Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[kevm3]

This all goes back to that point we've been making earlier. Your exclusivity is to be WON. You don't rush to give it away by accepting any kind of woman that steps to the plate.

You simply have to enjoy being single and you have to be complete before entering a relationship. By enjoying being single, I'm not talking about going around sleeping with as many women as possible, but more along the line that you are able to enjoy life to a high degree without even dealing with a woman. Your hobbies, your job, and all of that are something that really keeps you occupied and challenged. This is so you do not end up looking for completion and fulfillment for some void in your life in a woman, and thus overlook a ton of bad behavior, which will make that void you were trying to fill widen tremendously.

Do NOT accept bad behavior from a woman. If a man feels like he can't live without the presence of a woman, he really needs to work on himself. A man of value will only accept HIGH QUALITY behavior and time with a woman. You cannot control what a woman does, but you can control what behavior you will and won't accept if she is to be in your presence. This is a mind game as much as it is a heart game. If you don't have your mind right, your emotions will have you accepting and making excuses for a lot of these women just because she is fine or because you've gotten addicted to her seduction. Accepting bad behavior is a no-no, and sometimes you will even have to override your emotions to eliminate improper behavior from entering your life.

 

[<<TheStandard>>]

I suggest every man date a female he is not attracted to, at least once in his life.

You will get to experience the mind of a female without attraction to cloud your judgment.

Remember the ways you treated that female, & apply it to every female you date from then on regardless of how gorgeous she is.

This is the realest thing ever....

I noticed I would act completely different towards females I were attracted to. Straight up simp behavior.....Attraction truly clouds your judgement. Man, the way I've treated some females I weren't really attracted to had them falling in love.

 

[Sharp]

It all goes back to the fact that a woman will do what you allow.

They instinctively test their boundaries with a man, especially in the beginning, to see what kind of man they are dealing with. If you're a pushover, you'll be eaten alive.

A Pushover is a man who has a hard time saying no to his woman because he's been programmed to believe that his purpose in a relationship is to make his woman happy at all costs. The difference between a Pushover and a Simp is that Pushovers aren't necessarily sweating the women they are with, they are just too nice to the women, even when they don't deserve it.

Woman will continually test you until they break you down. And for the mostpart, a majority of married men are broken down. Even when I was married, I got broke down. You get so tired of arguing and getting tested that you starting compromising just to keep the peace. Women are counting on this.

All woman will test you, but you can minimize how much a woman decides to test you, by staying true to your principles and never being afraid to leave her when she gets out of line. if something she does is not okay, don't tell her that it is or that you don't mind.

 

[Rich Spirit]

This is the realest thing ever....

I noticed I would act completely different towards females I were attracted to. Straight up simp behavior.....Attraction truly clouds your judgement. Man, the way I've treated some females I weren't really attracted to had them falling in love.

same shyt that be happening to me

 

[Malikthegod]

Got a lil situation breh's. This chick I used to kick it with back when I lived in Atl hit me up a couple days ago and said "If I go out there to visit, can I stay with you?"
Now before I go on, back while we were kicking it we did everything EXCEPT me smash because she was on some ol' "I'm not giving this {()} up to anyone" type ish

I was like but I still kicked it with her because she was a cool chick. For instance, the first time we went to chill we went to the gun range and had a good time, then she invited me back to her crib and told me to relax while she cooked for me.

Well anyways fast forward, so she aks me and I'm like yeah cool you can stay. In the back of my mind I was thinking she's just using me so she won't have to pay for a hotel, BUT she was also cool so I was like eff it....The she is like "Can my homegirl come with? "

I'm like I'm like sure she can COME WITH YOU, but she's not staying at my crib, idk that ho. SMH. She tried to be slick and slide that in after I agreed. So then she started pleading with me & so I was like "If me and my homeboy went out there you'd let BOTH of us crash at your crib? And she was like "Yeah, because I know what type of person you are..."

Anyways, even though my intention to smash wasn't the sole reason I agreed to her stay at my crib, I know I can pretty much throw that out the window because I'm 99% sure he girl will cockblock.

In the end I agreed for them to come, and she said she will cook and clean for me while she is staying at my house. I told her that I have an air mattress and a couch they can crash on and she was like I'll sleep in the bed with you. I'm like "I'm good off that" I wasn't about to let her use sex as a bargaining chip. She did agree to cook and clean my crib while she is here but IDK....I still feel like I'm losing. You fellas think I should ask her for bread or something? Or renege and tell her she can't stay here?

 

[kevm3]

It all goes back to the fact that a woman will do what you allow.

They instinctively test their boundaries with a man, especially in the beginning, to see what kind of man they are dealing with. If you're a pushover, you'll be eaten alive.

A Pushover is a man who has a hard time saying no to his woman because he's been programmed to believe that his purpose in a relationship is to make his woman happy at all costs. The difference between a Pushover and a Simp is that Pushovers aren't necessarily sweating the women they are with, they are just too nice to the women, even when they don't deserve it.

Woman will continually test you until they break you down. And for the mostpart, a majority of married men are broken down. Even when I was married, I got broke down. You get so tired of arguing and getting tested that you starting compromising just to keep the peace. Women are counting on this.

All woman will test you, but you can minimize how much a woman decides to test you, by staying true to your principles and never being afraid to leave her when she gets out of line. if something she does is not okay, don't tell her that it is or that you don't mind.

This is the exact reason why I advise to develop a quick boot and punt these sorry females that want to push boundaries... and it's very important to develop intense screening processes to weed out women who choose to play games so you can get them out of your life before they start becoming rooted.

Me, personally, I find that life has way enough drama, trials and tribulations as is. Why would I want to deal with someone who willingly chooses to fabricate drama? I don't see what sense it makes to actively come in with disrespectful behavior to see how far you can push things in a negative direction, but this is what a lot of females do. They will come ask you things like can I go to this club, can I chill with my 'male homie' or can I do some other activity that isn't conducive to a relationship working and they KNOW the answer... but they do it anyways just to see how you react... and if you say no, they may try to argue about it, even though they know what they are doing is wrong. My solution?

The man that will lose is the man that cedes... that says, "Okay baby, whatever you want to do" in reply to some out of pocket, out of line behavior to avoid losing her or to avoid confrontation. If she is in the wrong, do NOT ever cosign it. Screw her emotions and how she might react... she wasn't thinking about yours when she brought up that disrespectful behavior or suggestion up to you. And DO NOT argue with her over it. Tell her no, and if she keeps pressing, just let her know, if you want to be in a relationship with me, we're going to do things the right way. You want to play single woman, then you can go be single. That's it.

Your peace of mind as a man must ALWAYS be more important than keeping around some woman. The moment she starts disturbing your overall peace of mind, then it's time for her to go.

Obviously men and women will have disagreements, but when she starts engaging in patterns of behavior that she refuses to change that greatly disturb you, or just outright disrespectful behavior, time to cut it loose.

The difference between a low quality one and a high quality one is with the latter, you are at ease and you actually look forward to your day. The low quality woman will have you 'in a haze of funk'. You all know what that haze is... it's a sort of feeling of anger and regret that just clouds your being for the majority of the day... that just has you walking around muttering, "Man I know she did not just ask me that. I know she just didn't do that." If the first emotion you feel when you think about the woman you are dealing with is some sour emotion, whether it's anger at what she's doing or fear of what you think she might be doing, that's just a situation you don't need to be in.

 

[Ohene]

I suggest every man date a female he is not attracted to, at least once in his life.

You will get to experience the mind of a female without attraction to cloud your judgment.

Remember the ways you treated that female, & apply it to every female you date from then on regardless of how gorgeous she is.

Good shyt breh

 

[kevm3]

Got a lil situation breh's. This chick I used to kick it with back when I lived in Atl hit me up a couple days ago and said "If I go out there to visit, can I stay with you?"
Now before I go on, back while we were kicking it we did everything EXCEPT me smash because she was on some ol' "I'm not giving this {()} up to anyone" type ish

I was like but I still kicked it with her because she was a cool chick. For instance, the first time we went to chill we went to the gun range and had a good time, then she invited me back to her crib and told me to relax while she cooked for me.

Well anyways fast forward, so she aks me and I'm like yeah cool you can stay. In the back of my mind I was thinking she's just using me so she won't have to pay for a hotel, BUT she was also cool so I was like eff it....The she is like "Can my homegirl come with? "

I'm like I'm like sure she can COME WITH YOU, but she's not staying at my crib, idk that ho. SMH. She tried to be slick and slide that in after I agreed. So then she started pleading with me & so I was like "If me and my homeboy went out there you'd let BOTH of us crash at your crib? And she was like "Yeah, because I know what type of person you are..."

Anyways, even though my intention to smash wasn't the sole reason I agreed to her stay at my crib, I know I can pretty much throw that out the window because I'm 99% sure he girl will cockblock.

In the end I agreed for them to come, and she said she will cook and clean for me while she is staying at my house. I told her that I have an air mattress and a couch they can crash on and she was like I'll sleep in the bed with you. I'm like "I'm good off that" I wasn't about to let her use sex as a bargaining chip. She did agree to cook and clean my crib while she is here but IDK....I still feel like I'm losing. You fellas think I should ask her for bread or something? Or renege and tell her she can't stay here?

What is she even going down to the ATL for? I know it's not to visit family, because she would be able to stay with them. What I'm REALLY thinking she's going to do is obviously head down there and use your crib so that her and her homegirl can sleep for free, but she probably already has some dude she is in contact with and is planning to see. She might pop in your crib whenever she feels like it, but be spending time kicking it with that dude. You ask her what she is coming down for, "Oh, just to see some sights and have fun."

 

[Malikthegod]

^ that's exactly what she said (just to have a good time because it's going to be her birthday, and she always wanted to visit TX) and that's EXACTLY what I thought too. Like she probably met some married dude and is going to get the brakes beat off her. I'm not trying to be a rest haven. I already told her she's not allowed to bring ANY dudes to my crib, and she is going to have to rent her own car because I have my own stuff going on and I'm not trying to be her tour guide. She was like we're hardly going to be there at all, just to sleep. But still I feel like I'm in a "haze funk" like why did I agree to letting her stay with me for 3 days?

 

[winb83]

I mean this is just me

but i dont care if she does as long as it aint a habit. I know for the most part a female going out gonna drink, flirt and dance with a guy at the club but i dont dwell on that shyt either

It aint worth it. my thing has always been if she gonna go out and have fun cool but if she doing something at the club she aint suppose too. HER LOST NOT MINES WHEN I CUT HER ASS

I realize if you even try to prevent her from going to club and she does DISRESPECTFUL things while she is out at the club she gonna do it elsewhere even if she dont go to club anymore and YOU CANT PREVENT IT NO MATTER WHAT. its gonna happen eventually just a matter of WHEN

If a female gonna do shyt like that SHE AINT WORTH MY TIME PERIOD.

Line in the sand if she's in a relationship and she goes to the club its time to drop her. There's nothing good at the club and people in relationships have no business there. This is one of those things that if you accept it you're headed down a slippery slope that probably leads to her fukking around on you.

 

[sixsixtwo]

If you allow yourself to be the beta male husband product in the carousel gift shop, please turn in your man card. No amount of Christianity, doing the right thing, ethics, morals, or oneitis talk can redeem your sorry soul.

I’m hereby ramping up the anti-mangina, anti-marriage rhetoric at UMan. To those who venture on to this hallowed blog and attempt to promote or defend the marital assault on American men, I will verbally beat your sorry ass as long as I can find you.

You've been warned.


UMan - blog - Exit through the carousel gift shop.

 

[MikelArteta]

"Never add her to facebook, never google her name, never ask her friends questions about her, and never go through her phone. If you do, 99% of the time you won&#8217;t like what you see or hear. Just relax and enjoy her company until she finds someone better to do. Maintain this frame, and you&#8217;ll be the first call she makes when she breaks up with her new boyfriend. Then you can welcome her back with open arms, assign her a place in your harem, and carry on like a champ."

 

[MikelArteta]

^ that's exactly what she said (just to have a good time because it's going to be her birthday, and she always wanted to visit TX) and that's EXACTLY what I thought too. Like she probably met some married dude and is going to get the brakes beat off her. I'm not trying to be a rest haven. I already told her she's not allowed to bring ANY dudes to my crib, and she is going to have to rent her own car because I have my own stuff going on and I'm not trying to be her tour guide. She was like we're hardly going to be there at all, just to sleep. But still I feel like I'm in a "haze funk" like why did I agree to letting her stay with me for 3 days?

Should have told get Hotwire breh, if there is one thing I won't be is a "friend of convenience" to a chick.

 

[Ohene]

I know we may be beefing or whatever but i want your opinion on this since you seem knowledgable. I was out with a girl i been seeing for a few weeks and we were walking while i read sports stats on my phone and some dude walked by and she said "wow he's cute" i gave no reaction. i noticed though through the corner of my eye as she said it she looked at me to see how i'd respond and that bugged me...I recently deduced that she was trying to get attention and was willing to play childish games and she was no longer worth my time. I deleted her number and have been ignoring her texts for about 4 days. My friends say i went too hard on her but alot of them i would consider simps...What y'all think?

100 Proof my nikka

 

[semtex]

I know we may be beefing or whatever but i want your opinion on this since you seem knowledgable. I was out with a girl i been seeing for a few weeks and we were walking while i read sports stats on my phone and some dude walked by and she said "wow he's cute" i gave no reaction. i noticed though through the corner of my eye as she said it she looked at me to see how i'd respond and that bugged me...I recently deduced that she was trying to get attention and was willing to play childish games and she was no longer worth my time. I deleted her number and have been ignoring her texts for about 4 days. My friends say i went too hard on her but alot of them i would consider simps...What y'all think?

U did the right thing. The quicker you get rid of shyt like that the better. Taking the bait when girls fish for a reaction is a rookie move. It took a court date for me to learn my lesson.