Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[RealAssanova]

its sad but its true. I can't tell a woman how I feel about her, if i do i'm crazy and every guy that wanted into her pants has told her the same thing. If I say nothing well then im a a$$hole whose just using her. I can't do things out of the kindness of my heart because that would be a simp, nice guy. I can't put my trust in women because of all teh things I have seen and heard, I know you can be the greatest man, loyal, honest, faithful, tunnel vision only for her, treat her right and you can still get royally screwed over, how do I know because I'm that man.

but i also feel like, you can still do all those things, but be smart about it. What i mean is, spoil your girl, but don't expect shyt in return. Do it cuz you want to. And if she cheats on you, disrespects you...you can leave with your dignity and know that your conscience is clear. You didn't come in with a game plan to use her..but rather with pure intentions....so at the end, the guilt is on her.

 

[MikelArteta]

I'm realising this more and more everyday. A lot of girls my age claim they want a good man with morals that's going to do right by them but then they take exception to the fact that those same men have rules and principles that doesn't allow them to act out and have one of relationships seen in soap operas and movies.

I've come to the point with who cares what to women claim they want, they don't want it.

Women will cry out for a good man with morals and substance but ask them if they will stop talking to exes and past lovers, ask them if they will stop posting attention thirst traps on instagram, ask them if they will stop having a solar system of men orbiting around them, ask them if they stepped out of their previous relationship, ask them if they going to give up clubbing and going to bars, ask them if they are going to give up that tinder account, ask them if they are goign to give up thier playing games and manipulation tactics? ask them if they are going to respect the boundaries of a relationship with a stable good individual if you want a career of substance you have to go to school and work hard, you can't expect to just show up to the interview with a pretty face and expect to get the job without any credentials. If you want substance then be of substance. Many those crying out for a good man have nothing of value to offer besides their beauty.

Why would a good man want a woman that's giving him stress? why would a good man want a woman who clubs, drinks, and has thousands of followers on instagram liking her scandalous photos, why would a good man want a cheater?

I'm not attacking women as it goes both ways, if you want a good woman well what are you offering? Are you going to give up that roster? are you going to be monogamous? are you going to stop dming all these chicks on instagram and private messaging on facebook? are you ready to give her the honor and respect that is due to a good woman?

that's the thing everyone wants a good man/woman but few want to give up the lifestyle they have yet they expect that. It's like in the bible when the rich man wanted to follow Jesus and asked how could he and Jesus told the rich man to give up his treasure to follow him and he was like :kony:

its just like with individuals today, i'm not even harking or saying I deserve a good woman, no one deserves anything, but my lifestyle matches what I want in a partner.

 

[MikelArteta]

but i also feel like, you can still do all those things, but be smart about it. What i mean is, spoil your girl, but don't expect shyt in return. Do it cuz you want to. And if she cheats on you, disrespects you...you can leave with your dignity and know that your conscience is clear. You didn't come in with a game plan to use her..but rather with pure intentions....so at the end, the guilt is on her.

I expect nothing in return from anyone, hell i saved my ex twice from homelessness and got her a job and now shes living like a friggin princess and I never even got a thanks, I was angry at first but :ehh, now I'm at the point I don't do anything, buy anything for anyone for praise or admiration nor expecting a thanks. I do it out of the kindness of my heart.

 

[feast__5]

These last two months I've been focusing on school/building for myself and it's turned into the most stress and worry free time I've had in a while

 

[MikelArteta]

These last two months I've been focusing on school/building for myself and it's turned into the most stress and worry free time I've had in a while

invest in yourself and you will never lose

just click a dating site and search women 30-35, 35-40, 40-45, 45-50

there will ALWAYS BE WOMEN, not saying they will be good. But there will always be women, so why worry why stress?

hell women are marrying themselves now

 

[MikelArteta]

its funny i just took a look at pof, majority of women like 20-27 just want casual dating/freinds

women 27 and up are looking for a relationship

they know the ship will be docked soon.

this is why I advise men to HOLD OUT, never take disrespect, the leverage if any women hold is gone as they near 30.

 

[hood b. goode]

as a muslim breh. im feeling more and more than i need to avoid temptation and settle down wit ha righteous, attractive woman. problem is i wanna get married to a girl younger than me...like significantly younger

 

[Atlrocafella]

Saw a bad one at the grocery store tonight, even got in line behind her, and I'm just like fukk it, I'm not even in the mood..just paid for my shyt and left. I'm really nonchalant on these chicks right now , I'm not even doing the texting shyt with them this week, They got something to say, they will call. I'm only responding to my friends and fam via text this week.

 

[jadillac]

Saw a bad one at the grocery store tonight, even got in line behind her, and I'm just like fukk it, I'm not even in the mood..just paid for my shyt and left. I'm really nonchalant on these chicks right now , I'm not even doing the texting shyt with them this week, They got something to say, they will call. I'm only responding to my friends and fam via text this week.

this cute chick hit me up on Tinder tonight, and I was just I'd rather finish watching the Royal Rumble

dont even want to go thru this bs again.

 

[jadillac]

Yea im done deluding myself into believing her claims that she has changed. Its crazy to have to go from believing the best about someone to having to believe the worst. After reading this thread I'm certain that she's just trying to keep me around as a guy on the side and only tells me certain things to keep me talking to her. She enjoys having the power to affect me, I see that now and its deaded. These chicks really out here running schemes with 100 layers of deception.

One thing I'm starting to see is, these women know men BETTER than we know ourselves. They've been with so many men & in situations over and over and know certain signs.

so yeah, they will call you ever so often just to see where ur head is at. When they feel like you might be suspicious or done with them, they will hit you up to keep things cool. If ur short with them they'll joke around or something to try and distract ur mind. They never want to be the bad guy b/c then they have to question themselves. And if they're already getting older, still single, then they're already silenty questioning themselves. Which they dont like doing b/c it places blame on THEM. They'd rather lie to themselves and come up w/ things you did "wrong". You were too nice, or not aggressive enough, etc

I'm glad I started reading this thread again. Gives me strength to cut this chick outta my life.

Another thing to do is, if ur questioning dropping her,
Pop open a word document and just spend 5-10 mins typing a pros/cons list as to why you should/shouldn't cut her off. You'll likely come up w/ a ton more cons than pros LOL

 

[jadillac]

I usually agree and amplify when women make statements about me, did it in this case aswell but I've never heard this one before:

"It seems like you're vain"

Anyone else ever get hit with this?

this girl recently told me "You're arrogant, and have an air about you"

But yet she kept talking to me

Mind you I've NEVER heard this in my entire life, nor is it remotely true.

 

[MikelArteta]

That's the thing you get to a point like is it worth it?

She looks good, you'll get a date, maybe click, she will be into you, be on her best behavior impressing you, then the honeymoon period dissipates and she does the slow fade becoming busy.


And your right back st square one again

I'm the type of person I only date with a purpose in mind and its not to spend money, waste my time, play games, sex, validation, fill my ego.

this cute chick hit me up on Tinder tonight, and I was just I'd rather finish watching the Royal Rumble

dont even want to go thru this bs again.

 

[MikelArteta]

Which is why you never call them out, they will say and do anything to calm your fears.

Its like questioning a cheater without evidence they will deny and go further underground.

You tell a woman you feel she's getting distant she will put on a better act.

What you do is act oblivious and be a step ahead.


If your questioning it, it will always be more con's than pros

Pros are usually she's pretty, the sex, I really like her/love her ala the the three things a woman can hold over you

Sex her beauty and a emotional connection.

One thing I'm starting to see is, these women know men BETTER than we know ourselves. They've been with so many men & in situations over and over and know certain signs.

so yeah, they will call you ever so often just to see where ur head is at. When they feel like you might be suspicious or done with them, they will hit you up to keep things cool. If ur short with them they'll joke around or something to try and distract ur mind. They never want to be the bad guy b/c then they have to question themselves. And if they're already getting older, still single, then they're already silenty questioning themselves. Which they dont like doing b/c it places blame on THEM. They'd rather lie to themselves and come up w/ things you did "wrong". You were too nice, or not aggressive enough, etc

I'm glad I started reading this thread again. Gives me strength to cut this chick outta my life.

Another thing to do is, if ur questioning dropping her,
Pop open a word document and just spend 5-10 mins typing a pros/cons list as to why you should/shouldn't cut her off. You'll likely come up w/ a ton more cons than pros LOL

 

[Bless't]

online works if you can get a "new user" i mean a chick that just signed up

if shes been on there awhile well good luck shes to far gone

I think thats how @Bless't found his brehette

It was indeed. I went through a lot of shyt to find her though. I went on dates, met some decent girls, met some weird girls, canoodled, cavorted... damn near gave up because it was exhausting.

But I found her by sheer chance and luck of the draw. She was online for a day or two if I remember correctly. She then deactivated her account because of all the "creepers and sickos". Life is all about timing.

I agree with you Emp. If a girl has been on there for a while... she knows what she's doing and either A) wants to get dinners and "entertainment" out of the simps or B) is basically a lost cause who every other guy has found out has many red flags.

 

[MikelArteta]

Does anyone think that growing up in a family without dysfunction made you wide eyed and believing the Disney quote unquote way of marriage and relationships?

I mean I never saw infidelity, abuse, game playing.

Like I was so protected between that and seeing harmony couples at church that I had such a unrealistic view of marriage and relationships.

That all I saw was the good in women, their sweet, caring, loving and this is going to last they have my best intention at heart.