Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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The picture thing is due to social media. 15 years ago or so, a naked picture couldn't be so easily taken or given, but also the network to post or send that nude is now right in front of everyone. Now, people do shyt like sending a picture to all the friends and family of the person who took it.

What I think is interesting about pictures, naked or just provocative, is that at some point 10 years ago, it was like if a girl sent you those pictures, she was going to hook up with you. Now, it's almost just a currency that's thrown around sometimes. I think the validation feed back loop became such that taking the picture and sending it, and getting the validation is it's own high, not the sex.
 
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The picture thing is due to social media. 15 years ago or so, a naked picture couldn't be so easily taken or given, but also the network to post or send that nude is now right in front of everyone. Now, people do shyt like sending a picture to all the friends and family of the person who took it.

What I think is interesting about pictures, naked or just provocative, is that at some point 10 years ago, it was like if a girl sent you those pictures, she was going to hook up with you. Now, it's almost just a currency that's thrown around sometimes. I think the validation feed back loop became such that taking the picture and sending it, and getting the validation is it's own high, not the sex.

y'all really trading nudes with hoes? why not just pull up and fukk?

in the modern era era any "frisky" picks I got was unsolicited and sent via vanishing message
 

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y'all really trading nudes with hoes? why not just pull up and fukk?

in the modern era era any "frisky" picks I got was unsolicited and sent via vanishing message

I don't trade nudes lol

but women that I know hit me with pics sometimes, sexy pictures, but not come fukk me pics,
What I am saying is, before, it would have been something like you said above. Now, a lot of it is just the validation and attention. The dopamine hit. Because some of these girls, I haven't slept with, don't sleep with, and it's not like out of the question, but they aren't hitting me like sexy pic at 8:47/WYD

That's another idea I had recently, about the stimulus response and sexuality and text messages. The two things are all mixed up now.
 

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I don't trade nudes lol

but women that I know hit me with pics sometimes, sexy pictures, but not come fukk me pics,
What I am saying is, before, it would have been something like you said above. Now, a lot of it is just the validation and attention. The dopamine hit. Because some of these girls, I haven't slept with, don't sleep with, and it's not like out of the question, but they aren't hitting me like sexy pic at 8:47/WYD

That's another idea I had recently, about the stimulus response and sexuality and text messages. The two things are all mixed up now.

yeah I dont give validation cause I`m like if we talking thats enough validation lol
 

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I need your opinions on this one, cos personally I want to bush her and dead it

I approached this girl in town last week and got the number. We got to texting and it’s been slow.. she reply’s and all, but never asks any follow up questions to keep the conversation going..

reason I haven’t asked her out is, I have an approach which I believe prevents awkward first dates.. when i start texting a new girl and it’s lively, I FaceTime the girl and have a quick conversation to see if the conversation flows over the phone as well, then I proceed to ask them out.

With this girl, shyt is so dull I don’t even want to bother to call.

After writing this, I realize I’m better off just leaving it alone. I’m not trying to pay for a date which ends up being dull :francis:
 

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I need your opinions on this one, cos personally I want to bush her and dead it

I approached this girl in town last week and got the number. We got to texting and it’s been slow.. she reply’s and all, but never asks any follow up questions to keep the conversation going..

reason I haven’t asked her out is, I have an approach which I believe prevents awkward first dates.. when i start texting a new girl and it’s lively, I FaceTime the girl and have a quick conversation to see if the conversation flows over the phone as well, then I proceed to ask them out.

With this girl, shyt is so dull I don’t even want to bother to call.

After writing this, I realize I’m better off just leaving it alone. I’m not trying to pay for a date which ends up being dull :francis:
Agreed, KIM but know she will follow up if you just ghost
 

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I need your opinions on this one, cos personally I want to bush her and dead it

I approached this girl in town last week and got the number. We got to texting and it’s been slow.. she reply’s and all, but never asks any follow up questions to keep the conversation going..

reason I haven’t asked her out is, I have an approach which I believe prevents awkward first dates.. when i start texting a new girl and it’s lively, I FaceTime the girl and have a quick conversation to see if the conversation flows over the phone as well, then I proceed to ask them out.

With this girl, shyt is so dull I don’t even want to bother to call.

After writing this, I realize I’m better off just leaving it alone. I’m not trying to pay for a date which ends up being dull :francis:

You already knew you need to bush her, I assume the real issue is your options are.low.

In a honestly after 3 exchanges if you can't even get a basic "what about.you?" You should be ghosting because that isn't a Convo that is a a standardized test
 

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Y’all need to come to

 
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Y’all need to come to

already there... :myman:
 

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I need your opinions on this one, cos personally I want to bush her and dead it

I approached this girl in town last week and got the number. We got to texting and it’s been slow.. she reply’s and all, but never asks any follow up questions to keep the conversation going..

reason I haven’t asked her out is, I have an approach which I believe prevents awkward first dates.. when i start texting a new girl and it’s lively, I FaceTime the girl and have a quick conversation to see if the conversation flows over the phone as well, then I proceed to ask them out.

With this girl, shyt is so dull I don’t even want to bother to call.

After writing this, I realize I’m better off just leaving it alone. I’m not trying to pay for a date which ends up being dull :francis:

If i get someone's number, I ask them out in person, and the first text I send is almost always asking them out. Don't bother with the banter. Low return on investment. Everyone is going to have them own approach and style, but I usually say something like "I'd love to go out tomorrow night" and name a spot. Just put it on the table like that.

This text and talking period shyt is fukking the game up lol
 
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