How to destroy distorted emotional connections
The emotional connection can be forged quickly or can be a slow and meticulous process. However when it becomes distorted it will have you taking back a cheater, abuser, liar and accepting all forms of shadiness while destroying your self-worth as well as overriding your gut / intuition and logical thinking.
It will have you constantly checking up on an ex on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter or whatever form of social media they may utilize continually looking for information and setting you back time and time again. It will allow you to lose your dignity by professing your “love” in long letters and participating in ridiculous “games” to try and win back your former sweetheart. It will have you accepting bread crumbs, disrespect and demotion since as long as you get a hit of them the chain of emotional connection stays attached. It will have you residing in stagnant relationships long past the expiry date and it will water the unpleasant seed of codependency.
So how do you eradicate the emotional connection that has been distorted?
1.Emotional Distance by cutting the cord and leaving no “ins”
A)Total Withdrawal!! Just like how if someone is in the process of dumping you or cutting you out of their life, they slowly make their withdrawal, physically and emotionally……now it is your turn to do the same but totally. The emotional connection will have to starve to death without any form of contact, just like if you have Candida overgrowth by eliminating sugar it will slowly starve the excess Candida.
B)Leaving No “Ins”
If you have roaches in your household, you will take measures to eradicate them. If you call pest control and they spray your property but you still leave food out and crumbs they will continually come back again and again. You have to leave ZERO ins, patch up any openings, leave no crumbs, whether that may be blocking on social media or deactivating it totally, changing your number, being “mean” in the sense you totally ignore, all these steps and maybe more will have to be taken. Remember this is for you! The time is now to put yourself first.
2. Surround yourself with positive people who will continually motivate you!
Breaking the bond can sometimes feel impossible, but when you feel like you are falling having individuals around you to motivate you and attest to your self-worth can be very influential to keep you on the path to eradicating of distortion.
The situations life presents may seem grueling and sadly it may not get easier, but as time goes on it does get easier to adjust and to combat the situations that may present themselves before you. Nothing is impossible!!