ok dude, u bring up a lot of good points. but different strokes for different folks. i dont know how old you are but if u are this hell bent on believing checking ur significant's other is a bad idea, i can only presume you're young.
no one here is a mind reader nor is any one of us psychic. that girl who u have already vetted, who u think is angelic, when/if she decides to stray on u, wouldn't u like to catch it before it happens and make decisions? or at least catch it as soon as it happens so u know how to continue dealing with said person..
there's a lot of wisdom in this thread, some of which u contributed to in the last few pages. i strongly recommend you read earlier posts in here and gain some knowledge yourself. we're all hear to learn. even me. no one here knows it all. we share experiences and mine has shown, its better to be ready for a problem than to be caught off guard by it.
I like to think I'm young but I'm
in coli years. 32. Been married 9 years. Not only that, I've been on both sides of the track. The winners and the losers. Both extremes. And everything in between. In High School, I had sex twice, breh. Twice. In four years. Pathetic. fukked 3 times my first week of college and never looked back. Had ups and downs, good times, great times. Got to a point where I could pretty much fukk anything that breathed. And I got to that point by taking the time to learn what I was doing. Trust me, I'm speaking from experience, breh. I'm just pointing out things that I've learned and corrected along the way that made a huge difference in my life. I'm seeing some of the same mistakes I made.
If a girl is stepping out on you, you shouldn't need emails to know. And if you're checking the emails you know things have gotten to a point where you feel the need to be concerned. Now If you feel that way from jump you're just scorned but either way it's all relevant because these are the very attributes that women find unattractive and cause them to stray in the first place. It's kind of like the law of attraction. You're looking for a cheater and in the process you're becoming the type of guy who gets cheated on.
Do you know why women cheat? And I mean women, I don't fukk with hoes. They're easy to spot and if you're dumb enough to wife up a hoe then I don't really know what to tell you. But women cheat for revenge or because they are no longer attracted to you, but it's hard for them to just break up with you. They fear confrontation. So she'll mentally break up with you and not tell you. With that being said, you should see the signs before she cheats. She's either gonna cheat or break up with you. And you should be 10 steps ahead. You absolutely
should be a mind reader or psychic. At least when it comes to your woman. It's like that scene in Jackie Brown when De Niro told Sam Jack about the chick's plan to rob him. Sam Jack laughed it off. De Niro asked him how he could keep a chick around who he couldn't trust. Sam Jack told him " I don't hafta trust her. I just hafta trust her to be
her."
Hell yeah you should know what you're lady is thinking. They're creatures of habit. Natural followers. So you can basically manipulate and set her routine.
You should be in control of her and her emotions. She should always be seeking your attention and approval.
Even to this day, I barely tell my wife anything about myself. I'll talk about whatever's going on around us, or about the kids, household shyt, or whatever we just watched on tv, sports, hip hop, piff, shyt it's kinda like coli. Yall nikkas ain't never gon know my face or my government name. Keep a safe distance so she always has to chase. I give her just enough attention so she don't leave my ass.
And I know how much she needs. I measure that by her response to me. You should easily be able to control your girl's emotions. Control her emotions, you control her. But if you can't control her emotions then you might wanna start checking emails. But if you can't control her emotions you don't need to check emails anyway, see what I'm saying? If we're not having passionate sex
whenever I want, there's a problem. I don't care how mad at me she gets. Breaking her normal, set routine? Problem. fukk am I checking emails for at that point?
If you feel the need to snoop it's because you sense something's not right. And that's usually the case. That's why when you snoop you usually find what you're looking for. That's not you being clever and figuring out this diabolical scheme, that's you simply sensing what you should have noticed because it's right in front of your face. That's why I said cats must be either clueless (can't see what right in front of them) or foolish (can see it but choose to ignore it). EVERYBODY who checks emails finds exactly what they were looking for. But that's only because it was obvious they were just a little slow or in disbelief (foolish).
But the biggest problem of all men make is calling the woman scandalous or whatever and never checking
himself. The major difference between the old me and the current me is mindset. Changed the world for me. When you hold you chin up, back straight, chest out, chicks flock. They smell it in the air. The minute you
think about checking an email, you are immediately stained with insecurity. And women can smell that too. It stinks to them. You gotta know what attracts women and you gotta know what repulses them. Open up to them? That's weakness. Once in while, to keep that balance intact. But don't give her all, nah mane, just give her some. Make her work for pieces of you. Earn it. This is how you can control women. But it takes practice.
But you gotta understand if a woman (again, excluding hoes) steps out it's for revenge or because essentially you weren't giving her enough masculine energy. Tough pill to swallow but you'll be a better man if you accept it.
I used to be a "email checkin nikka" but I have no need to do that anymore.
Sorry for the long ass posts lol
Think about that. Coincidence? Only fools believe in those.
but on the flip side they aren't exactly dimes either
