Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[The Odum of Ala Igbo]

Help me understand something brehs. A few years ago I dated a girl (briefly but whatever). During the conversation she was telling me about bad experiences she's had with men. She says, "The last time I had a bad experience, I was at a bar waiting for you. The bartender after giving me a drink says, "I want tie you up and fukk you like a whore."

I'm fairly surprised by this story but then I ask, where it happened. She said, "At this bar. The bartender who served us drinks was the guy."


The bytch done had me shook. We didn't end up dating long for a variety of reasons but that was one of them.

Then this year, a girl I'm dating tells me about this time a dude she considered a friend offered her a ride home. She took the offer and then the dude drove into a parking lot. Locked the doors and said, "You're not leaving this parking lot until you suck my dikk." According to her () She didn't give him head, but the dude practically kidnapped her and tried to coerce her into having sex with him.

I found out, she's still friends with the dude on Facebook.

What's wrong with these women brehs?!?!

 

[<<TheStandard>>]

It's mandatory for me that whoever I date from now on has to also like having her alone time, or at least be understanding of the fact that I need mine.

I'm done dealing with women who get upset about spending time apart. It's smothering and I know there's women out there who appreciate their alone time too.

I had a girl like this last year.....It was completely miserable and to make matters worse we didn't have much in common in terms of our interest.

It made me realize I really need a girl who likes to have some alone time otherwise it won't work.

 

[CrossBones]

Help me understand something brehs. A few years ago I dated a girl (briefly but whatever). During the conversation she was telling me about bad experiences she's had with men. She says, "The last time I had a bad experience, I was at a bar waiting for you. The bartender after giving me a drink says, "I want tie you up and fukk you like a whore."

I'm fairly surprised by this story but then I ask, where it happened. She said, "At this bar. The bartender who served us drinks was the guy."


The bytch done had me shook. We didn't end up dating long for a variety of reasons but that was one of them.

Then this year, a girl I'm dating tells me about this time a dude she considered a friend offered her a ride home. She took the offer and then the dude drove into a parking lot. Locked the doors and said, "You're not leaving this parking lot until you suck my dikk." According to her () She didn't give him head, but the dude practically kidnapped her and tried to coerce her into having sex with him.

I found out, she's still friends with the dude on Facebook.

What's wrong with these women brehs?!?!

the first girl wasnt about any dating. she told you that story so youd step up and fukk her and treat her as the slut she is, as she was pretty much telling you that she loves it like that. she was down af for you to run up in her and do her the same. that was that realness coming out of her. girls say slutty shyt to turn you on and so you get the idea about her.

she sounded loose as hell, so I dont blame you for backing off.


and I dont know about the other story. sounds like theres more to it. maybe she wanted to tell you the rest of the story, but was worried about what youd think. the girl is LIKELY still friends with him, because she doesnt want any more complications after what happened.

see, maybe she wasnt all that opposed to giving head in the first place. and maybe she did. or maybe something else happened. we dont know to be honest. but if shes still friends with him, then how much of a villain is he, really?


me personally ... I dont trust a chick Im seeing the more and more I hear these "would be thot tales." the more strange it sounds, the more lies I feel like Im being told. theres more to the story if you put the pieces together, Im sure of it. if theres something thats bothering you in your gut, then you gotta press her for the real or drop the whole thing, if you know what I mean.




bushes is over there

 

[Mr Hate Coffee]

Something I noticed is why do some women seem so interested in you one minute and then completely stop talking to you?? Like the last few girls I spoke to online did this and it kind of puzzled me.

One of the great mysteries of life. I don't even dwell on it no more. I remember this girl had always been looking at and showing me signals when we ran into each other in college. We didn't have any mutual classes or friends so it took until my senior year of college for me to work up the nerve to holla at her. We texted back and forth for a week and then shyt just went cold.

I'll never forget it. I was on the second floor of the library and I saw her down on the first floor on the computer. I sent her an AIM message and she didn't respond. Keep in mind I'm looking right at her as she ignores my shyt. I was like I never got an explanation either. About a month later I saw her in the bookstore buying some shyt with this tall dark nikka. I surmised it was her ex boyfriend and they got back together. I learned that when a woman goes cold on you like that it's because another guy is in the picture.

Dealing with online hoes is worse because you really have no idea. That's why I try to meet these chicks in person ASAP. So I can get them liking me quicker and make it harder for them to ignore me later on.

 

[Mr Hate Coffee]

For some reason, I just haven't been with or met a chick that I want around me 24/7. This chick I'm dealing with is frustrated that she can't come see me whenever she wants too. I told her I like when she's around, but sometimes I just want to be in my own spot by myself. Probably why I don't see myself living with a chick, which probably means I would have a hard time being married , or maybe I just haven't met that great chick that I wouldn't mind having up under me all the time

shyt I'm the same way. You just gotta find a girl that's cool with giving you your space even when you're in the same crib. I've always had issues with girls who have to be up under me all day. The ones that worked out best would just chill on their laptop while I played video games or talk on the phone with their friends.

Nowadays shyt is tough because you truly don't know what you're getting until you spend a lot of time with that person.

 

[Mr Hate Coffee]

Solo? Ehh...

That solo shyt is hard as fukk and it's a patient man's game. Some of my most interesting experiences have happened when I went somewhere solo not knowing what to expect. But it's usually only a 33% success rate at best. A lot of times I'm just out feeling awkward before I finally bounce.

I also disagree with being easier to approach when you're solo. Girls see a guy like me by myself and are instantly intimidated and asking themselves all types of questions like "Why is here alone?" "Where are his friends?" etc.

I've found my ideal going out mix tho... me + a guy friend + a lady friend. It's small and I don't feel obligated to spend my time talking to my guy friend or the girl. I can bounce, holla at hoes, and leave them to talk to each other. When I come back, it's all good. Plus girls can see that I have friends of both sexes, so there's social proof too.

 

[Jesus]

Like you nikkas in the thread read my mind.....dating a girl who wants to hang with you all the time when you like your alone time.

 

[Spades Of Aces]

Be in a relationship but want alone time brehs! Lol. Joking aside, nothing wrong with wanting to have your alone time in a relationship but you have to be careful with that. Too much alone time too often, may turn off your partner as they may interpet it as you not wanting to spend quality time with them. Similar thing happened to me as I didn't want my woman under me all the time as I wanted some time myself to do me. After several times of that, she took it the wrong way and moved on to someone else although I explained why having alone time is important in a relationship.

 

[Action Mike]

Like you nikkas in the thread read my mind.....dating a girl who wants to hang with you all the time when you like your alone time.

It's cold outside

Come summer you nikkas are like 'WHERES MY bytch AT'

Just ride and give her stuff to do.

I need to give my brehette some instructions myself...

 

[NeilCartwright]

Can someone put me on to the mid 20's game. I turn 22 in March and havent done many bars or clubsIm still on that (college) game where i tell a chick to come over to study, see them around campus or just flat our get a bottle and we drink at my apartment/dorm The only thing i do pretty often is go out for coffee or maybe go to an open mic night.

But apparently you graduate to going out for drinks, head out to the club, etc. I've never really been big on going "out" but can someone help a brotha out. If she's 20 and under i have that on lock but for older women (23+) i need some help

Bump

 

[The Odum of Ala Igbo]

the first girl wasnt about any dating. she told you that story so youd step up and fukk her and treat her as the slut she is, as she was pretty much telling you that she loves it like that. she was down af for you to run up in her and do her the same. that was that realness coming out of her. girls say slutty shyt to turn you on and so you get the idea about her.

she sounded loose as hell, so I dont blame you for backing off.


and I dont know about the other story. sounds like theres more to it. maybe she wanted to tell you the rest of the story, but was worried about what youd think. the girl is LIKELY still friends with him, because she doesnt want any more complications after what happened.

see, maybe she wasnt all that opposed to giving head in the first place. and maybe she did. or maybe something else happened. we dont know to be honest. but if shes still friends with him, then how much of a villain is he, really?


me personally ... I dont trust a chick Im seeing the more and more I hear these "would be thot tales." the more strange it sounds, the more lies I feel like Im being told. theres more to the story if you put the pieces together, Im sure of it. if theres something thats bothering you in your gut, then you gotta press her for the real or drop the whole thing, if you know what I mean.




bushes is over there

Thank you. I'll press her for the real

 

[The Odum of Ala Igbo]

Double POST

 

[Fatboi1]

One of the great mysteries of life. I don't even dwell on it no more. I remember this girl had always been looking at and showing me signals when we ran into each other in college. We didn't have any mutual classes or friends so it took until my senior year of college for me to work up the nerve to holla at her. We texted back and forth for a week and then shyt just went cold.

I'll never forget it. I was on the second floor of the library and I saw her down on the first floor on the computer. I sent her an AIM message and she didn't respond. Keep in mind I'm looking right at her as she ignores my shyt. I was like I never got an explanation either. About a month later I saw her in the bookstore buying some shyt with this tall dark nikka. I surmised it was her ex boyfriend and they got back together. I learned that when a woman goes cold on you like that it's because another guy is in the picture.

Dealing with online hoes is worse because you really have no idea. That's why I try to meet these chicks in person ASAP. So I can get them liking me quicker and make it harder for them to ignore me later on.

I must've been lucky dealing with my last gf. She was in Japan and for the first three months until I visited her, she texted and talked to me all day every single day. There was hardly ever a day she didn't hit me up.

 

[Jesus Shuttlesworth]

Random thought that derived from and could apply to many threads but I'll just drop it here.

Simps gassing up broads does NOT hurt the game, it only helps.

It hurts if you also plan on simping and gassing her up, but for a real nikka, it only helps.

Chicks get praised all the time. Praise her and you're 1 in a million. She's gonna be intrigued by the nikka who's not simping though. You'll be a breath of fresh air. nikkas stay telling women how beautiful they are and how much they want to be with them. Instead the focus should be on why she would wanna be with you.

It's just common sense. Picture yourself as a prized free agent in sports. Are you going to be swayed by a team telling you how great you are (which you/she already knows) or by the team showing you how great THEY are. Look at our facilities, look at our banners, look at our fan base.

I just keep seeing cats say "simps fukking up the game" or whatever. More simps simping is only helping you stand out more if you do it right.

 

[The Frozen One]

yo brehs, help me decipher this chick.

this girl at work been asking me to hang out with her, wanted me to get her # and snapchat with her, so i finally did. we hung out last week for about an hour, nothing explicit, just talking. Then, she said, we should go to gym together, so now we been to the gym a few times, and last night was where it all escalated.

She snaps me while she is drinking, snapping me pics of herself half naked, talking about how guys can't handle her and shyt. So i started sexting with her (bad idea i guess), she went along with it for about 30 mins, still sending me half naked pics, then all of a sudden she's like whoa, you getting to excitied, i'm joking.

So i basically had to backtrack and tell her, i was just joking around too and i wasn't serious. She's like ya, this is how i joke around and i'm not too serious when i send this kind of messages. I really was like , what a hoe.

Thing is, I'm not really interested in her sexually, she's fun to be around and just someone to kick it with. I do need female friends and friends only, not even with benefits. But i got confused with the mixed messages she was sending. I didn't want her to think i'm a p*ssy and can't handle sexual talks so i went along with it. But now, i think she thinks i want to get in her pants (which i really don't).

I was at the gym with her today, the topic of last night came up, I told her that i don't want any awkwardness between us, and I was just joking around with her head and mess her around with her. She said, ya she was joking too and doesn't want me to get the wrong idea.

Thing is, i'm not really sure if she was serious or was really joking and if things escalate, what should I do? She still wants to hang out and says we should make plans to go out.