Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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Does anyone think that growing up in a family without dysfunction made you wide eyed and believing the Disney quote unquote way of marriage and relationships?

I mean I never saw infidelity, abuse, game playing.

Like I was so protected between that and seeing harmony couples at church that I had such a unrealistic view of marriage and relationships.

That all I saw was the good in women, their sweet, caring, loving and this is going to last they have my best intention at heart.
Aw man. This made me think back to when my parents were married and how I thought about relationships how you described them.

I used to believe in all that simp naive shyt when I was a youngin, shyt really never changed until I experienced things myself. I mean I saw my mom cheat on my dad (stepdad, but dude took care of me since I was 2 and he gets that respect regardless of our blood), I witnessed her keep me and my siblings away from him, snuck phone conversations with him and the kids, even moved out of her house to live with him...my dad went from the family man to a broken man to someone who fukks women whenever and can tell me exactly how a woman is by showing him a profile picture from fb.

Those things never fukked me up to the point where I have serious commitment issues but I certainly don't see women as I used to. Nowadays it's the same cycle as you previously described, you meet someone, tell them what you want, the facade begins and then slowly fades away and here you are again at square one. I do believe that there is someone out there for me but idk if I can ever take the concept of marriage seriously after witnessing certain things...I can't even trust anyone enough to fully commit to them but I think family dysfunction and personal experiences are two different things.
 

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They don't understand. My dad said that in order to find a good woman, I need to find think of money as transient so I don't miss out by underwhelming her on dates.

I sat there like :stopitslime:
I was told that if I wanted to learn how to find a good woman that I should look in the bible.
 

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Oh.no you think I don't know no one is perfect?

I have boundaries and once they are crossed no turning back. You would take back a woman that disrespects you because your mind is all about puzzy mine is all about respect.

Secondly lol I've been with dimes all my life, if you really want to go ttoe to toe in terms of attractive women you've been with speak up


Old tricks? I changed my number for the first time in two years to start my new year of right, the image UPI concocted in your mind of me is wrong so just stop

your basing your life and your sex drive, and your situations and trying to say its right and throw it upon others, I guarantee you I've been with more women than you, more successful women than you, more beautiful women than you. Sex is always on your mind and that defines you and validates you, it doesn't me.

Stop trying to cast your lifestyle on others because you think its "right".

Stop thinking you know my life when you don't

i think i know u well enough bro. i've read quite a lot of your posts and take it from me man, you are wasting a lot of your life with this thinking. its sad no one else is telling u this. but u need to understand, in all dealings with women, every woman will do something to piss u off. u need to learn how to identify which things can be overlooked and which shouldn't. all this tough guy persona aint gonna get u nowhere.

and also, about this modeling thing u keep mentioning. i've seen u mention u dated a model several times on this forum. which leads me to believe u rarely pull dimes. im not knocking u, but at the rate u mention this model chick, its as clear as day u consider that an accomplishment.

also, i get the impression that when u start dating chicks, u go gungho on them, to the point where you consume yourself with them. and when that time comes when they feel they need space and they start taking a while to respond to you, u revert to your old tricks of changing ur number and shunning them.

again, i am not knocking u. but, i had to say this because virtually noone else on this forum is spelling it out for u.

and as far as u being celibate. u know what, i believe it. with your tendency to hold a grudge, i can totally see u going through a period where u had so much hate in u that allowed u to remain celibate. we've all been played by chicks man. trust me on that. dont give me that i can do without sex nonsense. if u really can go another 3 years without giving in to the urge of sex, then, in all honesty, u should consider being a priest.

i just hate to see folks miss out on opportunities man.
 
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I was told that if I wanted to learn how to find a good woman that I should look in the bible.

You definitely have to find a woman who follows the Bible and not just mouths the words... aka one who is always in the club and acting up. There are a few rare women who actually believe in Jesus enough to follow the Bible and remain chaste and willing to build a family.
 

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I was told that if I wanted to learn how to find a good woman that I should look in the bible.

My mum says the same thing and as much as I'm not much of a practicing Christian right now, I think she's somewhat right. I do want a woman of principles and they can be found in the church but in this day and age, a lot of Sunday's bests are Monday's worsts.
 

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My mum says the same thing and as much as I'm not much of a practicing Christian right now, I think she's somewhat right. I do want a woman of principles and they can be found in the church but in this day and age, a lot of Sunday's bests are Monday's worsts.

Breh is that Andy Allo in the avatar?
 
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You definitely have to find a woman who follows the Bible and not just mouths the words... aka one who is always in the club and acting up. There are a few rare women who actually believe in Jesus enough to follow the Bible and remain chaste and willing to build a family.
Tbh I have to read the bible myself before I look for someone who follows it. Being that I'm 20 years, I just wanna to get many experiences out of the way before I get serious.

I think I already asked you guys about this situation but I'll ask again just for confirmation. I've been fukking this Asian girl since August, known her for like four years before that. She broke up with her bf of four years in June of last year. Now it was clear in the beginning that she just wanted to fukk and be close (which is against my discipline, I either want to give someone my all or nothing but consistent p*ssy is consistent p*ssy). She asked me to be her best friend/fukk buddy and I agreed, just because if I can fukk her and anyone else then why not? Now since then we've had several arguments. I will admit that I've fukked up by doing certain things like being with her on Xmas, fukking her the same day someone else fukked her....now I get the p*ssy anytime, any day. She makes me food, I can stay over whenever, she helped me get my GPA higher, we have the same major and she even hooks me up with notes and old tests etc. My question am I doing some simp shyt by overlooking her being hoe because I have others? Or am I just overthinking it and should keep hitting it?
 

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Tbh I have to read the bible myself before I look for someone who follows it. Being that I'm 20 years, I just wanna to get many experiences out of the way before I get serious.

I think I already asked you guys about this situation but I'll ask again just for confirmation. I've been fukking this Asian girl since August, known her for like four years before that. She broke up with her bf of four years in June of last year. Now it was clear in the beginning that she just wanted to fukk and be close (which is against my discipline, I either want to give someone my all or nothing but consistent p*ssy is consistent p*ssy). She asked me to be her best friend/fukk buddy and I agreed, just because if I can fukk her and anyone else then why not? Now since then we've had several arguments. I will admit that I've fukked up by doing certain things like being with her on Xmas, fukking her the same day someone else fukked her....now I get the p*ssy anytime, any day. She makes me food, I can stay over whenever, she helped me get my GPA higher, we have the same major and she even hooks me up with notes and old tests etc. My question am I doing some simp shyt by overlooking her being hoe because I have others? Or am I just overthinking it and should keep hitting it?

You answered your question in your post. You said it was against your discipline, so you really have to consider what is more important, fulfilling your lusts of the flesh or living up to your principles.
 

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You answered your question in your post. You said it was against your discipline, so you really have to consider what is more important, fulfilling your lusts of the flesh or living up to your principles.
Very true, I just wanted to get an outside opinion. It's an opportunity that I don't want to turn down just to get into another failed relationship.
 

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Very true, I just wanted to get an outside opinion. It's an opportunity that I don't want to turn down just to get into another failed relationship.

If you got this girl pregnant, do you think you would be happy with her being the mother of your child?

Realistically, the thing about being principled is that it is very difficult, but that's what establishes you as a man. You will have to forego some pleasure, but in return you will be able to look in the mirror and say you are a man that does what he says and lives by his code.

Ultimately, how can we expect women to be classy and wifey material if we don't hold ourselves to the same standard and go about a-whoring?
 

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If you got this girl pregnant, do you think you would be happy with her being the mother of your child?

Realistically, the thing about being principled is that it is very difficult, but that's what establishes you as a man. You will have to forego some pleasure, but in return you will be able to look in the mirror and say you are a man that does what he says and lives by his code.

Ultimately, how can we expect women to be classy and wifey material if we don't hold ourselves to the same standard and go about a-whoring?
I wouldn't be happy with anyone being the mother of my child. I'm not financially or emotionally stable enough to raise a child, so I would not want to bring one into this world.

I agree, it is very difficult. I have struggled with this girl, I've been contemplating cutting sex off with her for a while but every time I end up right back in the p*ssy. It's like I'm getting everything I want except for her to not be a whore...but is a relationship at 20 years old even worth it? And even then I could cut it off as soon as I find someone I want to be with. Her being a whore is both a gift and a curse, IMO.
 

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I wouldn't be happy with anyone being the mother of my child. I'm not financially or emotionally stable enough to raise a child, so I would not want to bring one into this world.

I agree, it is very difficult. I have struggled with this girl, I've been contemplating cutting sex off with her for a while but every time I end up right back in the p*ssy. It's like I'm getting everything I want except for her to not be a whore...but is a relationship at 20 years old even worth it? And even then I could cut it off as soon as I find someone I want to be with. Her being a whore is both a gift and a curse, IMO.

If you find a quality woman at your age, a relationship at 20 is absolutely worth it. In fact, if you find a quality woman, you better get to her before someone else does, because as you get older, especially as you get in your 30s, it is very difficult to find the kind of quality you want in a wife because most of the wifeable women are already taken and locked up. The key is to never rush into relationships and overlook key flags because you are feeling lonely or desperate. However, if the quality woman is there, you better go nab her. All of that waiting around is what's really going to cause you regrets. I know firsthand because I waited too long on this beautiful girl with solid morals. Some other guy got her, gave her a kid and that's that.

Being principled isn't popular advice in this day and age because everyone is looking for immediate pleasure first and foremost, but then we have the audacity to wonder why everything is so screwed up. It's tough being a man of principle, but it pays off in the end.
 
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