One of the most vital tools at your disposal before entering a relationship with someone is the screening process. In this day and age many words people spew out of their mouth will not at all match up to their actions. People will tell you whatever you desire to calm any fears or instill trust or build a rapport with them. You want to be the “no guy has ever treated me this well” you got it, you want to be the “I’ve never felt this way about a girl this fast” you got it. You want to hear “I love you” you got it as well ahh instant gratification and while you cannot predict the future, you can screen any potential partners.
What do I mean by screening?
Firstly don't get caught up by looks, status, sex, chemistry etc., remember not every beautiful girl/handsome man that is interested in you is good for you - the devil comes as an angel of light. Instead concentrate first on their values, characteristics, how they treat others, the level of respect for their parents, the sort of crowd they hang around and especially how they carry themselves. Don’t be too scared to ask how previous relationships ended as a string of infidelity or viewing relationships as disposable are red flags, never think you are more special than any previous partners as what happened to them can easily happen to you.
Take a look at their social media accounts, too many scandalous photos, revelling in the drug of attention, exes in the picture and too many friends of the opposite gender orbiting around if this bothers you well eject while it’s still early, never attempt to tame a cobra. Everyone has their own threshold of what is acceptable and what will not be tolerated, never expect anyone to change who they are if you don’t like something there will be someone out there who will fit much better. Just like in professional sports if a free agent is signed and fails the physical it’s up to the team whether to honor the contract of commitment or say sorry and go elsewhere.
Screening of course cannot predict the relationship being great, cannot predict if someone will cheat, but it can save a lot of heartache and surprises, people will show you exactly who they are if you look hard enough and screening helps out immensely in that regard. So hope for the best. Never trust anyone fully, never love your partner more than you love yourself so that you struggle to walk away if they disrespect your boundaries.
What do I mean by screening?
Firstly don't get caught up by looks, status, sex, chemistry etc., remember not every beautiful girl/handsome man that is interested in you is good for you - the devil comes as an angel of light. Instead concentrate first on their values, characteristics, how they treat others, the level of respect for their parents, the sort of crowd they hang around and especially how they carry themselves. Don’t be too scared to ask how previous relationships ended as a string of infidelity or viewing relationships as disposable are red flags, never think you are more special than any previous partners as what happened to them can easily happen to you.
Take a look at their social media accounts, too many scandalous photos, revelling in the drug of attention, exes in the picture and too many friends of the opposite gender orbiting around if this bothers you well eject while it’s still early, never attempt to tame a cobra. Everyone has their own threshold of what is acceptable and what will not be tolerated, never expect anyone to change who they are if you don’t like something there will be someone out there who will fit much better. Just like in professional sports if a free agent is signed and fails the physical it’s up to the team whether to honor the contract of commitment or say sorry and go elsewhere.
Screening of course cannot predict the relationship being great, cannot predict if someone will cheat, but it can save a lot of heartache and surprises, people will show you exactly who they are if you look hard enough and screening helps out immensely in that regard. So hope for the best. Never trust anyone fully, never love your partner more than you love yourself so that you struggle to walk away if they disrespect your boundaries.
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too drunk and tired i guess.
