Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[EA]

For the fellas who want to eventually get married or to the fellas who have already been married, how would you propose when that time comes. Would it be in a public place or somewhere where its just the 2 of you,

I definitely think proposals should be just between you and the girl. That way, you're more likely to get a genuine reaction.

 

[Mr210]

I definitely think proposals should be just between you and the girl. That way, you're more likely to get a genuine reaction.

I agree

 

[PrnzHakeem]

Some of yall worrying too much about if a chick text you back. Why not call her on the phone and ask the chick directly? That way there is no way she can use that "I never got your text bullshyt", no way she can screenshot and show her girls on some "LoLz, luk at dis ThirsTy nikka. SMH."

I feel like some of yall hiding behind technology

 

[Mr210]

Some of yall worrying too much about if a chick text you back. Why not call her on the phone and ask the chick directly? That way there is no way she can use that "I never got your text bullshyt", no way she can screenshot and show her girls on some "LoLz, luk at dis ThirsTy nikka. SMH."

I feel like some of yall hiding behind technology

cosign, I dont be doing that back and forth texting

 

[Ohene]

Some of yall worrying too much about if a chick text you back. Why not call her on the phone and ask the chick directly? That way there is no way she can use that "I never got your text bullshyt", no way she can screenshot and show her girls on some "LoLz, luk at dis ThirsTy nikka. SMH."

I feel like some of yall hiding behind technology

i agree. but nowadays many people feel phone calls are intrusive

 

[Mr210]

i agree. but nowadays many people feel phone calls are intrusive

who thinks that and why?

 

[Ohene]

who thinks that and why?

lol the younger generation. I'm 23. You older heads dont know how these new age chicks are...pretty much age 24 and below.

yall came up during an era where getting a girls number meant something because she would have to wait by the phone to pick up before her mom and pops did and would have your undivided attn. Its a different ball game now. I;ve gotten a girl's number and asked a girl-friend should I call or text? They almost unanimously say that calling is creepy when you dont know the guy.

People lack communication skills and girls are especially timid. Guys will do anything to get a women whether its buying designer clothes, financing a whip, putting rims on the whip, travelling between cities etc., doing a uturn at the red light, getting drunk at the club etc. You think if girls nowadays liked talking on the phone that guys wouldnt call them?

Think about it brehs. its the girls hiding behind technology not us.

 

[PrnzHakeem]

i agree. but nowadays many people feel phone calls are intrusive

No, phone calls are personal. If you are trying to date someone and they would rather hide behind a wall of text, something wrong with them. Just my opinion.

I'm an older cat than most of you though, unlimited texting wasnt a thing until I had already graduated college. You talked a to a chick, asked her to kick it. If I ever heard hesitation in her voice, I retracted my invitation and that usually deaded things on the spot. Low tolerance for dealing with wishy washy females.

 

[Ohene]

No, phone calls are personal. If you are trying to date someone and they would rather hide behind a wall of text, something wrong with them. Just my opinion.

I'm an older cat than most of you though, unlimited texting wasnt a thing until I had already graduated college. You talked a to a chick, asked her to kick it. If I ever heard hesitation in her voice, I retracted my invitation and that usually deaded things on the spot. Low tolerance for dealing with wishy washy females.

see my post above

 

[PrnzHakeem]

lol the younger generation. I'm 23. You older heads dont know how these new age chicks are...pretty much age 24 and below.

yall came up during an era where getting a girls number meant something because she would have to wait by the phone to pick up before her mom and pops did and would have your undivided attn. Its a different ball game now. I;ve gotten a girl's number and asked a girl-friend should I call or text? They almost unanimously say that calling is creepy when you dont know the guy.

People lack communication skills and girls are especially timid. Guys will do anything to get a women whether its buying designer clothes, financing a whip, putting rims on the whip, travelling between cities etc., doing a uturn at the red light, getting drunk at the club etc. You think if girls nowadays liked talking on the phone that guys wouldnt call them?

Think about it brehs. its the girls hiding behind technology not us.

You gotta find chicks that match your wave. If you'd rather have conversations, then you put that out there when you meet a chick. If she wit it, cool. If not, bushes. Seems like yall be 2-3 weeks deep into hollering at a chick before you realize yall communication preferences don't match up. And then you end up making excuses for her when she don't respond to your way of communicating.

That's madness, brehs

 

[Ohene]

You gotta find chicks that match your wave. If you'd rather have conversations, then you put that out there when you meet a chick. If she wit it, cool. If not, bushes. Seems like yall be 2-3 weeks deep into hollering at a chick before you realize yall communication preferences don't match up. And then you end up making excuses for her when she don't respond to your way of communicating.

That's madness, brehs

no doubt breh.

 

[Atlrocafella]

Some of yall worrying too much about if a chick text you back. Why not call her on the phone and ask the chick directly? That way there is no way she can use that "I never got your text bullshyt", no way she can screenshot and show her girls on some "LoLz, luk at dis ThirsTy nikka. SMH."

I feel like some of yall hiding behind technology

Cosign, niccas out here having textual relations with these women, giving them too much ammo to put you on that summer jam screen. If it's not to set up a meet up or get some quick information, I'm not wasting time.

 

[The ADD]

 

[MikelArteta]

My husband and I have been together for 8 years and married for 2. He is the most loving and caring person I have ever met and is the first person to love me unconditionally. I love him with all my heart and always will.

I still cheated. 9 months ago I cheated with a mutual friend whilst my husband was asleep in our bedroom. Two weeks later I met up with the guy and did it again. I disgustingly allowed my husband to drive me to the tram stop and pick me up when I was meeting this OM. We also exchanged sexual text messages and emails. These stopped after a few weeks and then restarted again a few months later. Whilst I didn't want to meet up with the OM again I engaged in flirtatious and sexual messages because I was fearful that he would tell my husband. Thankfully, the messages just stopped by me just being courteous and pretending like nothing happened and going back to how we interacted before we had slept together.
Then, my husband and I decided to try for a baby, we had worked very hard and sacrificed a lot for many years so we could be in a position to raise a child, and now we are. I became pregnant very quickly and was over joyed. Yes I was feeling guilty before I became pregnant, but continued to justify not coming clean to my husband by saying "I deserved this guilt, I need to live with it and I can not risk causing him so much pain".

When I became pregnant however, I was consumed with guilt and anxiety. I would look and my husband and be disgusted with myself at what I had done. I still kept it from him for three more months. I promised I would be the wife he deserved me to be, and actively made changes to improve our relationship (although constant morning sickness got in the way a little). As my health began to suffer I became worried about our baby's health and realised I needed to show my husband the respect I didn't show him when I strayed. I knew that for us to be a strong and healthy family, I needed to be open and honest with him. I told him what I had done 3 days ago and understandably he is devastated.

I could talk about how I cheated because; our sex life at home wasn't great, or because of my lack of self worth, respect and self-esteem[b/] but I know that none of these can justify my hurting the most important person in my life.
He has agreed to go to counselling and we have an appointment in a few days. I know it is I that have put us in this position and I am willing to work at changing my behaviour and becoming the wife I want to be. I want to explore the reasons why I did this and overcome them so that he will eventually regain trust and love for me. I am prepared to do what it takes to rebuild our marriage.

I am distraught at the pain, hurt and anger I have caused him and can't begin to understand how much he must hate me right now. Thought of this being on his mind daily and effecting his sleep is killing me and I can't imagine what it is like for him.
I am writing a journal directed at him daily, to demonstrate my remorse and express what I will do to get us through this. He says he does still love me and wants to be with me. He hasn't read the journal yet and I understand that at the minute what it is, is just "words" and that it is my behaviour that will prove I am remorseful and have learnt from my mistakes. I am telling him constantly that I love him, how special he is and how much he means to me. I am showing him affection, which at times is rejected and I understand why. I have and will continue to be open and honest with the questions he has as I know we need to do this if we are to move forward, despite the my shame, disgust and embarrassment. I am asking him a lot if he wishes to talk about it, or has any questions.

I so desperately want to be able to help him heal and re-build our marriage but I am not sure how best to go about it. Am I doing the right things?
I look at him daily and realise how wonderful a father he will be and I want us to be able to raise our child together in a loving happy home. I have realised the selfless love he has always given and how so very important he is to me. I know I did wrong and people are right to judge me, but any advice you have on what I need to do to help him through this would be really
appreciated.

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/rom...rships/infidelity/498243-i-cheated-my-husband
be a good husband brehs

 

[Benjamin Sisko]

I won't worry about it. That shyt wouldn't stop me from pursuing a woman whom I deem attractive. Take your chance, and see how far it goes. It doesn't hurt to try.

and I'm taller than six feet. Sounds like an entitled shallow bytch.

And the thing is I'm 6'1 so i ant worried about height, just like @karim says she's seems real shallow and tacky ugh