Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Jesus Shuttlesworth]

i think homeboy should go. i've felt like canceling a lot on women based off the fact that i'm a hardcore hermit. i despise leaving the house. but i know i have to in order to sharpen social skills, meet new people, experience new things etc. so, when i'm invited to go somewhere, my initial reaction is a huge megaton FUCCK NO.

but, then, i know myself. its good these invitations are coming in. and nowadays, the only way i wont do something is if im just not feeling the chick involved, or i'm like really sicck to the point where i cant think straight. thats when i cancel. and in those instances where i wanted to cancel so bad, and i didnt, many good things happened as a result. so yeah, unless homeboy aint feeling the girl, or he's sick, he better get the fcck out the house now.

If your motivation is to be more social, that's one thing. My concern is developing patterns of doing things that make us unhappy for the sole purpose of pleasing a woman. If you're a hermit then you should project a hermit so a hermit is what she will come to know and expect. You go out every weekend she's gonna grow accustomed to that and expect to go out every weekend. My philosophy is just be your full and happy self and if she meshes, cool, if not, that's cool too. At least you know and can keep stepping as opposed to pretending to be something you're not which can be emotionally draining. I consider going out when you don't want to pretending, but you could have another purpose like you mentioned. But if it's just pretending it's not really doing any good.

 

[Spin]

Great advice man. But when i mean conversation im talking physical in the flesh. Im the worst texter so i try to avoid it unless its more convenient, otherwise i always call.

My whole thing is, for instance at my job, on my shift, im the only decent looking dude that dont conversate with most these females. And thats because i watch these dudes talk all shift to these chicks and it just seems thirsty/useless. I refuse to talk for over 1 hr if im not fukking asap, unless were having true intelligent conversation. But these nikkas are the ones gettin the attention but i know just by body language these bytches know they got these thirsty nikkas in the palm of the hand, just off the strength of them constantly trying to have general conversation with them. I dont get how a man can do thar to be honest.

Imma touchy feely nikka, but im all set w/the talking.

Slight example, cutest chick on my shift i think gets up and walks across the break room to 2 dudes sitting on tables and say "bye my rides here" but she aint say nothing to them while in the break room. They hug, and im sitting in a chair across from them, so she walks over turns to me and looks displeased that i didnt move towards her, and says "bye" i say see you. I wasnt getting up, im not a thirsty nikka, i refuse to do anything that gives that impression or vibe.

You have an interesting "problem". The part that you can do I would say the majority of man can't which is bring up sex in the first conversation and get touchy with a girl. That is a major accomplishment in itself. I guess a question I have is are these girls you're actually smashing, but don't really have a interest in hot? At least hot in your eyes? I ask cause maybe it's just you haven't found a chick you actually like.

I'm more of a introverted extrovert in that unless I'm totally digging a girl, I usually don't have interest. I have passed over numerous chicks that could of been easily in the bag because I simply wasn't interested. The worst for me is when a friend tries to hook me up, because usually I'm not attracted and I feel if I didn't hunt myself it's not really mine. However, I know alot of dudes that will go ape shyt crazy if any girl gives them the time of day. You definitely don't seem to be that type, so I'm curious if you getting with the girls you REALLY want?

 

[Sharp]

What's good my brothers. I've been on hiatus for a while promoting my book

But there's an enemy out there

We have these male "relationship coaches" and "relationship experts" pandering to women, making them feel that everything that goes wrong in a relationship is the man's fault. These men spread a message that tell women that they do not have to be accountable for their actions, and even if they are accused of exhibiting bad behavior, it is because something a man has done

Here are the suspects
Tony Gaskins
Derrick Jaxn
Horacio Jones
and there's more

HEre's some examples of the bullshyt

Women have become entitled, and as a result, relationships have become so lopsided. Groups like this are needed more than ever in an age where men are purposely being emasculated.

Salute to my brothers. I'm going to try to contribute as much as possible.

 

[Sharp]

Compromise is simply another term for bargaining your happiness. Do not bargain your happiness.

Why shouldn't you get the treatment and respect that you deserve?

Why should you believe the ole "All women are crazy, just find one worth dealing with"?

We keep excusing unacceptable behavior.

 

[RealAssanova]

What's good my brothers. I've been on hiatus for a while promoting my book

But there's an enemy out there

We have these male "relationship coaches" and "relationship experts" pandering to women, making them feel that everything that goes wrong in a relationship is the man's fault. These men spread a message that tell women that they do not have to be accountable for their actions, and even if they are accused of exhibiting bad behavior, it is because something a man has done

Here are the suspects
Tony Gaskins
Derrick Jaxn
Horacio Jones
and there's more

HEre's some examples of the bullshyt

Women have become entitled, and as a result, relationships have become so lopsided. Groups like this are needed more than ever in an age where men are purposely being emasculated.

Salute to my brothers. I'm going to try to contribute as much as possible.

that nikka must still think we in 1800's.

i hate them nikkas. Ole "i'll go the ends of the world and back for you" type nikkas.

 

[Jesus]

I'm spoiled dealing with chicks that cater to me and blow me up....I'll leave that to the young brothas in high school to be chasing.

 

[Gus Money]

I can't remember if I posted an update in here, but a while ago I was debating moving for a job vs staying in a relationship that was already reaching the breaking point. I took that job the second they offered it, and it might be the best decision I've made in my life. We tried the long-distance thing for a month or two but things got unhealthy beyond reason (they were unhealthy for months before I even applied for this job, but I had enough). She has some serious issues and I should have ended it a year ago to be honest.

Now that I'm working a decent job in my hometown, I'm enjoying being single. I legit forgot what it feels like to only worry about myself. Doing what I want after work, having the weekends to myself, staying at a bar/party until I feel like leaving, only worrying about my own bill when I go out with friends. I met up with an ex from a few years ago and we had a good time, but I made it clear that I'm about to be living that single life for a while until I feel like I've healed from the nonsense I put up with in my last relationship.

I still feel lonely at times so it's not all roses, but I need to stay the course and focus on myself for a while.

 

[jjj123]

You have an interesting "problem". The part that you can do I would say the majority of man can't which is bring up sex in the first conversation and get touchy with a girl. That is a major accomplishment in itself. I guess a question I have is are these girls you're actually smashing, but don't really have a interest in hot? At least hot in your eyes? I ask cause maybe it's just you haven't found a chick you actually like.

I'm more of a introverted extrovert in that unless I'm totally digging a girl, I usually don't have interest. I have passed over numerous chicks that could of been easily in the bag because I simply wasn't interested. The worst for me is when a friend tries to hook me up, because usually I'm not attracted and I feel if I didn't hunt myself it's not really mine. However, I know alot of dudes that will go ape shyt crazy if any girl gives them the time of day. You definitely don't seem to be that type, so I'm curious if you getting with the girls you REALLY want?

Youre 100% on the mark. No these females that im fukking arent hot, this could b why im stalling cuz when i see fly females/my type i dont stare at them and hesitate i go right at em but theyre unicorns round here and if the attitude aint right im all set from 123 jump st.

No i do not like them, theyre the food of desperation. p*ssy cuz a nikka aint getting what he truley want, so scraps it is...

Damn ur on point homie. I love being seduced, but aint nothing like a good hunt, such a primal feeling, mayb 4 females ever had made me feel like that and they were all A++ on looks and attitude. Its like i have to sense/feel it the very first time i look into a females eyes cuz im an intense nikka, if i dont get the vibe back im all set, only sexy bytches give me that feel 8/10 times, never subpar/average/ugly females. But im picky as fukk as to what a true 8-10 is, so i dont see them often in my book.

Should i cut ties with these subpar females to starve myself waiting for another unicorn to take it down savagely like the lion i know i am in the field?

I think me dealing with these subpar females might be affecting my direct sexually aggressive game and numbing my edge, cuz when it comes to sexy bytches i do get thirsty and i will drink no matter what.

Hmmm.....

 

[MikelArteta]

I can't remember if I posted an update in here, but a while ago I was debating moving for a job vs staying in a relationship that was already reaching the breaking point. I took that job the second they offered it, and it might be the best decision I've made in my life. We tried the long-distance thing for a month or two but things got unhealthy beyond reason (they were unhealthy for months before I even applied for this job, but I had enough). She has some serious issues and I should have ended it a year ago to be honest.

Now that I'm working a decent job in my hometown, I'm enjoying being single. I legit forgot what it feels like to only worry about myself. Doing what I want after work, having the weekends to myself, staying at a bar/party until I feel like leaving, only worrying about my own bill when I go out with friends. I met up with an ex from a few years ago and we had a good time, but I made it clear that I'm about to be living that single life for a while until I feel like I've healed from the nonsense I put up with in my last relationship.

I still feel lonely at times so it's not all roses, but I need to stay the course and focus on myself for a while.

i told you breh it would, sometimes we get so comfortable and attached to someone that we dont see it till after the fact, finally cutting all ties with my ex dec 2013 was the best decision I ever made, my life just went from 0-100 real quick, new job, got rid of the anger/bitterness, travelled the world, met a model, and now dating the best woman I could have asked for.

Enjoy your freedom man I did, once you enjoy it, youll realize no matter what if your single you'll be ok. WHen I was single I was able to go to like vancouver 3000 miles away for a weekend, I was able to go to cuba for a week by myself and just let loose, dived back into my hobbies, life is yours.

When your ready you will have options

 

[Youseenmywork]

Basically. I have a date tonight and I'm just like... really not feeling it. But I dont want to be rude and cancel.

fukk.

...and this is when the woman will order everything on the menu

 

[NerdNash]

Compromise is simply another term for bargaining your happiness. Do not bargain your happiness.

Why shouldn't you get the treatment and respect that you deserve?

Why should you believe the ole "All women are crazy, just find one worth dealing with"?

We keep excusing unacceptable behavior.

Keep the gems coming bro

 

[Youseenmywork]

 

[Youseenmywork]

 

[NerdNash]

Tried to have sex with her last night and she resisted ... Said cuz I smelled like weed lmao smh

(Yes the same woman I said I blocked)

 

[Sharp]

Never ever allow a woman to pressure you into marriage.

Get married when you are ready, but more importantly... get married when you actually understand what it is and the consequences of it

Understand the power that you give away. Understand the legal leverage that you lose.

Understand that it only takes one person to want the divorce for it to happen.

Understand that if it doesn't work out, child support, visitation, and alimony may be your end results

Do you trust that woman to not abandon you when times get hard?

Do you trust this woman to do what is in your best interest?

Do you trust this woman not to react on her feelings and use logic when things get real and the marriage gets rocky?

I'm not asking you do you love this woman. I'm asking you do you trust this woman?

Because when you get married this is exactly what you are doing. You are trusting a woman not to screw you over. It's a gamble. It's a risk. And it could change your whole life if you pick wrong. So take your time. Please