Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[MikelArteta]

You won

Its always funny to me sometimes signing onto pof just browsing no account and seeing chicks from like when I used it years ago still on it, same photos like come on Now

It was indeed. I went through a lot of shyt to find her though. I went on dates, met some decent girls, met some weird girls, canoodled, cavorted... damn near gave up because it was exhausting.

But I found her by sheer chance and luck of the draw. She was online for a day or two if I remember correctly. She then deactivated her account because of all the "creepers and sickos". Life is all about timing.

I agree with you Emp. If a girl has been on there for a while... she knows what she's doing and either A) wants to get dinners and "entertainment" out of the simps or B) is basically a lost cause who every other guy has found out has many red flags.

 

[Ohene]

Does anyone think that growing up in a family without dysfunction made you wide eyed and believing the Disney quote unquote way of marriage and relationships?

I mean I never saw infidelity, abuse, game playing.

Like I was so protected between that and seeing harmony couples at church that I had such a unrealistic view of marriage and relationships.

That all I saw was the good in women, their sweet, caring, loving and this is going to last they have my best intention at heart.

I dunno man. I still wonder if sometimes I'm overreacting or expect too much from women nowadays. I often think theres something wrong with me and that I'm just complaining too much. It's probably true, I just dont have the desire to figure it out anymore.

 

[kevm3]

those views on marriage aren't unrealistic. It's just that the modern mentality has been so poisoned, that all of that seems like a fantasy.

 

[Bless't]

yeah, it's tough. Not impossible, but tough.

Especially when the only info you have is her facebook/instagram page. And most women keep that stuff clean as a whistle to protect their image.

What you can do though, is pay attention to EVERYTHING you possibly can about her. Pay attention to everything she says, and if she later contradicts that with another statement. Women blabber so much that they can't remember every little detail they said several weeks ago, but as a listener, you can.

Pay attention to everything in her house, in her car, etc. and pay attention to her friends and what type of ppl they are. Old sayings like "birds of a feather flock together" will always be true.

Yes! Every breh should be very detail oriented and extremely observational when it comes to deciphering a woman's actions/ploys/emotions. Going through the gauntlet of modern day dating will aid you in acquiring such a skill set. Or perhaps, dating is way to hone and sharpen that skill set until you come across someone special.

 

[TRUEST]

Sorry I don't tolerate disrespect.

There are a abundance of beautiful women.

Wall out of my life once the door is locked.

I'm not selling myself short, see your purpose is all sex and vaina and procuring beautiful women mine isn't.

I'm about respect and holding onto my word.


My main joy is helping others, writing, travelling, investing in myself.

i highly doubt this is true. but to each his own.

 

[MikelArteta]

You don't know me breh

I've gone three years voluntary celibate.

The last girl I slept with was a model.

Ive never chased women, I'm not the run of the mill person

i highly doubt this is true. but to each his own.

 

[eXodus]

this girl recently told me "You're arrogant, and have an air about you"

But yet she kept talking to me

Mind you I've NEVER heard this in my entire life, nor is it remotely true.

man one time a girl i was with said she was upest becuz i didnt text her every morning. sometimes i would hit her around 12:30 1 pm...
i told her "oh ok bae i will, some mornings i just have a lot going on, and i need time to reflect and get my thoughts together b4 i hit u. thats probably why i didnt hit u up earlier"

a week later, we arguing and she say "you said yourself, u gotta work yourself up to be in a good mood in the mornings before u can even text me! you got serious issues!"
i'm like what? i got "serious issues" because im self reflective some mornings lol

 

[ProfessionallyTrill]

Talkin to the chick that's moving to Cali.

"She said I can always move back and want to take things slow".

I'm cool w/ that We're goin out this Saturday. She just my type. Flat stomach and all

 

[EA]

Does anyone think that growing up in a family without dysfunction made you wide eyed and believing the Disney quote unquote way of marriage and relationships?

I mean I never saw infidelity, abuse, game playing.

Like I was so protected between that and seeing harmony couples at church that I had such a unrealistic view of marriage and relationships.

That all I saw was the good in women, their sweet, caring, loving and this is going to last they have my best intention at heart.

I definitely think play a part in my thoughts towards girls when I was younger. All I've ever known is my mum and dad bein loving towards each other. They may have their rare argument but it's never loud or disrespectful & all of my aunties and uncles that are around me are the same.

I didn't have my eyes open until university when I had my first real relationship and the consequent time afterwards being single. It's unfortunate though because when my parents talk to me about relationships and why I'm still single, my dad just seems out of touch and my mum's concerned that I've grown cold. They just don't know what it's like nowadays.

 

[MikelArteta]

I always have the same talk with my mom, I'm like its not how it was for you back in the days. When a guy would see you ask you out, call the house phone and all that ish.

Now its just

I definitely think play a part in my thoughts towards girls when I was younger. All I've ever known is my mum and dad bein loving towards each other. They may have their rare argument but it's never loud or disrespectful & all of my aunties and uncles that are around me are the same.

I didn't have my eyes open until university when I had my first real relationship and the consequent time afterwards being single. It's unfortunate though because when my parents talk to me about relationships and why I'm still single, my dad just seems out of touch and my mum's concerned that I've grown cold. They just don't know what it's like nowadays.

 

[EA]

I always have the same talk with my mom, I'm like its not how it was for you back in the days. When a guy would see you ask you out, call the house phone and all that ish.

Now its just

They don't understand. My dad said that in order to find a good woman, I need to find think of money as transient so I don't miss out by underwhelming her on dates.

I sat there like

 

[kevm3]

I always have the same talk with my mom, I'm like its not how it was for you back in the days. When a guy would see you ask you out, call the house phone and all that ish.

Now its just

All you have to really do is ask them how acceptable it was to have children out of wedlock back then when the 'back in my day' talks come.It's amazing how different it is, and it also makes me realize that strong relationships ARE possible, but not with 'modern' values.

 

[TRUEST]

You don't know me breh

I've gone three years voluntary celibate.

The last girl I slept with was a model.

Ive never chased women, I'm not the run of the mill person

i think i know u well enough bro. i've read quite a lot of your posts and take it from me man, you are wasting a lot of your life with this thinking. its sad no one else is telling u this. but u need to understand, in all dealings with women, every woman will do something to piss u off. u need to learn how to identify which things can be overlooked and which shouldn't. all this tough guy persona aint gonna get u nowhere.

and also, about this modeling thing u keep mentioning. i've seen u mention u dated a model several times on this forum. which leads me to believe u rarely pull dimes. im not knocking u, but at the rate u mention this model chick, its as clear as day u consider that an accomplishment.

also, i get the impression that when u start dating chicks, u go gungho on them, to the point where you consume yourself with them. and when that time comes when they feel they need space and they start taking a while to respond to you, u revert to your old tricks of changing ur number and shunning them.

again, i am not knocking u. but, i had to say this because virtually noone else on this forum is spelling it out for u.

and as far as u being celibate. u know what, i believe it. with your tendency to hold a grudge, i can totally see u going through a period where u had so much hate in u that allowed u to remain celibate. we've all been played by chicks man. trust me on that. dont give me that i can do without sex nonsense. if u really can go another 3 years without giving in to the urge of sex, then, in all honesty, u should consider being a priest.

i just hate to see folks miss out on opportunities man.

 

[ProfessionallyTrill]

I realized that "my type" is a woman that has me in a top tier of "Alpha male-ism" if that makes any sense.

For instance, I come from a good home, but even hood dudes can tell I'm a lil rough around the edges and not too square.

If a woman would date a dude much "hooder" than me, we aint gonna work out. I'm sure this is the reason I was disgusted when my BM's new dude was a carless, jobless, drug dealer with a kid.

If you're having dudes like that on your radar, then you're not even on my level. I gel best with women that would be like "hell no" to some shyt like that. Certain standards.

 

[Womb Raider]

Does anyone think that growing up in a family without dysfunction made you wide eyed and believing the Disney quote unquote way of marriage and relationships?

I mean I never saw infidelity, abuse, game playing.

Like I was so protected between that and seeing harmony couples at church that I had such a unrealistic view of marriage and relationships.

That all I saw was the good in women, their sweet, caring, loving and this is going to last they have my best intention at heart.

Aw man. This made me think back to when my parents were married and how I thought about relationships how you described them.

I used to believe in all that simp naive shyt when I was a youngin, shyt really never changed until I experienced things myself. I mean I saw my mom cheat on my dad (stepdad, but dude took care of me since I was 2 and he gets that respect regardless of our blood), I witnessed her keep me and my siblings away from him, snuck phone conversations with him and the kids, even moved out of her house to live with him...my dad went from the family man to a broken man to someone who fukks women whenever and can tell me exactly how a woman is by showing him a profile picture from fb.

Those things never fukked me up to the point where I have serious commitment issues but I certainly don't see women as I used to. Nowadays it's the same cycle as you previously described, you meet someone, tell them what you want, the facade begins and then slowly fades away and here you are again at square one. I do believe that there is someone out there for me but idk if I can ever take the concept of marriage seriously after witnessing certain things...I can't even trust anyone enough to fully commit to them but I think family dysfunction and personal experiences are two different things.