He's probably one of those nice guys that pays the bills like you said. In fact, those dudes are constantly done the worse. Being a stable, reliable, productive member of society = boring to the modern western woman... which is why it's nearly impossible to build a family via marriage in this day and age. Women are dopamine addicts. They don't care about stability. They only care about feelings... aka that rush they get. This is why they rush towards drama-filled dudes. Those guys offer these women all sorts of surprises, and make no mistake... she loves EVERY minute of it until it comes back and smacks her in the face. Then she's screaming victim and awaits for the simp brigade to save her.
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He's probably one of those nice guys that pays the bills like you said. In fact, those dudes are constantly done the worse. Being a stable, reliable, productive member of society = boring to the modern western woman... which is why it's nearly impossible to build a family via marriage in this day and age. Women are dopamine addicts. They don't care about stability. They only care about feelings... aka that rush they get. This is why they rush towards drama-filled dudes. Those guys offer these women all sorts of surprises, and make no mistake... she loves EVERY minute of it until it comes back and smacks her in the face. Then she's screaming victim and awaits for the simp brigade to save her.
Rule #1
Stop reaching into your wallet
if a woman requires you to pay for her time, she's simply not feeling you. If you feel you need to pay for something to continue relationships with any woman, bail out now. You're getting hustled and will be used as a walking wallet.
Stop reaching into your wallet
if a woman requires you to pay for her time, she's simply not feeling you. If you feel you need to pay for something to continue relationships with any woman, bail out now. You're getting hustled and will be used as a walking wallet.
Papa LaBas
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shyt made me take a seat. damn.
they only care about stability after theyve been ran through, bust down, snorted out, overweight, 2 kids deep and past thirty. only then stability is the focus.
The more I look at modern women, the more that I see that they don't really care for the average dude and they certainly don't care about being fair. They care about procuring as many benefits as possible while expending the least effort as possible. In other words, they want to hustle dudes for whatever it is they need at a specific moment. One dude is there to pay the bills and be her 'emotional stability'. The other dude on the side is to give her thrills. She got some other guy to help her with her homework, etc., etc.
One only has to look at how women reply to situations on this board. It doesn't come from a position of seeking fairness. It simply comes from a position of acquiring as many benefits for themselves as possible. On one hand, we're equal and they're not listening to any man, but on another hand, men should always pay for dinner.
When one stops expecting women to operate from a lens of fairness, it will be 10 times easier to understand them. They are dopamine/emotion junkies and will do anything to get their fix. When you understand that, you will be able to predict the average woman's actions a lot better than the fairy tale stuff you were taught when younger.
One only has to look at how women reply to situations on this board. It doesn't come from a position of seeking fairness. It simply comes from a position of acquiring as many benefits for themselves as possible. On one hand, we're equal and they're not listening to any man, but on another hand, men should always pay for dinner.
When one stops expecting women to operate from a lens of fairness, it will be 10 times easier to understand them. They are dopamine/emotion junkies and will do anything to get their fix. When you understand that, you will be able to predict the average woman's actions a lot better than the fairy tale stuff you were taught when younger.
shyt made me take a seat. damn.
they only care about stability after theyve been ran through, bust down, snorted out, overweight, 2 kids deep and past thirty. only then stability is the focus.
Exactly, and even then, they don't even care about the DUDE. They just care about procuring someone with resources to stabilize their life, and when they can procure him and has his finances locked in, they go RIGHT back to dealing with thrillerman who will give them their emotional fix... hence the woman in that text exchange. Have two or three kids out of wedlock, find some simp, marry him in her 30s. Make him responsible for child support. Make him pay off school loans. Divorce him later and get alimony payments and then go back to dealing with bad boys once that income stream has been procured. If the average man isn't careful, this will be him. Women be talking about they are 'crazy' about their man, but stay in contact with 20 other dudes in the background. Yeah, whatever. The sooner you figure out modern women are always putting up smokescreens and lying or deceiving in order to procure maximum benefits, the better.
Kenny West
Veteran
Just like in that text message, ma won't admit she's doing wrong. They KNOW what they are doing... aka procuring options, but they will never admit they are doing wrong. You WANT to believe the rationale they are offering, but you know it's nonsense. It's just like the BIble verse about the adulterous woman and how she wipes her mouth and says "I have done nothing wrong"
the worst thing you can do when attempting to figure out what a woman is looking for is to listen to her words. Take a step back, logically analyze the situation and figure out, "What does she stand to gain?"
the worst thing you can do when attempting to figure out what a woman is looking for is to listen to her words. Take a step back, logically analyze the situation and figure out, "What does she stand to gain?"
its like I said dont even argue confront nothing don't focus on the why, don't focus on why she is tinder
FOCUS ON WHAT occured/occouring her on on tinder
Deflection, rationalization, arguements are a womens battle field
Don’t waste your time/thoughts on the why’s. The Why’s will have you questioning everything and instead of accepting and letting go – time will be spent clinging to such things such as hope, breadcrumbs, constantly being confused and needing closure. Why did they cancel,why did they flake, why did they dump you, why did they cheat, why did they leave you, why did they friend-zone you, why did they lie,why did they stop loving you. Why why why I need to know………..
Instead marinate/focus on what they did – they cancelled, they flaked, they dumped you, they cheated, they left you, they friend-zoned you, they lied, they stopped loving you – the act has been committed already.
If you drive to the mall and park your car and after shopping for a few hours discovered that your car has been stolen. Are you going to focus on why your car was stolen? Maybe I parked in a bad spot, maybe it was to shiny, maybe it was the make and model of the model, none of that matters the act has already been committed.
A logical person will report it right away and focus on what occurred – which is the car being stolen not the circumstances leading up to the act the why’s mean nothing. And if the perpetrator is apprehended will the why’s matter? Would you care that maybe they were going through financial hardships, that they had a tough life, that they were drunk and it was a accident?
Meh maybe it’s just me but I know I would be focused on the outcome, which would be getting my car back and the perp being held accountable for their actions.
FOCUS ON WHAT occured/occouring her on on tinder
Deflection, rationalization, arguements are a womens battle field
Don’t waste your time/thoughts on the why’s. The Why’s will have you questioning everything and instead of accepting and letting go – time will be spent clinging to such things such as hope, breadcrumbs, constantly being confused and needing closure. Why did they cancel,why did they flake, why did they dump you, why did they cheat, why did they leave you, why did they friend-zone you, why did they lie,why did they stop loving you. Why why why I need to know………..
Instead marinate/focus on what they did – they cancelled, they flaked, they dumped you, they cheated, they left you, they friend-zoned you, they lied, they stopped loving you – the act has been committed already.
If you drive to the mall and park your car and after shopping for a few hours discovered that your car has been stolen. Are you going to focus on why your car was stolen? Maybe I parked in a bad spot, maybe it was to shiny, maybe it was the make and model of the model, none of that matters the act has already been committed.
A logical person will report it right away and focus on what occurred – which is the car being stolen not the circumstances leading up to the act the why’s mean nothing. And if the perpetrator is apprehended will the why’s matter? Would you care that maybe they were going through financial hardships, that they had a tough life, that they were drunk and it was a accident?
Meh maybe it’s just me but I know I would be focused on the outcome, which would be getting my car back and the perp being held accountable for their actions.
it's like when a woman cheats and she blames it on lack of attention, she was drunk etc.
they will never admit their wrong, look at everythign feminism, slut shaming, women will always counterattack, women will rather go out like hitler in his bunker than waive the white flag and admit defeat.
exactly, which is why you don't argue with them. You simply make a decision and you stand on it. She got too disrespectful or she's too hard to get a hold of? Don't argue with her. Simply decide whether or not you want to cut her off and stand on that decision. When you start arguing, you're never going to get her to logically admit that she did a foul thing and have her act better afterwards. Even if you get her to admit wrong, she will still be emotionally wounded and will strike back at you somehow.
notice she said he doesn't know.
everyone knows what tinder is, hell the last chick i met of tinder when I used it i slept with her on the second night raw.
It's an app for SINGLES, i'm sure there are a few decent people on tinder but the majority are there for one thing and one thing alone SEX and hookups. It's just basically a bar or a club now in the palm of your hand.
The more I look at western society the more this bible verse rings true
"You shall not take a wife for yourself nor have sons or daughters in this place."
Jeremiah 16:2
its always the decent dudes who get played, why?
because most decent dudes are innocent, what I mean by that is they believe in a code of honor, they believe in trust and loyalty
I wrote on this a while back
I was naïve and innocent to say the least, trusting of all and presuming the best of others objectives. I believed that people were honest, kept their promises, appreciated kindness and lived by a moral code of integrity and loyalty. In essence I believed the majority of people thought and lived like I did – and well I was totally wrong. My innocence and open heart was shattered to say the least, like when a kid finally finds out that wrestling is fake and Santa Claus is imaginary there is no going back from this point – I can’t undo what has already been done. I’ve learned that the things I assumed could never ever happen to me can and did happen. I’ve learned that you can be the most moral person with the highest character, loyal, humble, honest, being funny and you’ll still take blows and beatings you don’t deserve – how do I know because I’m that man. So no longer will I be caught being oblivious anymore. I’m wiser now. Maybe I’m melancholic, I don’t know.
I miss when a woman would tell me she was busy, and I would actually believe her. When she would tell me she loves me and I would actually believe her. When she got distant and cold and I was so gullible to not pick up the signs, when I could express how I felt without worrying about any ramifications.
Now the cataracts have been removed and I see everything clearly now. I already know how it’s going to go – the illusion sold early on to get me to fall, the men orbiting around her hidden from my view, and I know she’s only infatuated with me and once it expires what will happen next. I don’t want to be this way, I don’t want to be cold and jaded – I don’t want to live a life of an old war vet getting triggers and always looking over my shoulder wondering what’s around the corner. I want to live a life with honesty and without fear and I want to live it now.