Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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it has begun. She is jealous now and on her period too. 
tryna fukk up my Sundayenh...shes ok
you and i are similar. especially the boldFor sure... when I was in my early - mid 20's...granted at that time I was a man whore playing the field., but I was not immune to the "wholesome narratives" (even characterizing it like that now may be problematic). I figured: few years of fun --> find a "good girl" --> white picket fence life. But the more girls I messed with, the plentiful scandalous situations I found myself in (being the reliable "exciting" side dikk), and then me making my own attempts to pursue the societal "ideal", over time I became disillusioned with the whole concept. I hesitate to use "jaded" , even "disllusioned" has a negative connotation to it, but I ask myself is it being "jaded" or due to my vast sexual experience and my fervour for always philosophically questioning paradigms, whether the monogomy idea of how we follow it has or ever has been the truly viable way? .... I ask it like this because just examining our own gambit of emotions when in relationships we go from desiring the one partner to eventually having a wondering eye. We can dress it up in nice language or whatever, but that speaks to our animalistic intincts of "conquering and reproducing". So as you can see by this little "stream of conciousness" I do think deeply about thus stuff....
in a way i now see marriage as a bit of a cult. i would implore ppl in this thread to ask older men they respect how they feel about marriage or their wives. the answers are eye opening. its more dutiful than anything...and as @Apollo Creed says...why open yourself up to slavedom. if a man is gonna get married it better be to a woman who really "gets it", comes from a good family and worships him at this pt
even during the dating phases, its at a point where if a girl isnt proactively messsaging you, trying to see you, learn about you, cater to you, make plans with you, fukk you, and making it known...dont bother. and when I say you...i mean the real YOU. Not the fabricated, honeymoon version some men use just to get some p*ssy. It has to be on some "jump...how high?" shyt lol
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cyndaquil
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Lol even then there's no guarantee. She could be infatuated with you like you say and switch up her damn self and become insufferable. That shyt is a risk. Let's just keep it a buck. And like with all risks you can win or lose. It'll never be 0 percent
100%. i'm just saying thats the entry point to even consider dating for me at this point. cause when you know what its like for a women to be genuinely interested it is hard to go back to the cat and mouse games some women play (when deep down you know its cause she talking to 10 other dudes)
my last ex, the one i talked about on here...she once told me she thought i was perfect lol. she idealized me and then when she moved in with me she became disillusioned and was insufferable/entitled. and it wasnt like I switched up. in fact she even told me "you werent lying when you told me how you are...i just didnt listen". lol its never a guarantee
but one thing i'll say is that women who come from nuclear households tend to be more grounded in terms of their expectations and understand the ebbs/flows. they seen their parents go through it and understand its just a normal part of relationships - not necessarily grounds for jumping out the window, getting divorced etc. it aint a cheat code but it helps
cyndaquil
Lv 100 Bold natured
You know you dealing with a 40+ year old when she dont know how ig works 
a friend and I just got off the phone. he was updating me about a sitch where a girl hes been smashing and dating went through his phone and saw he was talking to other chicks. my friend started panicking and i told him to chill, that she'd come around, how it might even work in his favor and make her wanna compete.
low and behold thats what happened. at one point she was telling him how she wants to be the only one, and how she has been ignoring other dudes for him - dudes tryna pay her rent and all kinds of shyt. one was a popular nigerian artists' good friend or some shyt and presumably has $
i told him its a good problem to have cause he got quite a few shorties into him. but on the flipside, this girl who hes playing house with right now can easily flip one day and let that dude pay her rent, let some other dude fly her out etc. it might not be now, but it could be 1 year, 3 years, 5 years down the line.
and thats the issue. as a man there is just too much shyt in the atmosphere that you gotta manage or compete with. it makes the idea of a long term situation almost impossible unless the woman isnt out there (both digitally/socially)...on social media, at parties etc.
its also why i said pages ago that the roster shyt usually fizzles out.
it could be some dude who DMs her
it could be some invite she receives to go to some celebs party
it could be someone tryna fly her out
it could be while she on vacation
some dude(s) on dating apps
it could be some relationship meme from @justinlaboy that triggers her
it could be some shyt she saw on a reality show
it could be some bullshyt she sees on tik tok that she tests on you
being stoic or a player is only gonna get you so far. eventually you get tired and burnt out with nothing but wasted time, money and some p*ssy to show for it lol
low and behold thats what happened. at one point she was telling him how she wants to be the only one, and how she has been ignoring other dudes for him - dudes tryna pay her rent and all kinds of shyt. one was a popular nigerian artists' good friend or some shyt and presumably has $
i told him its a good problem to have cause he got quite a few shorties into him. but on the flipside, this girl who hes playing house with right now can easily flip one day and let that dude pay her rent, let some other dude fly her out etc. it might not be now, but it could be 1 year, 3 years, 5 years down the line.
and thats the issue. as a man there is just too much shyt in the atmosphere that you gotta manage or compete with. it makes the idea of a long term situation almost impossible unless the woman isnt out there (both digitally/socially)...on social media, at parties etc.
its also why i said pages ago that the roster shyt usually fizzles out.
it could be some dude who DMs her
it could be some invite she receives to go to some celebs party
it could be someone tryna fly her out
it could be while she on vacation
some dude(s) on dating apps
it could be some relationship meme from @justinlaboy that triggers her
it could be some shyt she saw on a reality show
it could be some bullshyt she sees on tik tok that she tests on you
being stoic or a player is only gonna get you so far. eventually you get tired and burnt out with nothing but wasted time, money and some p*ssy to show for it lol
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cyndaquil
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My ex was the same way. But I think that in and of itself is a red flag. In my case she wasnt disillusioned or once we moved in she maintained all that love but she started showing more of herself and switching up aspects of her life. Deadass would've been my wife but she pushed me away and went down a different path I didn't wanna follow. You know it's interesting because situations like that feel like mini divorces. Crazy being back in the streets but haven't come across anybody who'd make me change my mind about being single yet let alone "wifey material"
But looking back it wasnt like the options were amazing before because it took time before I found my ex too and she wasn't perfect. Dating like anything else in life requires us to fail a fukk ton in order to succeed. It's just unfortunate these chicks keep having kids in the meantime. The biological clock runs so juxtaposed with the delayed life event timelines modern society has set up currently
lol very similar stories. i had every intention to marry that chick too
my ex switched up. maybe subconsciously she felt that she had me and I would never break up with her. maybe she was overwhelmed by being in a new country. she just became very untrusting, argumentative and disagreeable. she was also insanely passive aggressive and fastidious. like you said she showed more of herself.
i remember one time the toilet was flooded at my spot in the morning and I put a sign on it, to not use it so she would know to use the second washroom. i was gonna fix it after work. i get home from work and see this chick added "please" and "thank you" to the note. Little passive aggressive shyt like that would annoy me over time. Like who does that...just go use the other washroom
I agree with the bold. What i notice is that whenever i meet a woman that i have great chemistry with and ultimate attraction to, some shyt always blows it up. It hurt but i know its for the better. And its prolly simply that the girl is talking to multiple dudes / has commitment issues. When i meet the girls with the personality/chemistry, sometimes the attraction just isnt enough. I am dealing with this right now. 10/10 personality but maybe 7/10 attraction. I think most older men have gone through this too. Most men (and prolly women even) dont end up with their first choices.
trap101-ETHout-Allegri-In
Superstar
40+......or is it 50+?.....You know you dealing with a 40+ year old when she dont know how ig works
trap101-ETHout-Allegri-In
Superstar
She pretty much has to be Amish cause if you are living any where cosmopolitan there is just too much stimulus as you mention in examples there.... may not happen today or tomorrow, but nobody can be perfectly steadfast with that much temptation on a regular basis and compound that with the constant societal pressures being imposed.... nobody is infalliable........ "not your girl... just your turn. ".... rings true
The issues are the laws are archaric. If the laws made it where women had skin in the game they wouldnt do what they do now. Marriage family law dont even reflect modern economics let along gender norms
Yea Like i said
Men put in all the resources/effort making these relationships happen
Then take all the risk reputationally and financially usually if it fails
Pretty crazy to think about . A woman has no skin in the game on the front end nor back end. One might say their sacrifice is in having and raising kids but a lot of these women entering these situations for the sole purpose of having kids - to the pt they will go to sperm donors. Crazy
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Tbh that having kids sacrifice is cap. They built to have kids and men built technology to make it easier and safer and they still act a fool lol think about it