Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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Don't let your weight bring your self esteem down fam that's the worst thing you can do and it will discourage you in the future. With that being said, just gotta man up, get fit and your confidence will skyrocket

Trust me I had the same problem :mjcry:
I feel like if I keep up my regimen I'll start to lose weight. I just need to just stop holding myself back. Ive had girlfriends who didn't care that I was fat. My full potential can be unlocked if I just motivate myself and take more risks. I've been teaching myself about women. I never had a mentor about this. I had to take hard hits. Again I don't feel like a loser, I just feel like my current status hinders me. I'm sure there's women out there that won't care about it, but if my foundation isn't sturdy, how can I expect to be someone else's rock?
 

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. IDK if I'm the right guy you want to talk to. ima type of n1gga that think looks >>> game every day of the week. hoes know within 2 seconds of glancing at you whether they will let you hit. I always seen it like athleticism (looks) vs skill (game) in AAU basketball. The more athleticism a cat may have possess , the easier it is to dominate and get attention /scholarships from schools that don't care how a n1gga don't know how to dribble or pass, just that he can do a 360 windmill....

In your current shape, your game has to be that much more sharper than a better-looking n1gga... to me, that's not fair and it is a waste of effort just to appease a bytch. in my experience, being sexually attractive (even average) and having a decent mouthpiece is better (i do OK, i can't manufracture a convo like some n1ggaz, but I will never an awkard convo w/ a chick

You got any brehs in RL you can chill with? hit the gym together and better yourself. Not for females, for YOURSELF. Yes, use girls as motivation, but not the main goal. A better body gets you more respect from not just females, but guys too. And it's an easy convo topic for girls who are looking to express their interest ("wow, do you lift weights" etc.)

for the mental part... you really need to dig deep within yourself and find 'why' you think that. it's a good 1st step that you recognize your weaknesses. maybe your parets raised you up wrong, maybe a traumatic experience, maybe bullying, bad high school experience, etc. You need to find that origin and deal with it. Either confront the problem, forgive/fight whoever wronged you, or move on. this process can't really be done in weeks. you've probably been thinking negatively so wrong, it's part of your DNA by now. it's gonna be a years-long struggle, but you will make it to the other side.

The physical and mental improvements you are going to make - don't just make them to get females.
i'mma dap you breh, you came correct with this homes. Do things for YOURSELF, yes kocking off hoes is a good thing, but that's only short sighted goals. The end game should be you.
I just want to improve me. I've been saying that I was going to lose weight for years.Im starting up again this week. And committing. I'm most likely self conscious because I had a shyt high school experience. I had friends here and there but I was dolo most of the time. I lost most of the male figures in my life early so I had to grow up early, had a mother who tried to shelter me to protect me. Yet that bothered me. From birth it was high academic skills, low social skills. I was reading at a college level and doing high school math by the time I was 7. But I was awkward. Again I could improve myself. No matter how much stress I have I genuinely believe hope isn't lost. I just need discipline:jbhmm:
 

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u in hs/ college? if so, i recommend starting in the minor leagues. sounds like you are talking yourself out of p*ssy. date ugly hoes / fat bytches / whatever under your high standard. get your mouthpiece up. Learn failure. B/c right now, you got no game. you should be completely relaxed when talking to a female.




IOI's - Indicators of Interest

but don't get too caught up in that. sounds like you're afraid of rejection? you're shouldn't be worried about the outcome. don't be writing down mental checklists. Just have a good, regular conversation. If the convo is smooth, she's smiling or whatnot - man up and ask for her number. Always. ot

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whenever nikkas ask me for my body count and I say 0 they get mad surprised and are like bro I would've thought u had 10+

it's funny too cause I'm like one of the few black guys where I live and women here love black dudes cause of asap rocky, Tyler, ect and I don't know what the hell im doing Its being handed to me but I'm being a p*ssy.

any tips on developing a mouth piece?
 

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I feel like if I keep up my regimen I'll start to lose weight. I just need to just stop holding myself back. Ive had girlfriends who didn't care that I was fat. My full potential can be unlocked if I just motivate myself and take more risks. I've been teaching myself about women. I never had a mentor about this. I had to take hard hits. Again I don't feel like a loser, I just feel like my current status hinders me. I'm sure there's women out there that won't care about it, but if my foundation isn't sturdy, how can I expect to be someone else's rock?
I hear you man. Tbh honest I'm still a rookie. Most of what I've learned about women is through experience and consulting my best friends who've been through this fukkery before hand. If you find a chic that accepts you cool, but if you feel motivated and feel as if you can become better than what you are go for it no matter what. No sense of settling for mediocrity :manny:
 
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high school, twelfth grade

whenever nikkas ask me for my body count and I say 0 they get mad surprised and are like bro I would've thought u had 10+

it's funny too cause I'm like one of the few black guys where I live and women here love black dudes cause of asap rocky, Tyler, ect and I don't know what the hell im doing Its being handed to me but I'm being a p*ssy.

any tips on developing a mouth piece?

I get ASAP Rocky but Tyler? Is Tyler really the epitome of cool in suburbia? I am a Tyler fan but honestly it's not something I advertise.
 

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Why do women bring up marriage when you're casually talking?:what: I knew the "You should give me a massage" text was bait.:beli:That shyt kills my mood OD and were not even a couple. :why: I don't even want to beat now. :pachaha:
 

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I hear you man. Tbh honest I'm still a rookie. Most of what I've learned about women is through experience and consulting my best friends who've been through this fukkery before hand. If you find a chic that accepts you cool, but if you feel motivated and feel as if you can become better than what you are go for it no matter what. No sense of settling for mediocrity :manny:
That's what I'm saying. I'm fine if I find someone that accepts me for me. But id rather find someone that I'm immensely attracted to and have numerous things in common with and a strong relationship. I feel like I can do better than the tier I'm in.
 

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Why do women bring up marriage when you're casually talking?:what: I knew the "You should give me a massage" text was bait.:beli:That shyt kills my mood OD and were not even a couple. :why: I don't even want to beat now. :pachaha:
I don't get that either. I had kids brought up once. I just looked at my phone like:dahell:
 

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I still live at home. How do I deal with this problem? I make sure every chic I get has her own place. Or if you can't manage that invest in some tinted windows for your car.

No need for tinted windows, if you know your town well, you can go to deserted car park or quiet spots to get your freak on.

This goes for dudes with their your own spot, girls love spontanous things like this or girls will start thinking you boring lol.
 

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high school, twelfth grade

whenever nikkas ask me for my body count and I say 0 they get mad surprised and are like bro I would've thought u had 10+

it's funny too cause I'm like one of the few black guys where I live and women here love black dudes cause of asap rocky, Tyler, ect and I don't know what the hell im doing Its being handed to me but I'm being a p*ssy.

any tips on developing a mouth piece?


Women love talking about themselves, make the main subject of topic be about their interests. Young girls love a bit of celebrity gossip, reality show or drama going on between their friends, clothes/fashion trends. Those are the basic topics, so just know a bit about the latest things so you got something to say about it. Just dont make the convo go like a job interview lol.

Dont talk about yourself, only if she asks about you, even then you dont go to deep. Which also gives off that mysterious vibe about you because she dont know much about you lol.
 

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That's what I'm saying. I'm fine if I find someone that accepts me for me. But id rather find someone that I'm immensely attracted to and have numerous things in common with and a strong relationship. I feel like I can do better than the tier I'm in.
Immense attraction? You'll forever be single thinking this way because it's not feasible or realistic in the long run. Work on your weight and self esteem first before trying to date but if you find a nice girl who accepts you while doing so, great. Don't put getting into a relationship first over your health. Besides, attractions that start off hot usually combust.
 

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Immense attraction? You'll forever be single thinking this way because it's not feasible or realistic in the long run. Work on your weight and self esteem first before trying to date but if you find a nice girl who accepts you while doing so, great. Don't put getting into a relationship first over your health. Besides, attractions that start off hot usually combust.
I overshot with the "immense attraction" I mean someone I have stuff in common with. A bond. I just want to get right with myself before I pursue something. Besides, my father always told me, just because it shines like gold don't make it gold.
 

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I just need to work my way up. Start with simple greetings, brief Convo and work my way up from there. If I can lose this weight, push myself out there. I got to just go out more. :patrice:
 

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You know, as a get I older, I realize that a lot of us are broken and we let the past block us. I can only speak on my personal life but all these women I meet come from messed up and abusive relationships and all I gotta hear is Im going to change, I'm not going to be that loving anymore. Then a nikka gotta play doctor or therapist and that's taxing. I'm not going to let a bad relationship ruin who I am as a person or change how I am as a person. It's not just women, us men do it to. You know they say live and learn? I think there should be a third part: let go. Let go of all that past bullshyt and keep an open mind and heart or else you might miss out.
 
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