
And instead of trying to smash any of the hotties these places, BEFRIEND THESE HOES AND MEET THEIR FRIENDS. (and smash the friends first, and then run back and smash the first chick...)

Ultimately...

If you don't increase the volume of broads that see you, then your stuck in these tit for tat type games.

As you age, you gotta move past tactics and get to strategy and philosophy.

Level 1 is the Fishing Pole
Level 2 is the Net
Final Level - Having a catfish pond on your property.

 

[jesc07]

Exactly. Here's the thing about phone calls unless they are spontaneous during a time when you aren't busy, you end up planning time around them. So then if she don't have time now you've wasted a block of time and need to figure out how to fill it. You end up unsatisfied cuz you started thinking of all the other shyt you could've planned in the meantime. Some dudes stay up 30 minutes later to talk on the phone. She cant talk? Now you fukked up yo sleep. During your game playing time? Damn now you missed out on you time. I've stopped doing that planned calls shyt and only call if I find I truly dont have shyt to do like driving or waiting for something. Brehs be giving their time to chicks who haven't earned it. Then be mad when the woman prioritizes her time for something else over you

Phone call or facetime>text every time. I used to feel like Bill Bellamy with his rollodex.

Texting is such a drag. You know how many good mornings these hoes are getting lol. If you can't have a decent conversation on the phone then what you gonna talk about in person?

 

[Apollo Creed]

Phone call or facetime>text every time. I used to feel like Bill Bellamy with his rollodex.

Texting is such a drag. You know how many good mornings these hoes are getting lol. If you can't have a decent conversation on the phone then what you gonna talk about in person?

Its all personal preference. As a grown adult unless the person isnt in your city and you keeping things warm yall can just see each other vs pillow talking. If everytime you see a woman is a date then you already lost

 

[jesc07]

Its all personal preference. As a grown adult unless the person isnt in your city and you keeping things warm yall can just see each other vs pillow talking. If everytime you see a woman is a date then you already lost

This is facts

 

[cyndaquil]

Phone call or facetime>text every time. I used to feel like Bill Bellamy with his rollodex.

Texting is such a drag. You know how many good mornings these hoes are getting lol. If you can't have a decent conversation on the phone then what you gonna talk about in person?

It's better in some aspects but it's difficult to do other things while doing it. I'm not worried about the next man and how many good morning texts or whatever she's getting. That's a waste of mental bandwidth for me and something for her to sort through. If she gonna choose me then she gonna choose me. If she dont then she don't. My life still goes on with or without her. There's an alternate timeline I never even knew she existed and that dude is chillin. Folks get so upset when shyt don't work out with chicks early on cuz they lost by allowing her to value her time over theirs. You really think if you weren't already at the top of the men she has interest in that are available to her that a phone call is what will make the difference?

Every chick we want has options and she's actively doing the choosing. We have options too but it involves patience. Dating is just like fishing. Just do what works for your lifestyle and temperament. As I said before I'm not against talking on the phone. Like we all wanna feel like some sort of Casanova but on the real each woman is different sure there's some overarching archetype they usually fall into but it's like tryna beat the market when trading stocks you can have a great strategy to improve your chances it definitely helps but a lot of it is luck and opportunity being at the right place at the right time. Anything like her ex hitting her up, she's depressed after a family member passed, she watched some dumbass podcast the other day and tried out their advice on you, won the lottery, developed a mental illness, etc. In one scenario she could be fukkin with you and the others not so much.

 

[jesc07]

It's better in some aspects but it's difficult to do other things while doing it. I'm not worried about the next man and how many good morning texts or whatever she's getting. That's a waste of mental bandwidth for me and something for her to sort through. If she gonna choose me then she gonna choose me. If she dont then she don't. My life still goes on with or without her. There's an alternate timeline I never even knew she existed and that dude is chillin. Folks get so upset when shyt don't work out with chicks early on cuz they lost by allowing her to value her time over theirs. You really think if you weren't already at the top of the men she has interest in that are available to her that a phone call is what will make the difference?

Every chick we want has options and she's actively doing the choosing. We have options too but it involves patience. Dating is just like fishing. Just do what works for your lifestyle and temperament. As I said before I'm not against talking on the phone. Like we all wanna feel like some sort of Casanova but on the real each woman is different sure there's some overarching archetype they usually fall into but it's like tryna beat the market when trading stocks you can have a great strategy to improve your chances it definitely helps but a lot of it is luck and opportunity being at the right place at the right time. Anything like her ex hitting her up, she's depressed after a family member passed, she watched some dumbass podcast the other day and tried out their advice on you, won the lottery, developed a mental illness, etc. In one scenario she could be fukkin with you and the others not so much.

This aligns more with fate which there isn't anything wrong with that.

But I'm in the business of game.

 

[cyndaquil]

This aligns more with fate which there isn't anything wrong with that.

But I'm in the business of game.

the point is not all bait will catch fish. If you've been fishing for years and you've found a moderately priced bait that has caught you many a fish, why make your pockets broke using a more expensive bait to catch a few more fish? Some days you will catch no fish. That doesn't mean the bait doesnt work anymore but you can still return to fish tomorrow. If you use too expensive bait for you then you will go broke and have to wait until you have enough money to buy the bait again before you go fishing.
If I usually catch 2 fish a day with my normal bait vs 4 fish a day with my more expensive bait but I can only afford to use the more expensive bait twice a week vs everyday with my normal bait
Which one wins out in the long run?

 

[Ohene]

we need to get away from this one size fits all mindset. everyone has different ways of interacting and context/situations are important to consider

Ima say it again