Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Po pimp]

Met this chick on saturday, been texting since Monday
Yesterday I say "I'm off work, driving home. Call me in 20"
She goes "Just call me when you get settled in"


The old me would've called without hesitation, and even rationalized why I did "It made sense for me to call her because she wouldn't have known if I was home"

In all honesty, she was probably in the right. If you wanted to talk to her, why not just call when you get home instead of texting her to call you? I mean, it was you who initiated the convo.

One of my biggest peeves is when someone texts me to call them, or if during a conversation, they might be in the middle of something, at work, etc and will say "call me back in 10 min." No, you call ME when you finish doing whatever you're doing.

 

[MikelArteta]

tom leykis said this yesterday not word for word but ive always stated this in the past

treat dating a woman like buying a new car, when your buying a new car you don't just go to the dealership and say i want that one without test driving it before you commit to it, your also not going to let the sales person know yeah i want this car and ill accept it for the sticker price listed, nope you will not reveal to much you will let him know you have options, that other cars out there caught your eye and you are in a position of power to decide, and its up to them and the car to impress you.

now to spin it onto dating and women, you should let a chick know that you have options, that she isn't the only honda civic out there , that you have owned and driven better cars (been with hotter girls), worse cars (been with uglier girls), bigger cars (bigger girls) etc.

now there are tons of cars out there, some small some big, some new some used, some luxury some not, just like chicks.

 

[winb83]

tom leykis said this yesterday not word for word but ive always stated this in the past

treat dating a woman like buying a new car, when your buying a new car you don't just go to the dealership and say i want that one without test driving it before you commit to it, your also not going to let the sales person know yeah i want this car and ill accept it for the sticker price listed, nope you will not reveal to much you will let him know you have options, that other cars out there caught your eye and you are in a position of power to decide, and its up to them and the car to impress you.

now to spin it onto dating and women, you should let a chick know that you have options, that she isn't the only honda civic out there , that you have owned and driven better cars (been with hotter girls), worse cars (been with uglier girls), bigger cars (bigger girls) etc.

now there are tons of cars out there, some small some big, some new some used, some luxury some not, just like chicks.

Dude was saying people cheat because they're cowards that don't have the balls to leave. That's real talk.

 

[jalamanta]

Its been a drought year brehs, no sex.

Last relationship opened to me all things written in this thread, had to rethink everything, hibernate for awhile. bytch left me and I felt , dont know how guys go fukking other bytches in a couple of weeks after relationships end, with that fukking void inside . Well, now I changed my whole attitude and know how.

I came to conclusion that I am too young (23) to search for respectful wifey type woman you are talking about here. Truth be told, all I want is some sex with nasty sluts, lots of sex. I want to go considerably below my level, women with whom I am not typically associated by myself and others, get down into dungeons where these sluts are inhabited and do some nasty shyt to them.

I am about to hit streets and just collect numbers, register on dating websites and spam this shyt.

Tell me guys, is this the right path, is satan gonna take me I feel that if I won't do it I will regret it later in life.

 

[ThaDoc]

Brehs... I need advice.

Some of y'all may have seen my previous post about how often you'll come across one girl who will just completely fukk up your game and how if you find yourself simping, you need to cut her off immediately.

Well, I finally cut this girl off. We've been friends for a long time but things changed and I made it clear what I wanted and she made it clear she wasn't down so I told her we were going to have to take a long break. No more texting, FB, anything. She agrees.

Since then... She randomly texts me out the blue about "how happy she is feeling today" and texts me photos of food she's cooked talking about "see how I'm taking care of myself!:P" and I'm like . I ask what happened to not texting and she gets real short on some "i have a bad memory. thats my excuse" sh1t.

I basically replied that there wasn't to be any more contact and she goes from all playful to just a one word response "aight". But wtf is this about?

I'm guessing she's just missing the attention I was giving her and nothing more but do my advanced brehs have any insights they can share?

 

[Captain Crunch]

Its been a drought year brehs, no sex.

Last relationship opened to me all things written in this thread, had to rethink everything, hibernate for awhile. bytch left me and I felt , dont know how guys go fukking other bytches in a couple of weeks after relationships end, with that fukking void inside . Well, now I changed my whole attitude and know how.

I came to conclusion that I am too young (23) to search for respectful wifey type woman you are talking about here. Truth be told, all I want is some sex with nasty sluts, lots of sex. I want to go considerably below my level, women with whom I am not typically associated by myself and others, get down into dungeons where these sluts are inhabited and do some nasty shyt to them.

I am about to hit streets and just collect numbers, register on dating websites and spam this shyt.

Tell me guys, is this the right path, is satan gonna take me I feel that if I won't do it I will regret it later in life.

If sex is all you want, than go on and do it, but keep it honest when chicks ask you about your status just to keep it honest(right now I'm playing the field) and go forth padawan

 

[jalamanta]

If sex is all you want, than go on and do it, but keep it honest when chicks ask you about your status just to keep it honest(right now I'm playing the field) and go forth padawan

okay

 

[MaccabeanRebel]

Its been a drought year brehs, no sex.

Last relationship opened to me all things written in this thread, had to rethink everything, hibernate for awhile. bytch left me and I felt , dont know how guys go fukking other bytches in a couple of weeks after relationships end, with that fukking void inside . Well, now I changed my whole attitude and know how.

I came to conclusion that I am too young (23) to search for respectful wifey type woman you are talking about here. Truth be told, all I want is some sex with nasty sluts, lots of sex. I want to go considerably below my level, women with whom I am not typically associated by myself and others, get down into dungeons where these sluts are inhabited and do some nasty shyt to them.

I am about to hit streets and just collect numbers, register on dating websites and spam this shyt.

Tell me guys, is this the right path, is satan gonna take me I feel that if I won't do it I will regret it later in life.

Dawg,

Sounds like your about to seriouslly lower your standards just to get in them guts breh. Best advice I can give you is don't do it. Obviouslly you want some puss, I mean who don't, , but don't lower your standards. Seems like you feel that time slipping away in your 20's and you don't want to have any regrets, but think it out..the puss always gonna be there wether you 20,25,30,40...it's not going anywhere. You got hella time just be easy....work on yourself, get a skill, work out, and get some MONEY i.e. become established. Don't mess with them chicks hella beneath you breh..you gonna regret that shyt when LaShante' who was throwing them goods at you pop up with a lil parasite and say it's yours , fukk with a chick that got just as much to loose as u

 

[jalamanta]

Dawg,

Sounds like your about to seriouslly lower your standards just to get in them guts breh. Best advice I can give you is don't do it. Obviouslly you want some puss, I mean who don't, , but don't lower your standards. Seems like you feel that time slipping away in your 20's and you don't want to have any regrets, but think it out..the puss always gonna be there wether you 20,25,30,40...it's not going anywhere. You got hella time just be easy....work on yourself, get a skill, work out, and get some MONEY i.e. become established. Don't mess with them chicks hella beneath you breh..you gonna regret that shyt when LaShante' who was throwing them goods at you pop up with a lil parasite and say it's yours , fukk with a chick that got just as much to loose as u

How old are you? I feel what you saying, the bolded part is exactly why I am thinking to go ham. When I talked about lowering standards I didn't mean looks wise, just going at hoe type.

I am good looking and I hit gym since 18. Money good too but of course i want it better.

My type of girl is good girl () but they require too much work, I am tired of this shyt. Truth be told though, deep down inside I want relationships but it was always a frustrating experience in the end. On the other hand, I've never lived that hoe life, I want to experience that.

Is that hoe life worth it, is it brehs? I think its mostly social pressure that makes me feel like every other guy has a roaster of 20 bytches, made me think why I can't be that guy.

 

[sixsixtwo]

Truly pathetic:

 

[Sharp]

Getting women gets easier as you get older. Women are way more receptive to me now than when I was in my early 20s. I'm in my mid 30s now. The reason is that you become more established which as a result allows you to live the life you desire and makes you more confident. You start to feel like you deserve more from a woman which is attractive to them because a selective man is a valued man in the eyes of a woman.

 

[Turbulent]

always remember that everyone has there own definition of love and standards. a woman may say she loves you and in her mind, it really is true love maybe. but you still notice very selfish actions and attitudes in her. doesn't mean she's lying. just that you guys have different definition on what love is.

this is why there is no point in wondering if she's feeling "true love" towards you or not. it's like trying to imagine if other people perceive colors like we perceive them. it doesn't really matter if they see blue when we see red, or if they see yellow when we see blue. worry about what actions you will tolerate and what she will tolerate and enjoy. worry about bonding with her and maintaining that bond. her feelings and how she experiences them is for her to understand on a deeper level. not for you. cause you'd get lost in that maze. it's in her own personal language.

 

[sixsixtwo]

 

[bigmanharris]

yep
hell i got some chicks on my fb ill look at their profile pic and they have 3 nikkas throughout the year they are dealing with all with a pic of them hugging or kissing and hes writing simp msgs below i love you baby

and this is why you don't like or write comments on pic or her fb cuz i been there in my simp days, then we broke up she removed me from fb all my simp msgs were still on her page for all her freinds to see and laugh about, i literally had to deactivate that fb and start over, now nope nothing.


never take a chick out to a spot you enjoy NEVER, another mistake i made in the past, i took this chick out to mini putt her first time, i enjoy mini putt i used to go like once a week, well what do you know we drift our seperate ways and i go to mini putt one friday and this chick is there with her new man

Never added my ex on Facebook and I tell chicks if we get romatically involved i'm unfriending you.

And I never took my ex not once to my favorite hang out spot. NEVER. You gotta keep some stuff for yourself.

 

[Ohene]

hey bro, not sure this will help but here goes.

First, its kinda like when people (and i'm sure those in this thread in particular) say that you need to work on yourself and improve yourself... like if you a fat nygga, hit the threadmill and get slim... if you a skinny nygga, hit the weights and get swoll... if you a nappy headed nygga, brush ya head and get waves... if you can't dress, pay attention to them usher, ne-yo, common ass nyggas and see if their style in clothes is somethin you can see yourself in... so in that same sense, if you can't move around for shyt because you don't have a vehicle, well you know what you gotta do. And if its something where you can't afford a car, or your own spot, or relatively nice clothes/accessories... then that just means you need a better job or you just gotta suck it up until the internship expires and you hopefully get picked up by the/a company (or whatever) for actual good pay. Easier said than done I know, but still. Is your internship paid btw?

2nd, i myself have nyggas i play vid games with, nyggas i lift weights with, hoop with, and a couple nyggas who i can do all the above and roll to the clubs/parties to tag team/triple team these females with. They all my nyggas but they don't all have the same level of interest or mindset in everything that i'm about across the board. Kinda like different habitats, and the nyggas i be on xbox live with aint always the same folks i see in the gym or the weight room or at work or at the barbers, etc.

Point is, if you lookin to expand your social circle, well think about what you like to do bro! You a hooper? Go find some places to hoop at during weekends and you gonna chop it up with the hoopers. Same with the gym you currently workout at, chop it up with them nyggas, join in on they workouts, etc. You in college? see if anyone doin some flag football leagues or intramural shyts. if you go to the barbers, join in on them convos... and then once you become cool with any/all of them nyggas ask them nyggas where the hoes be at, what live events be goin down and hopefully them nyggas will be respectable enough for you to roll with. Basically, my social circle(s) came about through me indulging in shyt that appealed to me (that made me happy or whatever) and being open to engaging with others who had similar interests as me.

Finally, even for the times that my couple nyggas that i roll to the club with aren't with me... it didn't really matter because i didn't/don't feel i need clubs/parties to meet females anyway. Like others have said, just living your life, doing you, will have you encounter females. You just gotta not give a fukk (or, as others say, have "confidence") and seize the moment when it presents itself. See a female at walmart or at chilis or at a gas station or whatever... fukk it, if you take care of and improve upon yourself (as mentioned earlier) go on and talk to her ass... cuz more often than not she is not gonna mind a well groomed, well chiseled, good lookin ass nygga approaching her... its just a matter of other factors like is she with her girlfriends, or have a bf, or is just having a bad day/in a bad mood. And even if its any of the above or something else, its whatever, because they'll be others..

Internship pays about 35 K a year salary before taxes. It should be noted that I'm 20 and while there are nikkas out here livving on their own much younger I'd be a fool to do so currently

Youre preaching to the choir though...Im just being patient. My gear is top level for a nikka my age. Not on somme gucci and louis V shyt but nonetheless. Pants: Diesel, Nudie, Levis, Denham etc. Shirts: Lacoste, Farah, Penguin, Ralph, Brooks Brothers etc. Other items etc etc. Everyone alwaystells me I dress well. Even when Im in a plain tee and a pair of jeans with boots/sneakers my denim game is just so great people take notice. I know how to coordinate colors and outfits to look clean and effortless.


The Car and friend group are really all that hold me back. And its sad but until I graduate its gonna stay that way.I'm currently paying my last years tuition off (3.5 K left) and then I'm saving for my final years tuition...about 7.5K. I will save a car (preferably Lexus, Audi or Volvo) but that insurance will be a lick. No point in actually purchasing one until i graduate and secure a job in either Investment Mgmt, I-Banking or Accounting because even during school I get free transit with my student ID card. Then the car wont be an issue and I'll have a real use for it besides courting bytches. Its a matter of priorities...not gonna strap myself just so I can go out and fornicate more. School and my career right now comes first cause I wanna be status after graduation while everyone is looking at them Sallie Mae and OSAP student loan checks.

Im definitely gonna take your advice on being more independent and leaving my dudes behind just to develop my own side circle. Cant use that excuse cause only I control my life. With no car it'll be more difficult but still. It's hard rolling truly dolo though and thats what ima have to do but fukk it...thats what ima do. As far as intramural sports and stuff...did all that with my boys but i was confined to my white friends. I wont go into detail but man its hard being the only nikka in a click. Barbers...already do that ...meh. Gym...definitely gonna try to connect more because even now I be needing a partner and my bro goes to a different gym and he cant help me...plus I always go to the gym outside my office right b4 work in downtown Toronto.

What I was think was moreso concerts and sports. Cause theres nothing I am more passionate about than Football and Music.