Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Brandeezy]

Problem with me is that I've rarely had any positive experiences with women in the terms of dating or even on a friendship level and I'm damn near 26. I mean I've never in my life experienced someone flirting with me and it's not like I didn't put myself in situations for it to happen. The 3 times I've been to a lounge/club I attempted to dance with a couple of women but was rejected and the guy I went with had to force a girl to dance with me which was embarrassing.

Went to visit a friend at a big college in the state and hung out a some parties with him. Ended up getting ditched by said friend at the parties and was left by myself for hours with no one to talk to, just posted on the wall. Tried online and got 0, i even paid for sites and that didn't help doesn't help that I'm 5'5" & not that attractive imo.

In high school I asked one girl out through a note, in return I got a rejection hot line number. The 2nd I had a someone try to hook me up but that ended with the chicken trying to sit me down and explain why we couldn't go out. I got a pity date out of my 1st date by a former coworker which was embarrassing, 1st Tinder date quit replying to me after I met her and the same for the 2nd. The only thing I've done female wise this year is ask a coworker if he could hook me up with another co worker. She responded with "no he's too quiet". All these events lead me to believe that something is wrong with me that can't be fixed unfortunately.

 

[Action Mike]

Problem with me is that I've rarely had any positive experiences with women in the terms of dating or even on a friendship level and I'm damn near 26. I mean I've never in my life experienced someone flirting with me and it's not like I didn't put myself in situations for it to happen. The 3 times I've been to a lounge/club I attempted to dance with a couple of women but was rejected and the guy I went with had to force a girl to dance with me which was embarrassing.

Went to visit a friend at a big college in the state and hung out a some parties with him. Ended up getting ditched by said friend at the parties and was left by myself for hours with no one to talk to, just posted on the wall. Tried online and got 0, i even paid for sites and that didn't help doesn't help that I'm 5'5" & not that attractive imo.

In high school I asked one girl out through a note, in return I got a rejection hot line number. The 2nd I had a someone try to hook me up but that ended with the chicken trying to sit me down and explain why we couldn't go out. I got a pity date out of my 1st date by a former coworker which was embarrassing, 1st Tinder date quit replying to me after I met her and the same for the 2nd. The only thing I've done female wise this year is ask a coworker if he could hook me up with another co worker. She responded with "no he's too quiet". All these events lead me to believe that something is wrong with me that can't be fixed unfortunately.

What have you done to improve with each stage of rejection as you put it. Be specific if you want.

 

[Brandeezy]

What have you done to improve with each stage of rejection as you put it. Be specific if you want.

I didn't do anything since I have no idea what I did wrong. All I got was "You're too quiet" so I ignited convos and tried to keep it going when things got quiet by no luck

 

[360dagod]

I didn't do anything since I have no idea what I did wrong. All I got was "You're too quiet" so I ignited convos and tried to keep it going when things got quiet by no luck

you gotta be more of a dikk breh..

Women want to feel that "tingle" when they see u..

Everybody aint got that shoobey be bop Keith Sweat smooth talking game...

u gotta talk shyt to them and fukk their heads up

 

[Atlrocafella]

Problem with me is that I've rarely had any positive experiences with women in the terms of dating or even on a friendship level and I'm damn near 26. I mean I've never in my life experienced someone flirting with me and it's not like I didn't put myself in situations for it to happen. The 3 times I've been to a lounge/club I attempted to dance with a couple of women but was rejected and the guy I went with had to force a girl to dance with me which was embarrassing.

Went to visit a friend at a big college in the state and hung out a some parties with him. Ended up getting ditched by said friend at the parties and was left by myself for hours with no one to talk to, just posted on the wall. Tried online and got 0, i even paid for sites and that didn't help doesn't help that I'm 5'5" & not that attractive imo.

In high school I asked one girl out through a note, in return I got a rejection hot line number. The 2nd I had a someone try to hook me up but that ended with the chicken trying to sit me down and explain why we couldn't go out. I got a pity date out of my 1st date by a former coworker which was embarrassing, 1st Tinder date quit replying to me after I met her and the same for the 2nd. The only thing I've done female wise this year is ask a coworker if he could hook me up with another co worker. She responded with "no he's too quiet". All these events lead me to believe that something is wrong with me that can't be fixed unfortunately.

First Time I've seen you break it down like this..So Let me give you a few tips that you can incorporate immediately. As time progresses, we will work on some deeper things...but first thing first, this is what i want you to immediately incorporate starting tomorrow morning.

1. As I stated in my previous post, make sure you step out the house feeling good about your physical appearance. You can be 5'5 and make it work for you(I've seen it happen), dress like a grown 26 year old man, keep it clean, keep clean shoes, make sure your hygiene is straight and smell good before you step out.

2. Greet every female you pass with a "Hey, Good morning/evening" without any expectation..Some will say it back, some won't, some chicks will look your way when you say it, some won't. Doesn't matter, this is to get you in the routine of being comfortable of saying something simple and not worrying about their reaction.

Just try these two things for the remainder of the week and let me know something by Friday breh.

 

[DarkHorse23]

Problem with me is that I've rarely had any positive experiences with women in the terms of dating or even on a friendship level and I'm damn near 26. I mean I've never in my life experienced someone flirting with me and it's not like I didn't put myself in situations for it to happen. The 3 times I've been to a lounge/club I attempted to dance with a couple of women but was rejected and the guy I went with had to force a girl to dance with me which was embarrassing.

Went to visit a friend at a big college in the state and hung out a some parties with him. Ended up getting ditched by said friend at the parties and was left by myself for hours with no one to talk to, just posted on the wall. Tried online and got 0, i even paid for sites and that didn't help doesn't help that I'm 5'5" & not that attractive imo.

In high school I asked one girl out through a note, in return I got a rejection hot line number. The 2nd I had a someone try to hook me up but that ended with the chicken trying to sit me down and explain why we couldn't go out. I got a pity date out of my 1st date by a former coworker which was embarrassing, 1st Tinder date quit replying to me after I met her and the same for the 2nd. The only thing I've done female wise this year is ask a coworker if he could hook me up with another co worker. She responded with "no he's too quiet". All these events lead me to believe that something is wrong with me that can't be fixed unfortunately.

I can relate to hearing that. I remember being asked in the past "why are you so quiet?" by women. I hate those type of questions.

 

[Sonic Boom of the South]

im fukking dying at one of the post on here



i wish you could all eat

 

[MikelArteta]

Problem with me is that I've rarely had any positive experiences with women in the terms of dating or even on a friendship level and I'm damn near 26. I mean I've never in my life experienced someone flirting with me and it's not like I didn't put myself in situations for it to happen. The 3 times I've been to a lounge/club I attempted to dance with a couple of women but was rejected and the guy I went with had to force a girl to dance with me which was embarrassing.

Went to visit a friend at a big college in the state and hung out a some parties with him. Ended up getting ditched by said friend at the parties and was left by myself for hours with no one to talk to, just posted on the wall. Tried online and got 0, i even paid for sites and that didn't help doesn't help that I'm 5'5" & not that attractive imo.

In high school I asked one girl out through a note, in return I got a rejection hot line number. The 2nd I had a someone try to hook me up but that ended with the chicken trying to sit me down and explain why we couldn't go out. I got a pity date out of my 1st date by a former coworker which was embarrassing, 1st Tinder date quit replying to me after I met her and the same for the 2nd. The only thing I've done female wise this year is ask a coworker if he could hook me up with another co worker. She responded with "no he's too quiet". All these events lead me to believe that something is wrong with me that can't be fixed unfortunately.

never to late to change who you are, there are dudes in their 30s and 40s just getting into their first relationship. Think of all the women in the world all it takes is ONE thats it.

You have to start chaging your mindset from this woe is me look at my situation wah wah. It's like a mom who tells her son you'll never be anything day after day he starts believing that and amounts to nothing. You keep telling yourself no woman wants me i'm a failure your planting the seeds and continuing to water them every day and now you have a full garden of negativity.

Not every woman will feel you it's life, but all it takes is one that your feeling and boom. Everyone has insecurities and their own obstacles, whether its height, weight, not having a job, illness, etc. etc., just have to stop letting it be an anchor. Did 5'3 mugsey bogues accept and be like well no one everplayed in teh nba at this height so I won't make it let me just quit and mope? nah he didn't he used what he had to his advantage. Regardless of what you think of yourself you have attributes that a woman out there right now is praying for before she closes her eyes and goes to sleep.

Harness your abilities, and plant those seeds breh, life changes when your mind changes

 

[Mowgli]

 

[FreshFromATL]

Problem with me is that I've rarely had any positive experiences with women in the terms of dating or even on a friendship level and I'm damn near 26. I mean I've never in my life experienced someone flirting with me and it's not like I didn't put myself in situations for it to happen. The 3 times I've been to a lounge/club I attempted to dance with a couple of women but was rejected and the guy I went with had to force a girl to dance with me which was embarrassing.

Went to visit a friend at a big college in the state and hung out a some parties with him. Ended up getting ditched by said friend at the parties and was left by myself for hours with no one to talk to, just posted on the wall. Tried online and got 0, i even paid for sites and that didn't help doesn't help that I'm 5'5" & not that attractive imo.

In high school I asked one girl out through a note, in return I got a rejection hot line number. The 2nd I had a someone try to hook me up but that ended with the chicken trying to sit me down and explain why we couldn't go out. I got a pity date out of my 1st date by a former coworker which was embarrassing, 1st Tinder date quit replying to me after I met her and the same for the 2nd. The only thing I've done female wise this year is ask a coworker if he could hook me up with another co worker. She responded with "no he's too quiet". All these events lead me to believe that something is wrong with me that can't be fixed unfortunately.

Breh Kevin Hart is 5'4 and look at this dude...

I know you're gonna say "he has money" and all of that but just peep his demeanor. Dude hasn't let his height effect him one bit. Dude has focused on all the things that make him great, plus that nikka stay fly as fukk. Now he successful as fukk and got a dope-ass chick on his arm.

Cut it out with this hold "woe is me" stuff like @Emperor_ReinScarf said and start focusing on the great qualites you do have. What is your dress game like? Do you keep a clean cut? Work on yourself breh, work on your personality, go back to school, workout, try to keep your appearance on point with a fresh cut, get you a nice wardrobe going so you'll feel better about yourself. And like @Atlrocafella said, start saying good morning/evening to women as a way to get familiar with just speaking to random women.

 

[MikelArteta]

Breh Kevin Hart is 5'4 and look at this dude...

I know you're gonna say "he has money" and all of that but just peep his demeanor. Dude hasn't let his height effect him one bit. Dude has focused on all the things that make him great, plus that nikka stay fly as fukk. Now he successful as fukk and got a dope-ass chick on his arm.

Cut it out with this hold "woe is me" stuff like @Emperor_ReinScarf said and start focusing on the great qualites you do have. What is your dress game like? Do you keep a clean cut? Work on yourself breh, work on your personality, go back to school, workout, try to keep your appearance on point with a fresh cut, get you a nice wardrobe going so you'll feel better about yourself. And like @Atlrocafella said, start saying good morning/evening to women as a way to get familiar with just speaking to random women.

there are short guys, fat guys, ugly guys, broke guys eating. How you carry yourself lets off how other people see you,.

And I agree with what your saying, go to the gym but for yourself. I'm skinny and earlier this year I signed up with a pesronal training for 3 months and my body was starting to look no homo, it gave me a extra layer of confidence I never had before, I also switched up my wardrobe when I started my new job and now when I go out I just feel

I'd also recommend thigns like toastmasters or join a book club, volunteer. The best women you'll find in life are the ones who like you all your quirks and all

 

[Brandeezy]

Breh Kevin Hart is 5'4 and look at this dude...

I know you're gonna say "he has money" and all of that but just peep his demeanor. Dude hasn't let his height effect him one bit. Dude has focused on all the things that make him great, plus that nikka stay fly as fukk. Now he successful as fukk and got a dope-ass chick on his arm.

Cut it out with this hold "woe is me" stuff like @Emperor_ReinScarf said and start focusing on the great qualites you do have. What is your dress game like? Do you keep a clean cut? Work on yourself breh, work on your personality, go back to school, workout, try to keep your appearance on point with a fresh cut, get you a nice wardrobe going so you'll feel better about yourself. And like @Atlrocafella said, start saying good morning/evening to women as a way to get familiar with just speaking to random women.

Don't really have a dress "game" i just throw on one of these http://hottopic.scene7.com/is/image/HotTopic/10277433_hi?wid=1360 or one of my comic book/diamond supply shirts with some blue levi's and chucks or Nikes. Might wear a fitted but most times i don't, usually i do in the winter tho or when it gets cold. I try to workout when i can but i'm working 60+ hrs and sometimes i'll work 10 days straight before my day off (like this week) so most of the time i end up tired after work. I cut my own hair so i guess it's good and i went to school last about 6 years ago, ended up with a lot of debt and finished paying it off last year. Maybe i should try a trade school, don't know what though. Don' know how to work on my personality besides be me

 

[King Kai]

man, this thread is a fantastic read

been through many of these situations smh

 

[Yup]

Breh Kevin Hart is 5'4 and look at this dude...

I know you're gonna say "he has money" and all of that but just peep his demeanor. Dude hasn't let his height effect him one bit. Dude has focused on all the things that make him great, plus that nikka stay fly as fukk. Now he successful as fukk and got a dope-ass chick on his arm.

Cut it out with this hold "woe is me" stuff like @Emperor_ReinScarf said and start focusing on the great qualites you do have. What is your dress game like? Do you keep a clean cut? Work on yourself breh, work on your personality, go back to school, workout, try to keep your appearance on point with a fresh cut, get you a nice wardrobe going so you'll feel better about yourself. And like @Atlrocafella said, start saying good morning/evening to women as a way to get familiar with just speaking to random women.

Lol ... Yes he has money. Not a very good example

 

[Fatboi1]

Lol ... Yes he has money. Not a very good example

I knew a dude in HS that had plenty of women and he was smaller than me. He was like 5'6 and I'm the same height.