Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Action Mike]

As tempting as it is to cuff a good girl, let them be ones to bring up that "what are we" stuff. You should approach like a belevolent ruler granting wishes, not showing her your kingdom of the jump breh...

Going forward she FB status, treat her like it, no more dates, and talk to other girls. If by chance she wants something more, don't (hope you listen).

 

[EMainstreet]

So basically treat her basic? It's hard cause I'm in a group chat with her and we hang out on weekends and I don't wanna be dry to my other boys on purpose just cause of her.

 

[RealAssanova]

I need your help my nikkas! Quick question...

So I was hanging out with this chick, we went on two dates, I fukked once and I was really feeling her.

The red flags I ignored were: she never wanted to put me out on social media, and when I would see her in public settings with people she knows she would act like me and her were just friends.

(I later found out from her that she broke up with her ex a month prior so I put 2 and 2 together and concluded I was a rebound nikka)

This got me annoyed because I was trying to make her my girl and I felt like she was treating me like a side nikka.

I confronted her through text asking what are we and she told me that she likes me a lot but doesn't have time for a relationship right now and that she has to work on herself.

I know that's bullshyt and if she was really feeling me she wouldn't make that lame excuse.

My question is...how should I treat her going forward?

I fukked up because I introduced her to my friends and I basically see her every weekend. It's hard to move on when I see that fat ass in my general vicinity every weekend lmao.

And any other mistakes you saw I made that I can learn from for the future?

remember this going forward breh....never, ever ask a girl what ya'll are. That's the female's job. You should've just kept piping and let her bring up the "what are we" talk. Then you could've told her you down with being in a relationship. But after fukkin once and then asking her what ya'll are is a huge no-no. She was practically down with being fukk-buddies but you may have even fukked that up since she knows you have deeper feelings for her.

now the only thing you can do is keep your distance, tell her you ain't with a relationship either and you're perfectly fine with what ya'll got going on. Or bushes.

 

[EMainstreet]

Damn I fukked up a good thing.

Should I be trying to text her casually or be cold blooded about it?

Right now I only write in the group chat she's in but I haven't texted her personally in a while.

From reading this thread I know I shouldn't be on her like that and giving her too much attention, but I also can't be benching a player if she can play in my starting lineup.

Y'all feel me?

 

[Action Mike]

Damn I fukked up a good thing.

Should I be trying to text her casually or be cold blooded about it?

Right now I only write in the group chat she's in but I haven't texted her personally in a while.

From reading this thread I know I shouldn't be on her like that and giving her too much attention, but I also can't be benching a player if she can play in my starting lineup.

Y'all feel me?

Stick to setting up times to see her. No small talk unless she's initiates.

 

[TRUEST]

I need your help my nikkas! Quick question...

So I was hanging out with this chick, we went on two dates, I fukked once and I was really feeling her.

The red flags I ignored were: she never wanted to put me out on social media, and when I would see her in public settings with people she knows she would act like me and her were just friends.

(I later found out from her that she broke up with her ex a month prior so I put 2 and 2 together and concluded I was a rebound nikka)

This got me annoyed because I was trying to make her my girl and I felt like she was treating me like a side nikka.

I confronted her through text asking what are we and she told me that she likes me a lot but doesn't have time for a relationship right now and that she has to work on herself.

I know that's bullshyt and if she was really feeling me she wouldn't make that lame excuse.

My question is...how should I treat her going forward?

I fukked up because I introduced her to my friends and I basically see her every weekend. It's hard to move on when I see that fat ass in my general vicinity every weekend lmao.

And any other mistakes you saw I made that I can learn from for the future?

never ask a chick the question "what are we?" it comes from a position of weakness. if you have to ask that question, you ought to know you've got work to do. women should be the one asking that.

also, in cases where u feel a girl isn't as into you as you are into her, u need to fall back immediately. do enough to let her know u want her. but if she doesn't reciprocate or is acting like u are to be taken for granted, u need to deal with it by taking away ur attention. she'll hit u back when she sees u've pulled away.

 

[Bald Head Ba$tard]

never ask a chick the question "what are we?" it comes from a position of weakness. if you have to ask that question, you ought to know you've got work to do. women should be the one asking that.

also, in cases where u feel a girl isn't as into you as you are into her, u need to fall back immediately. do enough to let her know u want her. but if she doesn't reciprocate or is acting like u are to be taken for granted, u need to deal with it by taking away ur attention. she'll hit u back when she sees u've pulled away.

The last paragraph is the truth. That's why nikkaz need to have multiple chat tabs on facebook goin on at the same damn time.

 

[nalej]

also, in cases where u feel a girl isn't as into you as you are into her, u need to fall back immediately. do enough to let her know u want her. but if she doesn't reciprocate or is acting like u are to be taken for granted, u need to deal with it by taking away ur attention. she'll hit u back when she sees u've pulled away.

If you were to summarize the 689 pages of this thread into a paragraph this would be it.

 

[EMainstreet]

Any advice on letting your intentions known that you're feeling the girl without telling her straight up that you think she's fine?

 

[Larry cumavelli]

a lil sumtin i always do is like sort of run ur fingers past her ear vertically gently, i don't have enough proof to posit this as a maxim or an axiom but my frend dug it and she felt relaxed :shrug :

 

[Barack Dracobama]

women and children have hella the same tendencies..

 

[Verbal Kint]

also, in cases where u feel a girl isn't as into you as you are into her, u need to fall back immediately. do enough to let her know u want her. but if she doesn't reciprocate or is acting like u are to be taken for granted, u need to deal with it by taking away ur attention. she'll hit u back when she sees u've pulled away.

Yep. Being real, I'm a decent looking guy and was a decent athlete but I was never no pretty dude, never was ballin and had an ok mouthpiece. But I did used to get the attention of some real bad females because I didn't sweat them. Now this was in HS and college and this only really worked with women I was around on the regular of course but I used to make sure to complement them all the time but not sweat them. Just little stuff like 'you looking nice today' or 'those boots look fly on you'. And keep it moving. Thing is I'd do this to a lesser extent with all the other females as well. So while the fine ones had all these dudes coming at them for the digits or dates or whatever, I was making them feel good while not stressing them. Plus I'd chop it up with them about whatever. On top of that their homegirls wouldn't have any beef with me so they weren't hating since I was real kind to them as well. Swear eventually a good percentage of them would be sweating me at some point. Cats was always wondering how I was pulling the girls everyone was trying to get at but usually they'd come to me. The only real problems with that approach is that its kind of passive so sometimes you just stay friend zoned, and a lot of times the ducks would start feeling me too since I was giving them attention and trying to navigate not overtly dissing them while not leading them on while still trying to stay cool with you so as not to block you with their girl got annoying and backfired a few times. Still, I ended up with 4 or 5 females I wouldn't have pulled just spitting regular game at

 

[Verbal Kint]

Another thing I learned is don't keep asking a woman if she's ok/good/comfortable if you're out with her. May be basic but I learned that at like 16. Be confident that she's good cause she's with you. Don't need to always check in like 'you like the movie? You like the food? Having a good time? Want me to dance for you?'

 

[Swamp-Thing]

One benefit of talking to multiple women at the same time, is you can reuse lines as you think of them. That way you aren't wasting energy and also not putting all your eggs in the same basket.

I do believe that the goal should be a 1-on-1 exclusive relationship though, but that's just me. A lot of people nowadays just want to play the field with no end game.

 

[Jesus Shuttlesworth]

I need your help my nikkas! Quick question...

So I was hanging out with this chick, we went on two dates, I fukked once and I was really feeling her.

The red flags I ignored were: she never wanted to put me out on social media, and when I would see her in public settings with people she knows she would act like me and her were just friends.

(I later found out from her that she broke up with her ex a month prior so I put 2 and 2 together and concluded I was a rebound nikka)

This got me annoyed because I was trying to make her my girl and I felt like she was treating me like a side nikka.

I confronted her through text asking what are we and she told me that she likes me a lot but doesn't have time for a relationship right now and that she has to work on herself.

I know that's bullshyt and if she was really feeling me she wouldn't make that lame excuse.

My question is...how should I treat her going forward?

I fukked up because I introduced her to my friends and I basically see her every weekend. It's hard to move on when I see that fat ass in my general vicinity every weekend lmao.

And any other mistakes you saw I made that I can learn from for the future?

Honestly, if she fukked you after 2 dates you shouldn't be contemplating any future with her other than the next time you're gonna fukk.

You can't make a hoe a housewife. Kurupt told yall nikkas that back in the 90's.

She'll never be more than a piece of ass. You're making yourself come off soft by catching feelings for this thot.

I'm here to educate through tough love. Some of yall nikkas need to be smacked in the face to wake up!