Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MikelArteta]

That gospel

And its true if a woman wants to be with you or in your life there is absolutely nothing you have to do. Just live your life and if they leave shrugs there is the door you'll be fine.

 

[MikelArteta]

I see post on

Getting a girl

&

Getting over a girl..


Any advice on maintaing a relationship once you get the girl you wanted??

Like kevm3 said be yourself when you morph into a different character, ala the alooft mysterious guy, the funny a$$hole etc. instead of what you truely are you may procure her services for a little while but when you get comfortable and become the real you then you changed.

It's always better to be yourself and have a take it or leave it approach, maybe you will get less women but those women will like you for you.

As well just enjoy it and realize it's out of your control if she falls out of lust, love with you, there is nothing you can do or games you can pull to keep a woman around if she doesn't want to be around.

She can be into you today and truly mean everything she says and tomorrow her heart is ice cold to you

To me it's out of your control as long as you continue being who you are don't simp, demand respect, don't cheat everything else is out of your hand. If she wants to be there she will.

 

[MikelArteta]

another week...another girl checked out ..

man .. i don't even worry no more why these girls stop replying or all of a sudden go cold. Just last week it was all good..shorty hitting me up with "oh sweetheart i miss u .. can't wait to see you " to this week where there's no noise from her end and i ask her if she's free and i all got was "no" ..

i ain't catching no feelings over these broads anyway but i'm really starting to think that i'm attracting the wrong type of women. i always somehow find low class women that just wanna smoke weed and work retail somewhere with no ambition.



damn maybe i should have read this before posting .. but anyways..

man those bring back memories. When there was no roster and i was so thirsty..i would keep thinking of the one girl that got away and kept repeating things in my mind over and over and over again. Things like "oh i think i fukked it up cause of XXX" or "oh man i should have done this or took her somewhere else" ..

Looking back, all i could do is laugh at my self. Why did i give myself unnecessary stress over things i cannot control. If you did your thing and tried to show her a good time and she ain't reciprocate then :meh: and .. it's an important principle you mentioned .. Remember before you knew her your life was fine and it will be fine after, thers nothing "special" about her.

the sooner you stop putting women on pedestal the quicker you can move on and focus on the next one. There's no concept as "the one that got away" .. why not think of it as "the one that got away so you can find the better one".

one day you will reach a stage where you don't even need a roster, to be fine if a chick walks out or get cold and distant, I call it the master jedi

the padawan braid will be cut one day breh

 

[The Mad Titan]

That's the exact thing. Men end up getting 'emotionally hooked' as if they were on a drug. They were enjoying life prior to this woman, they got hooked, she leaves, and they go through those emotional withdrawal symptoms. You'll be fine if any woman leaves, especially if you don't allow yourself to get overly attached in the first place.

Men simply have to realize the kind of age we're living in. We're in an age where average women can and will be flooded with attention at the drop of a dime. Most of them are always talking to numerous dudes, fielding options, even if they are with someone. They get bored of option 2, 3 or 4? Then they pop back up in your life a week later like, "I missed u sweetie!" More like her other options aren't paying her attention anymore or she just wants some new flavor.

There's only a handful of quality women out there who you can build with, which is why we say repeatedly in this thread, don't throw that away. If a guy wants to trade a loyal woman for a few thrills, he's going to be the one losing big time.

I agree that we all have had times where we blamed ourselves, wondering what 'we did wrong.' Then, as you get older, you realize there's nothing you did wrong. It's more like you came across several women who didn't want to be held down. We're in the age of communism when it comes to dating. Most of the women you meet are 'everybody's property'. They want to explore. You'll only put yourself through an emotional ringer trying to cage up a fox that wants to run free.

That's one of the huge reasons I keep telling people to focus on things other than women. At least you'll have something to show for all the effort if you invest in that. If you invest all this time in PUA or trying to trick women to staying with you, you'll realize how much time you wasted because there will be no tangible benefit, especially when she ups and leaves for no real reason other than she was bored. It also is telling of how most men view themselves when they don't believe they are enough to keep a woman, but that they must resort to some sort of trickery to show that they are worthy of keeping her around. I'm not with that. If I'm not enough how I am, then she can get on. Bottom line.

Men need to start learning to develop peace of mind and to become rooted, meaning to be firmly entrenched in principle. We simply have to realize we are in a 'famine' when it comes to wifeable women, and to act accordingly, lest you put yourself in a position that will cause you emotional trauma. Questions we need to eliminate from our mind: "Am I doing what she likes? Did I say the right thing? Did I do the right thing? What do I do to get that girl?" Instead, focus on improving your life, becoming closer to God, strengthening relationships with friend and family, etc. Women will notice that of it's own volition and the one who likes what you're doing will find a way to get your attention.

:hmmm?:


SO real

 

[The Mad Titan]

Yeah, one thing that hit me is that if a woman whats to be with you. She'll do everything in her power to make sure that happens. It doesn't matter what the circumstances, they will try to make it work just as much as you will.

The sad thing is alot of times a dudes we over look that and end up missing out on the one that was down and end up chasing that feeling until something snaps.

 

[MikelArteta]

A woman will move half way across the world for you if she really wants you,

It doesn't matter how much you make, what you look like your status how many men are after her if a chick wants you nothing will stop her.

Ionw of my friends went to Jamaica for a trip and end up falling for a guy on the resort she kept on going back and now they are married with a child and she lives there.

This is a chick that was not ugly she makes great money but she wanted dude .

This is why I refuse to throw my pearls before wishy washy flaky swine , chase and all that other bs games brehs do. Eff that

Yeah, one thing that hit me is that if a woman whats to be with you. She'll do everything in her power to make sure that happens. It doesn't matter what the circumstances, they will try to make it work just as much as you will.

The sad thing is alot of times a dudes we over look that and end up missing out on the one that was down and end up chasing that feeling until something snaps.

 

[The Frozen One]

The advice just on this page by @kevm3

 

[MikelArteta]

Its amazing man I wish growing up I had a dude like kevm around to spit that knowledge would have save me so Mich heartache and pain

The advice just on this page by @kevm3

 

[MikelArteta]

If you defeat her beauty, sex and any connection you win thays all any women can hold over you thats it.

The only reason bad boys ans players are held in regard is because they can't be grounded by what a woman offers, so what if she's beautiful so are a bunch of other women.

So what about sex, sdd is everywhere

So what about a connection your easily replaceable.

One things nikkaz gotta realize is the power bytches have is the power we give them (Da Gawd Patrice O'Neal expounded on this brilliantly on Black Phillip).

I remember having a convo w/ some hoes who always be
on that "p*ssy power" bullshyt & breaking down to them why
their coochie ain't shyt until I decide it is. They gave me the typical
bird responses (), so I simply told them "work your p*ssy
magic on me, then ".

Of course, not one of them had even
the fondest clue how to get a nikka who didn't grovel
@ their feet simply b/c they have a body part that
billions of other hoes are born with

Edit: If I ever win the lotto I'm hiring a 24/7 bodyguard for
kev & scarf, cuz sooner or later some feminist finna
peep this thread & try to off them nikkaz.

 

[kevm3]

As they say, if you believe in nothing, you will fall for anything. This is why you must have principles and a CONCEPT of what a man is, so you can live up to it. The Bible tells us, "A double-minded man is unstable in all his ways." In this day and age, I see a lot of brothas who are confused. Why? Because that's what this evil society wants men to be. If there are no real men to protect a society, the society is easy to topple.

A lot of fellas these days end up either feminine or they end up completely shirking their mantle of being a man. This is one thing you do NOT do. Do not let society cause you to throw away your manhood so you can try to match the androgynous '50/50 man' they want for you or the even weaker feminine man. ALWAYS be a man and do what that entails, but the key is to stand FIRM on it and to never allow society or females to dictate to you what is acceptable as a man.

The average guy in this society hears about 50/50, they try to offer a woman that, and then they get tossed aside. Men complain about 50/50 and how women don't want that despite them saying they do. The reality is, you should have never fell for the 50/50 ruse in the first place. The Bible tells us the man is the household and a woman should never have authority over a man. We lost this knowledge because society prefers us men being indecisive, wishy-washy, weak and without standards.

You always need to be a man regardless of situation, and that means being strong, decisive and principled and someone who is worthy of heading a household. Just because women aren't upholding their feminine roles, do not let that make you toss aside your crown of manhood. Instead, refuse to deal with women who embrace "feminism" aka pseudo masculinism. You never want to lower your standards because of what someone else is doing, lest both of you fall in the gutter. Instead, you must demand that if they deal with you, they need to raise their standards. Don't let society shame you into tolerating unfeminine women who can't cook, clean and who don't listen to or support their man. On the other hand, you have to be a man who is WORTHY of leadership, which means being strong, principled and a man of your word... meaning if someone submits to you, you don't snake them or screw them over, but help elevate them. God bless.

 

[MikelArteta]

Honestly I won't lie its really hard sometimes to not paint every women with the same brush and putting faith that a good amount if women out there are filled with morals and doing their best. I see my sister and see my mom great women, strong women, women who love their husband with all their heart and have never wavered ans wonder if I pass by women with these traits every day.

Its a cold world out there

 

[MikelArteta]

Should I text now or wait three days to show I`m not desperate?

Should I take on the role of an aloof mysterious personality and shun who I really am?

Should I juggle a bunch of individuals to show my desirability?

Should I use manipulation/jealously tactics to "win"?

Should I be stone cold emotionless and be a challenge to figure out?


Sure if all you want is hookups, casual on/off relationships and bouts of drama and confrontation, with lack of communication then by all means indulge in games, morph into a different character and "win" in the short run.


Because yes truthfully these tactics can keep the dopamine levels elevated and in this day and age that is what many people crave; the tingles, the novelty, the honeymoon infatuation period, the new car smell. And stability and familiarity well it slowly destroys the dopamine levels, the thrill and the rush slowly evaporates and next thing you know you are having that `talk`.


However the issue is if you desire a stable long term relationship built on solid foundation; it cannot be built on a chemical high, because once that high becomes placid the foundation crumbles. This is why it is imperative to choose your partner wisely and not just base of the butterflies in your belly. Observe and listen when they speak, be understanding, show empathy, communicate, have boundaries if needed, maintain a close friendship, be loyal and honest and realize that all relationships will have peaks and valleys.

 

[ProfessionallyTrill]

2015 is gonna be interesting. This year I came out of "new father hibernation" after my daughter reached toddler status for a month. Bagged 2 chicks in 2 weeks and went back in seclusion.

Full force time.

 

[EQ.]

The advice just on this page by @kevm3

one of the few times that gif has been put to good use

 

[EQ.]

As they say, if you believe in nothing, you will fall for anything. This is why you must have principles and a CONCEPT of what a man is, so you can live up to it. The Bible tells us, "A double-minded man is unstable in all his ways." In this day and age, I see a lot of brothas who are confused. Why? Because that's what this evil society wants men to be. If there are no real men to protect a society, the society is easy to topple.

A lot of fellas these days end up either feminine or they end up completely shirking their mantle of being a man. This is one thing you do NOT do. Do not let society cause you to throw away your manhood so you can try to match the androgynous '50/50 man' they want for you or the even weaker feminine man. ALWAYS be a man and do what that entails, but the key is to stand FIRM on it and to never allow society or females to dictate to you what is acceptable as a man.

The average guy in this society hears about 50/50, they try to offer a woman that, and then they get tossed aside. Men complain about 50/50 and how women don't want that despite them saying they do. The reality is, you should have never fell for the 50/50 ruse in the first place. The Bible tells us the man is the household and a woman should never have authority over a man. We lost this knowledge because society prefers us men being indecisive, wishy-washy, weak and without standards.

You always need to be a man regardless of situation, and that means being strong, decisive and principled and someone who is worthy of heading a household. Just because women aren't upholding their feminine roles, do not let that make you toss aside your crown of manhood. Instead, refuse to deal with women who embrace "feminism" aka pseudo masculinism. You never want to lower your standards because of what someone else is doing, lest both of you fall in the gutter. Instead, you must demand that if they deal with you, they need to raise their standards. Don't let society shame you into tolerating unfeminine women who can't cook, clean and who don't listen to or support their man. On the other hand, you have to be a man who is WORTHY of leadership, which means being strong, principled and a man of your word... meaning if someone submits to you, you don't snake them or screw them over, but help elevate them. God bless.