Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[NerdNash]

Maybe I'm becoming a cynic but, I'm not sure if I believe in love anymore. At least not the pure, idealized version of love I believed in when I was a naive kid. I used to believe in the sort of love where you would die for the other. The unconditional love. Soulmates and all that corny shyt. That Cory and Topanga sort of thing. Now I'm starting to realize it's bullshyt and not real. A woman will never love you like that. No one will.

At the end of the day, we're just higher functioning animals that are ruthlessly self-serving, in that, love is not some idealized soulmate fantasy but, instead an informal agreement of exchange between two individuals conditioned on the fact that you both continue to meet certain obligations. You lose your job, she's gone in the wind. You get sick or seriously injured, she's gone in the wind. You're no longer attractive to her or as exciting, she's gone in the wind. Another guy comes along who does everything better than you, she's gone in the wind.

I'm also staring to realize love is just another economic market. It should have been obvious from the beginning. Because if someone else offers better terms than you, good luck. We all have a certain amount of dollars relative to our value in the dating world, and we go through this market place trying to purchase the goods (a mate / partner) we can afford with our income (dating value). Some people have $10,000 to shop with. Some people have $100 to shop with. Because of your budget constraints (your current dating value), you might have to purchase inferior goods (settling). Obviously if you had more money (higher dating value), you would purchase the superior goods you secretly desired (ideal partner). It's kind of hard to believe in real love when you recognize this is the reality of the dating world. She dates you and she loves you because you're the best person she can get commitment from. But if a guy who's taller, more handsome and more wealthy comes along, would she still want to be with you? That's real love to me. And I realize that shyt is a fantasy.

fukk it bro just live.

 

[Youseenmywork]

Maybe I'm becoming a cynic but, I'm not sure if I believe in love anymore. At least not the pure, idealized version of love I believed in when I was a naive kid. I used to believe in the sort of love where you would die for the other. The unconditional love. Soulmates and all that corny shyt. That Cory and Topanga sort of thing. Now I'm starting to realize it's bullshyt and not real. A woman will never love you like that. No one will.

At the end of the day, we're just higher functioning animals that are ruthlessly self-serving, in that, love is not some idealized soulmate fantasy but, instead an informal agreement of exchange between two individuals conditioned on the fact that you both continue to meet certain obligations. You lose your job, she's gone in the wind. You get sick or seriously injured, she's gone in the wind. You're no longer attractive to her or as exciting, she's gone in the wind. Another guy comes along who does everything better than you, she's gone in the wind.

I'm also staring to realize love is just another economic market. It should have been obvious from the beginning. Because if someone else offers better terms than you, good luck. We all have a certain amount of dollars relative to our value in the dating world, and we go through this market place trying to purchase the goods (a mate / partner) we can afford with our income (dating value). Some people have $10,000 to shop with. Some people have $100 to shop with. Because of your budget constraints (your current dating value), you might have to purchase inferior goods (settling). Obviously if you had more money (higher dating value), you would purchase the superior goods you secretly desired (ideal partner). It's kind of hard to believe in real love when you recognize this is the reality of the dating world. She dates you and she loves you because you're the best person she can get commitment from. But if a guy who's taller, more handsome and more wealthy comes along, would she still want to be with you? That's real love to me. And I realize that shyt is a fantasy.

Don't look for love try find somebody you can tolerate and eventually love or whatever.

 

[Saysumthinfunnymike]

I wanna holler at this girl at this food place by me but i always thought it was weird tryin to holla while they are working. I did twice, once late at a gas station(guess thats why it was cool) and another at walmart. She flirted first but said she cant give her number out at work she was one of those direct tv reps.

The girl i wanna holla at always works drive thru also and its always busy

Her mom works inside tho could ask moms to put me on

I feel u on that I was just in a similar situation but I ended up having quite a bit in common with the girl we went to the same school and shyt so I just went off that and she was comfortable with it. It didn't work out but for other reasons unrelated to the bold.

I also did this with a girl who was workin behind the bar at a restaurant I said hey when u get out I will be at this other place meet me over there and we can get to know one another more.

It's fast food u said so I think that's a job where the girl don't really gotta be too careful, it's not really unprofessional because shyt, what counts as unprofessional in fast food?

Give it a shot, she's probably tired of lookin at them nikkas at work.

 

[Mainevent_7]

My ex found out I was unfaithful towards her, granted she wasn't a saint either. She ended up wrecking my crib and causing over $1000 in damages. This is the worst feeling in the world, trying to pick up these pieces and move forward.

 

[StarGirl]

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[GrindtooFilthy]

anybody got some book recommendations?....read the art of mackin. had some solid shyt. No more Mr Nice Guy was kinda blah to me. share some of that good stuff.

the art of seduction?

 

[Black Cac]

I feel u on that I was just in a similar situation but I ended up having quite a bit in common with the girl we went to the same school and shyt so I just went off that and she was comfortable with it. It didn't work out but for other reasons unrelated to the bold.

I also did this with a girl who was workin behind the bar at a restaurant I said hey when u get out I will be at this other place meet me over there and we can get to know one another more.

It's fast food u said so I think that's a job where the girl don't really gotta be too careful, it's not really unprofessional because shyt, what counts as unprofessional in fast food?

Give it a shot, she's probably tired of lookin at them nikkas at work.

What did she say?

 

[Mainevent_7]

Are you upset about the damaged goods? or what... talk me through what you're feeling.

I was at first upset about the damage goods but those are materials things that can be replaced. Granted, she destroyed my big screen and xbox one which I like to play in my free time. I'm just having a hard time trying to move forward since I'm not in a relationship anymore and she meant the world to me. I'm trying to keep myself busy at all time but those free moments I have, my mind starts to think about the relationship which kill my whole mood. It was ugly, I had to call the police because trying to restrain her was not working. I want to reach out to her but the last thing she told me was not to contact her again.

 

[Black Cac]

My ex found out I was unfaithful towards her, granted she wasn't a saint either. She ended up wrecking my crib and causing over $1000 in damages. This is the worst feeling in the world, trying to pick up these pieces and move forward.

Mentally or physically

 

[Saysumthinfunnymike]

What did she say?

she was cool with it. She brought one of the waitresses with her to the other spot and I was like but once we got to talkin the other girl went off to the other side and mingled with some other people and let us be. I figure she wanted that support initially since she didn't know me well. Then she said "hey, I saw you with this other girl at the restaurant maybe a week or two ago, who was she..." and I was like " we're just good friends there is NOTHING going on there"

Then she goes "Okay cool, I was wondering who that was with my boyfriend " and I was like " "

I wish this story had a nice ending, I fukked it up by messin around with other women when I should have focused on her more but I learn from mistakes

 

[DaRealness]

she was cool with it. She brought one of the waitresses with her to the other spot and I was like but once we got to talkin the other girl went off to the other side and mingled with some other people and let us be. I figure she wanted that support initially since she didn't know me well. Then she said "hey, I saw you with this other girl at the restaurant maybe a week or two ago, who was she..." and I was like " we're just good friends there is NOTHING going on there"

Then she goes "Okay cool, I was wondering who that was with my boyfriend " and I was like " "

I wish this story had a nice ending, I fukked it up by messin around with other women when I should have focused on her more but I learn from mistakes

 

[Black Cac]

she was cool with it. She brought one of the waitresses with her to the other spot and I was like but once we got to talkin the other girl went off to the other side and mingled with some other people and let us be. I figure she wanted that support initially since she didn't know me well. Then she said "hey, I saw you with this other girl at the restaurant maybe a week or two ago, who was she..." and I was like " we're just good friends there is NOTHING going on there"

Then she goes "Okay cool, I was wondering who that was with my boyfriend " and I was like " "

I wish this story had a nice ending, I fukked it up by messin around with other women when I should have focused on her more but I learn from mistakes

She must of been a sistah

 

[DaRealness]

I don't know how this ended up on my recommended list when I rarely even watch these types of videos anymore lol. Straight from the horse's mouth:

 

[Black Cac]

A big breasted thot giving tips

 

[TRUEST]

A big breasted thot giving tips

nah i actually took the time to watch it. i already knew all of what she was saying. but its good to hear it again from a woman's perspective.