Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Youseenmywork]

idk. sounds like this is some sweet shyt for building a better relationship....that's good but i'm not focused on a relationship right now. just going to school and smashin ho's. looking for something more along the lines of the art of mackin. i'm great at closing the deal on chics but bad at opening. i'm just a natural a$$hole to people I don't know.

Don't judge a book by its cover ...thats patrice wife or whatever. It pretty wrote it and von just put a lot of his philosophy into book.

 

[Youseenmywork]

anybody got some book recommendations?....read the art of mackin. had some solid shyt. No more Mr Nice Guy was kinda blah to me. share some of that good stuff.

 

[Youseenmywork]

I mean, that's not actually vastly different from what I said. You put it in clear concise and coherent terms, especially number 3, but where I'm from, guys take girls numbers just to know they can. And they often times do nothing with it. Many girls have had the conversation of "Why would this guy take my number and not use it?" I've had guys that I knew tell me they've done this exact thing and they do it for the exact same reason girls do it. Things happen, and people are people and you can't always account for other people's actions.

I agree on the passive-aggression completely. Girls kind of have to be passive-aggressive. It might not make sense to you guys, but you can get called everything from a lady to a b**** in about 2.5 seconds if you don't choose your words wisely. Everything is a threat to a guy's ego and sometimes blocking you just goes down better than being verbally attacked.



I mean I came in this thread and chose the honesty route, and not what sounded best. I didn't come in here to be best woman of the year, and so when you asked me the question, I answered honestly.

As to me actually setting up a date with someone and giving you all the actual hints that I would go out on a date and then ignoring you? I personally have never done that. At first I thought you were referencing just exchanging numbers and then going ghost. I don't online date or app date- yet- so I don't know what exactly that standard protocol is. Maybe, like I said before, the informality of those alternative dating methods make the girl think it's okay to not communicate in a decent way that they're no longer interested. I have also never personally given out my address and then ignored someone, which seems particularly dangerous. What I have done is met you informally like in a club, a party, or outside, exchanged numbers, probably texted a bit and then gone ghost.

Also I have never hit up a guy out of the blue for anything unless he was my boyfriend. So that's just a sign that the girl is disrespectful. Because after ignoring you she thinks you should still be there when she's done doing whatever it was that she was doing.




I don't. But that is just me. I've never actually been poor enough to endure having to deal with someone just to go out/eat food... But a lot are. They're broke and hungry and I don't think you should even be dealing with people who are that desperate for a warm meal.

I remember one time lurking and I saw a thread a guy made where the girl said something to the effect of her usual dates are to ruth's chris or whatever she said which lets you know 1. she's lying 2. expensive food is an event for her and 3. she gets her worth from outside and not inside. I mean this to say, she went on the date to prove she is worthy of being taken on a date and it has absolutely nothing to do with the guy.

If the girl was worth her weight in salt she wouldn't need external validation. If she's not fine going for coffee or to a museum or something equally inexpensive, then she's not worth dropping a lot of money on. Maybe to weed out these kinds of girls, suggest coffee and you'll get to see who deserves your time and who doesn't.

Keep being honest no matter what. Now nikkas in the thread might agree or even understand but be honesty.

I tell guys when approach women or just putting yourself out there you have to take your ego and put it some were else when dealing with women. Your going to incurre a lot of" "

Moments with women.

 

[Youseenmywork]

@StarGirl Do you believe me can be hoes ?

 

[KingTut]

Probably one of THE worst offenders and I know it's dead wrong but even I don't have a reason for doing that. It defies logic,

More proof that most women don't use logic or reason. They just do shyt.

 

[Ohene]

lol You noticed I didn't say anything when you guys were talking about that up there? Cause I've been guilty as hell of this. Probably one of THE worst offenders and I know it's dead wrong but even I don't have a reason for doing that. It defies logic, and its really not a knock to you personally. And you would think oh it's probably cause she wasn't feeling you like that, but nope nope- why would she give you her number (unless you were scary/intimidating in which case I do it to get you out my face) if she wasn't slightly interested? I've even done that to guys who I would've wanted to engage with, but I may have been in a relationship and given you my number because I was angry with my boyfriend, so when you text me of course I'll ignore it.

I literally just turned to my sisters and asked them this question and everyone pretty much agreed that even we don't actually know.

It might come down to the informal way you meet, and so you think it's not that important for you to have common decency because it was such a casual meeting. And we're in the "respect the curve" era of society where even an "ok" means it's probably a dub. OR she gave you her number to know she still got it, the same way guys get numbers for that reason. That's the best I can do. It's one of those hmm questions, where you don't even know why you do what you do.

see...the reason we say girls are dumb (no disrespect) is this nonsensical type of shyt.

i think you still havent pinpointed it and thats fine because there is no real reason like you said.

A) Knowing she still has it - cant be the reason because if anything having a dude approach you and ask for the number should be enough
B) giving the number to get homie out of your face - valid but @RealAssanova isn't even asking about that. He's more so asking about instances where homegirl will not just give the number, but carry conversations, agree to go out, settle on a time/place and then ghost on the day of the date.
C) nikkas get girls numbers to fukk

@RealAssanova like @TRUEST said asking these types of questions is pointless. There is no reason for it other than human beings (not just women) being unreliable in general. Other than that there are people who enjoy trolling.

 

[StarGirl]

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[EffYou]

I don't think you'll get great input from me on this one because I don't actually believe things work in that way. I'm supposed to say no, men can't be hoes because the woman is the giver and the guy is the chaser, right? And it's easier for a girl to have sex with many men than it is for a guy to have sex with many women, right? While that is true... there's a lot of layers that contribute to that, which involve evolutionary biology, psychology, etc. In either case, I think what does exist is a degradation of the soul in both genders and I can't explain that here.

Lol this here a smart stupid hoe.....

Study her well gentlemen

 

[Mr210]

I wasted too much money and years on crappy relationships

 

[chabvongaBlackus]

wait so you're guilty of this but don't exactly know why? how does that even make sense?

i've met women in person, online and on apps. I know when shyt is dull and ain't goin nowhere...however, when it comes to women you're actively engaged with and gotten the ok on setting up the date...why the hell do you vanish?

i have 0 respect for women who do that. Yes ya'll don't owe anything to us, but that speaks to ya'lls character. Some even have the nerve to hit u up outta the blue later on or holla at you in person as if everything is cool.

Breh I will be #HOH like I never seen her before ..I don't smile at a chick I'm not fuxkin or tryin' to

 

[Saysumthinfunnymike]

And the reason she will ignore you & hope you catch the hint instead of saying she isn't interested is because she's passive-aggressive. She doesn't want to be seen as a bytch.

yeah but that shyt ain't no type of logical either because everyone knows a woman cant be away from her phone. she saw the message as soon as someone sends it.

That's why I tell nikkas, if she ain't being quick with them replies. Go silent. At that point you know she playin games.

 

[Saysumthinfunnymike]

@Asantehene Breh just from what I've seen, the biggest reason women go ghost is because they got a man or at least a dude who they think might be their man. So don't take it personal. It's fukked up that they ain't straight about it but they are acquiring options. They probably do like the dude but then they realize maybe they should stay with the dude they are with or maybe the other dude they thought was gonna be their next man comes through and you are no longer in the picture.

I always figure that every woman I'm talkin to has at least a couple other guys they are talking to so if I ever feel like she's not treating me like the starting quarterback I will test it out and go ghost and start doin other shyt. If she come back around cool, if not I move on.

like De Niro said in Heat. Don't get attached to anyone you can't walk away from in a matter of seconds.

 

[MalikReloaded]

Maybe I'm becoming a cynic but, I'm not sure if I believe in love anymore. At least not the pure, idealized version of love I believed in when I was a naive kid. I used to believe in the sort of love where you would die for the other. The unconditional love. Soulmates and all that corny shyt. That Cory and Topanga sort of thing. Now I'm starting to realize it's bullshyt and not real. A woman will never love you like that. No one will.

At the end of the day, we're just higher functioning animals that are ruthlessly self-serving, in that, love is not some idealized soulmate fantasy but, instead an informal agreement of exchange between two individuals conditioned on the fact that you both continue to meet certain obligations. You lose your job, she's gone in the wind. You get sick or seriously injured, she's gone in the wind. You're no longer attractive to her or as exciting, she's gone in the wind. Another guy comes along who does everything better than you, she's gone in the wind.

I'm also staring to realize love is just another economic market. It should have been obvious from the beginning. Because if someone else offers better terms than you, good luck. We all have a certain amount of dollars relative to our value in the dating world, and we go through this market place trying to purchase the goods (a mate / partner) we can afford with our income (dating value). Some people have $10,000 to shop with. Some people have $100 to shop with. Because of your budget constraints (your current dating value), you might have to purchase inferior goods (settling). Obviously if you had more money (higher dating value), you would purchase the superior goods you secretly desired (ideal partner). It's kind of hard to believe in real love when you recognize this is the reality of the dating world. She dates you and she loves you because you're the best person she can get commitment from. But if a guy who's taller, more handsome and more wealthy comes along, would she still want to be with you? That's real love to me. And I realize that shyt is a fantasy.

 

[Black Cac]

I wanna holler at this girl at this food place by me but i always thought it was weird tryin to holla while they are working. I did twice, once late at a gas station(guess thats why it was cool) and another at walmart. She flirted first but said she cant give her number out at work she was one of those direct tv reps.

The girl i wanna holla at always works drive thru also and its always busy

Her mom works inside tho could ask moms to put me on

 

[Ohene]

Maybe I'm becoming a cynic but, I'm not sure if I believe in love anymore. At least not the pure, idealized version of love I believed in when I was a naive kid. I used to believe in the sort of love where you would die for the other. The unconditional love. Soulmates and all that corny shyt. That Cory and Topanga sort of thing. Now I'm starting to realize it's bullshyt and not real. A woman will never love you like that. No one will.

At the end of the day, we're just higher functioning animals that are ruthlessly self-serving, in that, love is not some idealized soulmate fantasy but, instead an informal agreement of exchange between two individuals conditioned on the fact that you both continue to meet certain obligations. You lose your job, she's gone in the wind. You get sick or seriously injured, she's gone in the wind. You're no longer attractive to her or as exciting, she's gone in the wind. Another guy comes along who does everything better than you, she's gone in the wind.

I'm also staring to realize love is just another economic market. It should have been obvious from the beginning. Because if someone else offers better terms than you, good luck. We all have a certain amount of dollars relative to our value in the dating world, and we go through this market place trying to purchase the goods (a mate / partner) we can afford with our income (dating value). Some people have $10,000 to shop with. Some people have $100 to shop with. Because of your budget constraints (your current dating value), you might have to purchase inferior goods (settling). Obviously if you had more money (higher dating value), you would purchase the superior goods you secretly desired (ideal partner). It's kind of hard to believe in real love when you recognize this is the reality of the dating world. She dates you and she loves you because you're the best person she can get commitment from. But if a guy who's taller, more handsome and more wealthy comes along, would she still want to be with you? That's real love to me. And I realize that shyt is a fantasy.

I realized the economic thing a long time ago. It's all about supply and demand