Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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For some reason, I just haven't been with or met a chick that I want around me 24/7. This chick I'm dealing with is frustrated that she can't come see me whenever she wants too. I told her I like when she's around, but sometimes I just want to be in my own spot by myself. Probably why I don't see myself living with a chick, which probably means I would have a hard time being married :lupe:, or maybe I just haven't met that great chick that I wouldn't mind having up under me all the time :yeshrug:

No it just means that you like your space. I think that it is a good thing when couples give themselves some space. Being around someone 24/7 can eventually become annoying.
 

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It's mandatory for me that whoever I date from now on has to also like having her alone time, or at least be understanding of the fact that I need mine.

I'm done dealing with women who get upset about spending time apart. It's smothering and I know there's women out there who appreciate their alone time too.

This is paramount to me in the next relationship I get into.

Have your own separate hobbies/interests that dont include me.

It's vital in order to sustain a lasting relationship IMO.
 
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For some reason, I just haven't been with or met a chick that I want around me 24/7. This chick I'm dealing with is frustrated that she can't come see me whenever she wants too. I told her I like when she's around, but sometimes I just want to be in my own spot by myself. Probably why I don't see myself living with a chick, which probably means I would have a hard time being married :lupe:, or maybe I just haven't met that great chick that I wouldn't mind having up under me all the time :yeshrug:

I dont even think i can talk everyday with a broad..:francis:

I get annoyed quickly:lolbron:
 

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Solo? Ehh...
do it.

going out with your friends can cramp your style anyways. It can be intimidating for a woman to try and talk to a dude who has 3 dudes surrounding him. I for one find it intimidating talking to a chick with her friends around so I get it.

if you go out alone with a goal in mind youre more likely to achieve it.

i remember coming back to school my senior year after an internship with all my friends graduated. I had to live with randoms and didnt really have anybody i knew at school like that except one friend and a few students in my program i didnt fukk with like that. it forced me to get out on the solo tip and Id meet girls any and everywhere.

Even when I went out...I'd go to a friend's predrink and by the time i got to the club I'd separate and do my own thing usually. There was a 4-5 time streak where everytime I went out I'd bring a bytch back to the crib because I wasnt wasting time at the bar with any of my friends waiting for them to wingman. I wasnt pressured by one or two of my roommates wanting to go home and me following them because I didnt wanna pay taxi fare alone. I wasn't worried about what my roommates might think of the tactics i was using to bring a girl or my game. Etc. I just let loose and ate.
 

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This is paramount to me in the next relationship I get into.

Have your own separate hobbies/interests that dont include me.

It's vital in order to sustain a lasting relationship IMO.
@Guy Incognito true shyt

The last shorty i was messing with was supposed to be like that. During the time we got to know each other she was saying how often in relationships dudes find her distant or complain about her introvertedness. I was like :leon:...thats exactly what I need from a chick because I'm the same way.

Low and behold we continue doing our thing...she starts liking me more and more and all of a sudden starts making me feel bad for not always wanting her to come over or not always wanting to do shyt with her :smh:
 

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@Guy Incognito true shyt

The last shorty i was messing with was supposed to be like that. During the time we got to know each other she was saying how often in relationships dudes find her distant or complain about her introvertedness. I was like :leon:...thats exactly what I need from a chick because I'm the same way.

Low and behold we continue doing our thing...she starts liking me more and more and all of a sudden starts making me feel bad for not always wanting her to come over or not always wanting to do shyt with her :smh:

This happened in my last relationship.

I mean... I get it. If she fell for you hard, she just wanted time with you. I cant blame a woman who is all about her man.

I felt bad because I really, really liked her (I did fall in love) but I still like my own space/time.

Wasnt meant to be I guess.

:mjcry:
 
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This happened in my last relationship.

I mean... I get it. If she fell for you hard, she just wanted time with you. I cant blame a woman who is all about you. Generally speaking.

I felt bad because I really, really liked her (I did fall in love) but I still like my own space/time.

Wasnt meant to be I guess.

:mjcry:

you'll find her one day :to:
 

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having space and time in relationship is fine and dandy. but yall dudes and dudettes better be careful about overdoing it.
 

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i know all about it. they say not to argue with women but the way with which they flip sh1t, if u dont say ur piece (however short it is), they'll go on believing the crap they've' concocted in their head. and when they tell the story to their friends, they'll paint u down so bad the friends will do nothing but side with her. thats why i hate arguing over the phone. i like to keep things in text so when they show that sh1t to their friends, at least one of them will point out the obvious to her.

Breh I got the even worse version of this

Been chillin with this girl, few yrs younger than me met at work, def something there not something just trying to smash and quit, everything going cool then ole girl flips her shyt on me for telling her best friend who I'm cool with that she got into a fight with her sister

Giving me some shyt about how it's not my right to "tell her business"

:ufdup:bytch, "I have cancer" "I got arrested", "there was a death in the family" is business, you being a whiny a$$hole because your sweating some shyt your sister said to you is not private info, and she was def gonna tell her immediately anyway. Only reason I jumped the gun was because I couldn't deal with her bullshyt and thought her friend could.

I've been getting silent treatment for 2 weeks, girl doesn't want to talk to me but seems to find all sorts of time to talk about me:smugbiden:, i'm cool with her bestfriends too and they've been telling me she's been talking shyt, treating me like an a$$hole they don't know wtf her problem is or why she is mad, told her to get over it, want me to talk to her. Now I got her best friend who dumped her BF complaining to me about her relationship and trying to get all personal :pachaha:

I told this girl, say your piece, I don't wanna fight with your or be mad, instead she just wants to act young.

The games they play brehs...even homegirls friends are on my side and shes riding with this imaginary version of events where everything is my fault.
 

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Breh I got the even worse version of this

Been chillin with this girl, few yrs younger than me met at work, def something there not something just trying to smash and quit, everything going cool then ole girl flips her shyt on me for telling her best friend who I'm cool with that she got into a fight with her sister

Giving me some shyt about how it's not my right to "tell her business"

:ufdup:bytch, "I have cancer" "I got arrested", "there was a death in the family" is business, you being a whiny a$$hole because your sweating some shyt your sister said to you is not private info, and she was def gonna tell her immediately anyway. Only reason I jumped the gun was because I couldn't deal with her bullshyt and thought her friend could.

I've been getting silent treatment for 2 weeks, girl doesn't want to talk to me but seems to find all sorts of time to talk about me:smugbiden:, i'm cool with her bestfriends too and they've been telling me she's been talking shyt, treating me like an a$$hole they don't know wtf her problem is or why she is mad, told her to get over it, want me to talk to her. Now I got her best friend who dumped her BF complaining to me about her relationship and trying to get all personal :pachaha:

I told this girl, say your piece, I don't wanna fight with your or be mad, instead she just wants to act young.

The games they play brehs...even homegirls friends are on my side and shes riding with this imaginary version of events where everything is my fault.

:dame:

Yeah you gave her an "out"to be pissed...:ufdup:

That was your mistake
 
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