Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

FLYINHAWAIIAN

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Don't start actin clingy my nikka... if u do then :ufdup:

That's a lot of time spent together, especially in a stress filed environment like work. Some women like their space just as much as men do. It's only been a month so take it slow breh. I would never date a girl I work with especially if I see her there every weekday.



You right fam... Ima have to put her in her place next time we meet up :demonic:(not in a murderous elliot rodgers way tho) :huhldup:

:snoop:

why is you planning to meet up in the first place breh?
Put her in her place by charging her to the game.
You gotta show her she doesn't matter, not tell her.
 

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:beli: that's the type of shyt she likes and it's not like it's physicaly excruciating or takin money outta my pocket. not like im settin up a picnic in the park wit wine and flowers and shyt.

that's not the point.
I'm saying why do romantic. Things. With a chick that's not yours? fukk what. She likes
 

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So my girl hit me with some shyt today...

So today we had plans to go to a movie with a homie of mine.. Me n my girl work together at the same place n an argument happened which resulted in her canceling completely n saying she's not going at all...

So I then asked if she still wanted to kick it, no movies... She said no...


So I asked her.. Be 100 with me n tell me wasup.. It seems like u don't care if we spend anytime together n this is what she sent back

"I do care..... But look I was single for a while right I see everyday day at work I'm with u every weds nd all my weekends I spend with u since we been dating.... I'm not saying I don't like being with U i do your my bf... let me miss u"


Now I'll be honest I kinda get where she's coming from, I shouldn't EXPECT her to spend every weekend with me, but there's something in the text I don't like... I can't place my finger on it tho..


A lil more background

- I work with her 5 days a week for 8 hours n see her almost the whole time at work

-due to school n her schedule we usually spend every weds together, and then sometimes Friday n she almost always spends the night on Saturday

-we've been dating since sept, but we've been official for a month now...



@kevm3 @Emperor_ReinScarf
That's why I would never date a co-worker
 

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@Nuke Dukem

The staying connected to your friends is a challenge any men in a relationship has to go through, it's 100% wrong to dead your friends but at he same time you have to stay connected to your girl. Your friends will understand this at the first part of your relationship but don't be ashamed to make time for your friends. Because sadly, if you break up, your girl isn't going to be there for you, your friends will always be there for you.

Don't feel guilty for hanging out with your friends every now and then, I'm not saying hang out with them everyday and all the time and thing but every now and then you need to because they are your friends. You need to set that precedent early in your relationship that you still have friends and still need to bond with them. I used to feel guilty for hanging out with my friends sometimes but now I know it's for the best, they are MY friends and will always be there for me and also your girlfriend will respect you more, and she will miss you more.
 

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Man check this out brehs... this girl was supposed to have me come over last week and she was gonna cook for me/watch movies and what not, but she cancels last minute cause she had to work late... I say that's cool but you owe me and she says I know. So I'm talkin to her today and she's like so lets do somethin on your next day off, and I'm thinkin she's gonna make it up by cookin for me but it seems like she wants me to take her out and shyt. I wouldn't mind that but a nikka just paid his last tuition installment and I got like $2.17 in my account (forreal im broke than a bytch). :wow: I ask her what she wanna do, she says "I'm not picky" :stopitslime: and I say yeah right im gonna need some ideas and now she hasn't hit me back yet. This some bullshyt brehs... why do girls always be goin back on promises with no problem but if I were to pull the same shyt it would be fukkin WW3.

first off, why you trying to court a women when you have $2.17 in your bank account

second, you lead, do whatever the hell you want, if she don't wanna chill with you she aint even worth your time and your throw her over the canyon into the god damn bushes
 

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Gonna have to drop this girl, but i feel mad guilty. For lack of a better word this bytch is too goofy, I ain't super serious but damn. Although the cooperation in the beginning was cool but the buzzwords pointing towards a relationship right now is turning me off, especially as i met her off tinder :what:

Lesson learnt, least I'm starting to know what I want.
 

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I'm working on getting past my approach anxiety. I'm a bit of a home body, cause I like spending my time doing dev work, reading, and playing video games. But I think I wanna spend a month working on my approach anxiety. What are good places to go to just practice talking to ladies?

I am actually thinking about picking up some type of acting/improv class just to improve being in random conversations, I'm thinking that should help A) improve me as a person, and B) help me meet some different, non developer people. Right?

BTW I'm in NJ, so if there are specific spot in NJ or NYC, let me know.

Thanks.
 

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Women want and need to be taken. It is a biological imperative. Once you get past the hard exterior they are almost always soft inside and I ain't talkin bout that tHang. Just be a man and handle your biz and the :ohlawd: will flow.
 

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I'm working on getting past my approach anxiety. I'm a bit of a home body, cause I like spending my time doing dev work, reading, and playing video games. But I think I wanna spend a month working on my approach anxiety. What are good places to go to just practice talking to ladies?

I am actually thinking about picking up some type of acting/improv class just to improve being in random conversations, I'm thinking that should help A) improve me as a person, and B) help me meet some different, non developer people. Right?

BTW I'm in NJ, so if there are specific spot in NJ or NYC, let me know.

Thanks.
This is a start

http://www.fearbuster.com/100-days-of-rejection-therapy/

I am going through 100 days of Rejection Therapy, aiming to make 100 crazy requests to get rejected. My goal is to desensitize myself from the pain of rejection and overcome my fear.

Basically this Asian breh asks people to do things for him so he can get over approach anxiety and does it once a day for 100 days.

Here's all 100 videos

https://www.youtube.com/user/DukieAjah/videos?flow=grid&view=0&sort=da
 

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This is a start

http://www.fearbuster.com/100-days-of-rejection-therapy/



Basically this Asian breh asks people to do things for him so he can get over approach anxiety and does it once a day for 100 days.

Here's all 100 videos

https://www.youtube.com/user/DukieAjah/videos?flow=grid&view=0&sort=da
That's pretty cool. After a couple days he starts actually having conversations and not just only getting his rejections. I like some of those. I probably couldn't pull off the soccer in the stranger's backyard though. I'm a black male between the height of 5'2 and 6'8, lol.
 

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first off, why you trying to court a women when you have $2.17 in your bank account

second, you lead, do whatever the hell you want, if she don't wanna chill with you she aint even worth your time and your throw her over the canyon into the god damn bushes

i just paid my tuition. i work, i just don't get paid again till thursday and i ain't bout to dip into my savings for a female who ain't my gal. parents did me dirty on the tuition payment this month and i went ahead and paid my rent off til februay:mjcry:we gon kick it at her crib today, ill report back wit the results.

that's not the point.
I'm saying why do romantic. Things. With a chick that's not yours? fukk what. She likes

not takin anything a nikka who looks like the Pillsbury Dough Boy says seriously. My body count easily triple yours fam :camby:


On a side note, got 3 numbers this morning at the gym/grocery store and 2 of em approached me. [migos voice] cant believe it [/migos voice] :blessed:
 

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Im currently talking to a girl that pretty much could be my wife...fits the criteria in literally all facets...but the vanity one...

face is a 10, personality 10, lifestyle 10, morals 10, just everything you would want in a girl

body is a 2: no ass, no titties, skinny legs...

I just cant shake that off...it seems petty but, should I let her go because I want a thicker chick?
 

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Im currently talking to a girl that pretty much could be my wife...fits the criteria in literally all facets...but the vanity one...

face is a 10, personality 10, lifestyle 10, morals 10, just everything you would want in a girl

body is a 2: no ass, no titties, skinny legs...

I just cant shake that off...it seems petty but, should I let her go because I want a thicker chick?
2 Chainz voice "BOUGHT MY BOO BIGGER t*ts N A BIGGER ASS"
 
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