Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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CrossBones
Louder than words
as far as the texting issue is concerned, Im not with too much texting unless it is to set up a meeting. I dont do texts for getting to know someone, asking them a bunch of questions, seeing how their day was, flirting, or stuff like that. I prefer a more personal approach for everything. leave that to the phone calls where you can hear their voice and have a mini convo or whatever. texting is good for getting pics though, if you ask me.
but texting is really gold when it comes to setting something up. you ask straight ahead questions and should get straight ahead answers, so you can tell the other person, or they communicate to you, where and when you will be meeting, and thats it. it locks it in, so theres no real excuses or miscommunications about it. its direct and its also specific, two things I like about texting a meeting. everything is there in writing.
but I dont like it for getting personal. everyone starts to appear nicer and more sweetheart like in a text. or even goofy. I like to hear the woman speak to me and I want to be able to push the right buttons in a real time setting, sort of feel her out. rather than just wait for them to answer me back when theyre done reading me, thinking, and then texting back. it feels like you get put on pause, and thats not my type of thing.
but texting is really gold when it comes to setting something up. you ask straight ahead questions and should get straight ahead answers, so you can tell the other person, or they communicate to you, where and when you will be meeting, and thats it. it locks it in, so theres no real excuses or miscommunications about it. its direct and its also specific, two things I like about texting a meeting. everything is there in writing.
but I dont like it for getting personal. everyone starts to appear nicer and more sweetheart like in a text. or even goofy. I like to hear the woman speak to me and I want to be able to push the right buttons in a real time setting, sort of feel her out. rather than just wait for them to answer me back when theyre done reading me, thinking, and then texting back. it feels like you get put on pause, and thats not my type of thing.
T-K-G
Veteran
exactly, it gives them too much time to think and come up with a response that isn't really true to themselves
that and if im texting a bytch 24/7 about everything
what the fukk are we gonna talk about when we meet up in person?
CrossBones
Louder than words
exactly, it gives them too much time to think and come up with a response that isn't really true to them
that and if im texting a bytch 24/7 about everything
and also, to be really real about everything, in my own opinion, its not the same when youre trying to impose your will on a female through a text. at least its not as easy. it feels different trying to flirt, or convince a woman about anything important via a text. its impersonal. and its so easy to turn a request down via a text. I think women get extra flakey when theyre not in your presence, but in person they feel more of that pressure.
when youre speaking to her in person, or by the phone and with her hearing your voice, its easier to get away with some of the shyt that you wanna say to her. and with her hearing you, she automatically starts feeling more closer or intimate. you two start to develop an understanding. texting as a way for main communications, or to find out about a person, just isnt my thing.
thats not to say you need to spend hours chit chatting a girl on the phone, but Im saying I suggest phone calls over text in a lot of situations.
T-K-G
Veteran
and also, to be really real about everything, in my own opinion, its not the same when youre trying to impose your will on a female through a text. at least its not as easy. it feels different trying to flirt, or convince a woman about anything important via a text. its impersonal. and its so easy to turn a request down via a text. I think women get extra flakey when theyre not in your presence, but in person they feel more of that pressure.
truth, i been on an #antitext movement for a lil minute now
along with my #LeagueofLesbians movement but yall nikkas aint ready for that yet
Rocket Scientist
Superstar
No emails,texts or voicemails to a woman (outside of wifey and even that is debatable depending on the person). Emails,Texts,voicemails can destroy you.Honestly talkin to her on the phone,you gotta watch what you say.Less talking and more listening it always works with women.The only thing I care about is are we going out tonight or what 
No emails,texts or voicemails to a woman (outside of wifey and even that is debatable depending on the person). Emails,Texts,voicemails can destroy you.Honestly talkin to her on the phone,you gotta watch what you say.Less talking and more listening it always works with women.The only thing I care about is are we going out tonight or what
especially with these social networks
..I save everything from these women, pics, texts, voicemails.. These biscuit head females not going to try and put me on blast for nothing.Dreamzeedream
Banned
After all the BS and problems some of y'all have been through with females.. y'all don't find it hard to Be faithful or believe in love
True Blue Moon
Superstar
true, but we all know some of em just want to have someone they can get attention from
yea with my original statement i was trying to say that i dont deal with chicks that are afraid to keep it real, most girls i know that are like that have put a gaggle of nikkas in the friendzone, that's why i connected the two
just worded it badly to fit into the context of the convo
I feel you breh. And that's smart not to deal with chicks like that. I'd rather be too real and accidentally step on feelings than BS each other.
T-K-G
Veteran
i never found it hard not to cheat so idk im just not that kind of nikka
at the same time i never had stupid strong feelings for any chick so
Poh SIti Dawn
Staying Positive, Getting Better Everyday. Holler!
If you're in a relationship and you're unfaithful then for 1 you don't respect yourself, being in a relationship and being unfaithful is like going on a diet but still eating fastfood, it doesn't make any sense. 2. You're weak minded if you can't resist temptation, same people cheating on their girlfriends/boyfriends are the same people who are miserable and constant basket cases, upset with themselves drama queens, and a man or woman who cheats consistently has personal issues. In this thread we're encouraging men through empowerment, and being a cheater does not make you powerful, it makes you a coward.
True Blue Moon
Superstar
Nah, breh. Can't take it out on the next one. Just like it's so annoying and tired hearing women rant about "all men are dogs", I don't wanna be that dude. But I also believe that getting fukked over by a chick is a rite of passage into manhood, because it lets you know that the fairytales and keep her happy above all logic they teach us doesn't work. It's the kind of thing you have to see for yourself to believe.
Dreamzeedream
Banned
That's real shir right there breh
True Blue Moon
Superstar
I partially agree, but have a different way of looking at the pet name thing. I don't OD on it, but I'll address a chick I just met in the streets as "love", "sweetheart" etc. A lot of new millennium women act like they're too advanced for things like that and that it's sexist. So I come from a position of power with it, letting her know that no matter how advanced we get, she's still a girl to me.
And on the praise part, I think there's a way to go about it. Don't shower your woman with ass kissing compliments all the time, "baby you're so beautiful" I'd die if you left me" etc. Instead, compliment her on her mind and her decisions. Dudes in the street will just tell her how she looks, so that won't really gas her up. If you play it right, you are giving her compliments as if you're the evaluator, which also gives you the power and credibility to "discipline" her when she does something you don't like. "What were you thinking doing that? That's typical shyt, I expected better."
If you play the compliment and discipline cycle right, you'll have a chick dying to do things you approve of and walking around like
when she is teetering on losing your approval. This can be applied to all facets of a relationship. Gotta set up a situation that what you like and approve of is the prize and will make the relationship better for it. And when they feel "victorious", like they're doing stuff that random birds can't do to make you happy, it can easily be turned into sexual energy based on how you finesse it. Wifey is cooking something right now. Probably bout to get some ass off the strength of my approval of how the food tastes
if you want something from someone and it's a situation where you've decided for yourself that if they don't give you what you want, you walk, do it while your value is high.
i know it sounds very basic but i think we all mess up on that one from time to time.
i know it sounds very basic but i think we all mess up on that one from time to time.