Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Hrcules]

Ok brehs i need some advice here with this girl im seeing

First of all, she contacted me on fb 4 years ago, she went to my church, we talk once and that was it... fast forward to 3 months ago and we match on tinder, my opening was "so this mean we bf and gf now?" she replys "yes you have to get a tattoo of the date" now heres the story.

I meet her at church on feb 20, we click off right at the start she ends up wanting to see me 3 days later, we start texting daily i mean every single day since feb 20 morning text and good night texts etc, shyt starts with long ass messeges everytime on the second date we kiss, after that she tells me she feels weird because shes never kissed a guy who she wasnt in a relationship with first, shes 19 btw i know im not suppossed to belive that but you never know... anyways we start having stupid little fights over whatsapp cuz i got mad over a fb comment of hers, i went to her house to try and talk things and we kinda get on good terms again

i made a mistake tho, she wants to date and i want to date her, like i really dig this chick buuuuuut i ask her "why you wanna be with me?" "im not asking you to be my girl till you tell me that" at the moment i thought it was a good idea... boy was i wrong tho shyt backfires and starts acting cold, she picks me up and takes me somewhere to talk, she tells me she actually saw a future with me but after i told her that that day she started thinking and didnt know why she wanted to date me. she still wanted to try and see where we go

After she doesnt text me one day i get mad and tell her shyt is over cuz i saw her online and she wasnt responding to my text, she got weird and came home to talk it thru wanting to end shyt... we didnt.

After that i tried to put more thought into the relationship since i really like her and want to gf her, so i went and bought cupcakes for her from a nice place, taked them to her house while she was working and left them with her mom, she liked the little detail, 3 days later i picked her up to go to the movies to see san andreas, theather was packed but she was impressed cuz i bought the tickets earlier and and we didnt have to make line which was long as fukk, after the movies is over i took her to my car and i told her i wanted something serious with her and that shes been on my mind alot lately, like me being ready to get srious with her, i think i fukked up but i was feeling emotional you know? then later we end up kissing again for the first time in like 1 month... today i was gonna see her at church but i didnt go. she replied to a text i sent yesterday a whole day later, with a stupid emoji(the surprised face) and i took like 5 hours to get back at her, after that she started texting cold, like desinterested, this got my head thinking if i fukked some how,

now how can i come back from this? i need serious advice here... should i stop texting her so much? im used to texting every day... like i said this girl the type you bring to your parents so i want this to worl

 

[RealAssanova]

women man

so i match up on this dating app equivalent to tinder with this east african broad from Cali. Said she in medical school and all and liked what she saw. So i was like same thing for me i guess

I downloaded this app 2 fridays ago, so we talked quite abit all throughout. So she just happened to be flyin into Toronto and came in on wednesday night. Thursday night she hit me up on some "hey i'm in your city lol"....so i said welcome

then she asked what am i doing on saturday cuz she wanted to meet up (a girl taking initiative ), to which i said can't really tell but it shouldn't be a problem. Temporary plans were made (ie. place we'd might be going to and whereabouts in the city she might be at so i can scoop her up) and she said she would contact me saturday morning to lemme kno wassup. So i told her sounds good.

well, saturday i got nothing...sunday too.

I go onto my thing now, and she unmatched me.

surely it wasn't my fault brehs. Right?

 

[OGBobbyJohnson]

women man

so i match up on this dating app equivalent to tinder with this east african broad from Cali. Said she in medical school and all and liked what she saw. So i was like same thing for me i guess

I downloaded this app 2 fridays ago, so we talked quite abit all throughout. So she just happened to be flyin into Toronto and came in on wednesday night. Thursday night she hit me up on some "hey i'm in your city lol"....so i said welcome

then she asked what am i doing on saturday cuz she wanted to meet up (a girl taking initiative ), to which i said can't really tell but it shouldn't be a problem. Temporary plans were made (ie. place we'd might be going to and whereabouts in the city she might be at so i can scoop her up) and she said she would contact me saturday morning to lemme kno wassup. So i told her sounds good.

well, saturday i got nothing...sunday too.

I go onto my thing now, and she unmatched me.

surely it wasn't my fault brehs. Right?

That's That BS

 

[The ADD]

women man

so i match up on this dating app equivalent to tinder with this east african broad from Cali. Said she in medical school and all and liked what she saw. So i was like same thing for me i guess

I downloaded this app 2 fridays ago, so we talked quite abit all throughout. So she just happened to be flyin into Toronto and came in on wednesday night. Thursday night she hit me up on some "hey i'm in your city lol"....so i said welcome

then she asked what am i doing on saturday cuz she wanted to meet up (a girl taking initiative ), to which i said can't really tell but it shouldn't be a problem. Temporary plans were made (ie. place we'd might be going to and whereabouts in the city she might be at so i can scoop her up) and she said she would contact me saturday morning to lemme kno wassup. So i told her sounds good.

well, saturday i got nothing...sunday too.

I go onto my thing now, and she unmatched me.

surely it wasn't my fault brehs. Right?

Nope, just brush it off

 

[Bless't]

If I was younger in that situation, I'd probably sit around and think of 'what I did wrong', how I can 'improve myself' and come at women better and probably hit her up some more trying to win her over. I'm very thankful I've learned that it's better to stop wasting time. Now, my mentality is more like whatever, time to move on. Not bothering changing myself, better to check if other women are feeling me more. If it's a drought right now with women, whatever, I got programming to do. I got life to enjoy.

The less you try to figure them out and the more you require them to get with the program or you move on, the better because you're not wasting your mind worrying about something which is probably nonsensical. "He didn't have that super swag I like." One thing I've realized as I've gotten older is that figuring out what exact reason women are doing something is pointless. Either they are with you or not. Either they stay in steady contact or not, etc., etc. If not, move on and no more worrying about a woman that's not in the mix.

Women are unpredictable in this day and age, so they are simply dessert, IF that. She's allowed to make my life better, but if she's not here, I'll still be fine and if she makes it worse, she has to get on.

That's all it is nowadays. At least in Emp's case, she was polite enough to text back and let him know it's not going anywhere. That's a blow to ANYONE's ego but like we've all been saying in this thread, worry about developing yourself and KIM. It gets much easier as you get older. You just end up learning to brush shyt like that off. Believe that.

 

[Bless't]

all im saying if a dude pops up and shes attracted to that may be it for you. Life aint like the notebook

I've literally said this to a girl and she almost had a meltdown. She refuses to believe that life may not provide her with fairy tale shyt. I just slowly shook my head and sighed.



I wonder how many females truly believe that they should wait life out until Disney asks for rights to their story.

 

[The ADD]

Ok brehs i need some advice here with this girl im seeing

First of all, she contacted me on fb 4 years ago, she went to my church, we talk once and that was it... fast forward to 3 months ago and we match on tinder, my opening was "so this mean we bf and gf now?" she replys "yes you have to get a tattoo of the date" now heres the story.

I meet her at church on feb 20, we click off right at the start she ends up wanting to see me 3 days later, we start texting daily i mean every single day since feb 20 morning text and good night texts etc, shyt starts with long ass messeges everytime on the second date we kiss, after that she tells me she feels weird because shes never kissed a guy who she wasnt in a relationship with first, shes 19 btw i know im not suppossed to belive that but you never know... anyways we start having stupid little fights over whatsapp cuz i got mad over a fb comment of hers, i went to her house to try and talk things and we kinda get on good terms again

i made a mistake tho, she wants to date and i want to date her, like i really dig this chick buuuuuut i ask her "why you wanna be with me?" "im not asking you to be my girl till you tell me that" at the moment i thought it was a good idea... boy was i wrong tho shyt backfires and starts acting cold, she picks me up and takes me somewhere to talk, she tells me she actually saw a future with me but after i told her that that day she started thinking and didnt know why she wanted to date me. she still wanted to try and see where we go

After she doesnt text me one day i get mad and tell her shyt is over cuz i saw her online and she wasnt responding to my text, she got weird and came home to talk it thru wanting to end shyt... we didnt.

After that i tried to put more thought into the relationship since i really like her and want to gf her, so i went and bought cupcakes for her from a nice place, taked them to her house while she was working and left them with her mom, she liked the little detail, 3 days later i picked her up to go to the movies to see san andreas, theather was packed but she was impressed cuz i bought the tickets earlier and and we didnt have to make line which was long as fukk, after the movies is over i took her to my car and i told her i wanted something serious with her and that shes been on my mind alot lately, like me being ready to get srious with her, i think i fukked up but i was feeling emotional you know? then later we end up kissing again for the first time in like 1 month... today i was gonna see her at church but i didnt go. she replied to a text i sent yesterday a whole day later, with a stupid emoji(the surprised face) and i took like 5 hours to get back at her, after that she started texting cold, like desinterested, this got my head thinking if i fukked some how,

now how can i come back from this? i need serious advice here... should i stop texting her so much? im used to texting every day... like i said this girl the type you bring to your parents so i want this to worl

Don't look at it that way. You only have to come back from things you did with bad intentions. The stuff you do with good intentions might be mistakes but you don't need to come back from it. That's life and you just roll with it.

To me it seems like you want this to work more than the pace of it should. Take a step back and just let it play out naturally.

 

[LordTaskForce]

@Hrcules Just put that joint in the rotation cuz. Forget about her, she'll come back around

 

[MikelArteta]

Women are chasing after the fabled ten the prince while passing up the 8s then when they get older they wonder where it went

I've literally said this to a girl and she almost had a meltdown. She refuses to believe that life may not provide her with fairy tale shyt. I just slowly shook my head and sighed.



I wonder how many females truly believe that they should wait life out until Disney asks for rights to their story.

 

[Bless't]

Women are chasing after the fabled ten the prince while passing up the 8s then when they get older they wonder where it went

Which is perfectly okay with me. When I meet a woman who WANTS to be with me and enjoy time together, then I'll focus on the both of our needs rather than just mine primarily. Until then...

 

[Action Mike]

Damn i can feel the coldness starting to come in with this one broad on the rooster.

I might be crazy but my guts telling me its another dude in the picture, now i gotta f*ck around and prepare the bushes

 

[EQ.]

women man

so i match up on this dating app equivalent to tinder with this east african broad from Cali. Said she in medical school and all and liked what she saw. So i was like same thing for me i guess

I downloaded this app 2 fridays ago, so we talked quite abit all throughout. So she just happened to be flyin into Toronto and came in on wednesday night. Thursday night she hit me up on some "hey i'm in your city lol"....so i said welcome

then she asked what am i doing on saturday cuz she wanted to meet up (a girl taking initiative ), to which i said can't really tell but it shouldn't be a problem. Temporary plans were made (ie. place we'd might be going to and whereabouts in the city she might be at so i can scoop her up) and she said she would contact me saturday morning to lemme kno wassup. So i told her sounds good.

well, saturday i got nothing...sunday too.

I go onto my thing now, and she unmatched me.

surely it wasn't my fault brehs. Right?

Nah, not your fault. You can never take how a woman reacts to you to heart (unless you are being a complete sociopath/a$$hole) she's probably dealing with some emotional shyt. Thank the heavens you didn't invest anything past a conversation with her.

 

[EQ.]

Brehs, let me just say that front end rejection is your friend! Embrace it! For the past 3 weeks i've been approaching women everywhere. Not even with the intent of stockpiling numbers but rather getting outta of my head and doing shyt i consider fun/goofy. The biggest thing i've noticed is when something i said backfires/falls flat instead of being dejected i point that out and shyt is so disarming to females. Even when females were like " you're not my type/ got a boyfriend" i just smiled shook their hands and wished them a good day...then proceeded to talk the female 3 feet away who then gave me her number . I do have to stress though EYE CONTACT is your friend, practice it if you need to. I've literally said the same thing three times or so but because i maintaining eye contact and being lighthearted with the girl she was like . Have fun brehs, talk to women of all ages , shapes, colors etc don't prejudge and expect an outcome....just enjoy this shyt.

 

[MikelArteta]

What happened to shakira?

Which is perfectly okay with me. When I meet a woman who WANTS to be with me and enjoy time together, then I'll focus on the both of our needs rather than just mine primarily. Until then...

 

[MikelArteta]

@RealAssanova what app is that