Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Jahmal]

Man this thread is IMPOSSIBLE to keep up with.

I don't see how you guys do it.

I've read every post in this thread. It took a while but it was well worth it!

 

[DeeezNuts]

You did what you had to do. She def tried to hit that switcharoo on you, Salute for not letting her dictate what you needed to do for her.

Yea fam...I do not under any circumstance entertain any fukkery a woman might bring or say to me... I don't give a flying fukk who the fukk she might be... only woman in this world i take stuff from is my mother and thats it

 

[kevm3]

You did the right thing peeling off. Getting played for a free meal really ain't where it's at. If more men checked these women playing these games, game-playing would be a lot less prevalent.

 

[Bless't]

Something most men won't admit is how backwards and idiotic the actual dating scene is... to the point of most men not even really having fun, but dealing with women only because they feel that's what they are supposed to be doing.

Unless you got one of those rare gems, how many dudes really feel at complete ease with a woman, as in able to relax and not worry about what she's doing? How many dudes feel like the woman they are with is actually supportive of what they are doing and really wants them to succeed as opposed to using them to tick off something on her checklist?

I mean even on here, you've seen examples of women praising these simps they are dealing with, but when you ask what they are doing in return for them, the answer is nothing.

You can't really do too much nice things for the woman you're dealing with because she'll think you're a simp and put you in a provider category. If you are 'there' for her and listen to her problems, she'll think you're her complaint buddy. The only guy she really rewards is the guy that doesn't pay her much attention and essentially uses her. It feels like to have a relationship with the average western woman, you have to treat them like they really don't matter and are interchangeable parts that can easily be replaced, but really, who wants to build a relationship with someone they look at as a cog that can be thrown away tomorrow and replaced with no problems?

There is so much work that needs to be done to reverse the damage done by this feminist culture and these simps. Even if you got a woman, she thinks it's ok to go to the club, go on vacations without you to exotic locales with her homegirls, can't cook, can't clean, etc. and for some reason still thinks her presence is golden.

The dating scene pretty much has devolved into treating women who bring nothing to the table as if they are worth little, because it psychologically convinces them that you are some kind of challenge.

What you have to do to keep an average woman interested is so taxing that I'm simply not going to waste my time doing it.
1) Act like you don't care, are nonchalant about her
2) Don't talk too much about yourself and what you're interested in because it will make you look less mysterious
3) Constantly check her for the utterly disrespectful and insane suggestions that she will bring up like can she hang with her 'homeboy' or some other such nonsense
4) Don't buy her too much or take her to dinner too soon or too often because she might look at you as a meals on wheels simp
5) Don't listen to her problems too much because she might look at you as a complaint buddy
6) Bring nonstop drama to the table so she can get her emotional fix
7) Always prepare to dump her at the drop of a dime if she gets too disrespectful and always prepare for her to leave at any moment.

Women want the man they are in a relationship to pay for all kinds of stuff like their school, dinners, hair, nails, rent, etc., while she does NOTHING for him. In fact, she's probably taking his money and giving it to the dude she's seeing on the side. Is it any wonder now that according to those statistics that only 48% of kids are born in a traditional, two-parent home? How can a healthy, long-lasting relationship exist in such an insane environment?

If put in a situation in which I'm digging a girl who is attracted to a dude like the one described above.... sheeeeeeeeeeeeeit!! That chick deserves none of my time. Period. You just described a complete and utter a$$hole and any girl who likes those types are emotionally damaged. Father issues run rampant nowadays and I can spot red flags a mile away.

 

[b_priest9mm]

Co-worker got me feeling and . Great smile and her personality is what cinches it. Kinda dorky in an endearing way. Love these college girls.

Had to get that simp out of me. Not gonna blow this one.

 

[kevm3]

They got a few women out there understanding. I'd take the 'racial aspect' out of it, but there are a few women who understand why men are avoiding westernized women

 

[Londilon]

They got a few women out there understanding. I'd take the 'racial aspect' out of it, but there are a few women who understand why men are avoiding westernized women

First woman is talking in circles saying that people bring too many bags into a relationship and then turns around and said she has children before being married. Children before marriage is a pretty large bag, but she sounds like a bird.

 

[MikelArteta]

Society is poisoned

Its to the point you don't even have to stress if a girl you like enters a relationship, because give it 3 months and she'll be single again

 

[The Mad Titan]

Something most men won't admit is how backwards and idiotic the actual dating scene is... to the point of most men not even really having fun, but dealing with women only because they feel that's what they are supposed to be doing.

Unless you got one of those rare gems, how many dudes really feel at complete ease with a woman, as in able to relax and not worry about what she's doing? How many dudes feel like the woman they are with is actually supportive of what they are doing and really wants them to succeed as opposed to using them to tick off something on her checklist?

I mean even on here, you've seen examples of women praising these simps they are dealing with, but when you ask what they are doing in return for them, the answer is nothing.

You can't really do too much nice things for the woman you're dealing with because she'll think you're a simp and put you in a provider category. If you are 'there' for her and listen to her problems, she'll think you're her complaint buddy. The only guy she really rewards is the guy that doesn't pay her much attention and essentially uses her. It feels like to have a relationship with the average western woman, you have to treat them like they really don't matter and are interchangeable parts that can easily be replaced, but really, who wants to build a relationship with someone they look at as a cog that can be thrown away tomorrow and replaced with no problems?

There is so much work that needs to be done to reverse the damage done by this feminist culture and these simps. Even if you got a woman, she thinks it's ok to go to the club, go on vacations without you to exotic locales with her homegirls, can't cook, can't clean, etc. and for some reason still thinks her presence is golden.

The dating scene pretty much has devolved into treating women who bring nothing to the table as if they are worth little, because it psychologically convinces them that you are some kind of challenge.

What you have to do to keep an average woman interested is so taxing that I'm simply not going to waste my time doing it.
1) Act like you don't care, are nonchalant about her
2) Don't talk too much about yourself and what you're interested in because it will make you look less mysterious
3) Constantly check her for the utterly disrespectful and insane suggestions that she will bring up like can she hang with her 'homeboy' or some other such nonsense
4) Don't buy her too much or take her to dinner too soon or too often because she might look at you as a meals on wheels simp
5) Don't listen to her problems too much because she might look at you as a complaint buddy
6) Bring nonstop drama to the table so she can get her emotional fix
7) Always prepare to dump her at the drop of a dime if she gets too disrespectful and always prepare for her to leave at any moment.

Women want the man they are in a relationship to pay for all kinds of stuff like their school, dinners, hair, nails, rent, etc., while she does NOTHING for him. In fact, she's probably taking his money and giving it to the dude she's seeing on the side. Is it any wonder now that according to those statistics that only 48% of kids are born in a traditional, two-parent home? How can a healthy, long-lasting relationship exist in such an insane environment?

7 top ways to keep most women right here.....sad but true.


It shouldn't be like that

 

[Ohene]

Society is poisoned

Its to the point you don't even have to stress if a girl you like enters a relationship, because give it 3 months and she'll be single again

its fukked up because there was a shorty i smashed who went cold on me and i found out she got a bf. figured it was just some cuddle season shyt though and said to myself the same thing, "man she finna dump this dude come summer time

that was just me being salty but i agree with you and I've even been on the wrong end of that myself as a youngin

 

[MikelArteta]

Chicks are just caught up in the novelty / honeymoon period that's lasts 3 months probationary.

In those 3 months they have tunnel vision and only focus on that one dude

Once the high dies down they come back to the game

its fukked up because there was a shorty i smashed who went cold on me and i found out she got a bf. figured it was just some cuddle season shyt though and said to myself the same thing, "man she finna dump this dude come summer time

that was just me being salty but i agree with you and I've even been on the wrong end of that myself as a youngin

 

[MikelArteta]

There is nothing wrong with being a genuinely nice/good person, treating people with respect, doing things out of the kindness of your heart with no expectations. To me that’s admirable regardless and especially in these times should be commended. However the problem lies when you allow your boundaries to be crossed and for some sort of fear of reprisal you continually accept it over and over again which gives off the aura of having no self respect for yourself ala a doormat.

If you don’t value yourself you will not be respected by others, if you have no standards you will repeatedly tolerate disrespect. If you don’t stand up for yourself no one else well. You don’t need to be callous or abrasive to be respected, just have to stand up for your core values, principles and do not accept mistreatment or disrespect. Example being nice and continuing to externally care about an individual that is frequently disrespectful to you conveys a statement that you have no ethics for yourself. That you will accept anything as long as you have a position in their life. In essence you are showing you don’t value yourself - yet are conveying a message of high value and importance to an individual undeserving of those titles which ends up cheapening your worth in the process.

It is important to know what defines you, what are your pearls, what are your core values and components that you hold sacred - It could be your heart, your time, your ears, your words, your kindness, your presence, your love it could be anything. First off never be afraid to exude any of these traits or components and give them away but also never be afraid to withdrawal any of these traits or components from anyone if your boundaries continue to be crossed.


Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces.

 

[Atlrocafella]

Something I had to learn to stop doing was setting up ALL the dates/encounters. These chicks are lazy as hell and expect us to be their entertainment at all times.

What I do these days is that I'll take the initiative to set up the first 1 or 2 dates, after that, I sit back and let them take action. This saves you a lot of time by seeing who's really willing to put the effort to keep you interested in them just as you think they are intrested in you.

I've been able to drop and delete bishes early once they go silent, let's me know that I was just entertainment/placeholder for them. To my young brehs, add this in your book, it will save you a lot of wasted time, money, and energy

 

[MikelArteta]

Something I had to learn to stop doing was setting up ALL the dates/encounters. These chicks are lazy as hell and expect us to be their entertainment at all times.

What I do these days is that I'll take the initiative to set up the first 1 or 2 dates, after that, I sit back and let them take action. This saves you a lot of time by seeing who's really willing to put the effort to keep you interested in them just as you think they are intrested in you.

I've been able to drop and delete bishes early once they go silent, let's me know that I was just entertainment/placeholder for them. To my young brehs, add this in your book, it will save you a lot of wasted time, money, and energy

If a girl is feeling you that chemistry, sparks, butterflies ish they always spew out trust me all that pride, rules, go out the window

if a woman is not feeling you, and you dont say anything you won't hear from her again

last chick I was talking to, I could tell something was amiss, I know if I messaged her she would reply but I could tell, so I stopped messaging, been like 2 weeks and nothing has been uttered. Even though shes on whatsapp every day

 

[RealAssanova]

@Atlrocafella @Turbulent @CrossBones @Emperor_ReinScarf @kevm3 @Asantehene

the thing i have trouble understanding is....nikkaz say if you don't act, you miss out on opportunities. But if you do, why don't you almost always get the desired outcome you want? I mean, does the saying "you want something, you go after it...and you'll do whatever it takes to get it" apply to women?

and are women really shy? I have a hard time believing that bullshyt. its 2015, no grown azz woman is shy....cuz if that same shy girl is screaming for trey songz then she should be screaming for me too right?

i'm just tryna dispel all these thoughts....cuz this typ'a shyt constantly runs thru my mind and fukks with my mindset.

I need a 1-track mind when it comes to women, but reading and hearing all sorts of shyt about women, makes it really difficult to have one.