Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[kevm3]

My almost perfect woman

Well first off no one is perfect or almost perfect, everyone has faults, baggage and different attitudes, standards, boundaries etc. etc. etc., but yeah this is my thoughts so these are my 5 things...........

1. A woman that likes me and likes me for me

Yeah I'm not one of those guys running around doing circus tricks, chasing, pinning and doing manipulative PUA type tactics to convince someone to hey give me a chance. Nor am I one of those guys who morph into a character and take on a role to try and come across as more of a catch in her eyes. Nah I'm a take it or leave it type person, I'm confident in who I am and my perceived value, and if it's not someone's cup of tea - meh! As well neither am I one of those guys who stay languishing in some sort of backup friendzone role - the day I waste a second of my life trying to convince someone I'm worth it will be the day when pigs fly.

2. A woman who shares the same values

Yeah opposites attract - monogamous individuals always seem to end up with cheaters, honest people seem to come across liars. So thanks but no thanks I need someone who shares my core values. And that is loyalty, honesty, fidelity, commitment and respect.

3. A woman who follows the same lifestyle

Not judging as I am only accountable for myself and I will never profess my way of life is the way it should be. However if I am living a lifestyle of juggling a whole heap of women, conversing with exes why should I expect to find a quality woman that is only interested in I and I alone. If I sleep around and partake in this hook up generation, why should I expect a non-promiscuous woman? I'm not perfect by any means but I live my lifestyle accordingly to what I desire.

4. A woman who understands me

Shocking news I am not perfect, shocking news it's hard for me to trust, shocking news it's hard for me to open up, shocking news I still guard my heart somewhat. Notice I never said I won't? - in essence what I'm saying is that I need someone who is patient and understands me; I may not finish the race of trusting, opening up in world record time but I'll get there, I'll get there if......................

5. A woman who is worthy

"A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies."

A woman who who is worthy, worthy of my trust, worthy of my love, worthy of my time, worthy of my commitment, worthy for me to give up the life I am living.

I love my life - writing a book, blogging, dabbling in photography, going to the gym, travelling, volunteering and enjoying the blessings that have been bestowed upon me - (Liar Liar you are probably actively searching for a woman)

Nope I am a single male in his late 20's yet I don't have Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Snapchat, tinder (although I did at one point and had over 1,000 matches) nor any online dating accounts. Neither do I club, bar hop, lounge, meetup or whatever the younglings dabble in to socialize nowadays. My social apparatus is "I Blog and I flickr and I Blog and I flickr".

Wait you didn't mention looks, beauty, status, desirability and all that --

First off there is nothing wrong with anything listed above just meh beauty, status, desirability levels are all fleeting and are not a requirement - they are the decorations to the cake so to speak. I've been there and done that - canoodled/cavorted/mingled with beautiful women, successful women even gasp fell in love twice. I've lived the life looking from the exterior that most could only dream in their sleep and well where did that get me?

And yes I know I probably passed up/friendzoned numerous women who met my list in the past, again I never said I was perfect.

When you're with a woman that likes you for you, I'm telling you, it's mad relaxing just to have conversations. When you're doing the fake stuff, it's nothing but headaches because you're constantly wondering what to do next to impress her. I'd rather have the peace of mind that comes with being me 100% 24/7. One of the only truly unique thing we have on this earth is our own personality. It's simply not worth sacrificing that to try to trick some broad.

 

[MikelArteta]

When you're with a woman that likes you for you, I'm telling you, it's mad relaxing just to have conversations. When you're doing the fake stuff, it's nothing but headaches because you're constantly wondering what to do next to impress her. I'd rather have the peace of mind that comes with being me 100% 24/7. One of the only truly unique thing we have on this earth is our own personality. It's simply not worth sacrificing that to try to trick some broad.

yup you don't have to do anything, your shy and quiet? she loves it, your loud and boisterous she loves it, you spill ketchup on your white shirt she finds it funny, your nervous and jittery its cute, convos flow, you lose track of the time.

You can never lose being you, so what if some random chick who will probably only be in your life anyways for a few months if your lucky if you take on the actor role of the character she desires isn't feeling you

I'll rather be me, there is only one you no one else can offer what you have.

 

[kevm3]

yup you don't have to do anything, your shy and quiet? she loves it, your loud and boisterous she loves it, you spill ketchup on your white shirt she finds it funny, your nervous and jittery its cute, convos flow, you lose track of the time.

You can never lose being you, so what if some random chick who will probably only be in your life anyways for a few months if your lucky if you take on the actor role of the character she desires isn't feeling you

I'll rather be me, there is only one you no one else can offer what you have.

and when you really think about it, it's really corny coming out with a completely new personality to get with a woman. That's essentially saying you aren't worthy of her so you have to sacrifice your own self in order to present something more pleasing. If she doesn't see me as valuable, I don't want to be in her company. That simple.

 

[MikelArteta]

and when you really think about it, it's really corny coming out with a completely new personality to get with a woman. That's essentially saying you aren't worthy of her so you have to sacrifice your own self in order to present something more pleasing. If she doesn't see me as valuable, I don't want to be in her company. That simple.

even the bible says
If anyone will not welcome you or listen to your words, leave that home or town and shake the dust off your feet.

I take the same approach with women, shes not interested in me or what I have to say well see ya

 

[RealAssanova]

So i use to talk to this girl back in sept till about october. Shorty would call me every night and me and her would chat (mostly her fingering herself).

we stopped talkin in november and she hits me up today on bbm and I'm like we haven't spoken in 3 months...and in that time, you never hit me up. Why the change all of a sudden?

she goes i was away on vacation for a few weeks and i'm like

i was short and cold, and she was like you don't wanna talk to me woww

told her i ain't a dikkhead, we was cool before, but things change and life goes on...now she like i'm terribly sorry, i didn't mean it like that...i wanna start from scratch yada yada.

for the record, i never smashed this girl. She lives 3 hours away by plane and i ain't even emotionally invested in her. I just used to talk to her for the sake of talking and shyt.

 

[Saysumthinfunnymike]

@RealAssanova Sound like she had a nikka and they broke up or something. @ she was on vacation. 3 Hours away, I wouldn't waste my time. She been playin games and shyt. I mean if she come out your way, possibly but don't go out there lol..

 

[RealAssanova]

@RealAssanova Sound like she had a nikka and they broke up or something. @ she was on vacation. 3 Hours away, I wouldn't waste my time. She been playin games and shyt. I mean if she come out your way, possibly but don't go out there lol..

lol i wouldn't even kno fam. But i can tell you women are terrible at lying.

and i ain't even bothered by her playing games or shyt, cuz i was never invested to begin with.

it is funny seein em trip though. i never let em off easy. Never. Straight

 

[jadillac]

she goes i was away on vacation for a few weeks and i'm like

she thought she could just feed you any bs line and you'd fall for it b/c you liked her. SMH

See how much some of these women respect us out here?.

 

[MikelArteta]

That line worked on someone

she thought she could just feed you any bs line and you'd fall for it b/c you liked her. SMH

See how much some of these women respect us out here?.

 

[RealAssanova]

she thought she could just feed you any bs line and you'd fall for it b/c you liked her. SMH

See how much some of these women respect us out here?.

i don't even like her like that fam. I guess she thought she had a nikka hooked that she could do this and i'd be all with it.

 

[MikelArteta]

I'm giving up sex, I can't keep being a fraud and serving two masters. Choosing which parts of the bible I want to follow etc., if I'm serious I gotta be serious. I got to stop emotionally bonding sexually with these women.

I can't say I want a godly woman when I'm still of this world, I know many of y'all ain't religious I ain't here to judge or anything just saying what I have to do.

I can remember every woman I slept with, their body everything. Its like they have a piece of me and I have a piece of them and it can be years and years and years but I still remember. Even those that were a ons, yet chicks I went on numerous dates with I can't even remember their names.

So today I take up the mantle, no more!!

 

[TRUEST]

and when you really think about it, it's really corny coming out with a completely new personality to get with a woman. That's essentially saying you aren't worthy of her so you have to sacrifice your own self in order to present something more pleasing. If she doesn't see me as valuable, I don't want to be in her company. That simple.

changing urself up is not entirely a bad idea. what happens if you're naturally a corny dude who always says the wrong things to the opposite sex. some people learn to change things up if they want to get what they deem as positive results. sticking to what never works is a sure way to waste ur life away.

case in point:

the very first girlfriend i ever had hated how i dressed. i met her when i was about 24. she was 21. i really felt she was put into my life by the powers that be specifically to open my eyes to a lot of things. whenever we went anywhere with her friends, she always insisted on seeing what i was wearing. and looking back on it, i feel bad for her because now as a grown ass man, i understand the importance of dressing well wherever u go. she knew it. a person that knows how to dress, even if they're ugly, can look ravishing. that's a fact. and if ur a nice looking dude, and u dress well, u'll command even more respect. u dont have to wear anything expensive or extravagant or colorful. but if u can make ur outfit look coordinated (no funny colors) and fitted, u will be eyed by the opposite sex everywhere u go.

now, i bring that up because, back then. when this girlfriend of mine was trying to get me to change my dress code. i was offended. i didn't want to put in any effort in what i wore. many girls didn't care. but the more sophisticated, educated ones did. and that girl was both.

i can be hardheaded and say to myself "nah, i'm not gonna change my dress code. that's not me". but, i decided right after we broke up, to give it a try. and when i did, believe u me, even girls that "sorta" liked me, got moist when i would show up on our dates dressed like they never expected. matter of fact, had one of them so horny, we ended up going to a small park in the woods to fucck. on that particular night, based on how much she complimented me that night, i realized the seriousness of knowing how to dress. and i just kinda shook my head in disbelieve at the amount of time i had wasted in the past dressing crappy.

what men should be focusing on is having a backbone and not allowing anyone to walk over them. changing urself up for the better, sharpening ur personality for the better is all fair game to me. u cant spend life waiting for that one girl that will love every impurity you possess. humans are products, and like products, we can be refined to be made better.

 

[MikelArteta]

what men should be focusing on is having a backbone and not allowing anyone to walk over them. changing urself up for the better, sharpening ur personality for the better is all fair game to me. u cant spend life waiting for that one girl that will love every impurity you possess. humans are products, and like products, we can be refined to be made better

i agree, i mean if you are a "nice guy" simp, then yeah you should change.

You should have self respect for yourself as key, what I meant by changing is those dudes who take on a bad boy image, or become a reflection. Ala on a dating profile chick says she likes art, she likes guys that are so and so and so and so

you hate art and your not that guy that is so and so and so, but you put on an act of liking art and being that so and so and so guy to get a chance.

I'm a introvert and I've always been since I was little, i'm not becoming some outgoing extrovert guy because some transient chick wants that

 

[Ohene]

changing urself up is not entirely a bad idea. what happens if you're naturally a corny dude who always says the wrong things to the opposite sex. some people learn to change things up if they want to get what they deem as positive results. sticking to what never works is a sure way to waste ur life away.

case in point:

the very first girlfriend i ever had hated how i dressed. i met her when i was about 24. she was 21. i really felt she was put into my life by the powers that be specifically to open my eyes to a lot of things. whenever we went anywhere with her friends, she always insisted on seeing what i was wearing. and looking back on it, i feel bad for her because now as a grown ass man, i understand the importance of dressing well wherever u go. she knew it. a person that knows how to dress, even if they're ugly, can look ravishing. that's a fact. and if ur a nice looking dude, and u dress well, u'll command even more respect. u dont have to wear anything expensive or extravagant or colorful. but if u can make ur outfit look coordinated (no funny colors) and fitted, u will be eyed by the opposite sex everywhere u go.

now, i bring that up because, back then. when this girlfriend of mine was trying to get me to change my dress code. i was offended. i didn't want to put in any effort in what i wore. many girls didn't care. but the more sophisticated, educated ones did. and that girl was both.

i can be hardheaded and say to myself "nah, i'm not gonna change my dress code. that's not me". but, i decided right after we broke up, to give it a try. and when i did, believe u me, even girls that "sorta" liked me, got moist when i would show up on our dates dressed like they never expected. matter of fact, had one of them so horny, we ended up going to a small park in the woods to fucck. on that particular night, based on how much she complimented me that night, i realized the seriousness of knowing how to dress. and i just kinda shook my head in disbelieve at the amount of time i had wasted in the past dressing crappy.

what men should be focusing on is having a backbone and not allowing anyone to walk over them. changing urself up for the better, sharpening ur personality for the better is all fair game to me. u cant spend life waiting for that one girl that will love every impurity you possess. humans are products, and like products, we can be refined to be made better.

lol this nikka took like a year off of this thread but came back saying some real shyt

 

[kevm3]

changing urself up is not entirely a bad idea. what happens if you're naturally a corny dude who always says the wrong things to the opposite sex. some people learn to change things up if they want to get what they deem as positive results. sticking to what never works is a sure way to waste ur life away.

case in point:

the very first girlfriend i ever had hated how i dressed. i met her when i was about 24. she was 21. i really felt she was put into my life by the powers that be specifically to open my eyes to a lot of things. whenever we went anywhere with her friends, she always insisted on seeing what i was wearing. and looking back on it, i feel bad for her because now as a grown ass man, i understand the importance of dressing well wherever u go. she knew it. a person that knows how to dress, even if they're ugly, can look ravishing. that's a fact. and if ur a nice looking dude, and u dress well, u'll command even more respect. u dont have to wear anything expensive or extravagant or colorful. but if u can make ur outfit look coordinated (no funny colors) and fitted, u will be eyed by the opposite sex everywhere u go.

now, i bring that up because, back then. when this girlfriend of mine was trying to get me to change my dress code. i was offended. i didn't want to put in any effort in what i wore. many girls didn't care. but the more sophisticated, educated ones did. and that girl was both.

i can be hardheaded and say to myself "nah, i'm not gonna change my dress code. that's not me". but, i decided right after we broke up, to give it a try. and when i did, believe u me, even girls that "sorta" liked me, got moist when i would show up on our dates dressed like they never expected. matter of fact, had one of them so horny, we ended up going to a small park in the woods to fucck. on that particular night, based on how much she complimented me that night, i realized the seriousness of knowing how to dress. and i just kinda shook my head in disbelieve at the amount of time i had wasted in the past dressing crappy.

what men should be focusing on is having a backbone and not allowing anyone to walk over them. changing urself up for the better, sharpening ur personality for the better is all fair game to me. u cant spend life waiting for that one girl that will love every impurity you possess. humans are products, and like products, we can be refined to be made better.

I see where you're coming from. I make a huge distinction between improving your self and changing yourself. For example, if you're not a thug, changing yourself would be you getting tattoos, wearing bandanas and changing your complete lingo because women like that. On the other hand, it doesn't mean not to improve your style of dress. If at the end of the day, when you look at the mirror and you can feel proud of yourself and you can say, "That's me", then that sort of change is fine. In fact, it's encouraged.

I'm completely against being comfortable in your mediocrity. That's not the change I was talking about. The change I'm talking about is essentially concocting a whole new personality, dress style, way of acting that does NOT coincide with who you really are. For example, you're really a jazz dude, but all of a sudden you're mr. rock n roll because the particular woman you're talking to loves rock n roll. You're a laid back and calm dude, but all of a sudden you're rough and tough when you get around some project chick.