Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[kevm3]

No straight man is just going to not desire the company of a woman, so when we say learn to be alone, we're not talking about eliminating your desires for a woman... it's more of you realizing that you WANT the company of a woman, not that you need the company of a woman, and if the company she brings isn't of a certain standard, you simply won't accept it.

A lot of cats simply get in trouble when they accept females in their midst who bring all kinds of problems and disrespect. Just to be perfectly real, and I'm sure a lot of fellas feel the same way... in this day and age, I love how females look, but I really can't stand the way many of them act. Women were always women, but back in the day, they were at least reared to be homemakers. They were reared to be submissive. There was a completely different value-structure in place. Nowadays, most women bring little more than her sexuality to a relationship, and she's even sharing that outside the confines of the relationship without an iota of remorse until she gets caught. Then she is as sorry as can be. Nowadays, women are having sex with all kinds of dudes, having 2 or 3 kids out of wedlock, have these sassy, combative attitudes, can't cook, refuse to clean, want to be respected as an equal but not having equal repercussions, etc., etc.

What it comes down to realizing is that as a man of value, God created you to have a JOYFUL life... You shouldn't be constantly stressed. One of the quickest ways to get stressed out is not filtering who you let into your life. So a quick litmus test on whether you should deal with a female is when you think about it... if she called you now or if you had to go see her, do you actually feel joy or do more concerns run in your head?

Now, the real power of learning to be alone lies in the fact that once you've mastered it, you will stop ACCEPTING DEALS and you will stop making compromises. You will simply cut out a lot of nonsense that comes in your life by refusing to let those who bring such nonsense to get close to you. The behavior of these modern women is simply off the charts and society actually rewards them for it. You let one of them in your life without filtering them and you'll end up wanting to shoot somebody or getting shot yourself.

Let's REALLY sit down and analyze it. You have all these girls you can talk to, run a little game on and if you choose, ya'll may have sex... but what is the true value of that woman? If you couldn't have sex with her for the next 2 years, would you even consider dealing with her? Let's be real. Is her personality that strong? If things got tough, would this woman REALLY hold you down? What does she bring to the table for real? I know most men would be hard pressed to think of anything tangible. And with that you've pretty much learned the value of most of these modern women. So why in the world are ya'll changing ya'lls personality or putting up with all of this nonsense? What in the world are men these days really trying to 'keep around'? A woman whose only value is sex that she is still giving away outside of the confines of the relationship?

Having this knowledge will help fellas stop doing dumb things like competing with other men, hating on another man and trying to throw salt in his game, changing up his personality and a host of other things that men do to procure female attention. Soon your mentality becomes, "I'm just going to be me and I'm going to enjoy my life whether or not a female is in it or not... and if she IS in it, she's going to be on her best behavior and bring joy, not stress to my presence." This is the power of learning to be alone and not accepting compromise.

 

[ReggieFlare]

No straight man is just going to not desire the company of a woman, so when we say learn to be alone, we're not talking about eliminating your desires for a woman... it's more of you realizing that you WANT the company of a woman, not that you need the company of a woman, and if the company she brings isn't of a certain standard, you simply won't accept it.

A lot of cats simply get in trouble when they accept females in their midst who bring all kinds of problems and disrespect. Just to be perfectly real, and I'm sure a lot of fellas feel the same way... in this day and age, I love how females look, but I really can't stand the way many of them act. Women were always women, but back in the day, they were at least reared to be homemakers. They were reared to be submissive. There was a completely different value-structure in place. Nowadays, most women bring little more than her sexuality to a relationship, and she's even sharing that outside the confines of the relationship without an iota of remorse until she gets caught. Then she is as sorry as can be. Nowadays, women are having sex with all kinds of dudes, having 2 or 3 kids out of wedlock, have these sassy, combative attitudes, can't cook, refuse to clean, want to be respected as an equal but not having equal repercussions, etc., etc.

What it comes down to realizing is that as a man of value, God created you to have a JOYFUL life... You shouldn't be constantly stressed. One of the quickest ways to get stressed out is not filtering who you let into your life. So a quick litmus test on whether you should deal with a female is when you think about it... if she called you now or if you had to go see her, do you actually feel joy or do more concerns run in your head?

Now, the real power of learning to be alone lies in the fact that once you've mastered it, you will stop ACCEPTING DEALS and you will stop making compromises. You will simply cut out a lot of nonsense that comes in your life by refusing to let those who bring such nonsense to get close to you. The behavior of these modern women is simply off the charts and society actually rewards them for it. You let one of them in your life without filtering them and you'll end up wanting to shoot somebody or getting shot yourself.

Let's REALLY sit down and analyze it. You have all these girls you can talk to, run a little game on and if you choose, ya'll may have sex... but what is the true value of that woman? If you couldn't have sex with her for the next 2 years, would you even consider dealing with her? Let's be real. Is her personality that strong? If things got tough, would this woman REALLY hold you down? What does she bring to the table for real? I know most men would be hard pressed to think of anything tangible. And with that you've pretty much learned the value of most of these modern women. So why in the world are ya'll changing ya'lls personality or putting up with all of this nonsense? What in the world are men these days really trying to 'keep around'? A woman whose only value is sex that she is still giving away outside of the confines of the relationship?

Having this knowledge will help fellas stop doing dumb things like competing with other men, hating on another man and trying to throw salt in his game, changing up his personality and a host of other things that men do to procure female attention. Soon your mentality becomes, "I'm just going to be me and I'm going to enjoy my life whether or not a female is in it or not... and if she IS in it, she's going to be on her best behavior and bring joy, not stress to my presence." This is the power of learning to be alone and not accepting compromise.

Gospel

From my experience, once you learn how to be alone you it seems that you actually end up pulling more females.

 

[Sharp]

I hear many women say that a happy woman makes a happy man. This is utter bullshyt and a man of real value of self would never feed into this. Why is her happiness paramount to the relationship? No woman has ever been responsible for my happiness.

Stop allowing women to make you believe that you are responsible for their happiness and that your happiness is contingent on them being happy.

 

[Not By Bread Alone]

What it comes down to realizing is that as a man of value, God created you to have a JOYFUL life... You shouldn't be constantly stressed. One of the quickest ways to get stressed out is not filtering who you let into your life. So a quick litmus test on whether you should deal with a female is when you think about it... if she called you now or if you had to go see her, do you actually feel joy or do more concerns run in your head?

Let's REALLY sit down and analyze it. You have all these girls you can talk to, run a little game on and if you choose, ya'll may have sex... but what is the true value of that woman? If you couldn't have sex with her for the next 2 years, would you even consider dealing with her? Let's be real. Is her personality that strong? If things got tough, would this woman REALLY hold you down? What does she bring to the table for real?

Soon your mentality becomes, "I'm just going to be me and I'm going to enjoy my life whether or not a female is in it or not... and if she IS in it, she's going to be on her best behavior and bring joy, not stress to my presence." This is the power of learning to be alone and not accepting compromise.

this is powerful posting. I've suggested to a woman to have a period of abstinence to see how the relationship grows during this. When looking for a quality woman, it has to be more than just physical, and taking this off the table can clear your vision a lot.

This thread can make you pessimistic about women though...

 

[Not By Bread Alone]

Stop allowing women to make you believe that you are responsible for their happiness

I will say there's a fine line between this, and lifting up a friend/partner when they are unhappy, which is an important part of any relationship. When you feel responsible for their mood, then you've crossed that line.

 

[sixsixtwo]

I hear many women say that a happy woman makes a happy man. This is utter bullshyt and a man of real value of self would never feed into this. Why is her happiness paramount to the relationship? No woman has ever been responsible for my happiness.

Stop allowing women to make you believe that you are responsible for their happiness and that your happiness is contingent on them being happy.

Yeah that "happy wife happy life" nonsense.. That shyt makes me nauseous just thinking about it..

The most important person in my life is me & nothing or nobody can make me happy but me.. End of..

 

[sixsixtwo]

About marriage:

"This is the most ridiculous logic I have heard. To call someone a p*ssy that counsels not to get married because of the risk is blowhard bullshyt. You have a 1 in 1,000,000 chance of dying when you leave the house. You have 1 in 2 chance of divorce. 1 in 2. My opinion and observation of data is that your odds are higher if you marry someone attractive. Higher still if you were a player. So go to a roulette wheel and bet 40% of all of your future income on the red or the black. Same thing. It depends on your definition of Game. Some say Game is proactive and allows you to get the best out of life. I think it is somewhat reactive. I say it is defensive. Game enables you to avoid Oneitis and to make sane and rational decisions, to not be dragged, tricked, or manipulated into marriage.

You ever been married for 17 years? I have. I know what it is like. I know the boredom you will experience. I know what it is like to be chained to a career that is not your choosing because of the financial pressures placed on you. I am a expert at mid 19th Russian history because my fukking wife went to bed early for 10 years. Ask me how much mid 19th century Russian history I have read since divorce. None. I spent this weekend watching every college game on TV.

The odds are you probably will end up divorced. You don’t know how to be married. You think you do and you think that Game might help to avoid divorce. fukk off. The only way you will stay married is if she has no better alternative to you. And if you have no balls. If you are a nice little handyman, if you stand around and hold her coat and let her direct the movie, then she might just let you keep on being her slave. All this talk about Game saving you from divorce is pretty recent and to me, mighty suspect with what I know about being married. My opinion is that if you are a lion, then you will be divorced. If you are a mouse then you might be divorced. You have to toe the line of what women think is the “good dad” and you will have to subordinate yourself to the woman’s definition of the “greater good”. Both me and my brother-in-law were faced with a situation where both of us had vetted wives based on the fact that they would work. “Sure. Sure. We love to work. We’re modern women”. Then when the kids came both wives quit or got fired. They were both faced with some tough situations at work and both sat down. “My baby needs me.” fukk that. She didn’t work anymore and used the convenient justification. Both, my brother-in-law and I freaked out. Both women felt absolutely justified. “People change. When I said I would work, I didn’t know the reality of how much I would want to be with my child.” You can say same about a ton of things, where you live, how much money is acceptable, how big a house. Also, my wife was supposed to inherit about 7 million dollars from her dad and then the dad re-married, out of the blue, right before he died, and the new wife took a great chunk of that money when the will was changed. My ex-wife figured, hey a few million isn’t enough for two people to live on so it is in her advantage to ditch this guy before her dad died.

Fine, marriage might work out for you. It probably won’t and you will fukk yourself bad. It happens to 1 in 2 men. 1 in fukking 2.

This might be the first time I have read this blog and I don’t know man, but I certainly will filter anything you might write after this. This is pure hyper macho “Real alphas aren’t afraid to marry”. Fine, get a revolver, but 3 bullets in it, spin the chamber, and put it to your head. Same thing, buddy. 1 in 2 man.

The essence of modern divorce law is that it changes the classical trade of surplus labor for sex. Once anyone can receive the benefit from any deal without supplying their part then you can bet your ass that they will use the situation to their advantage. Dalrock wrote last week that the modern church preaches that it is the duty of the woman to withhold sex to coerce her husband into acting “right” as she defines “right” to be. Fairness never enters into it. “He won’t go to Home Depot with me because I want to change all the light switches in the house because I don’t like them and he wants to watch stupid football instead”. That’s justification enough for her to withhold sex. Or “I’m too tired. I have my job and the kids.” or any 100s of reasons that the hamster will use to justify it and you can do nothing to keep it from happening. So then when she has starved you out for 6 months and then you look at porn after hours and hours of being alone, then “Aha, he looks a porn and I am justified in divorcing him”. The law gives the woman undue advantage legally and you are hoping she will listen to her better angels and not take advantage.

It not a lack of courage. It is prudentiality. You examine the rewards and you consider the risk as well as the potential loss. And just because you have read four blogs that say game your wife and she won’t leave you is not enough to make me forget that millions of men are tossed out into the street every year. You can read all you want about trading in Forex and think you are just the shyt on trading the JPY-EUR pair and then lose your ass. Prudentiality or prudence, however you want to look at it, will allow to know a bad risk when you see it. Courage has nothing to do with judgement.

Your kidding yourself if you think you can eliminate risk by looking at age, education, parental history, and a bunch of factors. The only safe way is to not marry. And it is not a coward’s way out. You will be happier in the end when you are 55, 60, 70. I have been alone for two years now at 57. The lack of stress, of not having a bytch, of no abuse, of no arguments, no Home Depot, no stupid female bullshyt is tremendous. My dad never remarried after my mom died. They fought for years throughout the whole marriage and she slept alone in another room for about 5 years before she died. No one was more Alpha then him. He partied a bit and she was always on his ass about it. Once she accused him of having a girlfriend and he said “Evelyn, you may not have cured me of drinking, but you damn sure cured me of women.” And he meant it. After she died, he never even had a girlfriend.

We all thought “Gosh, he must be lonely” He fukking wasn’t. He had ample money to do as he pleased and he did exactly that. I didn’t really know how happy he was to not have 5 kids up his ass all wanting something from him and a bytch on his back all the time. Until I did it.

He had sort of been a role model for me. I surely wanted to wait to marry, to not have a lot of kids, because even as a boy I figured out he was getting the shyt end of the stick. I should have paid even better attention and never married.

Sure, when your in your 30s and early 40s, people will think there is something fukked with you because they all think old school, if you were worth a shyt then a woman would want you or you would “man up”.

You have to leave all that bullshyt thinking behind. Like it or not, this is a new era in mankind. Marriage is and will continue to be the first casualty of PostModernism.

You know what. I am going exactly the other direction from you. You are a p*ssy if you do marry. You are a coward that is falling for conditioning, that you need the social validation of it, that you are afraid that you will be alone when you are old, that you need to follow what you are told to do and man-up and meet your responsibilities, that you are afraid to stick your nose out there and continue to struggle to get what you want from women and from the world and you want a bytch to tell you what to do, that you are such a fukking wimp that you need a woman so you can lay your head on her chest and seek your mother like you were a little baby infant (Coco Chanel’s word about men, not mine).

p*ssy."


Source: http://donlak.wordpress.com/2012/09/03/get-married/

 

[Nintendough]

No straight man is just going to not desire the company of a woman, so when we say learn to be alone, we're not talking about eliminating your desires for a woman... it's more of you realizing that you WANT the company of a woman, not that you need the company of a woman, and if the company she brings isn't of a certain standard, you simply won't accept it.

A lot of cats simply get in trouble when they accept females in their midst who bring all kinds of problems and disrespect. Just to be perfectly real, and I'm sure a lot of fellas feel the same way... in this day and age, I love how females look, but I really can't stand the way many of them act. Women were always women, but back in the day, they were at least reared to be homemakers. They were reared to be submissive. There was a completely different value-structure in place. Nowadays, most women bring little more than her sexuality to a relationship, and she's even sharing that outside the confines of the relationship without an iota of remorse until she gets caught. Then she is as sorry as can be. Nowadays, women are having sex with all kinds of dudes, having 2 or 3 kids out of wedlock, have these sassy, combative attitudes, can't cook, refuse to clean, want to be respected as an equal but not having equal repercussions, etc., etc.

What it comes down to realizing is that as a man of value, God created you to have a JOYFUL life... You shouldn't be constantly stressed. One of the quickest ways to get stressed out is not filtering who you let into your life. So a quick litmus test on whether you should deal with a female is when you think about it... if she called you now or if you had to go see her, do you actually feel joy or do more concerns run in your head?

Now, the real power of learning to be alone lies in the fact that once you've mastered it, you will stop ACCEPTING DEALS and you will stop making compromises. You will simply cut out a lot of nonsense that comes in your life by refusing to let those who bring such nonsense to get close to you. The behavior of these modern women is simply off the charts and society actually rewards them for it. You let one of them in your life without filtering them and you'll end up wanting to shoot somebody or getting shot yourself.

Let's REALLY sit down and analyze it. You have all these girls you can talk to, run a little game on and if you choose, ya'll may have sex... but what is the true value of that woman? If you couldn't have sex with her for the next 2 years, would you even consider dealing with her? Let's be real. Is her personality that strong? If things got tough, would this woman REALLY hold you down? What does she bring to the table for real? I know most men would be hard pressed to think of anything tangible. And with that you've pretty much learned the value of most of these modern women. So why in the world are ya'll changing ya'lls personality or putting up with all of this nonsense? What in the world are men these days really trying to 'keep around'? A woman whose only value is sex that she is still giving away outside of the confines of the relationship?
Having this knowledge will help fellas stop doing dumb things like competing with other men, hating on another man and trying to throw salt in his game, changing up his personality and a host of other things that men do to procure female attention. Soon your mentality becomes, "I'm just going to be me and I'm going to enjoy my life whether or not a female is in it or not... and if she IS in it, she's going to be on her best behavior and bring joy, not stress to my presence." This is the power of learning to be alone and not accepting compromise.

So much power, especially the bolded. These dudes don't understand the value of things. They will place a woman before their own well being just because they think she can't be replaced.

 

[FukkaPaidEmail]

This bytch got mad at me because I said it wasn't a big deal when she dropped & broke one of my cheap ass cups...Talkin' about "do you care about anything?" and shyt.

This chick is trying to test me ....Pretty sure she did that shyt on purpose to see my reaction.Thinking about dropping this bird because of this.

 

[Ohene]

This bytch got mad at me because I said it wasn't a big deal when she dropped & broke one of my cheap ass cups...Talkin' about "do you care about anything?" and shyt.

This chick is trying to test me ....Pretty sure she did that shyt on purpose to see my reaction.Thinking about dropping this bird because of this.

these women man

 

[Malikthegod]

Chick that I simped on hard hit me up out the blue last night like hey you want to do something? SMH. I'm like nah I'm good, already have plans.
She knew that back in the day I would've dropped whatever I was doing for a chance to spend money just to be able to spend with her. I know she was like

 

[sixsixtwo]

 

[winb83]

This bytch got mad at me because I said it wasn't a big deal when she dropped & broke one of my cheap ass cups...Talkin' about "do you care about anything?" and shyt.

This chick is trying to test me ....Pretty sure she did that shyt on purpose to see my reaction.Thinking about dropping this bird because of this.

in situations where a woman has done something that has you considering dropping her its better to just do it. once you have to justify keeping someone around its probably not worth keeping them around.

 

[Scustin Trillberlake]

Chick that I simped on hard hit me up out the blue last night like hey you want to do something? SMH. I'm like nah I'm good, already have plans.
She knew that back in the day I would've dropped whatever I was doing for a chance to spend money just to be able to spend with her. I know she was like

fukk 'em

 

[kevm3]

This bytch got mad at me because I said it wasn't a big deal when she dropped & broke one of my cheap ass cups...Talkin' about "do you care about anything?" and shyt.

This chick is trying to test me ....Pretty sure she did that shyt on purpose to see my reaction.Thinking about dropping this bird because of this.

That's the kind of stuff I be talking about. These females don't come with the intentions of best behavior in mind. They be coming with the lowest common denominator behavior in order to test you.' Instead of coming in with the mindset to wash that cup, she's going to come in and break it and see if you get mad... some of these women just come in a relationship to make you mad.

Upset Men And The Happy Women Who Love Them : Shots - Health Blog : NPR
Men like it when women let them know when they're happy. Women like it when men share their anger and frustration.

IS it any surprise women live longer than men? Women get taken care of but even still, their objective is to make a man angry really for no reason other than either their own entertainment or as some twisted way of seeing that 'he really cares.'

I've found it in my own experience that when a woman is arguing and complaining about me, I can't seem to shake her, but when I think everything is smooth and beautiful, that's when you get that 'we need to talk' spiel.