I'd be very wary of wifing up an 18 year old. She hasn't gotten out of that curiosity phase and it will be trouble, especially if she's going to college. If you're going to further things with her, always be prepared for her to bust bad. In fact, always be prepared for any woman to bust bad... but I put emphasis on these younger ones.
Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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Those days of getting a chick at a young age and molding her into your potential wife are over.
As a man it's not your responsibility to tell a woman what she wants out of life. You should only be concerned about dealing with a woman who's ideologies and morals are compatible with yours.
Some chicks need to learn harsh lessons in life in order for them to become better women. Discipline is developed thru experience of consequences.
If you're looking to settle down, make sure you meet a woman who is ready to settle down. And not simply because she says it, because of her actions.
If your woman is not the type to submit and willingly let you lead, she is not ready to settle down.
If your woman still wants to run the street, party, and would rather be with her girls than be at home being responsible, she is not ready to settle down.
Young girls have not experienced life. They'll always wonder "what if" if they settle down too soon, and will be more prone to cheat and be distracted by the attention they get from other dudes. Older women realize thru crash and burn that the grass isn't greener on the other side.
As a man it's not your responsibility to tell a woman what she wants out of life. You should only be concerned about dealing with a woman who's ideologies and morals are compatible with yours.
Some chicks need to learn harsh lessons in life in order for them to become better women. Discipline is developed thru experience of consequences.
If you're looking to settle down, make sure you meet a woman who is ready to settle down. And not simply because she says it, because of her actions.
If your woman is not the type to submit and willingly let you lead, she is not ready to settle down.
If your woman still wants to run the street, party, and would rather be with her girls than be at home being responsible, she is not ready to settle down.
Young girls have not experienced life. They'll always wonder "what if" if they settle down too soon, and will be more prone to cheat and be distracted by the attention they get from other dudes. Older women realize thru crash and burn that the grass isn't greener on the other side.
before going back into the game you should really analyze why you ever wanted to simp.i had to take a break from this chick i was seeing because i was going to start simpin something serious, now im ready to get back in the game
honestly i didn't break myself of simping till about a year ago. even then i had the aftermath of some simping i did back then that carried over into this year.
after some deep self analysis i know deep down that i'll never simp again. my shyt came from a fear of being alone. that drove me to do whatever i could to keep a chick in my life. if she started asking for shyt i was like if this is what will make her happy and i can do it i'll do it. part of that was buying into that whole compromise and treat her like a queen to make her happy bs.
simping is not a natural desire to do. its a learned behavior that typically has much deeper roots than we'd like to admit. at the core of simping is low self esteem, valuing someone else over yourself, and feeling like you have to compensate for what you perceive you lack to keep their attention.
you only ever really feel like simping when you feel like you alone aren't good enough so you have to do extra shyt to balance it out.
don't wife up youn broads i already stated in thsi thread 18-23 especially don't do it
DON'T.
she has no experience so even if you treat her great and you guys mesh she will get bored and wonder what's out there, "your a great guy reincar, but were just so young i want to have fun with my friends"
or when she goes to college she will find someone in one of her clsses with more in common than you "im sorry reincar, but i met this guy in math 101 we click so well, i just realized wha i wanted"
she will get bored and cheat, her friends will go out clubbing etc. and she will want to go
dont do it, it barely ever last, stats have shown that folks brains are still growing up until 25 years old, its why folks who get married at like 20, 21 end in divorce the majority of the time because women especially want to know if they are missing a better dikk, or a hotter guy etc., people change greatly and especially dating someone at 18 they are still innocent somewhat, have no idea of the real world etc.
DONT DO IT
DON'T.
she has no experience so even if you treat her great and you guys mesh she will get bored and wonder what's out there, "your a great guy reincar, but were just so young i want to have fun with my friends"
or when she goes to college she will find someone in one of her clsses with more in common than you "im sorry reincar, but i met this guy in math 101 we click so well, i just realized wha i wanted"
she will get bored and cheat, her friends will go out clubbing etc. and she will want to go
dont do it, it barely ever last, stats have shown that folks brains are still growing up until 25 years old, its why folks who get married at like 20, 21 end in divorce the majority of the time because women especially want to know if they are missing a better dikk, or a hotter guy etc., people change greatly and especially dating someone at 18 they are still innocent somewhat, have no idea of the real world etc.
DONT DO IT
You sound exactly like me a while ago
Listen to reincar and the rest of the guys when they say she can change warranted or not in an instant. My ex told me "I love you and I cant wait to see you soon <3"... that was the last time I ever heard from her. Just straight up disappeared and we were "best friends" and together for over a year. Just prepare yourself breh, and read the entire thread if you haven't. I just finished and it was straight gems on gems on gems
that's how it is breh, now think about the women who really love you, your mom, grandma, siblings if you have any would they treat you like that?
i always laughed after women played me or dumped me, they would still drop the but i still love you, trying to give me false hope as i sat in my room alone sad at that time "but she still loves me" maybe she will come around one day haha.
i've heard it all from women, i love you so much, women spending hundreds of dollars on me one day and the next i don't exist to them, women sleeping with me one day telling me im the best guy ever adn they never felt this way before and then going silent and totally disappearing, being engaged and oh i tell you everything ill never lie to you to keeping a abortion from me.
women plan months and months in advance and then poof vanished
, how soemone can text you and talk to you and see you like almost every day and says she loves you for years and then one day just go cold turkey and act like you never existed, women are capable of this, yes that sweet little "perfect" shes not like that, ill never do that you, I love you so much, i'd die if we are not together yes that sweet little angel who is across from you as you read this on your phone or tablet , yes her she can turn on you in a damn instant. Doesn't matter if she was a prostitute who was raped repeatedly every night and used by every guy before you, doesn't matter if you took her virginity, doesn't matter at all.i honestly think women end relationships more so than men because when men want to, they are manipulated into staying through sex, or womens antics example i dated a chick and it was horrible i was going to end it and then she cut hersef and ended up in hospital i felt sorry for her and didn't want her to kill herself so i stayed for a FRIGGIN YEAR, and then she ended up dumping me. I was a simp and weak and put chicks feeling sat the time before me, now if that were to happen now, ditto go kill yourself for all i care
my nikka reincar. Halfway through this shyt I broke out in laughter with the rant but its so fukking true man. I couldnt do nothing but shake my head and grin likethat's how it is breh, now think about the women who really love you, your mom, grandma, siblings if you have any would they treat you like that?
i always laughed after women played me or dumped me, they would still drop the but i still love you, trying to give me false hope as i sat in my room alone sad at that time "but she still loves me" maybe she will come around one day haha.
i've heard it all from women, i love you so much, women spending hundreds of dollars on me one day and the next i don't exist to them, women sleeping with me one day telling me im the best guy ever adn they never felt this way before and then going silent and totally disappearing, being engaged and oh i tell you everything ill never lie to you to keeping a abortion from me.
women plan months and months in advance and then poof vanished
i honestly think women end relationships more so than men because when men want to, they are manipulated into staying through sex, or womens antics example i dated a chick and it was horrible i was going to end it and then she cut hersef and ended up in hospital i felt sorry for her and didn't want her to kill herself so i stayed for a FRIGGIN YEAR, and then she ended up dumping me. I was a simp and weak and put chicks feeling sat the time before me, now if that were to happen now, ditto go kill yourself for all i care
Women are natural born actors. The problem a lot of men face is they actually believe what these women are saying. A woman can tell you she loves you everyday but yes, she will up and leave you in an instant. Why?
She was talking to a new guy in the background all along and he gave her the okey doke that he'll accept her, so she upgrades and leaves you in the dust. She doesn't want to deal with the emotional fall-out from that, so she just doesn't hit you up and hopes you forget. She thinks, "He should get the hint." All the while it allows her to avoid accountability for her actions as long as she doesn't have to see you.
Honestly man, learning to be single is HUGE. Once you get over the relationship addiction and just enjoy being single, you'll start to see life much clearer. It's like a huge haze just removed itself from your life.
Great relationship > Being single > Bad relationship
The reality is, most men aren't in a great relationship. How often do men have to sit around and wonder what their woman is really doing? Who is her new 'homie'? How many have to tell her that she shouldn't be clubbing as opposed to her understanding it off the bat and choosing not to go of her own volition? How many women are willing to go on a 50/50 split? And yet how many want you to pay the majority of the expenses but be 'respected as an equal'? How often do you almost have to watch what you say because she might get offended? How often do you have to hear her talk and complain when you really don't want to? How often are you doing favors for her that go completely unappreciated? Are you really prepared emotionally if she just decides to up and leave or if you catch her dealing with another man? Does she immediately respond to your leadership or does she find your leadership 'offensive' since it supposedly shows male dominance over the woman, which she doesn't accept because she's 'equal'?
All of those factors a man has to consider when dealing with a modern woman... and many men are dealing with a lot of those concerns in their relationship, but they stick around due to the time investment. It's a beautiful thing to be able to come home and not be agitated or have to worry about what someone else is doing.
The reality of the situation is a lot of men are in terrible relationships but don't want to leave because they are afraid of being alone or feel as if the investment in time, money and emotions they've made will all be for naught if he leaves her. What often happens is that men are chasing the dopefiend fantasy. The first hit is always the best and they spend the rest of the time hoping they can re-experience that high. In other words, the first few months of a relationship are almost ALWAYS the best. That is when you just meet the girl, you're excited because you know little to nothing about her and she just seems so sweet. She's on her best behavior. She is pretty, she has awe some conversation, and everything is so beautiful. You start dating her and months pass and cracks start developing but you ignore them because you are in love. Time goes on and she becomes more entrenched in your life. You start noticing more and more cracks, but she almost becomes a completely different person. The man thinks if maybe he approaches things a little differently he can convince her to return to being the woman that he 'fell in love with.' What he really fell in love with was a fantasy... aka her personality make-up. Time eventually washed off all of the layers of fabricated sweetness and you are left with the real her... and it's nothing like what you thought it was.
She was talking to a new guy in the background all along and he gave her the okey doke that he'll accept her, so she upgrades and leaves you in the dust. She doesn't want to deal with the emotional fall-out from that, so she just doesn't hit you up and hopes you forget. She thinks, "He should get the hint." All the while it allows her to avoid accountability for her actions as long as she doesn't have to see you.
Honestly man, learning to be single is HUGE. Once you get over the relationship addiction and just enjoy being single, you'll start to see life much clearer. It's like a huge haze just removed itself from your life.
Great relationship > Being single > Bad relationship
The reality is, most men aren't in a great relationship. How often do men have to sit around and wonder what their woman is really doing? Who is her new 'homie'? How many have to tell her that she shouldn't be clubbing as opposed to her understanding it off the bat and choosing not to go of her own volition? How many women are willing to go on a 50/50 split? And yet how many want you to pay the majority of the expenses but be 'respected as an equal'? How often do you almost have to watch what you say because she might get offended? How often do you have to hear her talk and complain when you really don't want to? How often are you doing favors for her that go completely unappreciated? Are you really prepared emotionally if she just decides to up and leave or if you catch her dealing with another man? Does she immediately respond to your leadership or does she find your leadership 'offensive' since it supposedly shows male dominance over the woman, which she doesn't accept because she's 'equal'?
All of those factors a man has to consider when dealing with a modern woman... and many men are dealing with a lot of those concerns in their relationship, but they stick around due to the time investment. It's a beautiful thing to be able to come home and not be agitated or have to worry about what someone else is doing.
The reality of the situation is a lot of men are in terrible relationships but don't want to leave because they are afraid of being alone or feel as if the investment in time, money and emotions they've made will all be for naught if he leaves her. What often happens is that men are chasing the dopefiend fantasy. The first hit is always the best and they spend the rest of the time hoping they can re-experience that high. In other words, the first few months of a relationship are almost ALWAYS the best. That is when you just meet the girl, you're excited because you know little to nothing about her and she just seems so sweet. She's on her best behavior. She is pretty, she has awe some conversation, and everything is so beautiful. You start dating her and months pass and cracks start developing but you ignore them because you are in love. Time goes on and she becomes more entrenched in your life. You start noticing more and more cracks, but she almost becomes a completely different person. The man thinks if maybe he approaches things a little differently he can convince her to return to being the woman that he 'fell in love with.' What he really fell in love with was a fantasy... aka her personality make-up. Time eventually washed off all of the layers of fabricated sweetness and you are left with the real her... and it's nothing like what you thought it was.
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that's how it is breh, now think about the women who really love you, your mom, grandma, siblings if you have any would they treat you like that?
i always laughed after women played me or dumped me, they would still drop the but i still love you, trying to give me false hope as i sat in my room alone sad at that time "but she still loves me" maybe she will come around one day haha.
i've heard it all from women, i love you so much, women spending hundreds of dollars on me one day and the next i don't exist to them, women sleeping with me one day telling me im the best guy ever adn they never felt this way before and then going silent and totally disappearing, being engaged and oh i tell you everything ill never lie to you to keeping a abortion from me.
women plan months and months in advance and then poof vanished
i honestly think women end relationships more so than men because when men want to, they are manipulated into staying through sex, or womens antics example i dated a chick and it was horrible i was going to end it and then she cut hersef and ended up in hospital i felt sorry for her and didn't want her to kill herself so i stayed for a FRIGGIN YEAR, and then she ended up dumping me. I was a simp and weak and put chicks feeling sat the time before me, now if that were to happen now, ditto go kill yourself for all i care
If more negros had this attitude woman would have to ackrite.
I love how women are "oppressed".
Every female in y department are on flex hours. I'm stuck here 9-5 while they get 7-3, 8-4 , working from home.
Not to mention when they get knocked up a year off work for mat leave
can you talk more about how you overcame a fear of being alone? how the whole process went.