Dushane Hill
Superstar
How y'all nikkas go about hollering at old hoes??
Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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Bless't
Living the dream
I been feeling apathetic towards dating and women lately . I haven't been really talking to any women. Just work and go home.
I just don't even feel like getting into the motions.
Basically. I have a date tonight and I'm just like...
really not feeling it. But I dont want to be rude and cancel. fukk.
Same as old hoe
Only difference is that u don't gotta sell dreams or most of the time they will choose u
with women, the less you say, the better. it took me a while to understand this but women are just not like us men. us men can get turned on by just looking at a fat ass or anything physically really. and women can be turned on like that too, but generally, they can be easily turned off by the slightest thing u do as well.
so, if u know what your weakness is, that's a very good thing. when you know what you're not good at, u can avoid doing them or being in situations where u have to deal with them.
in your case, if talking to a females is something ur not good at. then keep ur convos to text. but also, u must summon the courage to be able to talk to these girls on the phone but keep it to under 5 to 10 minutes. in your case, i suggest 5 minutes. and always end convos with some variation of "hey, i've got to run sweetheart. but i cant wait to see you.". i've had girls who were uncertain about meeting up, change their minds the minute they heard my voice. again, with women, a combination of things can either turn them on or off completely.
i had a girl tell me once "you're really good at what you do". what did she mean by that? well, i met her online. when we met, i chose for us to meet at a bar. i ordered something very light. i had two beers and she had a glass of wine and we shared a bowl of something. cant remember. i cut the date short to under 30 minutes even though it was going great.
after we left the bar, i told her i wanted to see her again. we scheduled to meet up two days later. on the day of, she texts me and says she cant make it. im like cool. she reschedules to another day on the weekend, which was like 4 days away or something. im like cool. so she goes, what are we going to do? normally, here's where i fucck up. i talk too damn much and i tell them some grandiose plan i want us to do. but, in this instance, i just wanted to fucck this girl.
so i told her, dont worry about it. i'll figure it out and will let u know. she kept asking me here and there, over the days leading up to the date about what we're going to do. i kept evading. needless to say, the night before the date, i sent her my address. told her, we'll meet here first and then, "take it from there". she came through and we fuccked. but then, she started going over what happened. shes like. you know, you played me really well. u chose not to tell me u wanted me to come to your house until the last minute.. that way, i didn't have too much time to talk myself out of coming over. i glanced over at her and kinda just chuckled.
the point here is, u must fight with every energy u have to refrain from revealing too much to these women. trust me. its still a struggle i deal with from time to time but, trust, the rewards are great. and whenever a chick asks you "what are we going to do", you must NEVER EVER EVER EVER respond to that with a "i dont know, what do you wanna do". take that charge.
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MaccabeanRebel
All Star
Basically. I have a date tonight and I'm just like...
fukk.
You should just cancel. Life is to short and its not worth wasting peoples time. Would you want a chic to go through the motions with u? Be upfront
Bless't
Living the dream
Its not that I dont want to see her. It's just, I dont necessarily feel up to going out tonight.
fukk it. I got to grab my nuts and just go. I'll have fun.
Action Mike
All praise..
Its not that I dont want to see her. It's just, I dont necessarily feel up to going out tonight.
fukk it. I got to grab my nuts and just go. I'll have fun.
Go Breh. A lot of times I was a minute away from cancelling because I was tired, I had a ball and smashed..
Rocket Scientist
Superstar
Cant holler but so loud
Jesus Shuttlesworth
I Got Game
Basically. I have a date tonight and I'm just like...
fukk.
Cancel that shyt, breh. You should never do anything you don't want to do. Especially as it pertains to a relationship. That's how dudes end up at ballets and shyt on Sunday insteada watching the game.
Not only will you be happier but it will help you with this woman. She'll see you have balls and aren't afraid to truthfully convey how you feel. It will also show you're not thirsty and desperate to see her. Even if you're backing out because you're scared you at least appear to be busy, which means she has to compete for your attention, which women love doing. And you're being honest which she will respect and remember later. So call her and tell her you're gonna have to cancel. Speak with confidence and certainty.
Just don't build a habit out of flaking. Instead you come up with the meeting/date spots and make sure it's something you actually wanna do.
Bless't
Living the dream
Cancel that shyt, breh. You should never do anything you don't want to do. Especially as it pertains to a relationship. That's how dudes end up at ballets and shyt on Sunday insteada watching the game.
Not only will you be happier but it will help you with this woman. She'll see you have balls and aren't afraid to truthfully convey how you feel. It will also show you're not thirsty and desperate to see her. Even if you're backing out because you're scared you at least appear to be busy, which means she has to compete for your attention, which women love doing. And you're being honest which she will respect and remember later. So call her and tell her you're gonna have to cancel. Speak with confidence and certainty.
Just don't build a habit out of flaking. Instead you come up with the meeting/date spots and make sure it's something you actually wanna do.
Jesus Shuttlesworth
I Got Game
Trust me, breh. You gotta stop worrying about how women/people perceive you. You said you weren't feeling up to it. So why go? Just to please her? That's weak and she'll smell your weakness. Real balls is telling her what's real. Even if she gets mad you're marking your territory on her heart. She'll be investing in you emotionally. And I can't stress enough how far being honest with a woman will take you. This isn't even major, why lie? Tell her the truth, man. I'm telling you.
Great advice man. But when i mean conversation im talking physical in the flesh. Im the worst texter so i try to avoid it unless its more convenient, otherwise i always call.
My whole thing is, for instance at my job, on my shift, im the only decent looking dude that dont conversate with most these females. And thats because i watch these dudes talk all shift to these chicks and it just seems thirsty/useless. I refuse to talk for over 1 hr if im not fukking asap, unless were having true intelligent conversation. But these nikkas are the ones gettin the attention but i know just by body language these bytches know they got these thirsty nikkas in the palm of the hand, just off the strength of them constantly trying to have general conversation with them. I dont get how a man can do thar to be honest.
Imma touchy feely nikka, but im all set w/the talking.
Slight example, cutest chick on my shift i think gets up and walks across the break room to 2 dudes sitting on tables and say "bye my rides here" but she aint say nothing to them while in the break room. They hug, and im sitting in a chair across from them, so she walks over turns to me and looks displeased that i didnt move towards her, and says "bye" i say see you. I wasnt getting up, im not a thirsty nikka, i refuse to do anything that gives that impression or vibe.
Cancel that shyt, breh. You should never do anything you don't want to do. Especially as it pertains to a relationship. That's how dudes end up at ballets and shyt on Sunday insteada watching the game.
Not only will you be happier but it will help you with this woman. She'll see you have balls and aren't afraid to truthfully convey how you feel. It will also show you're not thirsty and desperate to see her. Even if you're backing out because you're scared you at least appear to be busy, which means she has to compete for your attention, which women love doing. And you're being honest which she will respect and remember later. So call her and tell her you're gonna have to cancel. Speak with confidence and certainty.
Just don't build a habit out of flaking. Instead you come up with the meeting/date spots and make sure it's something you actually wanna do.
i think homeboy should go. i've felt like canceling a lot on women based off the fact that i'm a hardcore hermit. i despise leaving the house. but i know i have to in order to sharpen social skills, meet new people, experience new things etc. so, when i'm invited to go somewhere, my initial reaction is a huge megaton FUCCK NO.
but, then, i know myself. its good these invitations are coming in. and nowadays, the only way i wont do something is if im just not feeling the chick involved, or i'm like really sicck to the point where i cant think straight. thats when i cancel. and in those instances where i wanted to cancel so bad, and i didnt, many good things happened as a result. so yeah, unless homeboy aint feeling the girl, or he's sick, he better get the fcck out the house now.
good move my dude. i think along the same lines as u. if i see a chick is getting gassed left and right by every guy in sight, i honestly dont bother even dealing with those type of chicks. i wont be adding to her egoboost. but then again, if a chick sees ur not making eye contact with her and aren't acknowleding her, shell start to resent u and badmouth u, talking about "he's so arrogant, he's this he's that". to avoid scenarios like this, be very cordial. goood morning. have a great day. and leave it at that. she'll come around...or not. lol who cares.