Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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can you talk more about how you overcame a fear of being alone? how the whole process went.

I would imagine to do this you need to be alone and see that it aint so bad

Maybe it takes exiting a bad relationship or another life altering experience that puts you on some fukk everyone shyt..but hibernation allows you to introspectively assess your life and to address issues, to to work on yourself.

See the bad in the situation you just exited, and see how being alone counters all that bad or turns it into good. Like I've said earlier I've always been a hermit. So loneliness has always been great to me at least sometimes and needed.
 

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I think EVERYBODY needs to learn to be alone. I remember being single from 19 up until I was 21 and in those 2 years, I learned a lot, f**ked a lot, and felt myself "developing" as a man.

Chick i've known since before we started school I ended up in a relationship with our senior year in high school. College time comes and I have to go the JUCO route and she goes to a University that's not even TEN minutes away from the JUCO I was going to. Tell me why once classes started that fall semester, I only saw her like 5 times the WHOLE semester. Mind you, we've known each other forever, her momma stay 3 HOUSES down from my momma house (still to this day actually), etc but that college life got her. Eventually we broke it off and I decided to stay single those two years :win:

Talked to a few chics, eventually met the girl who's now my wife, and now i'm :win: while my ex is being passed around and messing with dope boys. Sucks for her because she's a registered nurse

The HARDEST thing was being SMART and STRONG enough to drop all contact. Since she's a friend of the family I tried to hold no hard feeling towards her and be cordial and then wised up and deleted her from FB and Twitter and basically ignore her if she's in my prescene. Feels liberating.
 

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Damn 172 pages :bryan:

Imma have to go thru this at some point cuz I've got no game whatsoever...that guy you say can "talk himself out of p***y"...that's me :to:

Imma be honest I'm probably what y'all would call a simp (where does the term come from tho?)...shyt not even since i dont get none...I dunno I feel that just like some people are bad with numbers or not handy, I'm not "good" at women :to::to:

Hopefully I figure it out before I'm :flabbynsick:
 

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Damn 172 pages :bryan:

Imma have to go thru this at some point cuz I've got no game whatsoever...that guy you say can "talk himself out of p***y"...that's me :to:

Imma be honest I'm probably what y'all would call a simp (where does the term come from tho?)...shyt not even since i dont get none...I dunno I feel that just like some people are bad with numbers or not handy, I'm not "good" at women :to::to:

Hopefully I figure it out before I'm :flabbynsick:

simp=opposite of pimpin

read this thread and you'll be fine. we've ALL talked ourselves out of at least 5 drawers in our life.
 

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simp=opposite of pimpin

read this thread and you'll be fine. we've ALL talked ourselves out of at least 5 drawers in our life.

My track record is WAY worse that that :to: i feel like i'd need a whole change of personality

yeah i know simp = opposite of pimp, i was wondering why it's "simp" and not another word, if there was a reason to just replacing the p with an s and not another letter

nvm, i m bored as fukk :yeshrug:
 

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A short but pretty accurate reflection on how women rationalize (aka LIE) about their partner count:

At their core, women most certainly do know that a high partner count is unattractive. That’s why they fudge it down. Look for things like this, it doesn’t count because:

■I was drunk/high/stoned
■he was drunk/high/stoned
■I didn’t come
■he didn’t come
■he got whiskeydikk and went soft
■he didn’t finish
■it was a one-night stand
■I didn’t like it
■it was just a BJ/titjob/handjob/rimjob
■it was on vacation/spring break/travel/study abroad
■he was an ex boyfriend
■it was anal


Many women will say that only sober P in V sex within a relationship counts. Women should know the rule of thumb is this:

If you have touched his penis or any part of his body penetrated one of your orifices, you have “had sex with” him and he counts toward your partner count total. Note the above is disjunctive, not conjunctive.

[Clarification for women, most men consider] You had sex with him if:

■he performed cunnilingus on you.
■he fingerbanged you.
■you fellated him.
■you jerked him off
■he had anal sex with you.
■he tittyf**ked you.
■he had P in V sex with you and pulled out and ejaculated outside your body.
■he didn’t finish for whatever reason.
■you did any of the above while either or both of you were under the influence of any kind of chemical.
■you did any of the above while on vacation/spring break/away from home.
■you did any of the above and kept it secret from your friends.
 

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Here are some false claims about women which the manosphere has utterly destroyed:

1. Claim: Women are altruistic and good, always seeking the good of others.

Truth: Women SOMETIMES are altruistic and good, and SOMETIMES seek the good of others. Women can and often do act ruthlessly in their own self interest.

2. Claim: Women do not lie about sex.

Truth: Women can and do lie about sex, their sexual histories and their pasts. A woman can and will lie about her past history and her partner count if she deems it to be to her advantage, or to avoid shame or guilt. It is often said that women are rarely honest about their partner counts and find creative ways to fudge their counts downward.

A good way to get to the truth about a woman’s partner count is to use the following formula: Multiply her admitted partner count by 3. Another thing to consider is that most women include in their partner counts only sober P in V “relationship” sex. The true partner count is reflected in the number of men whose penises she has seen or touched, his penis penetrated any of her orifices, or she participated in any act ending in the vernacular “-job”. If she’s touched his d**k, she’s “had sex with” him, and it counts.

3. Claim: Women want soft, kind, gentle sex and need to be treated with delicacy in the bedroom. Missionary position is the only appropriate position.

Truth: Women like soft sex only sometimes. Most prefer vigorous sex and really get off on it. And most women really like the rear entry or “doggie style” position because it requires her trust and submission. Most also like woman on top because it lets her control most of the movement.

4. Claim: Women want to be equals in the bedroom and they don’t like giving BJs.

Truth: Women want a man to dominate them in the bedroom. Most are not into BDSM, but most women want to be told when it is time for sex, they want to be told what to do and how to do it. Most women like to give BJs if they are told to do it and how to do it.

5. Claim: Women never cheat on boyfriends or husbands.

Truth: Given the right circumstances, right man, right time, and low odds of detection, many women can and will cheat. And she cheats for different reasons than men do. Men who cheat do so for sexual variety. Most women who cheat do so because they have lost attraction for their BF or husband.

6. Claim: If a wife cheats, it is because her husband is being unkind to her or has driven her to cheat.

Truth: If a wife cheats it is because she has lost attraction for her husband. And she has probably lost attraction because he isn’t leading her and acting dominantly in the marriage.

7. Claim: If a wife cheats, it is easy to restore the marriage.

Truth: Wife cheating is nearly always fatal to a marriage. It is more than her losing attraction. Once a woman has lost attraction for a man it is nearly impossible for her to feel that attraction again. Both husband and wife know that once she has broken the marriage and sought sex from another man, she has fully, totally and completely rejected her husband. She has sent the message to her husband that another man is better able to satisfy her. Another man is better, stronger and more suitable. Her husband is not good enough and an unacceptable mate. It is nearly impossible for a marriage to recover from such utter and complete rejection.

8. Claim: Women are always kind and caring to their husbands or boyfriends.

Truth: Women are sometimes kind and caring. But, women have a capacity for verbal and emotional cruelty than men cannot even approach. Once a woman is no longer in love with a man, she moves on from him and forgets him as easily as if she had never known him.

9. Claim: Christian women are different, more spiritual and less hypergamous than nonChristian women. Christian women are better suited to marriage and motherhood because of their spiritual discipline and training.

Truth: In terms of attraction, mating and basic sexual behavior, Christian women are no different from their secular sisters. They’re Christian, but they’re still women. Hypergamy is far worse among Christian women because they are raised from young childhood as “daughters of the King” and taught to “never settle” for just any man. They are told from childhood that God is “preparing a man just for you” and he will be perfect because God is perfect and God makes no mistakes and God is not a man and does not lie. In marriage, many Christian women are fed scriptural support for their beliefs, requiring the man to love sacrificially and unconditionally, but he must earn her respect.

10. Claim: Christian women are less prone to divorce than nonChristian women.

Truth: This is only somewhat true. The US national divorce rate is around 50%. The divorce rate for all those claiming Christ is 38%.

11. Claim: Christian women never have sex before marriage.

Truth: Given the right man, right circumstances, right time and low risk of detection, many Christian women will be willing to have premarital sex. Certainly not all do, but many have.

12. Claim: Women never act selfishly.

Truth: Women are capable of acting in their own self interests as much as any man. A woman is fully capable of fraud, deceit, manipulation, cunning, lying, ruthless self-interest, obfuscation, rationalization, shading the truth, and more. if she believes it to be in her interest or to her advantage.
 

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Women are natural born actors. The problem a lot of men face is they actually believe what these women are saying. A woman can tell you she loves you everyday but yes, she will up and leave you in an instant. Why?

She was talking to a new guy in the background all along and he gave her the okey doke that he'll accept her, so she upgrades and leaves you in the dust. She doesn't want to deal with the emotional fall-out from that, so she just doesn't hit you up and hopes you forget. She thinks, "He should get the hint." All the while it allows her to avoid accountability for her actions as long as she doesn't have to see you.

Honestly man, learning to be single is HUGE. Once you get over the relationship addiction and just enjoy being single, you'll start to see life much clearer. It's like a huge haze just removed itself from your life.

Great relationship > Being single > Bad relationship

The reality is, most men aren't in a great relationship. How often do men have to sit around and wonder what their woman is really doing? Who is her new 'homie'? How many have to tell her that she shouldn't be clubbing as opposed to her understanding it off the bat and choosing not to go of her own volition? How many women are willing to go on a 50/50 split? And yet how many want you to pay the majority of the expenses but be 'respected as an equal'? How often do you almost have to watch what you say because she might get offended? How often do you have to hear her talk and complain when you really don't want to? How often are you doing favors for her that go completely unappreciated? Are you really prepared emotionally if she just decides to up and leave or if you catch her dealing with another man? Does she immediately respond to your leadership or does she find your leadership 'offensive' since it supposedly shows male dominance over the woman, which she doesn't accept because she's 'equal'?

All of those factors a man has to consider when dealing with a modern woman... and many men are dealing with a lot of those concerns in their relationship, but they stick around due to the time investment. It's a beautiful thing to be able to come home and not be agitated or have to worry about what someone else is doing.

The reality of the situation is a lot of men are in terrible relationships but don't want to leave because they are afraid of being alone or feel as if the investment in time, money and emotions they've made will all be for naught if he leaves her. What often happens is that men are chasing the dopefiend fantasy. The first hit is always the best and they spend the rest of the time hoping they can re-experience that high. In other words, the first few months of a relationship are almost ALWAYS the best. That is when you just meet the girl, you're excited because you know little to nothing about her and she just seems so sweet. She's on her best behavior. She is pretty, she has awe some conversation, and everything is so beautiful. You start dating her and months pass and cracks start developing but you ignore them because you are in love. Time goes on and she becomes more entrenched in your life. You start noticing more and more cracks, but she almost becomes a completely different person. The man thinks if maybe he approaches things a little differently he can convince her to return to being the woman that he 'fell in love with.' What he really fell in love with was a fantasy... aka her personality make-up. Time eventually washed off all of the layers of fabricated sweetness and you are left with the real her... and it's nothing like what you thought it was.
:myman: Realest shyt on this forum

She doesn't want to deal with the emotional fall-out from that, so she just doesn't hit you up and hopes you forget. She thinks, "He should get the hint." All the while it allows her to avoid accountability for her actions as long as she doesn't have to see you.

This shyt kills me, women are such cowards..

How often do you almost have to watch what you say because she might get offended?

this is a HUGE problem for me lately... Ive done this 3 times in the last year and half :snoop:
 

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being alone

:wow:

being alone is necessary for every man as it removes the emotional attachment that you may have toward women, but i will say being alone should be after a relationship because if you do not the postivies and negatives of a relationship being alone you will still crave for the thirst.

being successful is marketed as a happy stable marriage a few kids the white picket fence house vacation with the family etc when its total bs.

As for me being alone took my time to get to this mindframe to where i could care less for interaction with women. after i broke up wiht my ex fiance i struggled being alone because all i knew was talking to her all the time, spending my time with her etc., so it hit me like a druggie off cocaine, i had all this freedom but i just wasted away at home, it wasnt untill like 6 months later i was cleansed and learned to love myself and being alone and thats when gasp another chick came into the picture it always seems to work out that way.

emphasis when you learn to love being alone chicks hate it and thats when they usually pop up.


as well learning to love being alone lets you know when you are in a horrible relationship you are not afraid to walk away at any point you know you are content and happy with being alone, it takes a while to get there but when you do ahh
 

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:myman: Realest shyt on this forum

She doesn't want to deal with the emotional fall-out from that, so she just doesn't hit you up and hopes you forget. She thinks, "He should get the hint." All the while it allows her to avoid accountability for her actions as long as she doesn't have to see you.

This shyt kills me, women are such cowards..

How often do you almost have to watch what you say because she might get offended?

this is a HUGE problem for me lately... Ive done this 3 times in the last year and half :snoop:


yup women will get distant, cancelling plans, not texting or calling like they used to isntead of just syaing they are not interested in you, simps will keep on calling texting, while other guys get the point and withdrawal as well, so she still maintains her denialibity in anything that she was the cause of it.
 

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If you throw yourself at a woman you are letting her see how you will be in bed. You must be congruent though, that one is not for the geeks
 

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can you talk more about how you overcame a fear of being alone? how the whole process went.

i was with a woman and at first she liked me and i liked her this went on for a few months about 4 months into it suddenly she slowly began to change. started hanging out and going out to clubs and shyt and at the time i really didn't care. shortly after that her family went through some tragedy and i was there for them and after that i did everything i could to make her happy and help her get her life back on track. nothing worked and its like the more i did to try and help the more unsatisfied she became with me and the more entitled she felt.

i don't know if you ever been around a person and they were hungry but instead of saying "hey i'm hungry can you please get me something to eat" it became more of an "I'm Hungry" and she would sit there then if i didn't offer to go get her something to eat it would go to "Oh you don't give a fukk about me huh? you don't even care if i eat or not" its like she wouldn't ask me to do shyt she just expected it and complained when i didn't.

one day i woke up and realized this woman was a parasite in my life. she literally contributed nothing to me but took from me constantly. i felt like i didn't need that shyt in my life and things fell apart between me and her.

this woman made me question myself. when things ended i realized i should have walked away a long time ago. being with a woman that literally brings nothing to the table but p*ssy, attitude, and a sense of entitlement is draining. at some point i just snapped. i realized i didn't need her in my life buy beyond that i realized that really there's nothing any woman could ever provide me that i'd actually need. want maybe but not need. you don't have to take shyt from people you don't need.

back when i was with that chick i needed her. i was psychologically dependent on her to make me feel good. she was my happiness even if at the same time she evolved into a source of misery. at some point the pain drowned out the pleasure and after going through something that bad and coming out of it i realized i don't need to be psychologically dependent on a woman. i can be alone and its ok. in fact its preferable to being dependent on someone that makes you unhappy. maybe i had to hit rock bottom to realize that i was always in a self imposed prison and at that point i opened the door and let myself out.
 

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being alone

:wow:

being alone is necessary for every man as it removes the emotional attachment that you may have toward women, but i will say being alone should be after a relationship because if you do not the postivies and negatives of a relationship being alone you will still crave for the thirst.

being successful is marketed as a happy stable marriage a few kids the white picket fence house vacation with the family etc when its total bs.

As for me being alone took my time to get to this mindframe to where i could care less for interaction with women. after i broke up wiht my ex fiance i struggled being alone because all i knew was talking to her all the time, spending my time with her etc., so it hit me like a druggie off cocaine, i had all this freedom but i just wasted away at home, it wasnt untill like 6 months later i was cleansed and learned to love myself and being alone and thats when gasp another chick came into the picture it always seems to work out that way.

emphasis when you learn to love being alone chicks hate it and thats when they usually pop up.


as well learning to love being alone lets you know when you are in a horrible relationship you are not afraid to walk away at any point you know you are content and happy with being alone, it takes a while to get there but when you do ahh
i wouldn't say i love to be a lone but i'm ok with it and i prefer it to dealing with bs. i also thing being an introvert helps you with being alone.
 

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