I didn't get around to answering the question, but I will now. I feel the solution is to stop dealing with women who have this entitled attitude. The reason they do what they do is that they are being rewarded regardless of how they act. They won't change until they quit being rewarded for their awful behavior.
The real problem is that these women were told they were sugar and spice and everything nice and they NEVER get chastized for their wrongs. They always have somebody bailing them out for their bad behavior and they end up getting spoiled rotten. How many times have women gone off the heel and started acting crazy, hooping and hollaring and even hitting a man, but the man is supposed to be quiet and just walk away? How often can the woman throw these hissy fits and do all this screaming, but the man is supposed to leave the house that he is probably paying for? That's nonsense.
The problem is you have all these simps defending this behavior and reinforcing the attitude that women can do anything and we're just supposed to just sit around and let her lash out.
Our parents may ask us, why aren't you married. Ask your dad whether he would have married a woman that can't cook, won't clean, has a bunch of male friends that she won't get rid of, has already slept with with 30 guys prior to you meeting her and what do you think he will say?
If all you're doing is having sex and leaving them, of course you will be happy with the status of these modern western women, because many of them give it up easy and they reward men who are noncommital... It's all gravy until you catch an STD or you start getting kids pinned on you which don't even necessarily have to be yours.
I think the big problem a lot of guys are having is that you just can't treat women with respect. I know a lot of men who WANT to treat a woman with respect, but they come to the stark realiziation that doing so will get them put in the provider category while she has some other guy blazing that thing up.You get the best behavior from women by being aloof, noncommital, disrespectful, all the while speaking some smooth gibberish out of your mouth. What's crazy is that you may want to get to know these women, but they don't really want to get to know you. They are more concerned with the image you are projecting. The less you tell them and being vague with your answers makes you mysterious in their eyes.
We sit here and talk about all that must be done to keep these 'modern women' interested, but the reality of the situation is that there is nothing you can really do to keep them interested. You can't keep someone who doesn't want to be kept. Most of these women hold no value on relationships, so you will be engaging in an unwise action getting in one with them. Now what they WILL do is play along with you. They will tell you they want commitment, but will actually punish it. They want the fruits of a relationship such as companionship, someone to listen to their problems, support them financially etc, while they reward the guy that is the opposite of it.
They want a responsible man so they can neglect him, while rewarding some guy that hits it and quits it on the side. More often than not, you got one guy who is paying the bills, listening to her problems, watching her kid, taking her to dinner, taking her to the movies, etc.. she gives that dude the attitude and rations out attention to him... but then she has that 'other dude' she met at the club or at work who talks to her any which way, who she'll let do things she won't let her man do. He plays hard to get, talks disrespectfully to her, might even hit her, etc., but she'll take her man's money and give it to him, let him push her man's car and let him do her any which way sexually.
That's the real dilemma here. You see a woman and you want to treat her respectfully, but you feel cautious because you don't want her to take that kindness the wrong way and try to turn you into a provider. It's so bad you got rules like don't take her to dinner, but take her for coffee instead or don't buy her a drink, and the sad thing is, those rules exist for a reason. It's like you have to do this trickery to maintain her interest, but really, what is her 'interest' worth?
Who really wants to be tethered to someone that unless you act a certain way, they will take advantage of you? Who really wants to be in a relationship with someone that punishes decent behavior? You have all these rules out here because it's true. You help a woman out with her bills, pay for her school, listen to her problems and things of that nature and you'll get used. You come at her like you don't care about all that and you just pretty much want to knock it down, then she rewards you. What kind of sense does that make?
With your friends, you treat them well and they will appreciate it. Let's take even a dog for instance. You treat a dog well and the dog will be friendly and even give up its life for you. That's something that makes sense. You reward decent treatment with loyalty. On the other hand, the modern dating game is like having a dog that will only wag its tail when you're hitting it with a newspaper and screaming at it. When you give the dog a treat and attempt to pet it's head, it will bite you.
When it comes down to it, you have to make a choice as a man. It's tough being you because you are rewarded in the short-term by being her three ring circus act or some immoral guy who is playing her thriller man on the side... but long term? Be you. It will give you WAY MORE peace of mind in the long-term... and you may have to actually get out of here in order to find a woman that was raised on decent values and is actually wifeable.
We've been sitting around here discussing countless solutions and methods to the problem, and the solution is much simpler than you've been expecting. What is it? Don't deal with it? If she's coming with that stank attitude, gotta go, gotta go. Doesn't appreciate what you're doing for her? She needs to keep it pushing... and all in the meanwhile, you're doing the things you love and just loving life. The only way to win is to not put up with her nonsense and demand that she actually brings something to the table. You cannot pay and plead with a woman to make her act right. You have to demand it, and if she doesn't want to bring decent behavior to the table, then you simply tell her she can't eat at the table.
"You got me!"
