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Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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nikkas in here really saying 30 minutes is too long to talk to a broad 
calm the fukk down yall be on some extremist shyt sometimes i swear.
actin like you gonna have one 30 min convo and then not have anything to talk about ever again
if that's the case then you just a boring ass nikka with no conversational skills and you're trying to hide it by only having 2 minute convos 
eventually you're gonna expose yourself for a lame if that's the case
he definitely doesn't need to do that shyt alot but yall actin like once or twice gonna ruin everything for this man
calm the fukk down yall be on some extremist shyt sometimes i swear.actin like you gonna have one 30 min convo and then not have anything to talk about ever again
if that's the case then you just a boring ass nikka with no conversational skills and you're trying to hide it by only having 2 minute convos eventually you're gonna expose yourself for a lame if that's the casehe definitely doesn't need to do that shyt alot but yall actin like once or twice gonna ruin everything for this man
Had a very, very enlightening day yesterday. Pretty much had some steady thoughts reaffirmed. The dating culture is a toxic environment, but there's good connotations entailed within that complex, as well as bad ones. A lot of people, men and women alike, are superficial and shallow, and are just obsessed with being on the scene.
There's something wrong with every person on this earth, but if someone is on a dating site, I think that there's something wrong with them.
The impact of drugs, once again, is massive. Good lawd. Don't know if this makes sense, but I had to get on the inside, to really, really get a grasp of this shyt. It's a repetitive cycle. There's loads of fun to be had, but there's no real significance.
There's something wrong with every person on this earth, but if someone is on a dating site, I think that there's something wrong with them.
The impact of drugs, once again, is massive. Good lawd. Don't know if this makes sense, but I had to get on the inside, to really, really get a grasp of this shyt. It's a repetitive cycle. There's loads of fun to be had, but there's no real significance.
as far as the whole 30 minutes on the phone debate, what i've learned over the years is that it depends on the vibe you get from the chick and what result you want. there is no rule about a specific amount of time. I think establishing a connection over the phone on the first convo is a good thing and having a long convo is overall good (especially if it's one of those "we've been talking for an hour straight?? 
i didn't even notice!!"). the trick though is that it's better if you're the one who cuts it short. after that, no more long convos unless you want to be her phone BFF.
if you have a good first convo and then just chill without sweating her, you could probably hit on the first night because she'll feel like she knows you PLUS the whole "we won't have anything to talk about" thing will play in your favor. She's also trying to get back that high from the first convo. that connection. maybe it'll be straight sex, no dates or something very low-key. Here's one thing i've learned over the years. When a chick likes you, she is as, if not more nervous than you. She scared that she'll be boring to you and that she won't be able to keep your attention. The difference is that if she starts feeling she has nothing to offer left for your attention, she has that one last resort weapon she thinks you can't say no to (p*ssy). so if she gets a little nervous about this, she'll give it up
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the key thing to remember is that keeping the vibe going is not just your responsibility. it's hers as well. you,re not her court jester. if there's nothing left to say, she's as responsible as you. So yeah, i'm not against long convos the first time. just dont make a habit out of it.
EDIT: and when you go on that first date make it something simple and informal like walking downtown or at the park or a movie. and the first time you see her, act as if she's already your girlfriend mand as if you have already been fukking her for months.
i didn't even notice!!"). the trick though is that it's better if you're the one who cuts it short. after that, no more long convos unless you want to be her phone BFF.if you have a good first convo and then just chill without sweating her, you could probably hit on the first night because she'll feel like she knows you PLUS the whole "we won't have anything to talk about" thing will play in your favor. She's also trying to get back that high from the first convo. that connection. maybe it'll be straight sex, no dates or something very low-key. Here's one thing i've learned over the years. When a chick likes you, she is as, if not more nervous than you. She scared that she'll be boring to you and that she won't be able to keep your attention. The difference is that if she starts feeling she has nothing to offer left for your attention, she has that one last resort weapon she thinks you can't say no to (p*ssy). so if she gets a little nervous about this, she'll give it up
.the key thing to remember is that keeping the vibe going is not just your responsibility. it's hers as well. you,re not her court jester. if there's nothing left to say, she's as responsible as you. So yeah, i'm not against long convos the first time. just dont make a habit out of it.
EDIT: and when you go on that first date make it something simple and informal like walking downtown or at the park or a movie. and the first time you see her, act as if she's already your girlfriend mand as if you have already been fukking her for months.
Forget about hoes, how can I get my hoe to act right? I caught my dude cheating, we got into a fight and broke up over it. This is not the first time I caught him cheating but this fight was worst than any argument we've ever had in the past. He said he's done with me and it's over. I still love him and want to work things out. How can we move forward and rebuild the trust. Why do men cheat when they have a good woman at home?
What can I do specifically to get him back? I read the first three pages of that thread and it offers me no advice
you're in the wrong thread. you should ask you question in the thread i posted and maybe the sisterhood will give you good advice on how to "get your hoe back".
as far as the whole 30 minutes on the phone debate, what i've learned over the years is that it depends on the vibe you get from the chick and what result you want. there is no rule about a specific amount of time. I think establishing a connection over the phone on the first convo is a good thing and having a long convo is overall good (especially if it's one of those "we've been talking for an hour straight??
if you have a good first convo and then just chill without sweating her, you could probably hit on the first night because she'll feel like she knows you PLUS the whole "we won't have anything to talk about" thing will play in your favor. She's also trying to get back that high from the first convo. that connection. maybe it'll be straight sex, no dates or something very low-key. Here's one thing i've learned over the years. When a chick likes you, she is as, if not more nervous than you. She scared that she'll be boring to you and that she won't be able to keep your attention. The difference is that if she starts feeling she has nothing to offer left for your attention, she has that one last resort weapon she thinks you can't say no to (p*ssy). so if she gets a little nervous about this, she'll give it up
the key thing to remember is that keeping the vibe going is not just your responsibility. it's hers as well. you,re not her court jester. if there's nothing left to say, she's as responsible as you. So yeah, i'm not against long convos the first time. just dont make a habit out of it.
EDIT: and when you go on that first date make it something simple and informal like walking downtown or at the park or a movie. and the first time you see her, act as if she's already your girlfriend mand as if you have already been fukking her for months.
I agree with most of what you said. I wouldnt go past an hour but I try it keep it between 30-45 minutes, like tonight when I call her, when I get off the phone with her I will just use the fact that I know she has to work tomorrow so Im going to let her have some "me"/chill time before she goes to bed. I have had 1-2 hour convos on the first phone chat, but never got stuck in the friend zone. My plan is call tonight, give her a call on Tuesday night and set up something for the weekend. On monday I will just text her saying something like "hope you are having a great day...I enjoyed talking to you last night"
The part I disagree with is going to the movies on the first date, I usually leave that for like the 3rd date, unless there is just a movie that she wants to really see bad and she hints that she wants me to take her.
I want a man's perspective
then my advice would be for you to create another thread about your situation because this thread deals with a different topic.
LebronsHairline
AKA Chief Green Leaf
Most men are attention whores to unfortunately
I never got the appeal of the shyt either, then again i prefer to be by myself most times
Reminds me of a story, one of my roomates went to Colorado where he's from and he ended up doin an 8 ball of coke and bustin in some black chick raw...said he woke up and he's never put on his clothes and flown out the door so fast lmao and now there might be a little version of this nikka walkin around. It always amazed me how women let nikkas go up in em raw and i cant count on two hands how many times i could have without the girl saying ANYTHING at all
LebronsHairline
AKA Chief Green Leaf
Because the only thing better than p*ssy...is NEW p*ssy
Don't know the girl you talking about but in general, i'd advise not to say something like that. I know it sounds like the gentleman thing to say and all. But subconsciously, you're putting yourself down in her eyes. you,re devaluing the time she is spending talking to you by telling her whatever she'll be doing while she's having her "me"/chill time is more valuable then your attention. And i'm not saying this will make or break you. all i'm saying is that women will consciously think it's considerate. but subconsciously it lowers your worth to her.
again, don't know the type of vibe you have with her so go with your gut and forget what im saying if it doesn't make sense to you. but from my perspective, you might be doing too much. you already had one long interesting convo with her, then you'll call her again tonight, then you'll send her a text tomorrow wishing her a good day and how much you like talking to her, then you'll call her tuesday to set up a meet...Give her the option of seducing you as well. Give her the space to seduce you. the way you described it, she'll most likely think "this dude is really feeling me hard and it feels like he's scared i might get away". You're giving her all the power and if she's a bytch she'll play you like a simp. even if she's not a bytch she'll feel less attracted to you and think she's higher valuee than you if you're jocking harder than she is. give her space to do her thing with you...again, it depends on your vibe with her, you know what's best for you.
i see what you,re saying. to be frank, if she's feeling you it doesn't really matter. I just like movies in general. And that thing you said about third date is part of the reason i like it early. cause it feels like something couples that have been together for a while do with no pressure. to me that's the point. to establish a vibe where you,re already a couple without saying it. I don't have to say much in a movie. i just share snacks with her, usually buy a jumbo drink and share with her, have my arm around her and just enjoying a movie together. We both feel like we've been together for a year. it establishes a certain familiarity. so sleeping together seems normal. but then if there's nothing to say you don't care cause it's on her as much as it's on you. she'll feel comfy with you but when there's nothing to say and she sees you genuinely don't care, she might wonder if she's boring or uninteresting. so she gives it up to make things interesting again.
different strokes for different folks man. if what you,re doing isn't broke, don't fix it. be who you truly are and keep winning!
you must have missed understood me, tonight will be our first phone conversation, everything so far has been chatting online for the past 4 days. Thats why i said i will keep tonights convo short (ie 30-45 minutes which is short to me) and then hit her up tuesday to set something up for this weekend. I agree with what you are saying about how to get off the phone, so what would you suggest i say when im ready to get off the phone with her tonight. So is the text tomorrow a no go? Should i just make the first convo tonight and then not contact her again until Tuesday
I guess the reason why I play by the call every other day when first meeting someone is because in the past ive had females tell me that me going 2-3 days without contacting/calling them wasnt cool. Its never completely burn me to where we still didnt progress, but i just figured every other day was the way to go, it shows im interested yet im not smothering them with calls and text every day