Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MikelArteta]

@Atlrocafella @Turbulent @CrossBones @Emperor_ReinScarf @kevm3 @Asantehene

the thing i have trouble understanding is....nikkaz say if you don't act, you miss out on opportunities. But if you do, why don't you almost always get the desired outcome you want? I mean, does the saying "you want something, you go after it...and you'll do whatever it takes to get it" apply to women?

and are women really shy? I have a hard time believing that bullshyt. its 2015, no grown azz woman is shy....cuz if that same shy girl is screaming for trey songz then she should be screaming for me too right?

i'm just tryna dispel all these thoughts....cuz this typ'a shyt constantly runs thru my mind and fukks with my mindset.

I need a 1-track mind when it comes to women, but reading and hearing all sorts of shyt about women, makes it really difficult to have one.

what opportunities?

I live my life by if it's going to happen its going to happen. I'venever approached a woman, i've never made the first move. Yet I've been in love, had long term relationships, slept with 16 women, im not saing that im some tyson beckford type nukka, just that if a woman is truely into you, you don't have to chase, grovel and all that ish.

I'd rather sit by an wait for a chick that is into me, than to beg or play games to increase hot/cold

Even when a chick goes cold or dumps me etc. I just look at it like this chick needed to exit my life for the next one.

I remember last year that crazy chick who still emails nad texts me, when she got cold and distant in february, i said , didn't say anything, then in april trolling tinder I matched with that model, then in june. If that first chick never got cold and distant I never would have been on tinder and I never would have met the model.

I remmeber when I took the bus for lik ea month it was just me and this chick in the bus shed she never said anything, then finally one day she did.

I'll never be that hey ma, or bumping into a chick.

The universe when yuour ready has a weird way of bringing peole together.

Getting women is easy, its getting a good woman that is hard

 

[Atlrocafella]

If a girl is feeling you that chemistry, sparks, butterflies ish they always spew out trust me all that pride, rules, go out the window

if a woman is not feeling you, and you dont say anything you won't hear from her again

last chick I was talking to, I could tell something was amiss, I know if I messaged her she would reply but I could tell, so I stopped messaging, been like 2 weeks and nothing has been uttered. Even though shes on whatsapp every day

Yeah, it's a good test to use to see if they really feeling you because these females will say anything.

One chick after our first date, she was like "it was fun, I can't wait to see you again",

I was like cool, I set up the second one, something light. After the second date, same thing, "I had a lot of fun with you, excited to see what we do next".

I put the breaks on it and was like "aight cool, set something up and we can make it happen",

She hit me with all types of excuses like "I'm so simple though, like I wouldn't even know what to do"

I said I'm simple too, so it shouldn't be that hard. She vanished after that conversation

 

[Ohene]

@Atlrocafella @Turbulent @CrossBones @Emperor_ReinScarf @kevm3 @Asantehene

the thing i have trouble understanding is....nikkaz say if you don't act, you miss out on opportunities. But if you do, why don't you almost always get the desired outcome you want? I mean, does the saying "you want something, you go after it...and you'll do whatever it takes to get it" apply to women?

and are women really shy? I have a hard time believing that bullshyt. its 2015, no grown azz woman is shy....cuz if that same shy girl is screaming for trey songz then she should be screaming for me too right?

i'm just tryna dispel all these thoughts....cuz this typ'a shyt constantly runs thru my mind and fukks with my mindset.

I need a 1-track mind when it comes to women, but reading and hearing all sorts of shyt about women, makes it really difficult to have one.

Women arent shy...they are lazy, scared and insecure thats all. They are the sellers in whats a monopolistic market so although they should - in order to find the right match for them - proactively try to lure men they dont because they dont have to. Whats fukked up is that with so many women around...it doesnt make sense for it to be monopolistic though.

I go for what I want but wont go out of my way. After all, we were all raised on the semblance that men are supposed to be the aggressors and thats just how nature is. Where men (including I) fail is not recognizing when the prey has been lost and to look elsewhere.

 

[MikelArteta]

Yeah, it's a good test to use to see if they really feeling you because these females will say anything.

One chick after our first date, she was like "it was fun, I can't wait to see you again",

I was like cool, I set up the second one, something light. After the second date, same thing, "I had a lot of fun with you, excited to see what we do next".

I put the breaks on it and was like "aight cool, set something up and we can make it happen",

She hit me with all types of excuses like "I'm so simple though, like I wouldn't even know what to do"

I said I'm simple too, so it shouldn't be that hard. She vanished after that conversation

if she was really into you, she would!

if a chick isnt into me im not wasting my time

the rule I live by is

1. when a chick likes you, you don't have to do ANYTHING

2. when a chick doesn't, there is NOTHING you can do.

its not like how men are, you don't like a chick because she looks plain and dresses like a tomboy or whatever, she starts wearing makeup and dresses like a woman your like

for a man she likes you or she doesn't
and if she doesn't nothing can change that

if she does and she stops nothing can change that as well

 

[kevm3]

@Atlrocafella @Turbulent @CrossBones @Emperor_ReinScarf @kevm3 @Asantehene

the thing i have trouble understanding is....nikkaz say if you don't act, you miss out on opportunities. But if you do, why don't you almost always get the desired outcome you want? I mean, does the saying "you want something, you go after it...and you'll do whatever it takes to get it" apply to women?

and are women really shy? I have a hard time believing that bullshyt. its 2015, no grown azz woman is shy....cuz if that same shy girl is screaming for trey songz then she should be screaming for me too right?

i'm just tryna dispel all these thoughts....cuz this typ'a shyt constantly runs thru my mind and fukks with my mindset.

I need a 1-track mind when it comes to women, but reading and hearing all sorts of shyt about women, makes it really difficult to have one.

As a man, most times you have to initiate the conversation or get the number, but once you've gotten her comfortable enough to talk, she should be just as willing to initiate conversations or meet-ups. Women that aren't really feeling you or women that aren't really worth the time are the ones you have to initiate everything with.

With dealing with women, it's about mutual interest. You definitely do NOT do anything to get with a woman because it will put you in extremely compromising positions and you'll get taken advantage of. When two people are MUTUALLY interested, they find a way to work it out. Both of you should be carrying the load of the relationship. If she's just sitting around waiting on you to pull her weight, time to bail out imo.

"Going all in" doesn't work with women because when a woman sees a man putting in extraordinary effort, she gets the impression that she has power over the man and that she's the one in demand, and hence, she acts accordingly. That's why being somewhat distant and putting in less effort at times works better. You're dealing with emotions, so more work doesn't necessarily correlate with more rewards. Women gravitate towards men they can look up to, and men that try hard to impress them are not ones they can look up to. They are more akin to servants trying to please their queen. So put in some effort and give her an opportunity, but leave it up to her if she wants to take it and be willing to move on if she doesn't.

 

[MikelArteta]

when a chick vanishes its for the best, don't be that guy sending a text, don't ask why. it doesn't matter why and she won't even tell you just some bs excuse how shes busy, or school or whatever.

As long as your number doesnt change and she hasnt deleted you she can contact you if she wants to, by the time they usually do they should be the farthest from your mind anyways

 

[RealAssanova]

what opportunities?

I live my life by if it's going to happen its going to happen. I'venever approached a woman, i've never made the first move. Yet I've been in love, had long term relationships, slept with 16 women, im not saing that im some tyson beckford type nukka, just that if a woman is truely into you, you don't have to chase, grovel and all that ish.

I'd rather sit by an wait for a chick that is into me, than to beg or play games to increase hot/cold

Even when a chick goes cold or dumps me etc. I just look at it like this chick needed to exit my life for the next one.

I remember last year that crazy chick who still emails nad texts me, when she got cold and distant in february, i said , didn't say anything, then in april trolling tinder I matched with that model, then in june. If that first chick never got cold and distant I never would have been on tinder and I never would have met the model.

I remmeber when I took the bus for lik ea month it was just me and this chick in the bus shed she never said anything, then finally one day she did.

I'll never be that hey ma, or bumping into a chick.

The universe when yuour ready has a weird way of bringing peole together.

Getting women is easy, its getting a good woman that is hard

rein

but breh...i have no intention of getting into relationships or dates N shyt ....i'm just tryna find the most economically feasible way to get em draws and then dip.

 

[kevm3]

Something I had to learn to stop doing was setting up ALL the dates/encounters. These chicks are lazy as hell and expect us to be their entertainment at all times.

What I do these days is that I'll take the initiative to set up the first 1 or 2 dates, after that, I sit back and let them take action. This saves you a lot of time by seeing who's really willing to put the effort to keep you interested in them just as you think they are intrested in you.

I've been able to drop and delete bishes early once they go silent, let's me know that I was just entertainment/placeholder for them. To my young brehs, add this in your book, it will save you a lot of wasted time, money, and energy

Pretty much. Even if the girl is 'super shy' or some nonsense, she'll muster up the courage to eventually hit you back or show some anger or some emotion on why you haven't hit her back.

If she can't even do that, she just needs to work on her social skills. It's completely draining to be the one who always has to initiate EVERYTHING. We're not these womens' chauffeurs or entertainers. If she can't do something as basic as initiate contact, it's best to stop wasting time. It's hard sometimes though, because we have that part inside of us that imagines we can use some kind of game or smooth conversation to make her more reactive. In my experience though, once it has gone cold, its gone... better moving on. Women are kind of like food. Once it's spoiled, better to throw it out.

 

[MikelArteta]

"Going all in" doesn't work with women because when a woman sees a man putting in extraordinary effort, she gets the impression that she has power over the man and that she's the one in demand, and hence, she acts accordingly. That's why being somewhat distant and putting in less effort at times works better. You're dealing with emotions, so more work doesn't necessarily correlate with more rewards. Women gravitate towards men they can look up to, and men that try hard to impress them are not ones they can look up to. They are more akin to servants trying to please their queen. So put in some effort and give her an opportunity, but leave it up to her if she wants to take it and be willing to move on if she doesn't.

sad these seal tricks type games you have to play with most women out there

 

[MikelArteta]

rein

but breh...i have no intention of getting into relationships or dates N shyt ....i'm just tryna find the most economically feasible way to get em draws and then dip.

backpage

I just don't trust any toronto women to enter into a relationship with

 

[EffYou]

Damn... @kevm3 and @Emperor_ReinScarf Need to just collab and make a how to not be a simp manual or something :O

So much knowledge being given that i know i could apply and to help me but to many goddamn pages to go through of straight diamond level material.

 

[MikelArteta]

Damn... @kevm3 and @Emperor_ReinScarf Need to just collab and make a how to not be a simp manual or something :O

So much knowledge being given that i know i could apply and to help me but to many goddamn pages to go through of straight diamond level material.

I was once a simp, I know first hand it gets to nowhere.

I've been dumped and begged for another chance and id flowers, all that crap so I know it gets you nowhere as well.

when a woman "changes" the way she feels about you its done its OVER

yeah maybe if you stay around and she gets ran through and is all sad she will try and come back but why accept that crap?


I don't do games, I don't lie, manipulate etc. I am who I am, only difference the reinscarf today and reinscarf of the past, is that I don't grovel, beg, if soemone wants to go then go, if somene doesn't want to talk to me I'm not going to waste my time trying to talk to them. If someone wants someone else go

The more women you mess with the easier it is to "figure out"

I'm always attentive to when women talk about exes or other guys, ugh my ex told so and so he still loves me and is blowing up my phone, ugh this guy wont stop texting me, cant he tell i'm not interested. Deep down they love the attention and ego boosting knowing how much guys love them or care about them, so meh my strength is mainlining my dignity and silence.

I know how women are, googlign your facebook and instagram and stalking I've seen it I've heard it, I have none. I always tell these brehettes if they disrespect me I'm gone and they will never hear from me again and my word is my word.

I'll have facebook again if I ever get married and have kids and keep that ish open posting family photos but until then there is ZERO ways of contacting me once you cross me

 

[CrossBones]

@Atlrocafella @Turbulent @CrossBones @Emperor_ReinScarf @kevm3 @Asantehene

the thing i have trouble understanding is....nikkaz say if you don't act, you miss out on opportunities. But if you do, why don't you almost always get the desired outcome you want? I mean, does the saying "you want something, you go after it...and you'll do whatever it takes to get it" apply to women?

and are women really shy? I have a hard time believing that bullshyt. its 2015, no grown azz woman is shy....cuz if that same shy girl is screaming for trey songz then she should be screaming for me too right?

i'm just tryna dispel all these thoughts....cuz this typ'a shyt constantly runs thru my mind and fukks with my mindset.

I need a 1-track mind when it comes to women, but reading and hearing all sorts of shyt about women, makes it really difficult to have one.

unfortunately, opportunity doesnt guarantee a perfect result. its just a chance at it. its like an open door, but whats really on the other side might not be what you want.


I say its still good to check things out if youre interested. but I would be at somewhat of a distance to get a good look at things before walking in completely and committing. metaphorically, that would be like me getting my foot in the door, or leaning by the doorway to see whats is going on in there. personally, Im not going to just walk into every door Im interested in either. but it doesnt hurt to check things out if you like the person and to get a good look. thats what opportunity can give you


as for women being shy, Ive personally known that nerdy girls can be really shy. they can blush, feel awkward, or in general be a little quiet at times because they dont know how to act. as for the others, the ordinary women that Ive known could be interested in someone (meaning me), but be taken aback by them (me) being very forward. its something theyre not always used to because theyre used to compliments, game, or dudes trying to be funny/rude to get their attention. I dont do any of those things, but I do let them know what I want, and I think thats key. at the same time Im pretty sure that it didnt change anything though, as in my opinion, if you ask a question, then the answer is still going to be the answer. women make up their minds pretty quick, the only thing you have to do is not fukk it up badly and look weak, or assault her.


I would say that the only concern you should have when Im approaching or talking to someone is that they understand you clearly and youve approached them with confidence. as long as theres no miscommunication, then we cant go wrong, yes or no.


finally, as for girls screaming for one man and not another, I would say groupie-ism in a LOT of women is real. I would even say it runs deep. theyre always looking for a better man, theyre always infatuated with expensive and shiny things, and theyre dedicated to finding a way into a glamorous/easy lifestyle. they basically want to be attached to successes. their prince charming, so to speak. so when I see a girl who is on that though, or its real clear that she is a groupie type stuck on material objects and higher status. I honestly look at that and would say that shes a ho. even if in the day to day shes not, I still say she has the thinking of a ho. bottomline, it just needs the right circumstance for it to happen. some hoes are easy, some wait for that right opportunity. so thats not wifey at all. you can see that shes man shopping all the time and is not taking anybody seriously for the long term, its only until she sees the next offer. if shes not grounded and into someone because of his character and personal qualities, then she cannot be relationship material. only a woman who would let go of that type of thinking has a chance at something serious

 

[CrossBones]

oh yeah, also as for having a one track mind; I have a quote I read recently which I think is very appropriate for that

“The quality of EVERY dynamic movement is determined by the static position from which it
proceeds.”

in OTHER WORDS, if youre starting point is wack, then you can expect your actions to be weak also. it wouldnt be right to expect a good result from your actions if your beginning positions are so off point. so if your own life isnt what you want it to be, and your mindframe is not centered, then your relationships will reflect that too.


to be one track minded, you need to find out exactly what you want and stick with it. have your best in mind, make your habits good, and youll see that the women will almost disqualify themselves from you if you stay consistent. eventually, what it should mean is right one will see your whole program and want to stick with it for the right reasons.


as for me, and what I see thats happening today, is that too many young women arent about give and take, but more about themselves and breaking through their roofs. like, if I can get (with) this, then maybe I should just leave this alone because maybe I can get (with) that. it sounds really bad when I say it like that, but understand what Im trying to say. theres nothing wrong with a woman wanting good for herself. everyone needs to be selfish to SOME degree. but relationships, in order to have meaning, they have to have focus and boundaries. and a lot of people, both men and women, dont have either the focus or the boundaries in place. and because of that, its ripe to be exploited. in some ways, its almost like every relationship is treated like an open relationship, but its not. like relationships have boundless freedoms and open air all of the time, when the truth of it is, in order to make it work, you need to sacrifice some things and stay grounded. you need to look out for each other. and if a woman doesnt understand that, then she wont understand what makes a good relationship. now Im not into changing a woman, so if she doesnt see what Im saying off bat, then Im out.

 

[MikelArteta]

as for me, and what I see thats happening today, is that too many young women arent about give and take, but more about themselves and breaking through their roofs. like, if I can get (with) this, then maybe I should just leave this alone because maybe I can get (with) that. it sounds really bad when I say it like that, but understand what Im trying to say. theres nothing wrong with a woman wanting good for herself. everyone needs to be selfish to SOME degree. but relationships, in order to have meaning, they have to have focus and boundaries. and a lot of people, both men and women, dont have either the focus or the boundaries in place. and because of that, its ripe to be exploited. in some ways, its almost like every relationship is treated like an open relationship, but its not. like relationships have boundless freedoms and open air all of the time, when the truth of it is, in order to make it work, you need to sacrifice some things and stay grounded. you need to look out for each other. and if a woman doesnt understand that, then she wont understand what makes a good relationship. now Im not into changing a woman, so if she doesnt see what Im saying off bat, then Im out.

without boundaries there is no respect and in most relationships there is none, how can you be in a relationship wiht a dude and still talking to guys you've had sex with, or still going clubbing, once the honeymoon of relationships
this is why if you look out there are so many women who just hop from relationship to relationship they just cant maintain a stable one