Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MikelArteta]

this is just my opinion, and I could be way off, but.....


Many women these days have "pieces of men". They'll piece together as many men as they need til they feel somewhat complete.

Women you meet(especially on the internet) often have "situations" in the background. Probably 1 or 2 dudes. Often times these dudes are guys they're physically attracted to and WISH they could have a real relationship with. But the dudes aint having that b/c they know what she's about, so the chick just settles for a physical(sexual) relationship, a spot on his "team", and hope it develops further at some point. These dudes may take her out rarely to a comedy show/concert or something just to keep her hopes up, or make her think he cares..... but nothing more than that. But in her mind she's holding out hope.

1 dude on the side is "perfectly fine" for most chicks, 2 dudes on the side is "acceptable/ok". Any more than 2 and she may start to feel ashamed


So they got the dudes fulfilling the physical part, but she REALLY wants to feel special, so she starts looking for an extra dude to fulfill her "emotional/relationship" needs. This extra guy, she might be somewhat physically attracted to him, but she's moreso attracted to his qualities. He's a "nice" guy, probably educated, nice clothes etc . So to him, she'll act differently, she'll shy away certain topics(like sexual stuff), she'll put out a "good girl" image to make him view her in a different light. He's gonna be the one to talk on the phone, take her to dinner, movies, open car doors/flowers, etc. She may pay her way sometimes on a date, but he's really only there as another "piece" to make her feel ladylike. Deep down he knows she's probably frontin and deep down she knows that he knows she's frontin and b/c she knows he's still a man and he wants sex, she'll drop little sexual hints from time to time to keep him chasing the carrot, but she really doesn't need him for that b/c she has the other dudes for that.

She'll keep extra guy around but possibly still be searching for another extra guy with more money,

Ultimately, she long-term would hope extra guy has got some "sucker" in him and falls for her with little to no sex occuring, b/c once she does give it to him it'll be a wrap. Then if extra guy get's super serious she'll eventually cut the other dudes off and settle down w/ extra guy.

@kevm3 posted this here or was it at sohh i dunno i just have it saved as a draft

One thing a man needs to realize is that women LIE all the time. They stay playing roles for different dudes. You sit down with the freak of the neighborhood and get to talking it up with her and you'll start thinking she's mad cool and she'll have you believing, "Man they were wrong about her. They don't know about this GEM I have right here. They are just jealous because she's not giving them any play." .

When it comes down to it, most modern women got two categories they will put men in that they actually deal with. He can be that raw guy or he can be that romantic guy. The raw guy is the one who can stop in whenever, and she'll do whatever with him... she'll make time for him, but it ain't really no relationship. He doesn't have to spend a dime or even much time with her. On the other hand, she will have the romantic negro, the one who she will play prim and proper with and act like she doesn't do this or that with. He'll be the one taking her to dinner and listening to all her problems. She'll be friendly and cordial with him, but she won't be available for him on the weekends and will randomly be busy at unpredictable times. When he asks what she's doing, it'll always be how busy she was or how something came up... and that was because she was chilling with that the other guy that came raw with it or at least with her girls looking for that dude. She might tell you, "I want to take it slow... I don't want my heart broke and I just want a man I can love" to the romantic dude, but then you'll see her post random statuses on facebook talking about "ugh worst day ever... never make someone a priority when you're only an option" in reference to that dude that comes through but is smart enough not to lock her down.

As soon as a woman is ready to make a move, her boyfriend of however long is either just someone she is 'talking to' or 'seeing', or she magically got all kinds of problems with him, aka he doesn't pay enough attention to me, etc. Instead of that being her boyfriend, he's just that dude that I've been getting to know. That's what women call friendly fellas.
These days it's better to be a woman's problem than her problem solver.


Some women are always searching for an upgrade... and on another hand they are always searching for new men, not necessarily to upgrade, but to round out their team. They may have found their goalie, but now they are looking for their defenseman.

For example, she will feel lonely, feel like cuddling, and need of affection, so she'll search for one guy to handle that and keep him in that role. When she has that and feel he's secured, she'll still be with him, but then search for some side guys for thrills, aka the additional excitement of a new and unpredictable man.

In essence, she'll seek security from one man and give him affection, nice compliments, utter words of "love" etc., every now and then to keep him for emotional and physical security, but she'll have a completely different dude in which she'll show a completely different, nasty side to.

A lot of women she will have two sides she will display with a man... Miss Sweet and Miss Freak. One for the dude she wants to cuddle with and then another for the dude she knows she can't draw into a relationship, but will knock her socks of between the sheets. .

 

[MikelArteta]

I'm a old fashion dude which is why I don't click with these modern women

I believe in loyalty, honesty, monogamy, commitment, not talking to exes and past lovers, not flirting with other people while in a relationship, not playing games and manipulation tactics, not crossing boundaries.

But the modern women is all about hookups, the drug of novelty, keeping exes and past lovers as "male friends", suggestive text messages and fb inbox when in a relationship, playing games and constantly testing you, having a bunch of dudes orbiting around around her circle

 

[Mr210]

Fellas, have you ever been in a relationship that you thought everyone you knew supported and then you came to find out that there were quite a few people that had beef with you and your girl for whatever reason.

 

[TRUEST]

i just said cool, even talked to her when I got back, then I changed my number once the new year started, no prior warning nothing. I don't have facebook, instagram, twitter etc. so she can't find me and i'm not that guy who caves and contacts she will never hear from me again.

Ain't said a word to my ex fiance going on 8 years now, ain't said nothing to my last ex been more than a year, once im done im done

My power has always been silence, women want you to get angry and react they long for the back and forth. They want to throw everything back at you, i dont have time for that.

homie, listen. i get that you do what you do because of dignity. i get u do it to make a point to these women that u dont tolerate bs.

but check this. besides money, and family, the main joy of life for straight men is women. us men like to fucck as many beautiful women as we can.

now, when a chick does u wrong. fine. u get mad. but, when that chick comes crawling back, u owe it to yourself to wreck that ass. see, you are selling urself short with the ol "ooo im gonna change my number and never allow them to contact me again" bs. you really are.

when a chick misbehaves and she comes back. that's a very good thing. for me personally, i make up my mind that yeah, this chick can never be wifey material or taken seriously. but, i will still use her to satisfy my sexual needs. personally, i get off on sexually degrading b1tchy women. so when these women come back, the way i treat them changes greatly because now, i have a seething anger inside of me which many of them may never know of. all they will know is, i call them only when i want to fucck and they can choose whether or not to get with it or get lost.

and if they choose to contemplate getting lost, they know my response will be that of nonchalance. which has a tendency of keeping them in check. a man's greatest response to dealing with women is nonchalance.

 

[jeh]

If they got animosity, they get the finger from me. Rolling around in the sack, laying up and whatever else you want to call fukking, "beautiful" women. I ain't got time. I got rid of her for a REASON, the fukk I look like getting some puss from here when she come back round. Bytch could Be burning player. She on that bs, I tell gon run wit them hoes. But dont come back I don't want you know mo. Fukk all the games and psychology in reverse and tactical shyt. You know your limitations.

Mind over matter
Influence
Respect
Charity
Honesty
Communication
So on and so forth.......
Even tho "beauty" varies, and should be secondary, I like my Toni Braxtons uhh and my Halle Berrys .....

 

[MikelArteta]

I can’t even think of the last time I was legit angry / upset, it’s been that long. It’s not that I never get angry, it’s just that I’m slow to anger. Really slow, molasses slow, donkey slow, downloading a movie with a 56k connection slow. Yes I have a come a long way from at one point years ago when I relished the anger, now it’s meh, get away from me. Life is to short to marinate daily with angry thoughts, to hold any kind of disdain or feelings of resentment towards anyone.

“Anger resides in the lap of fools”, yes there are times when being angry is called for but I’m not going to allow the sun to go down while I’m still angry, nor am I going to do or say malicious things when I’m in the midst of that emotion.

I used to let little things aggravate me, individuals who wasted my precious time or sought out to do me harm would make me livid. But while they were out living a happy joyous life I was consumed with anger and bitterness. Until I reached the point in life where having that constant peace that peace beyond understanding covered everything. Instead of being angry at circumstances and/or individuals, I’d rather focus my energy and thoughts on positive things and positive people who are on the same wave length as I. Allowing anyone to have that power to steal my happiness, or try and swindle me and draw me down the river of angst and hate again well those days are over.

Ultimately my message is thay if you can reach the point where you are not expecting the approval/validation of anyone, respect yourself, don’t allow your happiness to be placed in the hands of others – life will be so much joyful. People will expect you to act a certain way, will push your buttons but if maintain your composure and show love not hate and anger they do not how to act toward that. On the battlefield of hate, fury, malicious thoughts and revenge I waive the white flag.

At the end of the day, this is my life my mirror. And when I look into it, I admire the reflection of a man without a malicious thought in regards to anyone, or without a shred of anger flowing through my veins who’s honor is still intact.

 

[jeh]

Fellas, have you ever been in a relationship that you thought everyone you knew supported and then you came to find out that there were quite a few people that had beef with you and your girl for whatever reason.

Story of my life man...... I was engaged a longgggggg time ago. And we were cool, happy and in you know the l word. Any way, come to find out her people's were on some bullshyt because I basically keep proving them wrong. It was never my attention to show up her pops, but he always tried to make some kind of animosity or competition with me. I maturely , told him No thanks. so im at a car show, and my ex fiance And me up there, he called her phone and she put it on speaker and told me I dont want you marrying my daughter. He hung up, we looked at each other and left . We both were sad. We drove all night it seemed, and we sat there listening to the radio all night. Knowing we cant marry each other because of her father not liking me.

 

[MikelArteta]

Sorry I don't tolerate disrespect.

There are a abundance of beautiful women.

Wall out of my life once the door is locked.

I'm not selling myself short, see your purpose is all sex and vaina and procuring beautiful women mine isn't.

I'm about respect and holding onto my word.


My main joy is helping others, writing, travelling, investing in myself.

homie, listen. i get that you do what you do because of dignity. i get u do it to make a point to these women that u dont tolerate bs.

but check this. besides money, and family, the main joy of life for straight men is women. us men like to fucck as many beautiful women as we can.

now, when a chick does u wrong. fine. u get mad. but, when that chick comes crawling back, u owe it to yourself to wreck that ass. see, you are selling urself short with the ol "ooo im gonna change my number and never allow them to contact me again" bs. you really are.

when a chick misbehaves and she comes back. that's a very good thing. for me personally, i make up my mind that yeah, this chick can never be wifey material or taken seriously. but, i will still use her to satisfy my sexual needs. personally, i get off on sexually degrading b1tchy women. so when these women come back, the way i treat them changes greatly because now, i have a seething anger inside of me which many of them may never know of. all they will know is, i call them only when i want to fucck and they can choose whether or not to get with it or get lost.

and if they choose to contemplate getting lost, they know my response will be that of nonchalance. which has a tendency of keeping them in check. a man's greatest response to dealing with women is nonchalance.

 

[jeh]

Yes indeed. It is our choice gentlemen. Ours. Every choice we make has it consequences whether good or bad. But in the end, you did it your way. Play with fire, you get burned, play games, then game will eventually get ran on u. You get out of life what you put in. Keep it tight fellows.

 

[MikelArteta]

Pretty much I may have taken big L's in my life, but I still have my honor, I've never stepped out, never plotted revenge. Np woman out there can say anything bad about me, those that were cut off handed me the scissors

Yes indeed. It is our choice gentlemen. Ours. Every choice we make has it consequences whether good or bad. But in the end, you did it your way. Play with fire, you get burned, play games, then game will eventually get ran on u. You get out of life what you put in. Keep it tight fellows.

 

[jeh]

Pretty much I may have taken big L's in my life, but I still have my honor, I've never stepped out, never plotted revenge. Np woman out there can say anything bad about me, those that were cut off handed me the scissors

 

[Action Mike]

Its against my principles, ive never done it. but social media just fukked me up coli.

Shouldnt have clicked but out of nowhere i had a look at a profile at a old shorty i used to mess with, Im talking that one that set the bar brehs...shes looking

And im the one that cut it loose, and i cant even remember the reason why

Post-her these 1000 thots i fooled around with aint been shyt

Deleting my history. This never happened.

L's come with experience, and least I know what I want.

 

[MikelArteta]

Everything happens for a reason

Its against my principles, ive never done it. but social media just fukked me up coli.

Shouldnt have clicked but out of nowhere i had a look at a profile at a old shorty i used to mess with, Im talking that one that set the bar brehs...shes looking

And im the one that cut it loose, and i cant even remember the reason why

Post-her these 1000 thots i fooled around with aint been shyt

Deleting my history. This never happened.

L's come with experience, and least I know what I want.

 

[MikelArteta]

Honestly one of my biggest L's ever was being 19 and almost wifing a chick who was a porn star.

She messaged me on MySpace, lived in Montreal but always came to torontl

She was actually the one chit chick you dump to build up immunity.

I was a virgin at the time

 

[BlaKcMoney]

The acceptance stage gotta b the hardest part.